geronimo Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 We hear so many sob stories on this forum, so I thought I'd start a thread for the guys who have the perfect relationship. I've been with my Thai wife for 27 years now and cannot remember the last time we even had a cross word. Admittedly, the first few years were tough, but once we got through that, it was downhill all the way. I believe that a good relationship is all about give and take, and if you aren't prepared to invest the time in culturing the relationship, it is likely to suffer at some point, and I'm betting there's lots of guys who have a great relationship with their other half. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 Mines pretty good overall... Ups n downs like any relationship but in general we are best friends ???? We both agree that living close to her mother was a mistake, that we are trying to remedy. We also both agree that if it wasn't for me working off shore, pretty much half the year, then we wouldn't have lasted this long (only 12 yrs but longest I've been with any woman). I don't have any of the cliche issues with family, the MIL is just a typical controlling MIL but no money grabbing from anyone. Respect is mutual between everyone, it's only a small family... Dad died more than 15yrs ago, so it's me with 3 sisters and Mom !!! Perfect ? Far from it... Drama ? Not really... Happy ? Yes thank you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 5 5 minutes ago, cornishcarlos said: Mines pretty good overall... Ups n downs like any relationship but in general we are best friends ???? We both agree that living close to her mother was a mistake, that we are trying to remedy. We also both agree that if it wasn't for me working off shore, pretty much half the year, then we wouldn't have lasted this long (only 12 yrs but longest I've been with any woman). I don't have any of the cliche issues with family, the MIL is just a typical controlling MIL but no money grabbing from anyone. Respect is mutual between everyone, it's only a small family... Dad died more than 15yrs ago, so it's me with 3 sisters and Mom !!! Perfect ? Far from it... Drama ? Not really... Happy ? Yes thank you... Hey mate, get an electric motor fitted to the gate, works wonders, keeps the outlaws out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 7 minutes ago, cornishcarlos said: but in general we are best friends No sex then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 3 hours ago, geronimo said: I've been with my Thai wife for 27 years now and cannot remember the last time we even had a cross word. aaawwww ..... sounds just like the Brady bunch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 3 hours ago, geronimo said: I believe that a good relationship is all about give and take You're right! I give, she takes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 1 minute ago, BritManToo said: No sex then? What, you don't root your bestie !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneMoreFarang Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 3 hours ago, geronimo said: I believe that a good relationship is all about give and take You give, she takes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted June 13, 2019 Share Posted June 13, 2019 10 minutes ago, cornishcarlos said: What, you don't root your bestie !! Not if it's my best friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivor bigun Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 Married 20 years,and together before that,life is great with her,best thing i ever did,my family love her,and i like all her family i am just one of them,and no money never comes into it ,except that time in 2008 when the pound went down and i borrowed 600,000 baht until it went back up,gosh they are having such a long wait lolSent from my SM-A720F using Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 4 hours ago, BritManToo said: 4 hours ago, cornishcarlos said: What, you don't root your bestie !! Not if it's my best friend. My wife is my best friend.????????????❤️???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 4 minutes ago, villagefarang said: My wife is my best friend.????????????❤️???? Lucky you, my wife is my only friend.???????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluesofa Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 1 hour ago, ivor bigun said: Married 20 years,and together before that,life is great with her,best thing i ever did,my family love her,and i like all her family i am just one of them,and no money never comes into it ,except that time in 2008 when the pound went down and i borrowed 600,000 baht until it went back up,gosh they are having such a long wait lol A few years ago my in-laws lent me 20K Baht for a month to pay a tax bill the accountant didn't tell me about, until it was 'due in three days time'. They've also lent me 300K Baht to put in the bank towards my visa in the past. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornishcarlos Posted June 14, 2019 Share Posted June 14, 2019 1 hour ago, colinneil said: Lucky you, my wife is my only friend.???????? I shouldn't have laughed at that but we're all twisted on here, plus we are all your friends, just of a cyber fashion ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 On 6/14/2019 at 2:59 AM, geronimo said: I've been with my Thai wife for 27 years now and cannot remember the last time we even had a cross word. Admittedly, the first few years were tough, but once we got through that, it was downhill all the way My last marriage was to an incredibly sweet Southern Bell. In 14 years of marriage we never had a cross word between us. I gave her the 4 bed, 3 bath house she wanted, the car she wanted, gave her love and affection, wasn't able to give her a child even after spending a fortune on in-vitro, so then sent her back to Uni to finish out here degree. She comes home with her degree and a fiancee. No warning. Been schtuping her BF for about a year. Comes home, "Hi I have a job, a new BF, and I'm moving in with him. Thanks for the Full-Ride Scholarship! Love you! Love him more. He has <this> and <that> and <toys> and <land> and we're going to build my Dream Home!!!" After that, it was downhill