Die in Thailand

[jak2002003]

15 hours ago, soalbundy said:

actually I haven't seen much one upman ship in my village, the feasting is low key and follows a standard pattern, a pig is slaughtered and all the women get together and cook,vegetables are from the village gardens. Surprisingly not much alcohol is drunk, usually two bottles of Leo for the men, although there is more if you want it, and some lau kao of course, haven't seen much drunkenness.When you leave you are usually given some cooked food and a couple of bottles of beer to take with you.Most people only go if they know the family well although anybody is welcome, the gatherings aren't that large, about 40 people at most. At the cremation almost everybody goes to the Wat, it is expected and they seem individually to take note of who is there. Funerals don't cost that much but it is probably different in big towns or cities, where I am it is mostly just a friendly get together, I think it would be unheard off if there was no feasting to speak off, it would show a lack of respect to the deceased.

You must live in a nice traditional place.  

 

Where I am in Chiang Mai, the funeral parties go on for days, lots of people, loud Thai pop music, heavy drinking, speeding up and down in cars and motorbikes, shouting, litter everywhere.  

 

They seem to try to get the biggest coffin temple thing.. some so big they can hardly get them to the temple without taking out the electric wires and trees.  Flashing neon lights on them.  And, its not like the people here are rich.. they are really poor, many still living in run down wooden houses.

 

 

[soalbundy]

35 minutes ago, jak2002003 said:

You must live in a nice traditional place.  

 

Where I am in Chiang Mai, the funeral parties go on for days, lots of people, loud Thai pop music, heavy drinking, speeding up and down in cars and motorbikes, shouting, litter everywhere.  

 

They seem to try to get the biggest coffin temple thing.. some so big they can hardly get them to the temple without taking out the electric wires and trees.  Flashing neon lights on them.  And, its not like the people here are rich.. they are really poor, many still living in run down wooden houses.

 

 

Yes, I have lived in Chiang Mai, good night life, a great change from where I have been living for the past 11 years but I wouldn't change anything. I live well out in the sticks, chickens run around my house all day long and don't seem to belong to anybody and water buffalo's sometimes block the road to my house but we seem to be on good terms as I pat them and tell them to move on and they do, at 8 pm it is quiet, I go to bed then and consequently get up at 4 am, at 6 am I go for a walk around the lake near the temple and am often greeted by the locals who know me well by now, a sedentary but satisfying life and yes it is very traditional in beliefs and behaviour.

[Travel2003]

Strict instruction to wife:

Do NOT ship my dead body back to my home country. Waste of money.

Incinerate me, and put me in a wall somewhere, or just drop the ashes as she wishes.

Big party. Anyone crying must be escorted out of the party in order to not to change the party mood. 

 

 

[steven100]

5 pages to die in Thailand  

[soalbundy]

59 minutes ago, steven100 said:

5 pages to die in Thailand  

It is important, death is a part of life, accept what is

[KhunMhee]

Agreed death is for the living. When you're dead you won't know what's going on with your corpse. The living will be able to celebrate and remember who you were and what type of impact you had on their lives. I don't think the people saying others are shunned for not having a big party makes a difference to who ever died. It again is a saving of face for those who are alive. I would rather a quickie cremation and all my assets go to Mrs. Mhee and little Mhee. As the Mrs is not religious in any sense I can only hope that it will work out that way. 

[soalbundy]

On 1/10/2018 at 5:22 AM, KhunMhee said:

Mrs, Mhee had he best friends Grandmother die a few days ago in Sukhothai. The funeral was short she was burned 5 days after her passing. The ceremony was short 4 days total. No big food & drink extravaganza. I took a breath and asked why and the answer was " They don't have money for a big party " everyone understands. So sensible is a common approach in some provinces.  

I find 4 days excessive, where I am 1 day is enough.

[KhunMhee]

1 hour ago, soalbundy said:

I find 4 days excessive, where I am 1 day is enough.

Yup No need to look at my bloated body either just turn and burn

[soalbundy]

2 hours ago, KhunMhee said:

Yup No need to look at my bloated body either just turn and burn

I was invited to do that at a funeral because I knew the man, I wish I hadn't, a horrific sight, a bloated green grey face that was beyond recognition, a dead body should remain under wraps in the box.

[sanemax]

3 hours ago, soalbundy said:

I find 4 days excessive, where I am 1 day is enough.

You should wait for at least two days , just in case you were just asleep and not dead

[soalbundy]

Just now, sanemax said:

You should wait for at least two days , just in case you were just asleep and not dead

I was talking about the wake, yes there is I think a 4 day minimum wait before the cremation but doesn't mean one has to party for 4 days.

[Bill Miller]

I like the whole body donation scheme. Have to find out if anyplace wants this old carcass. 

[Jonah Tenner]

I have told my heirs to dispose of my remains, if they are found, in the easiest way for them. I have no intention of sitting around waiting to die, so I will probably go out with some sort of bang...

[Justfine]

On 16/01/2018 at 10:39 AM, Bill Miller said:

I like the whole body donation scheme. Have to find out if anyplace wants this old carcass. 

Freeze the body and cart around like Weekend at Bernies.

[Bill Miller]

On 1/18/2018 at 7:23 AM, Justfine said:

Freeze the body and cart around like Weekend at Bernies.

Little tough to do if I AM the body, 5555

[Bill Miller]

On 1/17/2018 at 2:22 AM, Jonah Tenner said:

I have told my heirs to dispose of my remains, if they are found, in the easiest way for them. I have no intention of sitting around waiting to die, so I will probably go out with some sort of bang...

Hell, no!
Arrive in a flurry of dust, declaiming "Whooee! What a ride!"

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎1‎/‎6‎/‎2018 at 7:04 PM, electric said:

Donate your whole body to science. Who knows, maybe some clinical researcher will find something interesting inside your corpse.

 

When they've cut, diced, sliced and poked everything in you, they'll burn you for free and return the bits to your rellies.

 

And it's all for free !! Google "whole body donation" for tons of info.

Correct answer.

Otherwise, spend all your money before you die, so it doesn't cost you anything after.

I have told my NOK to refuse to "donate" any money to bring my body back, and just stay out of it.

[thaibeachlovers]

On ‎1‎/‎6‎/‎2018 at 7:22 PM, Jip99 said:

 

 

Unfortunately, the Thai hospitals etc don't always want your body.

 

A friend was rejected and had to have a conventional cremation.................. Thailand..... not welcome in life, not welcome in death!

Same back home. Only want fresh corpses.

Anyway, just getting burned isn't expensive in LOS. It's all the other stuff that costs.

[Jonah Tenner]

9 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Same back home. Only want fresh corpses.

Anyway, just getting burned isn't expensive in LOS. It's all the other stuff that costs.

Funeral of my mother in law some years ago. Everybody who came brought a little white envelope with money. Funeral made a profit for the family.

Edited January 20, 2018 by Jonah Tenner

[electric]

5 hours ago, Jonah Tenner said:

Funeral of my mother in law some years ago. Everybody who came brought a little white envelope with money. Funeral made a profit for the family.

Someone in your wife's family will have a ledger recording all the donations. Reciprocal white envelopes will be expected by the donors, eventually.