White Christmas13 Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 So guys we all know Thai women getting scammed from time to time and you all jump on the bandwagon agreeing the deserve it because they scam farangs because of greed and money. But here is a different story I have to tell you. My wife (we are separated for over a year now) but we still talk to each other and go out for meals she visits me at least twice a week. She still buys me certain things (like fruits every week and some times clothes) But to me she is still my wife I still like her we just live apart and no sex anymore () But I found out she has been scammed by a couple of guys in South Africa no no not Nigeria I have solid prove when and where she send money too. Now this scam was not about making or receiving money it was about helping poor families and kids so in other words they ask you to support a certain group, knowing my wife I can understand why she made that mistake But I don't feel easy now because I don't know if it is still goin on and I don't like to tell her that I know about her sending money over to South Africa . And please don't ask me how I got hold of those e-mails I am not a hacker I am to old for that, just by accident I found a couple transfers by a popular money transfer company I have printed some of the e-mails she send and received but she is using WeChat so I don't know if she is still sending. I guess she is not anymore don't ask me again how I got her e-mail conversation. So, last question for you guys how would you feel if you would find out your wife is being scammed and you can't say anything? Sorry for the long post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smutcakes Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 You have split up and no longer are together, so really its none of your business, provided you are not still providing funds and she is not asking for more as she is sending it all to Africa. If you found out through genuine means, rather than snooping, just come out and tell her. She wont like it if you tell her and she wont like it if you dont tell her and she finds out you knew. So either bite the bullet and just tell her, or simply forget it and move on with your life. No point concerning yourself over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robblok Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 Seems like you can't tell her what is going on because you got some of her private data on a (bad) not normal way. Is that the problem ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 16 minutes ago, robblok said: Seems like you can't tell her what is going on because you got some of her private data on a (bad) not normal way. Is that the problem ? Yes in a way she does not know, I know But I still feel bad she got done because she was not after money but support poor kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robblok Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 20 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: Yes in a way she does not know, I know But I still feel bad she got done because she was not after money but support poor kids Its sad.. but if you tell her you might get in trouble with her for getting in her data without her knowing. I understand how you feel, I still care for my ex wife (not love) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 20 minutes ago, robblok said: Its sad.. but if you tell her you might get in trouble with her for getting in her data without her knowing. I understand how you feel, I still care for my ex wife (not love) Yes I do care for her the problem is I still love her and I really feel sorry for her because I can not tell her I got in her data for 15 years since we got married there was never ever any sign she had any boyfriend or what ever but now with all the crap on Facebook and WeChat it is hard to keep up I just have to suffer I guess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 Thanks robblok looks like you the only one who cares Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Share Posted January 23, 2018 So I guess all posters don't give a shit they are more impressed if a farang get killed in Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enoon Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 (edited) 2 hours ago, White Christmas13 said: So I guess all posters don't give a shit they are more impressed if a farang get killed in Thailand Not quite all posters. All that is required is for your wife to discover that she is the victim of a scam. No need for you to show any knowledge of her activities at all. You just have to "arrange" that discovery. Off the top of my head: Perhaps you could tell her about the charity that you have been sending money to (and have not told her about previously) which, you have discovered, is a scam. Upon questioning you further she finds, to her amazement, that it is the same one that she has been sending money to. PS It may be better if a 3rd party acted your role, you were not present and her misfortune is an upsetting revelation when she tells you about it. Get the idea? Edited January 23, 2018 by Enoon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zyphodb Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 I don't think that they don't care, they just can't think of anything to add to what Robblok has said, I still care about my ex wife, but you are obviously going to have an unnecessary argument about it if you say anything so probably best to be sad about it in silence.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smotherb Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 2 hours ago, White Christmas13 said: So I guess all posters don't give a shit they are more impressed if a farang get killed in Thailand I don't know about the rest of them, but I think you should know without asking. Without playing games, there are only two options, tell her or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FashionExport Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 (edited) Sorry but as it seems that you were not able to educate her, I hope that she will find a better one who can help her to stop being stupid. Sad for her, but just tell her and stop thinking about her feeling or anything. With the next one she could also learn how to protect her email and private data. Edited January 23, 2018 by FashionExport Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 Firstly, how much money are we talking about? Secondly, how does the OP know for sure it's a scam? There are all kinds of charities out there, possible it's legit. And frankly, you can never tell for sure where your money really goes when giving to most any charity. But if it makes you feel good to give... The thing is, there are all kinds of needy charities right here in Thailand. Any particular reason she needs to reach out to Africa? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemonjelly Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 make a story that you heard some other Thai people falling for the same scam... maybe a friend told you or you read it on a forum..... maybe she’ll bite, and good on you for continuing to care about her, sounds like you two have a good post marriage friendship.Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigC Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 How most of these scams here are played on people’s kindness all you can do is not be kind to anyone and be a nasty person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoutman360 Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 And you posted this message why??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToddinChonburi Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 I really think you need to figure a way for her to discover this on her own. Thai's tend to think we are Farang's how can we know. Then there is the saving face crap. You were creative enough to find the info so get creative so she can discover it. Good Luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poanoi Posted January 23, 2018 Share Posted January 23, 2018 (edited) 11 hours ago, White Christmas13 said: So I guess all posters don't give a shit they are more impressed if a farang get killed in Thailand no, i just dont know what to tell you: either you lose face and tell her you've been sneaking in her private life like a woman, OR, she keeps on pissing away her money, much to your aggravation. either way sux ass, you just have to figure out what will cause the most life choice regret, and pick the other option Edited January 23, 2018 by poanoi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryasimight Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 (edited) 14 hours ago, White Christmas13 said: So I guess all posters don't give a shit they are more impressed if a farang get killed in Thailand I don't... On both counts. I'm being brutally honest here. Flame on! Edited January 24, 2018 by tryasimight Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DipStick Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 14 hours ago, Enoon said: Not quite all posters. All that is required is for your wife to discover that she is the victim of a scam. No need for you to show any knowledge of her activities at all. You just have to "arrange" that discovery. Off the top of my head: Perhaps you could tell her about the charity that you have been sending money to (and have not told her about previously) which, you have discovered, is a scam. Upon questioning you further she finds, to her amazement, that it is the same one that she has been sending money to. PS It may be better if a 3rd party acted your role, you were not present and her misfortune is an upsetting revelation when she tells you about it. Get the idea? Ah deviousness at its very best ! 14 hours ago, Enoon said: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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