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I asked one simple question. So you tell me why there are thousands upon thousands of magazines and billion dollar industries that promote men looking at women without clothes on and almost none promoting men without clothes on for women?

No one has answered that simple question.

No one has countered the idea that women are more sensitive to non visual or emotional stimulation than men.

I think the only answer you can come up with is a flame like, "The sheer stupidity of saying that it's not important to women how men look was pretty much the clincher."

Attacking me although the norm is certainly not an answer to what I wrote.

One simple question that's all. Why there are thousands upon thousands of magazines and billion dollar industries that promote men looking at women without clothes on and almost none promoting men without clothes on for women?

A flame, you say??!! Whether or not it was a flame (I doubt it) is besides the point. What I said is true. It was a particularly stupid comment.

In answer to your question, men are more aggressively tuned to the pursuit of sex than women.

For the most part, society grooms women to be passive about sex. Even if they're highly-sexed, they're taught to keep it under wraps until in the privacy of the boudoir.

Even today, women who display overt sexuality aggression are generally denigrated by both men (except their partners, of course) and other women so, consequently, there are fewer publications of the sort you describe.

@ FiftyTwo

Women are at their sexual peak far later than men are so, yes, they do want sex a lot when they get older even if they have kids.

Your experience is not necessarily the norm, buddy.

You just got a dud.

What does reading a magazine have to do with being aggressively tuned to the pursuit of sex? If anything reading is exactly the opposite of aggressive.

My question still stands, "Why there are thousands upon thousands of magazines and billion dollar industries that promote men looking at women without clothes on and almost none promoting men without clothes on for women?

I think you have to realize something; aggression is not reading. Not in women nor men. Reading is not overt sexual aggression.

If you mean thinking instead of aggression I would agree with that. But it still does not explain why 1000 to 1 mens interest in naked women and women's disinterest in naked men?

Have you now realized that men think about sex 34 times a day and women about 18. Or that a woman uses 20,000 words a day and a man only 7000.

Still I think women don't want to look at naked men because it is not important to them. How many ladies go to male go go clubs in Thailand? Not many. I think women don't care about how a man looks naked. You apparently disagree with me. Well if they cared would not they want to look at naked photos or watch naked men dance?

But they don't do they?

The answer to your question is that it's cultural. Women are not "licensed" to enjoy pornography in say, England. You simply can't underestimate the power of this social force/pressure/expectation/grooming.

On an individual basis, a woman comfortable enough to speak frankly will often admit to enjoying visual stimulation just like a man does (it may be slightly different, but it will be visual). Indeed, vast studies have already been done on exactly this. No, I'm not going to find them for you, sorry.

Yes, it does work, with no downside.

Theyre pretty good at coming up with plans arent they.

Out of interest do you get off on the fact she is attractive, beautiful etc, or is it specifically the fact she is younger than you that does the magic for you in this case?

If the latter, is it the feeling of achievement, primarily, that pleases you, or some other aspect of the dynamic?

If its really just the lack of baggage the natural epitome of girlfriend for you is 18, and I wonder why you bother with someone as aged as 25?

Get off in terms of ejaculate or in terms of interest? Ejaculation occurs naturally due to stimulating friction, at least for me anyways. In terms of interest, just the way she is fine for me. There's no feeling of achievement; I'm not trying to achieve anything. What pleases me is being with someone that makes me laugh and makes me feel appreciated and worthwhile.

I never asked her age on the first date. Oskar's on Soi 11 by the way if you're looking for a great place to meet for dinner (priced out of a teacher's salary - sorry:( If she was 18 or 30, it doesn't matter…its just that in hindsight, the older girls were still dating because becoming single due to breakups always initiated by a farang who had moved on to new pastures.

On the contrary my friend, your entire point is one based upon age. To now claim it is not relevant is contradictory.

Out of interest do you get off on the fact she is attractive, beautiful etc, or is it specifically the fact she is younger than you that does the magic for you in this case?

If the latter, is it the feeling of achievement, primarily, that pleases you, or some other aspect of the dynamic?

If its really just the lack of baggage the natural epitome of girlfriend for you is 18, and I wonder why you bother with someone as aged as 25?

ive got a cateye with wires and i find if rain gets between the main body and the detachable part it stops working but when dried it starts working ok, ive put a piece of electic tape round the top to prevent rainwater getting in and it seems to work fine like that.

I also use the cateye wireless- total so far 900km and never a hitch. Ive compared it to others, including friends and my GPS, and its very accurate.

Its been fine in all weather so far. Only thing I havent done is submerged it.

In the majority of cases it is the Thai version of English "weather speak". A way to break the ice and smooth transition to conversation.

