JimTripper

I dated a woman in Bangkok who talked <deleted> about me in public. For the Thai’s it’s a complete deal breaker. People were staring, etc. I did not realize how bad it was at the time with the face issue and all. Never saw her again of course, but it was pretty embarrassing. Any disrespect in public and the relationship is OVER.

That sounds great for you but how does it help the Op? ???? i don’t get the feeling he wants to change himself. He sounds confident in his situation and personality, but can’t find the women he wants.

You may just be noticing obese people in your age range as you get older. People put on weight as they age, don’t dress as well and kind of let themselves go. There’s plenty of slim fit females at the shopping mall, they just seem too young as you get older and not approachable. Try approaching a fit 20 something in the USA as a man in his 40+ age range and you have a cop on the way. So you end up not looking except on those rare occasions where your not watched, like going up an escalator. Leering or even glancing at body parts is a big no-no as well, people watch actively where your eyes are going.

Sounds like one of those books we read in junior high school about how to meet women. ????

The shop was on “Ram Butt” Road so they don’t have any business going near people’s vaginas.

I don’t. I only see them with other guys. It seems like they are never paired up with females.

I meant how do the Thai moto guys get laid? They are just like working blokes in the USA would be.

Go figure. If there was no advantage it would be just like the states where you don’t date or get laid. The moto guys are probably what most guys would be in the states. Just a working bloke who does not have much dating life. The advantage for them in Thailand is that they could goto a massage shop once in awhile if they could afford it without risking a police sting or arrest.

Most men won’t just get “not interested”. They end up taking what’s available at the time. Take prisons for example, the whole shower thing…

In the USA these days as a single man 50+ you’re lucky to get laid at all unless your an artist or rock star or rich. It’s an anomaly. I went months and/or years without getting laid when I lived in California in an outlying area. It’s easier if your in a big city, but not by much. Even paying for it is difficult. A lot of guys just drive to Tijuana Mexico or go on frequent international trips. That’s how bad it is. Seems to be getting worse over time.

Were the messages from guys in Thailand, or were they bogus stuff from guys all around the world just wanting to bs or chat?

They equate age with money in Thailand, while in many other countries the reality is just the opposite (they are skint broke ????????‍♂️). families financially support older members here, in other countries the family moves into seize assets and manipulate wills from older members. It’s likely Thais are seeing him as having money he does not have. (as long as he still wears deodorant and showers at least once a day ????).

But he does not want lower class women, get it? That’s not what turns him on. So he has a lot to lose by pursuing something he does not want. I get what your saying though regarding technique. Basically, go to where what you want IS and ask until you succeed or give up. Seems simple. Maybe the Op’s problem is he can’t access venues where higher class ladies frequent. You need friends, status, etc to get into these places or they become non-exclusive. If you have no contacts your not invited in, or just don’t know where these places are. Maybe try that royal polo club in Bangkok near lumphini park. Always wanted to go in there but it looks pretty expensive and I don’t own a horse ????????‍♂️.

I’m getting a workaholic vibe as well. Maybe he wants to meet people in his head, but is someone who really just sits on his computer all day and night, maybe chats a bit. Goes to a cafe or uses a dating service, but it’s just a speed dating thing where he does it to do it, but is more involved in getting back to work or making money. It’s really common in large cities in the USA. People will speed date to feel like they are dating, but then go back to what they really love, their jobs. Narcissistic in a way. Many end up just sleeping with prostitutes. It’s hard to analyze when the op does not respond or answer further questions.

Good question. Op what exactly are you saying or writing about when people are not responding or blocking after just meeting online? It could be something you are saying or just the app. The apps are tricky people just bounce in and out, your just fodder in many cases. Could also just be jerk waters with fake profiles, fake pics, some real weirdos out there…

There’s not always a “price”. There’s a thing called chemistry, mutual attraction, vibes…sometimes you can’t explain it.

He’s looking for a status woman who’s educated and making her own moves, not someone who needs monetary support. Get it?

In my experience living here 10 years, you need to be introduced. That usually means having Thai male acquaintances, maybe Thai female also. It can be very subtle as well for a foreigner, for example just involving another person in a conversation or even banter with a server neither of you know. Not a straight up here is so and so she’s looking for a partner stuff. If you can’t do that how are you going to start a family? This is a social country. Get to know Thais in your sphere with STATUS (not broke losers or drunks, no gamblers). Try landlords, business or shop owners, maybe neighbors. You don’t need to ask, they end up introducing people in after they get to know you. Status females kind of need an introduction (which is a recommendation). The more status the person introducing has the better you look (or are ????????‍♂️). Sometimes this is done AFTER they meet you as well, by bringing friends on a date or introducing you to anybody really, they know. Oh yeah, stay away from hookers. Bringing just one back to your place and everyone in community immediately knows you are low status. Good luck out there, buddy. Remember also to wipe with 70% alcohol immediately after any kind of sexual contact.

Speaking the language seriously means integration and equality. When you talk baby talk it’s funny and a joke or just to sell something or explain where you are going next “on holiday?” Of course, giggle giggle… It’s similar to making people continually report to immigration, not own land, move around as cheap cheap backpackers, etc. Keeping foreigners uprooted basically and always moving from place to place and drinking in bars. I think that’s what’s behind a lot of the stupid pigeon talk.

I almost tried Cuenca, but never got there. The flights were about the same price from the USA as going to Bangkok. I figured it was very similar to Mexico so I gave it a pass. From the videos I saw online it looked like a small town with nothing much to do long term. Also, the expats from the USA seemed irritating, they were just kind of older couples mostly, not singles. I think it’s mostly quiet type older retired couples who live there.

Yes, never saw a book shop there. What side of the street is it on?

What? Where?

Dasa Book Cafe in Bangkok is my favorite. Always get some books there when I pass through Bangkok.

It helps if your not drunk all the time! Where are the posts about real men here who don’t succumb to stupid scams in Thailand? Highly educated men with experience living in foreign countries. All we hear about are drunks and losers who “lost it all in love” or opened some stupid bar as a retirement goal, how terrible, who know nothing about money or business. can’t be true…

Op are you here we want to know what happened where are you?