Must Read Norwegian man says Thai wife and policeman lover framed him and got him deported

[4MyEgo]

9 hours ago, darksidedog said:

All too common a story here and equally sad every time. Doesn't matter how much you love them, you are an utter idiot when you put your life's savings in their name. You are going to get fleeced, or stitched up more often than not, and yet, still it goes on. Sorry fellas, but when she is 30 years younger than you, she is marrying you for one reason only, and you really need to keep the wad tight, at least until you die.

Words from a wise man.

 

Sure set them up in a nice house, car, life's comforts, that is, providing you have been with them for a good 5 years and see that nothing has changed in their character.

 

The philosophy's that I have taken from others who have been there, done that, are:

 

1) "Nothing is forever" (so enjoy it while it lasts)

 

2) "Only invest as much as your prepared to lose" (10% of your worth)

 

3) "Have a back up plan" (this is actually my own), if and when it goes bad, exit asap leaving no trace, kids and all, expect nothing, as cruel as it sounds, porn's will be used against you and will only hold you back from your future happiness in this one life, you can always come back to them when they are adults.

 

4) Never have joint bank accounts

 

5) Have a will entitling the children to your estate when they are 25, that way, she won't take you out earlier.

 

Apart from the above, keep enjoying the love that you experience everyday, nurture it, but remember, you have no control when the snake rears its head from behind you, if ever 555

 

10 years and going strong, looking forward to passing the X's bite mark of 12 years, which saw 50% of investments created by me go down the gurgla, once bitten twice shy, but then again, that was 12 years of hell 555

Edited December 9, 2017 by 4MyEgo

[mikebell]

'He spent hundreds of thousands on a female lawyer who proved useless.'  Another scourge of Thailand.

[quadperfect]

I have no sympathy. This is daily news here.

If i was him i would just be thankfull i did not end up like so many others murdered here by there evil others.

[Sir Dude]

He made the classic mistake of spending money he couldn't afford to lose, many do this and have horror stories. Never spend anything here you can't just walk away from whilst saying "pfft...whatever." All your primary funds/wealth should be in a western country working for you, not here. Sure, bring over dribs and drabs of cash/interest earnings as and when you want them but leave the primary back in Europe or wherever. I am married and I legally work here with a house and car etc., but if somehow it went south then I'd only lose what I had earned whilst living here and would remain perfectly financially viable so could walk off and start afresh. The main thing that's a downer in this story is that they ran off with his kid...that would suck any which way you shake it though.

Edited December 9, 2017 by Sir Dude
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[YetAnother]

11 hours ago, Jonathan Fairfield said:

He was deported from Thailand

this case illustrates how tenuous our permissions-to-stay here really are; devious thais can collude and accuse us falsely of LesM or other permission violations, as was done here

[hansnl]

10 hours ago, StayinThailand2much said:

No, Thais don't do that! 

They do.

And I very much believe him.

It's done before, many times.

And with a policeman in the game, certain!

[torrzent]

Had he read Private Dancer, this never would have happened

[petedk]

8 hours ago, Happy enough said:

why never get married? i've been happily married for nearly 20 years thanks. but cheers for the advice anyway

I agree with you. I have also been in the same relationship for 20 years (not married though - she says she is too old). She also has a lot more money than I have.

 

In fact, I trusted her with a large amount of money which she invested for me and gave a very nice return.

 

We only hear of the failures in the news and not the success stories. I have 3 or 4 foreign friends who have been happily married to Thais for 30 years or more.

Edited December 9, 2017 by petedk

[KiChakayan]

10 hours ago, darksidedog said:

All too common a story here and equally sad every time. Doesn't matter how much you love them, you are an utter idiot when you put your life's savings in their name. You are going to get fleeced, or stitched up more often than not, and yet, still it goes on. Sorry fellas, but when she is 30 years younger than you, she is marrying you for one reason only, and you really need to keep the wad tight, at least until you die.

Yep, keep at least enough to resettle, if it's not your wife it could be the little gnome in fancy dress in Bangkok..

[BEVUP]

It's also a problem of people over investing

1 - How much did he spend on her house, lets say 10,000,000 - you really sometimes only need to spend half & still have a nice comfortable place

2 - Why Merc - Must have been in her name, not that he had a chance to drive it away since in the cells - I'm sure a Toyota would of been just as reliable 

3 - So he buys 34 Rai for wife, what the hell for - she would most probably be to busy cleaning the mantion - No doubt got the land cheap (I bet ) of a debt ridden Relo so they could become farmers 555

[BEVUP]

7 minutes ago, petedk said:

I agree with you. I have also been in the same relationship for 20 years (not married though - she says she is too old). She also has a lot more money than I have.

 

In fact, I trusted her with a large amount of money which she invested for me and gave a very nice return.

 

We only hear of the failures in the news and not the success stories. I have 3 or 4 foreign friends who have been happily married to Thais for 30 years or more.

Well I would say over that length of time things may have changed 

There are now alot more of them thinking about Get Rich Quick schemes with little effort

[chrissables]

4 minutes ago, BEVUP said:

It's also a problem of people over investing

1 - How much did he spend on her house, lets say 10,000,000 - you really sometimes only need to spend half & still have a nice comfortable place

2 - Why Merc - Must have been in her name, not that he had a chance to drive it away since in the cells - I'm sure a Toyota would of been just as reliable 

3 - So he buys 34 Rai for wife, what the hell for - she would most probably be to busy cleaning the mantion - No doubt got the land cheap (I bet ) of a debt ridden Relo so they could become farmers 555

Why must the Mec be in her name? 