I had a similar experience.. I wont go into details but I did intervene and the police did nothing other than make a drawn-out fuss of writing a "report" which I later found out contained no detail whatsoever as to what I had witnessed and intervened in.

I did not get moral outrage and go in all guns blazing mind you. I did it in a very careful way, pretending to be lost and not actually blaming, confronting or criticising anyone. I did however manage to play the idiot foreigner for long enough that a scene was made and people got involved.

I was later able to report the location and ID of two of three people involved to someone who claimed to be connected and who claimed to care, but I never heard about what the outcome was, only that "it was all finished". God knows..

The point is there is always something you can do as one human being in close proximity to another, but you need to do it in the right way and furthermore you need to be sure of what you are witnessing. I would suggest hearing a child crying and weeping after being led into a hut with an old man is enough reason to get into the hut (in an explainable, non confrontational way) to find out more. Even just knocking on the door under some pretence could give you the information you need to know better. He might have been applying a bandage to a wound, or he might have been having his way with him- but you can't know either from outside. Hearing a child in distress is never going to be thought of as a bad reason to have knocked on a door, but you could justify your presence a million other ways.

I would say the guard at school is probably not something to intervene in but I would want to monitor him very closely at every available opportunity which may include informing others who can be trusted to handle it appropriately. Personally I might strike up a conversation with the guard, get to know him a bit, be friendly, let him know someone is paying him attention.

We're talking about kids here, but we're also talking about the reputation of adults. You can't be black and white about it, and you also cannot just ignore possible abuse. Use a bit of brains whichever side of the fence you come down on.

To my mind the OP was describing a very particular situation. If we are talking about the general non specific cultural habit or inclination for thais to comment on physical attributes in a more blunt manner than western cultures then I would agree with posters like wym et al. However I do not believe that is the circumstance to which the OP speaks at all, rather a more particular and very much a current generation habit of the modern youth in bangkok which although on the face of it to the general reader of thai culture may appear classic is in fact a subtly nuanced and simultaneously entirely different mechanism at play, although no less cultural it is far less traditional but nonetheless a real aspect of certain relationships with certain types of friends of the girlfriend which I have definitely experienced over the years too. But only in bangkok and only from certain types. I'm gap filling however. Maybe the OP can provide more details to be sure, but I suspect this is friends who do not approve of their friends choice in partner for little more than reasons of looking down on foreigners. That said regardless of the facts in thai case there are many who will say things to foreigners they would not dream of saying to a thai man and one owes it to oneself to ask why.

Marvellous! Will are you emulating a Hegelian style of writing? Ninety-seven words in one sentence!

In Thai culture communication tends to be high-context oriented, in contrast to low-context communication one finds for instance in European cultures. The friend in question may have (strategically or unconsciously) expressed a desire in this veiled and indirect expression of closeness, I'd say.

You're right of course, and I'm actually just projecting a recent experience of mine onto this situation without good reason. One would need to have been there, as you imply.

And why say it in 5 words when 97 are available?

(And where is the punctuation on default Android keyboards?)

To my mind the OP was describing a very particular situation. If we are talking about the general non specific cultural habit or inclination for thais to comment on physical attributes in a more blunt manner than western cultures then I would agree with posters like wym et al. However I do not believe that is the circumstance to which the OP speaks at all, rather a more particular and very much a current generation habit of the modern youth in bangkok which although on the face of it to the general reader of thai culture may appear classic is in fact a subtly nuanced and simultaneously entirely different mechanism at play, although no less cultural it is far less traditional but nonetheless a real aspect of certain relationships with certain types of friends of the girlfriend which I have definitely experienced over the years too. But only in bangkok and only from certain types. I'm gap filling however. Maybe the OP can provide more details to be sure, but I suspect this is friends who do not approve of their friends choice in partner for little more than reasons of looking down on foreigners. That said regardless of the facts in thai case there are many who will say things to foreigners they would not dream of saying to a thai man and one owes it to oneself to ask why.

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I eat at least 2, often 4, sometimes 6 per day, and have done so for 10 years. I had my full health check 4 months ago and nothing was wrong. Doctor said I am physically fit (they didnt do a mental evaluation....). Cholesterol in particular was exactly where it ought to be.

incidentally, I do not eat meat or fish.

As with all things, the rules and implementation of them vary dramatically from branch to branch. In Sukhumvit area for that particular bank you need to use the foreign remit office above branch on 33 and I have found that their rules change very regularly indeed. Usually, you can win them over with pleas to familial concerns.

p.s. you can withdraw it all and fly it abroad yourself so in that sense, yes, it is your money and you can do what you want with it.

What we would call "maturity".

Where was Mum, Sis, Dad, Bro, Husband etc while this elaborate con was taking place?

Thais stick together in units and protect one another with advice and alternative perspectives.

