GinBoy2

I had bowens disease, which is skin cancer under my left eye, had it removed at Brumringrad back in 2018. Scar today, you can see it, but it's not much. Biggest thing you need to be careful about is that the surgeon doesn't stretch the skin, certainly if it's by the eye as mine was that it doesn't impair eye movement

Well thats sad, and it's obviously made you a little bitter Me and MrsG been together a long time, had our ups and downs, who doesn't? But here we are in our twilight years, still hanging in there and probably a lot more comfortable together than we were back in the 'rabbit' days Once you take out lustful sex and it gets replaced with loving sex, life becomes a whole lot more peaceful

For a real scam. One of my idiot boys got a text message, You have a delivery with incorrect address you need to pay $0.30 to update delivery address, please enter your CC details Idiot young boy fell for the classic scam. Between the time me and and his co-workers telling him this was frikkin scam the scammers had emptied his bank account

Well if you've ever read my posts you'd know my wife is a bit of an odd Thai duck. After her parents died she and her siblings were farmed out to relatives, and she ended up in Chicago with her aunt and uncle. Went to High School and university in Chicago before going to Singapore to work, where we met. So our life experiences are pretty similar, we laugh at the same movies, comedians, argue constantly about politics, the list goes on and on

I'm not sure sure what I would choose if I had to do it all again. I've always liked my women a little dark and dusky First wife was half Jamaican, and my current wife from Isaan, so my tastes I think are pretty obvious. I'm hispanic my family from Guadalajara, and every time we go visit my wife cant stop saying how sexy my female relatives are, so maybe next time it would be return to my roots!

Valid question. I'm mid 60's MrsG late 50's We still have a decent sex life, but we certainly don't go at it like the rabbits we were 20 years ago. I don't think thats down to her or me specifically, but like a lot of things age takes it's toll, nothing wrong in that. So now if it's once a week whereas before it was once a day I'm perfectly OK. You just roll with it and enjoy the life you have as it evolves

Well this a forum favorite. 15 pages pretty sure lots of bickering and stab wounds along the way! But on the original question. Me and MrsG are 5 years apart, and should anything happen and I was 'back in the game' so to speak I'd be looking for something similar, if indeed I could even be bothered frankly. I would have no desire to be an ATM to some woman old enough to be my daughter, and who probably couldn't hold a conversation with me, since we would be worlds apart. So, I'd be looking for a woman of my own generation who I could feel comfortable with, share similar life experiences, had our kids and grandkids, and not have some pressure to 'perform' so to speak. Those days are over thank God, and I just want to be myself

@andych don't get any of us wrong. I've been happily married together with my wife for over 20+ years, kids the works. But I met my wife at work, a very typical workplace relationship which ultimately developed, well it was a workplace affair since I was still married at the time! So anything is possible. But the situation you describe is for all us that have lived in Thailand, it's a classic minefield Don't underestimate a Thai woman, who has, or is in the trade to concoct a very plausible story, I think they trade scenarios. You wouldn't be the first to fall for it, God knows the streets are paved with guys have fell for it. So you do what you gotta do but for God's sake go into it with your eyes open cos you're gonna need it with everything you've described

I did have to admire the embassy's humorous response, maybe the Government does have a sense of humor.... The embassy added that it “will continue to make tea in the proper way — by microwaving it.”

To kinda wrap up this thread. The OP is looking for some kind of validation for his situation. For most of the seasoned guys, it just wreaks of disaster Maybe not now a bar girl, and maybe works in a restaurant now, but Dear Lord, how many 'cashiers' are out there! So he's gonna do what he's gonna do, maybe it'll work out but I hope he understands the odds are stacked against it. Trouble is as a newbie, he has no clue how many times we have all heard this tale, and it feels like lambs to the slaughter. Good Luck, but you aren't got to get the response you want from this group, you're on your own!

Actually right now we're in Sweden for vacation then on to Thailand through March. As for my wife's overstay friends, not a one of them came with a bf in tow Regular tourist visas, overstayed then met a guy got married, then they apply for a change of status. One of our friends she was here close to 10 years overstay, before she married a guy from the local AFB. For her sins he got posted to Minot ND!