[BEVUP]

7 minutes ago, chrissables said:

Why must the Mec be in her name? 

It may not of been but he obviously had no say in the end after being locked up & deported

[thenoilif]

31 minutes ago, torrzent said:

Had he read Private Dancer, this never would have happened

The scheming Thai wife is a cliche. No need to read about it. 

The problem isn't with the women. It's the men. They let their egos get the better of them every time. 

[torrzent]

1 minute ago, thenoilif said:

The scheming Thai wife is a cliche. No need to read about it. 

The problem isn't with the women. It's the men. They let their egos get the better of them every time. 

False assumption...PD is as much about the naive foreign man with the beer goggles on, more than any purported cliches to which you refer.

[PremiumLane]

I wonder how many of the usual suspects on this forum were calling for his immediate deportation and calling him scum when the original charges against him happened. 

[Julio]

Never invest in a country which does not legally protect your investment or does not allow personal ownership of the property you purchase. US, Australia, NZ, part of Europe and, in some respect, Asian countries as Vietnam and China have clearer regulations and laws. Anyhow use the country positive feature and do not let the country use and spoil your life, a good life can be conducted without owning massive properties within the limits imposed by the local laws. If the wife or GF pushes for massive purchases replace it.

[Blue Muton]

10 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

Rule #1:

Never bring anything into Thailand you are not prepared to lose.

 

Rule #2:

Never be worth more dead than alive.

 

Rule #3: (the most important)

Look all four directions before crossing a one way street.

 

#3 Assuming you meant left, right, forward and back, you forgot up and down.

[captspectre]

I know of a case in the nana plaza where a falong owner had almost the same case, his thai wife got mixed up with a thai policeman and took his ass to the cleaners. there are other cases where the thai female has a falang teelock and a thai husband who she passes off as "her" brother. they have a name for a man like that, who lets his wife be with a falang for money.

 

 

 

[Raymonddiaz]

I hope this story will be on Thai news for longtime to prove that not only Nigerians are love scammers. Many Thai women are gold diggers..... Foreigners need to stop being stupid. Never buy anything in Thailand that you can't put on your name. I am married since 6 years but I only bought things on my name: Car, motorcycle, condo...i will never buy a house...never.. Because I can't own it...simple.

[sammieuk1]

Where's  a policeman when you need one?  in my bed is far to close .

[Aussieroaming]

She cant be stupid, she took him for a fair chunk of cash and assets

[hawker9000]

10 hours ago, leeneeds said:

Always two sides to relationship break down, 

but visitation or at least contact with his child is a right that should be granted,

really poor form, on his part to stay  with a lawyer who gave no results, just bills, 

 

"Always two sides to relationship break down,..."

 

You mean at least two sides.  'Sounds like 3 in this case.  

 

And another farang with assets bites the dust in the LOS.   But the beat goes on...

 

[car720]

11 hours ago, NCC1701A said:

Rule #1:

Never bring anything into Thailand you are not prepared to lose.

 

Rule #2:

Never be worth more dead than alive.

 

Rule #3: (the most important)

Look all four directions before crossing a one way street.

 

Rule 4:  Refer to rule 2.

[robblok]

2 hours ago, Cadbury said:

I have the utmost respect to those men who have come to Thailand and found the love of their life and marital bliss. It's not always easy but the emotional rewards and happiness for couples are there to be had with the right choice by both.

Despite the publicity and advice given to those numerous who come here and lose their life savings Thailand still seems to be the go-to country for many farangs to come to meet their next ex-wife and leave empty handed.

That depends on what choices you make, plus of course a lot of marriages fail too in the west. I was married for 9 years here. I got divorced, kept the house the car and everything. Did pay of the wife for what she paid into the house and car.  She was a honest woman still is too bad we had to end it (I always told her I did not want kids, she thought I would change my mind and she became an age she had to choose). Still friends now, i seen relations go bad here but many woman are honest. Just depends what kind of woman you find plus what kind of guy you are yourself. 

[tonray]

48 minutes ago, captspectre said:

I know of a case in the nana plaza

Stop right there... No need to go further 

[RickBradford]

Thailand is a country where the only hierarchy is power. And you, as a farang, have none.

 

So,

 

1. Never invest more here than you can afford to lose

2. Make sure you are worth more alive than dead.

3. Do not upset powerful people, especially those with guns and a mental age of 10.

[Nong Khai Man]

9 hours ago, Happy enough said:

why never get married? i've been happily married for nearly 20 years thanks. but cheers for the advice anyway

Me Too Mate 25 Years next February,A Few ups & Downs but that happens in EVERY Marriage & The Making up is GREAT !!

[anon789561]

44 minutes ago, Raymonddiaz said:

I hope this story will be on Thai news for longtime to prove that not only Nigerians are love scammers. Many Thai women are gold diggers..... Foreigners need to stop being stupid. Never buy anything in Thailand that you can't put on your name. I am married since 6 years but I only bought things on my name: Car, motorcycle, condo...i will never buy a house...never.. Because I can't own it...simple.

you mean many 'women' are gold diggers

[IamNoone88]

A well respected Thai guy once told me he never gives a 'ride" to any-one, not even "friends", incase some-one planted something in his car. He said ... you never know.