Isaan Love Triangle: Thai Men Found Lacking By Farang-Loving Women

By Asaree Thaitrakulpanich, Staff Reporter

 

  

Surin net idol Supawadee Lailani Bouteleux and her French husband, Dimitri Bouteleux. Photo: Jessica Difford / Facebook

 

Sure, there’s a Robert and a Gerhardt living down that dusty Khon Kaen road with their Phim and Tukta. But how does the local Somchai – possily Tukta’s ex – feel about their union?

 

While men in Isaan assume women there marry foreigners for their money, the women say they are motivated by how farang men care for their families. Either way, while there are relatively few such marriages, they are challenging assumptions about masculinity in the Thai northeast and diminishing men’s marital prospects.

 

Full story: http://www.khaosodenglish.com/featured/2017/11/30/isaan-love-triangle-thai-men-found-lacking-farang-loving-women/

 

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Thai men are lacking in what way? Size of wallet or size of something else ... ?

4 minutes ago, Mister Fixit said:

Thai men are lacking in what way? Size of wallet or size of something else ... ?

Lack the freedom to wander too far from mom's apron strings.

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

Well, it's because the Farang have more money? 

Not ? rocket surgery here... 

 

42 minutes ago, Mister Fixit said:

Thai men are lacking in what way? Size of wallet or size of something else ... ?

both

Wheres his Helmet? Lucky he isn't a German.

 

 

Money has always proved to be an attraction!

"Local Somchai" 

What is rocket surgery?

50 minutes ago, exparte said:

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

Precisely what I had said. Mom gave money when they were kids. Then, wife gives money when they get married, as mom did.

There are two totally different types of Isaan women in Isaan with faring husbands. Those previously working in Pattaya or the likes and returning with their farang husband. And those from Isaan that were usually previously married to a Thai man. What the author is describing l think is mainly the second group. Many in this group are educated and come from a good family. They can be teachers, lawyers, nurses, business ladies. Most are looking for a stable happy life. They are tired of the Thai males attitude. My partner is in this group and on a regular basis friends and work mates are asking her to find them a faring boyfriend/husband. 

 

 

 

 

 

The usual bunch of comments from TV readers who don't, or perhaps cannot, read as evidenced by boorish and meaningless commentary.
Perhaps it is just too much trouble to click the link?
Here is a precis for you. 
The article is written by a Thai woman, who admits it is a largely anecdotal account from informal chats and interviews.
The problem with Issan Thai men, according to the article, is that many have a habit of not being faithful or of supporting their wives/families, while many western men have been raised to do so. Money is an advantage but not the main focus.

Thai wives are as faithful as any other nationality and more than most. I only know of one gig mia farang and he is as boring as <deleted> so I can't blame her.

Funny quote....is it about the money or not?

 

[“We’re done with Thai men,” Patcharin said she was told by one of the Thai wife’s mothers, who had encouraged her daughter to divorce her Thai husband and marry a foreigner. “It’s not just about money, but they’re unfaithful and always cheating on women. They don’t take responsibility for their family, and never have enough money to take care of their wife and kids.”]

 

Hmmm, yeah, I'd say it's about the money.

 

 

A troll post and reply have been removed, don't like the story then please complain to the source but do not leave your troll comments on here for others to read, thank you.

I have been here for more than 15  years and I heart the same theme all the time

 

Farang respect their wives  Treat them well  as equals Usually don't disappear for a few days on a binge. Dont gamble to excess and of course have more money to spread around

 

The opposite is true of Thai men

the french guy is actually handsome, slim and young. what does he see in her ????????????

11 minutes ago, atyclb said:

the french guy is actually handsome, slim and young. what does he see in her ????????????

Because she tells him he is handsome man and good body and look young mak.  Law of probabilities that someone has to be right eventually.

22 minutes ago, Bill Miller said:

The usual bunch of comments from TV readers who don't, or perhaps cannot, read as evidenced by boorish and meaningless commentary.
Perhaps it is just too much trouble to click the link?
Here is a precis for you. 
The article is written by a Thai woman, who admits it is a largely anecdotal account from informal chats and interviews.
The problem with Issan Thai men, according to the article, is that many have a habit of not being faithful or of supporting their wives/families, while many western men have been raised to do so. Money is an advantage but not the main focus.

Were you looking for intelligent life or entertainment ?

"not because of Thai men’s masculine culture". She has got to be joking??? Thai men masculine? Most Thai men are very effeminate in my opinion.

