Prubangboy

Esther Perel wrote a good relationship book called Mating In Captivity, about how over-familiarity kills the erotic spark for long term couples. I agree. I don't communicate with her for 7-9 hours at a time. It's like being in a pre-Iphone relationship. When she "comes over" to my space, it's assumed that some kind of romance-stuff is probably going to be in the mix. It may be heavy, it may just be resting together on the bed. A little distance lets a little demand pent itself up. If she's not feeling it, she might invite me over to her place instead. So far that hasn't happened. We read each other pretty well. She likes that me-invites aren't every day. Dave Chappelle said that if he saw a woman taking a poop, he sort of had to be done with her. I can see his point a bit.

Life is indeed full of surprises, but if she's got to work on it a bit getting to a four, interest-wise, for me, her chances of her looking for a little strange are less likely than her being hit by a comet. The Thai Man -like for most white women, not much interest. The typical expat guy here: She loves to hear their tales, but those tales typically disqualify them from nudity consideration.

She's had some serious medical issues, so the ol' grey mare. she aint what she used to be. But having some space and silence between us has knocked up our (admittedly tepid) hotness factor from a zero to a four. A four with someone who's into you? I say grade that on a steep curve. If I want to get massage parlor handjobs or have a GF that I sponsor or whatever -and it doesn't ever slop over into her life- she'd be fine with that. She really would. Even at 60, she's still very attractive. A former homecoming queen -which in the south, is like being being a former senator or pro ball player.

Me too. The set of The Prisoner was tiny, but properly weird. A lot of stores selling victorian-style dishes in a style that Fornesecca clearly borrowed from. I have English relatives still in Pompton Fryth. And yeah, they're still a bit of outcasts even after half a century there. For me, The Prisoner was the first intellectual English thing that I ever enjoyed (early teens). Without it, I would not have gotten into Harold Pinter or Martin Amis. No one does alienated detachment like the brits. That flavor goes all the way to Oasis for me. Must part company on Straw Dogs. It has not aged well. The Susan George character is a mysogenistic male fantasy: the feral child-woman. Dustin Hoffman goes from nerd to psycho-killer a little too easily to be believed. Actually, no character at all in that film remotely makes sense. Peckinpah was better when his films were male-bonding epic poems like the genius-laden Wild Bunch. Again, only Madonna's and whores need apply for female representation. The Iron Cross was another great one in that vein.

It's the best thing that ever happened to us. We're much more affectionate and into each other with a little distance between us (about 2 meters). I pretty much never initiate seeing her, she texts me if she wants to hang out. Sometimes (seldom) I demur. I'm getting a ton more done for myself, like finally learning Thai (via the ThaiPod website). She's playing the piano again. (she's western, not Thai). I typically pop over for breakfast (which she enjoys making for me) and then don't see her again till about 6 for dinner and a bit of Netflix. I sleep in her bed maybe 3-4 nights a week, her in mine 1-2, and then sometimes it's great for either of us to just take a pass. LIving Apart Together is now a huge trend among older couples. It saves a lot of relationships from divorce. We were just too in each other's faces for too long and became a bit co-dependent. I am reminded of an old country song: How Can I Miss You If You Won't Go Away? Have You? Would you? Why or why not?

I'm a 20 baht rounder-upper. A cappa with an extra shot is 95 baht, so call that 120. A grab cab to Central Mall is 105, so that's 120 again. Two cold ice tea drinks clocks in at about 130 baht, so 150 it is. Grab delivery is a flat 50 baht. We tend to order from a fair ways away to get something special like a middle eastern mezz appetizer platter or vegan food from Good Souls. We appreciate the person who fights through all that traffic to bring it to us. There's a small handful of restaurants in Nimman where we've been to 12+ times. Call that 100 baht tip per diner. We feel like we know them a bit, and it would feel weird to stiff them. Massage (which I barely ever do) is 25% -or 50% tip if it's a woman over 40. Over 50? Maybe 100%. I have a friend who's obnoxious and demanding of service staff in a restaurant. I'll always leave 200-500 baht to compensate them for his abusive stupidity. He always gives me grief about it, and then more grief when I explain why. I have zero judgement towards people who don't tip, whether it's because they don't come from tipping cultures or just because they simply don't want to. In return, I don't want to hear any lectures if I give the waitress 20 baht every time she brings me a drink.

I got arrested yearly, ages 17-19 for stopping traffic against the war. The first time I got laid was on the floor of a Quaker church, between the pews. She was in for the '71 DC half a million-er and a virgin like myself.

I'll bite. WHY do anti-trumpets have no sense of humor? Does liberalism kill their souls? Or was my joke just not up to snuff? "Orange Man Bad" -over and over again. Where is the pro-Trump humor? Can you cite a single example?