all the way. So - perfect marriage? The only constant in this world is change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connda Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 On 6/14/2019 at 6:46 AM, BritManToo said: You're right! I give, she takes. Exactly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted June 15, 2019 Author Share Posted June 15, 2019 4 minutes ago, connda said: My last marriage was to an incredibly sweet Southern Bell. In 14 years of marriage we never had a cross word between us. I gave her the 4 bed, 3 bath house she wanted, the car she wanted, gave her love and affection, wasn't able to give her a child even after spending a fortune on in-vitro, so then sent her back to Uni to finish out here degree. She comes home with her degree and a fiancee. No warning. Been schtuping her BF for about a year. Comes home, "Hi I have a job, a new BF, and I'm moving in with him. Thanks for the Full-Ride Scholarship! Love you! Love him more. He has <this> and <that> and <toys> and <land> and we're going to build my Dream Home!!!" After that, it was downhill all the way. So - perfect marriage? The only constant in this world is change. Sounds painful, in more ways than one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pravda Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 This is why giving money to any woman is a major mistake. Anyhoo, the original post is surely sarcastic, no? IO mean it went "downhill" after the first 3 years? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justin case Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 15 years of shit I endured for the sake of my child, but no more...divorce here we go ... I had a farang/thai couple, they never argued... not difficult, she worked in a restaurant from 4 pm till midnight and he came home at 6 pm from his day job... hard to argue in those cases, right... wife still asleep in bed while he went to work... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted June 15, 2019 Author Share Posted June 15, 2019 38 minutes ago, Pravda said: This is why giving money to any woman is a major mistake. Anyhoo, the original post is surely sarcastic, no? IO mean it went "downhill" after the first 3 years? Bad choice of words I must admit, and no, the post wasn't meant to be sarcastic at all! The first 3 years were difficult and involved teaching her how to think critically, as she had no idea how to analyse anything. All my expat friends tell me I won the jackpot when I met my wife, and I tend to agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phantomfiddler Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 To the OP, your luck does not change the fact that there is a failure/ripoff rate that must approximate 98%. We are the prey ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tifino Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 56 minutes ago, connda said: My last marriage was to an incredibly sweet Southern Bell. In 14 years of marriage we never had a cross word between us. I gave her the 4 bed, 3 bath house she wanted, the car she wanted, gave her love and affection, wasn't able to give her a child even after spending a fortune on in-vitro, so then sent her back to Uni to finish out here degree. She comes home with her degree and a fiancee. No warning. Been schtuping her BF for about a year. Comes home, "Hi I have a job, a new BF, and I'm moving in with him. Thanks for the Full-Ride Scholarship! Love you! Love him more. He has <this> and <that> and <toys> and <land> and we're going to build my Dream Home!!!" After that, it was downhill all the way. So - perfect marriage? The only constant in this world is change. and probably a (secret) perfect pregnacy to boot! to another (falang? edvisa) student? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted June 15, 2019 Author Share Posted June 15, 2019 3 minutes ago, phantomfiddler said: To the OP, your luck does not change the fact that there is a failure/ripoff rate that must approximate 98%. We are the prey ???? I agree with you Sir. If I had a dollar for every bad marriage story I've heard, I could retire a very wealthy man. However, the OP was intended to encourage other "lucky" people like me to comment on their perfect relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 I understand it is bad form to break ranks but I place most of the blame on how clueless most guys are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCC1701A Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 I got a idea. Go to Thailand where everyday you meet beautiful women who are giving you the eye 24/7. and then get married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted June 15, 2019 Author Share Posted June 15, 2019 1 minute ago, villagefarang said: I understand it is bad form to break ranks but I place most of the blame on how clueless most guys are. Agree with that, many are not prepared to embrace the culture here, and because of that, they feel like an outsider (which they are). There are always going to be issues with cross cultural relationships, and if you're not prepared to make the effort, you will have problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted June 15, 2019 Author Share Posted June 15, 2019 Just now, NCC1701A said: I got a idea. Go to Thailand where everyday you meet beautiful women who are giving you the eye 24/7. and then get married. Been there, done that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkeycu Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 9 minutes ago, NCC1701A said: I got a idea. Go to Thailand where everyday you meet beautiful women who are giving you the eye 24/7. and then get married. Some of us cant handle all that attention that's why we marry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkeycu Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 I personally never hear an unkind word from my wife I just turn off my hearing aid and smile Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted June 15, 2019 Share Posted June 15, 2019 Yes, after 20 years of dealing with all that attention I finally decided to get married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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