I know a group of Thai guys who I hang out with sometimes.  All great guys to each other and to me, but for their partners I'm sure they're decidedly absent.  They don't feature in the guys life much at all.  You could be mistaken for thinking they're talking to the proprietor of a shop when it's actually their wife.

 

None of them are short of enough money for day to day stuff.  They like to gamble daily though so I imagine they go through some flush and dry spots.  If the wife is a mother, then the game gets a bit more serious, whereas the guys are probably much the same as when they were teenagers.

 

Westerners are brought up with the idea of both having to contribute in time/effort/money to keep the ship tight.  To a Thai woman perhaps a guy helping out around the house as soon as he's just finished work (or is retired already) would be an unusual catch, where it's actually not that unusual in the West.

A bit less yak yak, a bit more concern, a bit more reliable money (even if modest), and pretty soon the scales would be tipping strongly.

Nothing to do with size of genitalia.

 

 

 

"IT is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.

 

However little known the feelings or views of such a man may be on his first entering a neighbourhood, this truth is so well fixed in the minds of the surrounding families, that he is considered as the rightful property of some one or other of their daughters."

 

"Pride and Prejudice", Jane Austen, 1813.

 

"First things first"..........T'was ever thus.

 

 

 

 

 

I'm sure it is not all one way traffic, I know of a couple of Farang guys that were a little more into partying and drink than playing happy families with their wives. Had money aplenty too, but the the marriage hit the rocks, as the lady said, it isn't all about money.

56 minutes ago, ryane66 said:

There are two totally different types of Isaan women in Isaan with faring husbands. Those previously working in Pattaya or the likes and returning with their farang husband. And those from Isaan that were usually previously married to a Thai man. What the author is describing l think is mainly the second group. Many in this group are educated and come from a good family. They can be teachers, lawyers, nurses, business ladies. Most are looking for a stable happy life. They are tired of the Thai males attitude. My partner is in this group and on a regular basis friends and work mates are asking her to find them a faring boyfriend/husband. 

 

 

 

 

 

And, where exactly did the second type of women meet their farang partner ?

Let me guess........................ the internet. Same, same, and not different. 

My experience (with two Isaan ladies), found them enslaved by their families who were enslaved by the local mafia (i.e., in debt).  The ladies were compromised and in constant conflict but did their damned best to satisfy everyone else's needs but their own. Both situations had no remedy, so I bailed after losing AUD > $60,000 --- that was 15-16 years ago.

Trump won, because of "Obama Care". Similarly, Thai ladies won because of "Thai smile".

 

Girls need to laugh because of their men in life, not laugh at them.

 

Am i confused ?

6 hours ago, ryane66 said:

There are two totally different types of Isaan women in Isaan with faring husbands. Those previously working in Pattaya or the likes and returning with their farang husband. And those from Isaan that were usually previously married to a Thai man. What the author is describing l think is mainly the second group. Many in this group are educated and come from a good family. They can be teachers, lawyers, nurses, business ladies. Most are looking for a stable happy life. They are tired of the Thai males attitude. My partner is in this group and on a regular basis friends and work mates are asking her to find them a faring boyfriend/husband. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My wife is from Isaan. She wasn't previously married, nor did she work as a <deleted>.  Your theory based on two stereotypes is fallacious.

Farang son-in-laws, on the other hand, are expected neither to cheat nor shy from financial responsibility for their Thai wives – even if they first arrived in Thailand as sex tourists.

 

 

“A woman married to a Chinese man will always be seen as the secondary provider, no matter how much she earns financially. Therefore, Chinese men see themselves as having the right to have extramarital affairs because they have responsibly provided for their main household,” Patcharin said. “Their cheating behavior is different from Thai men, who neither stay faithful to their wives nor provide for their families.”

 

“While farang men have shown themselves willing to change how they displayed their masculinity, changing from sex tourists to good son-in-laws, Isaan men have not, making them less desirable as marriage partners to local women,” Patcharin concluded.

 

    In short. "Sex tourist Dingdong Farang" is the better husband because the Thai women can have a Gik Mia Farang, lose a lot of money in gambling, and the whole family will have cash, including Somchai Gik.

 

Money is closing their eyes, ears, and mouths, but opens their hearts. 

 

    Attached photo from the original story is the best example why Thai women need a Gik Mia Farang.

I know more than a few mid 20's to late 30's, very attractive, educated Thai women in Chiang Mai who swear they will never have anything to do with a Thai man ever again.  And from what they've told my Thai wife of over 9 years, most of their friends feel the same way.  It's got to be a farang, or nothing.