Single ladies going it alone without thefamily or friends inevitably get serious trouble.

Just for the record its not my shop. They're well known

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They sell it red and white I think, dry not sure if pre-scrubbed/washed. I have used it for a week and have to say it tastes good.

Ive been trying to up my protein.

Only problem is it isnt exactly cheap

http://radiancewholefoods.com/index.php/shop-online.html#!/~/category/id=3811729&offset=0&sort=normal

Radiance Wholefoods is another good source - for lots of odd and interesting things. Im getting into Quinoa.. gradually.

Ok, thanks everyone. I have much more information now. Much appreciated!

ahh great.. thanks Mario, I thought it was just a one-use thing.

Thanks everyone.

Unfortunately no chinese visa in this one.

Already tried to peel off a few laos ones- they must use superglue.

So it seems I have a few options, although I don't know how Im going to actually get my new passport. My drivers license expired years ago. It has my old address anyway and I cant collect mail from there any more. I wonder what the resolution will be? I will try to break down in tears and mention Thai jail when the UK calls me.

1) Singapore or malaysia or myanmar should only be a small stamp.

2) Cambodian e-visa should allow for only a small stamp

3) Extention for 7 days at immigration bangkok (possibly enough time, depends on what UK passport office decide about me.)

OJAS - I really hope I dont get in trouble for using the existing passport meanwhile- but I have been advised from multiple sources this is SOP.

I think I will go with Singapore, as I have a stamp in my passport from there and can see for myself its tiny.

I also have the number of an agent who goes to Myanmar/Burma regularly if anyone needs it.

My advice do not travel on your existing pp ie the one that has just been cancelled, if for some reason it is picked up on that the pp your travelling on has been cancelled, one suspects immigration in what ever country your in, will detain you and will start asking questions, not worth the hassle seeing as the PP office tell you specifically not to travel on it

If you truely need to travel, emergency pp from the BE is the answer but its GBP 98 or there about

Hi Soutpeel,

I've always appreciated your advice. Assuming my passport takes until the 25th or beyond to get to me (worst case scenario but possible) how would you advise handling my overstay issue please? I don't think emergency passport lets me stay in the country- only leave it? My passport will be on its way to my Thai address, and If im not there to receive it, I suppose it will end up in the UK. Maybe I should just tell them to hold it until I get home and take a vacation!!

Thanks everyone.

Unfortunately no chinese visa in this one.

Already tried to peel off a few laos ones- they must use superglue.

So it seems I have a few options, although I don't know how Im going to actually get my new passport. My drivers license expired years ago. It has my old address anyway and I cant collect mail from there any more. I wonder what the resolution will be? I will try to break down in tears and mention Thai jail when the UK calls me.

1) Singapore or malaysia or myanmar should only be a small stamp.

2) Cambodian e-visa should allow for only a small stamp

3) Extention for 7 days at immigration bangkok (possibly enough time, depends on what UK passport office decide about me.)

OJAS - I really hope I dont get in trouble for using the existing passport meanwhile- but I have been advised from multiple sources this is SOP.

I think I will go with Singapore, as I have a stamp in my passport from there and can see for myself its tiny.

I also have the number of an agent who goes to Myanmar/Burma regularly if anyone needs it.

Hi,

I am hoping you knowledgeable gents can help me once again.

My passport is almost full. I have half of one page and a quarter of another.

I have already applied for a renewal in the UK. It has been delayed because the UK passport office wants additional paperwork I cannot provide (proof of address, but they have very odd options).

Meanwhile my extention of stay expires on 15th Feb.

I have been advised by passport office not to travel on my passport.

I know that laos, vietnam, cambo, etc land borders all require whole pages. I dont know of anywhere that would be a safe bet given my space available.

Options as I see it:

1) Don't do anything, wait for new passport, then go to chaengwattana and maybe they will let me off with overstay fine (but for how many days?) and put some sort of stamp in my passport so I can leave the country.

2) Travel on the passport against UK advice, but either find somewhere (burma?) that will have only small stamps, or.. hope for a nice immigraiton official?

3) See if I can get a further extention in my passport based on this situation? I have included photos of my visa/extention in case anyone in the know can advise me how possible this is..

4) I noticed an older toursit visa with 2 entries. The second entry was never used. It says "enter before 2nd jan 2014". The first entry was used before that date. Can I now use the second?

5) (this one would be great) I have misunderstood my situation and I actually have an option Im not seeing!

Thanks in advance.. and thank you especially to Her Majesty's Passport Office in Liverpool, who if they had produced my new passport after taking my money, rather than asking for additional documents that were not on the required documents list, could have avoided this whole situation for me.

I have got in the (weird) habit of actually shouting "beep beep".

I know, but I can't stop. It seems to work a little.