Dilemma over a Thai ladies behaviour.

[Justfine]

19 minutes ago, Acemaker said:

She would never sell it back to the original owner ,( the) not losing Face culture kicks in.

She is retiring. Sell and don't look back.

[geisha]

elgenon, yes, all the legal work and contracts have been set up, and the new owner/ chef is just waiting for the money to come through, as we all know , banks aren’t usually very quick. The previous head chef has retired, so my cousin couldn’t call it all off even if she was allowed to. She’s French, has worked 12 hrs a Day all her life and is looking forward to her retirement, so she’s just going to calm everyone down and just shut up. The high season is a few weeks away with all the May public holidays and estivales , so she doesn’t have any options at all really. 

If the place falls apart after that , well. The staff might leave when the takeover happens, they’ll find jobs , no doubt about that. It’s just the thought that someone can turn into a tyrant so quickly, a jekle and Hyde syndrome that is so hard to understand and put up with , even tho it’s not for long. 

[jacko45k]

She sounds like a tyrant or a bully. Sometimes one has to stand up to bullies.

I hope the deal goes through quickly at the agreed price then it becomes the problem of another. Your cousin is presumably still the owner and should be spoken to with respect, for her to tolerate less is wrong. This control freak may be up to something devious.

Edited April 17, 2018 by jacko45k

[villa82]

1 hour ago, jacko45k said:

 Your cousin is presumably still the owner and should be spoken to with respect, for her to tolerate less is wrong. This control freak may be up to something devious.

 

Yup, my thoughts too!

[lannarebirth]

I don't know if it is the case with this would be buyer but many Thai restauranteurs overseas have a pipeline to very inexpensive Thai labor through workers visas. Not sure about France but in many places in Europe it is very difficult and expensive to let workers go. Maybe she is trying to encourage some of the help to seek work elsewhere of their own volition.

[Lou Provencaou]

I am French and Restaurant work as a waiter in luxury ski slopes restaurants is an extra job that I have occupied several times and as my main job since about 10 years is in luxury hotels but on another speciality, I have heard about restaurant working colleages and I can tell you that unfortunately it is a very common attitude amoung chefs to shout at everybody around them. I personnaly think that it is a shame and it it not like that in 100% of the kitchens but it is like that in many of them. In the best restautant where I have worked where people used to pay more than 1000€ per person (about 38000  Bahts) the chef should have been filmed for people to believe honestly a true psycho high on crazyness and shouting at everybody around at the peak of work in kitchen. He truely was amazing.

 

I do not say that she has to support that or that it is the best way to get the best out of your team, ceetainly not in my opinion, but qi just wanted U to know. If she has worked long time in France and in several places, sure that she has worked under that condition many times and she may be stupid enough to think that this is normal or that as she has had to tolerate it and work under those conditions long time, why wouldn't the others fo so...

You know, some people stupidity is extremly high and their heart is very small and many have not a lot of moral values and are bads and extremly selfish. That is truely amazing but it really is reality...

[Lou Provencaou]

I do not say that your cousin has to tolerate that but I also do not know the restaurant and the people involved.

 

Anyhow you have 3 choices

1 not speak and do the sale

2 speak and maybe loosing the sale

3 directly inform her that you do not want to sell tobher but with a potential retirement within 1 or 2 month your cousin may not be up to loose that now and wiqhing to finish with work. Then people working with that buying lady will go away and seek work somewhere else. Fortunately finding a job is very easy for a kitchen worker and that shouting shit may be catched back by Karma...

 

 

Whatever is your choice good luck/chokdeeKrap/ bonne chance ?

[geisha]

Thank you all. Subject closed.

[madusa]

Something is wrong with her mentally otherwise she wouldn't behaved like that would she?

I have a sister who would be nice one moment talking amicably then suddenly she find fault with something real or imagine and from there on started shouting and screaming.

Mad women.