The CO's tread a difficult path. I won't deny I was totally pissed off when my then gf was denied a tourist visa after years of living together. But, my now wife is a legal resident, I look around her group of friends here in little 'ol Rapid City City South Dakota, with the exception of my wife and one other lady who like my wife came in as a resident, all of them came on tourist visas, overstayed, married a local guy the list goes on. The CO's have to navigate this minefield and I'm pretty sure it's not easy

Tourist visas are a real crap shoot. I understand the horrendous rate of single Thai women who come in and overstay, for various reasons and the obvious one is probably the one that occupies the CO most. But then there are the ones like my wife, who before we were married applied for a tourist visa and was denied. Brought up in Chicago as a teenager, US college educated, good job in Thailand, we owned our home, I thought it was a slam dunk, silly me. My only thought was that the CO 'thought' we would travel to the US get married and then apply for an adjustment of status, in order to bypass the normal immigration process. I also think by the time she gets to the interview the decision has already been made, and no matter what pile of documentation she has in her hand won't make a scrap of difference Ironically after we got legally married we applied for an immigrant visa, nothing in our life had changed except for that piece of paper, and it sailed though, and she's now a green card holder

The one thing I would add. For most of us reading this it sets off alarm bells. Imagine what it would do in a CO's mind processing a tourist visa. Tread very carefully, visas nowadays don't come cheap and just make sure you're not throwing money away at a hopeless cause

Language is tough. As I've said before my wife grew up in her teenage years in Chicago, then lived in Singapore where we met. When our son was young we did like almost all multilingual parents only spoke in one language at a time until he'd mastered them all. After that we generally always spoke English at home, except when my wife is really angry at me and it devolves into a Lao/Thai tirade, which since I speak both I understand. On the flip side, if I'm really pissed off with her I revert to Spanish, which she doesn't understand, but knows it's bad! But not sure I could live with someone where our mutual communication was severely limited. Not saying I need in depth conversation on particle physics, but just everyday chit chat on the weather, work, dinner, and my personal favorite politics which we argue about constantly. She loves Trump! Maybe it's the arguing thing I'd miss, rather than the default Thai female screaming

I must admit if she tells the OP she's a 'cashier' OMG the classic trap

Got to admit you're right, this sets off all the alarm bells. Two week holiday romance and we're talking about marriage!! It smacks of a middle man and middle aged angst, or madness you choose. The debt, being still married, elevate it to a four alarm fire. All that being said, maybe it is all real and doable, but for God's sake a long way from talking about bringing this woman to the UK. Tourist visas for Thai women to Western countries are notoriously hard, for very obvious reasons. My wife, who grew up as a teenager in the US when back in Thailand before we were married, good job still got denied a tourist visa and I'm pretty sure the same random stuff is true for UK tourist visas. But try that first, a lot of Thai women have a fantastical image of mythical magical farang land where the streets are paved with gold

The joys of journalism in Thailand is that you simply go back through your reports for 10+ years, copy and paste the same story and change the date! Jeez how many times to I have to read this fantasy

To reiterate what others have said. When my wife went back to Thailand last year, she realized upon entry her passport would expire in two months, right after she returned to the US. She went to the passport office in Khon Kaen, did the application, picked up the passport the next day. This isn't a problem you need to sweat about

Hmmm, I have a co-worker, she's early 50's married to a Jamaican 35 year old guy. He's already under a deportation order, I'd bet dollars to donuts I'd guarantee no matter how it turns out, either he gets a green card or he's deported it's over between them Cynical as I am sure he's sticking it out to get through immigration court

Well this thread turned out pretty toxic. Never quite got the real hatred some seem to feel towards homosexuality. Like I've said earlier my best friend in HS was gay. Somehow he he didn't seem to able to convert me to his 'team' even though back in the day we spent every waking hour together. I also find it perplexing that many of the zealots will decry male anal sex as a sin, whereas the biggest market for female anal porn is from men!

This was one of those moments I feel my age. I loved Starsky & Hutch, but every day we seem to lose another one of those icons of 70's TV. RIP David, a lot of us loved you

I've in several countries over my lifetime, but I never stopped reading, listening, watching US news outlets. And I might add something that still hangs on by a thread local newspapers for the home town news

Well thats a good point. I think for many of us as we age sex becomes less important, and just having someone to share life with becomes more important. Not saying me and MrsG don't go at it it like rabbits when we do, but it's most definitely not the defining aspect of our life together. Been together a long time, had our kids and now grandkids, so we're just kinda comfortable being around each other. Alone in the house as the kids are gone, happiness can be just hanging out, watching stupid Thai TV, laughing when someone farts, and just the familiarity of another human

Well I think all in all you have made the lives of three people better. Your stepdaughters have clearly thrived thanks to a good education, and you wife clearly has fully embraced her life in Europe Best any of us can say is that our life on earth was a plus to those around us