Uh-huh. Tales of HomePro blind-hoping: When I lived in Bible-land, USA, During the tortuous courting of some godly fattie, guys would be expected to do stuff like change the oil in their car, or cut down trees. This, for someone they barely knew. They were trying to show their Christian Leadership bona fides, but I believe the correct description would be: Chump. My wife's ex-husband went over to "help" paint a hottie's den, only to find himself painting alone after she painted about a foot and a half of trim and wandered off to text to her friends. Another friend of mine drove a minor rock singer around town and painted her toe nails. And he wasn't even a fetishist, which I could totally respect. He was just a chump. I recall a Youtube where a cute woman went on Facebook (or whatever it was) and said she needed her car dug out from the snow after a blizzard. She got multiple offers, and one lucky chump showed up and did it for her. Fair play tho, she did provide him with a coffee from the gas station and a donut. When he was done. Hug? No. Meanwhile, plenty of tik toks about women going to a HomePro in search of a REAL man, only to whimsically come up empty. There is this believe that men are just hanging around like noble knights, looking for a M'Lady to serve. I have a female friend who complained that no man was leaping up from his airplane seat to help her put her carry-on in the overhead compartment. What kind of infant can't do this? What was in her carry-on, an anvil? It's completely acceptable to view men as drone-utilities. A lot of blather on Reddit about "high value men". It's not OK to view women as sex-givers. But sometimes, f they didn't have sex to offer, they'd have nothing.

Lynx-drenched; Englishness giveaway or what? It took over the crown from Jovan, Musk for Men. I like that passive aggressive saddo going "Lynch-drenched? Wha? I.....I donnnn' unnnerstan....?" Like he couldn't just get it from the context. Just another leg-humping dimwit dinosaur. My American wife looks in here a bit. She too is a ThaiBeachLover/BritManToo fan. She's met someone from here, and hopes to someday shake the hand of StickyRiceBall, assuming it's not sticky at the time. Mostly, she thinks of it as a Boomer toilet swirl. Testosterone fading into the sunset, is how she put it.

From Trump: "I'm not suddenly lapsing into snoring coma's for me, I'm doing it for you. If they can make me stay marginally awake at my own trial, they can do it to you too -and...and....what about Sleepy Joe?".

"Your honor, the defense requests a recess. Our client needs more Adderall -and a diaper change".

Trump is so anti-woke that he keeps falling asleep at his trial.

Thanks for your insights. My interest is mainly in modern stuff and interviewing people. Pali etc. is beyond my pay grade, I don’t have years left on the planet for that. My purpose is more hobby learning than being an academic.

I’m learning it for my Ma degree in SEA Studies to read old religious texts, otherwise, living in Nimmnan, I wouldn’t bother. If I go to somewhere like Ubon, they’ll speak English at any 1000 baht+ hotel and can likewise hook me up with a driver. If I want to go back to the Mark Weins chicken and cashews place, I’ll bet they have an English menu by now. Otherwise, phone translating will cover 99% of my needs. So yes for reading dead monks, no for chatting up sweet, little Noi.

,People who show zero curiosity about it, seem to not like Thai Culture, based on nothing, People like me and Proton who get into it find a lot to like. Easily. And never the Twain shall meet.

Elvis had an early 45 where he sang, I Forgot To Remember To Forget. But for me, that’s never been a problem.

Only weighing in at all out of esteem for Walker. Ive checked out. Like I said to my wife’s kid: ” Why can’t you be the kind of retard who’s an inspiration, like being in the special oympics or something, instead of just an evil, stupid retard? People toss the odd candy bar at the sweet kind of retard and pretend the store is closed when the evil kind turns up”. And thus I conclude my TrumpTrash analysis till after the election.

Just did the bat cave. Very compelling. Malu Park was nicer than any similar nature reserve I have been to in Thailand. A Tiger beer was $3.50. In Kotakimbalu now, ready for trip up the river for the orangutans. Modern, blah town but glad to go to Dunken Donuts. I have shaken the hand of Doc Watson in your avatar, and my wife will soon be at Merlefest, the bluegrass-apalooza festival dedicated to his son. Shoot me a message if interested.

…..Of course, say what you will, but if anyone here is projection free, it’s BM2. He def owns his thing,

On I’m on an intepid tour. Aus. Company, very Lonely Planet Ethic. its worth the premium to have all that stuff booked and sorted. Famous bat cave today. Restaurant-wise, Kuching is a deal. Cantonese tasting menu at The Hilton was fifty bucks, with plenty of prawns and duck in the mix.

Who’s crazy projections are funnier, their’s on us or our’s on them? Gotta vote for us. We had access to education.

Brunei is an extension to my jungle tour. They’re richer than Borneo and have a nicer jungle. How was the Indian food? Supposed to great,

Love this perennial evergreen topic where KhunLa always rules with his photos. If money is no object, the high end Gaucho steakhouse chain is at Manhattan quality level. I eat so little red meat that I tend to start at 800 baht for a burger. It’s a big’un. Kuching, Borneo report: Hilton fake waygu burger was a 500 baht burger for 800 baht. Painfully hot fries tho. Nothing is more disappointing than tepid fries with a burger.

Can’t fault it as an expat place, very Chiang Mai, old Penang style shophouses strung along a river, prob 20% cheaper. Much greener, the jungle intrudes fast. $9 2 for 1 Guinness pints. English spoken everywhere, makes the Thais seem a bit stiff in comparison. Downside is the Muslim ultra-lite factor, but if you can day drink during Ramadan, it’s not oppressive. Will consider Kuching for next season’s Chiang Mai smoke dodge. Anyone here done a long stay here or in Malaysia in general?