beer-bellied, hygienically challenged letches....

Have you been spying on me NR...??

Edited March 20, 200719 yr by Austhaied

Unshaved...yuk. I hate that

should we ask ..........? No

I hear alot, but also I see alot - and I know enough to take what I hear with a pinch of salt until proven. Usually my eyes have given a fairly good indication of truth and reality.

But as you have quite rightly pointed out generalisations are dangerous, but do allow one to express facts - provided the recipient is aware of this and can take such information pragmatically. Of course it is up to the indivudual to discover their truth. But this can come with risks and it is where websites like TV are useful to bring people up-to-speed and to discuss relevant topics, as a ,single opinion can hardly be called authoritative, can it ?

Would be interesting to hear how your relationship with a Thai is different from that of a farang ? What attracted you initially and what keeps things going now ? What were the hardest aspects about forming the relationship ? What aspects do you have in this relationship that were not present or are better than in a relationship with a farang ?

Look forward to hear from you...

Khun Bob,

You really shouldn't believe everything you hear. I read on a post recently (can't remember where) that of course a Thai girl will call Thai men down to a farang BF, she's hardly going to say how wonderful they are, is she?

Having said that, this proves the dangers of generalisation: Not all farang women are frigid, nagging cows, not all Thai men are lazy good for nothings, not all Thai women are sweet, demure princesses (or conversely scheming, money grabbing ex BGs) & not all Farang men are beer-bellied, hygienically challenged letches.... As individuals, each & every one of us has our own good & bad points, don't we?

Not sure I'm the best person to ask. Many, many other ladies on the forum have relationships/marriages with Thai men (sbk, Boo, meme, bina, the list goes on & on....). Also, my relationship is finished (he died a year ago) although I do take care of his son.

What attracted me initially? His music. He was a rock musician & played in a band that I used to go & see every time I was out (at that time about 2 or 3 times a week). The hardest part of the relationship initially was the language barrier, neither of us spoke each others' languages. We used to sit on the beach & point to things & say the words in our own language ("nok a jok" "sparrow"). There were a lot of cultural differences, but he never expected me to be like a Thai. He accepted me for who I am.

I don't think this is typical of Thais, from what I've heard, but he was very touchy & affectionate, even in public. I don't mean sexually, I mean holding hands, sniff-kissing, that sort of thing.

We did have a lot of problems, but mostly those were due to alcoholism (his) which got worse after we'd been together for about a year. When he wasn't blotto (& he did stay sober for months on end, sometimes. He really did try) he was the kindest, most considerate, sweetest guy I've ever known. I don't think many of our problems were related to the Thai/farang thing.

I'm not sure how to answer about how the relationship was better than with a farang. All of my other relationships were with farangs, but based on this one relationship, I don't know whether things I liked were Thai or whether they were just him. If and when I do have another relationship, I haven't got a preconceived notion of who (or what race) they would/should be. That doesn't matter; who they are inside does. Sorry, if that sounds muddled. Maybe one of the other ladies can give you a better answer.

Edit - apologies leisurely & all others, I've just realised this is dreadfully "off topic!"

Edited March 21, 200719 yr by November Rain

November rain - thanks for your reply - one of the great things abount the interbet is that people can be open with anonimity.

I would love to unnderstand the farang girl thai man relationship better and that is why i ask.

It is off topic but this is an open forum so hopefully we acn go with the flow...

Atually I think there are some very sensitive thai men and farang girls will find this very appealing if they come across them. But from what i know i wonder for how long this will be. Some of the actions I have seen and heard about how thai men have trated thai girls makes want to be sick. But I am glad that there are organisations who will take in and take care of thai girls who have no one to turn to.

I know the stories I have heard are true and I know what I have seen. I dont know how i can helpas i dont want to get in a situaion that will put me at risk as well.

On the other hand I've heard Thai women saying farang men are good because they don't cheat, beat up their wives, get drunk, abandon their families etc, but we all know this stuff happens in our home countries, and I'm pretty sure it's not just the Thai expat community doing it all!

Good and bad everywhere, I figure.

sensitive thai men and farang girls will find this very appealing

why do they have to be sensitive? Are only sensitive farang men good husbands & partners? I don't think so.

Beleive it or not bob but there are approx 30million thai men, not all can fit the stereotype & not all the stories told by thai women are true.

Some thai men are normal hard working blokes who don't cheat, drink too much, beat on their wives etc etc etc (insert whatever stereotype you want)

Just as not all farang men do these things either or alternately, are not better husbands or fathers. They too abandon their women & kids, beat them up, gamble & drink too much & are lazy layabouts. Some in turn are wonderful men, fathers, hsubands & friends. Just like thai men.

Way way to many thai men to even base a balanced opinion either way IMO but if you are trying to find some sort of reason as to why a farang woman would prefer a thai man is quite insulting in a way & also pointless.

We may just prefer our thai partners becuase we happen to have met someone who suits our idea of the perfect partner & aren't hung up on the fact they are thai rather than they are good men who happen to be thai & deal with all the cultural & social issues that raise their head occasionally when in a mixed race relationship, like me.

Could be they no longer like farang men & find thai men much better partners (yes it does work both ways) as their experiences with farang men have been negative like some thai womens expereinces of thai men have been negative. Who knows?

Some of the actions I have seen and heard about how thai men have trated thai girls makes want to be sick. But I am glad that there are organisations who will take in and take care of thai girls who have no one to turn to.

It has just been announced by the British government that they are putting more money into the protection of women & children from domestic abuse. In a developed country like the UK one would hope it would have been outlawed & irradicated but a new report 2 nights ago on the news showed the story of a poor women who was murdered in front of her 5 y/o son by her husband.

Hardly a thai only issue I think.

Hi I'm new here, hello girls! I think you have a funny forum I've been reading it since I moved here last year. I go to an international school in Bangkok now that my Dad has been transferred here. Enough about me, onto the boys!

Last week by my school I saw the hottest Thai guy at the gas station of all places! He was a total hottie and we walked right past eachother, I wanted to scream! My thai friend said he was an actor, and that she always sees him in commercials. I hope I can find that guy again... I've been going to the gas station for no reason for a week now...

Anyway, I agree that some Thai guys can be VERY desirable, especially the skin and eyes...

Of course he would be hot, Thailand is a very warm country. I would advise you not to scream if you see him again though.

Honestly, when I began this, it was a comment on extremely attractive people, not about hotties! I am clearly too old to appreciate this sort of man.

Unshaved...yuk. I hate that

should we ask ..........? No

Ask what?

BTW, while posting in this section, you're running for the ladies or for the men?

Edited March 28, 200719 yr by alexth

Not sure I'm the best person to ask. Many, many other ladies on the forum have relationships/marriages with Thai men (sbk, Boo, meme, bina, the list goes on & on....). Also, my relationship is finished (he died a year ago) although I do take care of his son.

What attracted me initially? His music. He was a rock musician & played in a band that I used to go & see every time I was out (at that time about 2 or 3 times a week). The hardest part of the relationship initially was the language barrier, neither of us spoke each others' languages. We used to sit on the beach & point to things & say the words in our own language ("nok a jok" "sparrow"). There were a lot of cultural differences, but he never expected me to be like a Thai. He accepted me for who I am.

I don't think this is typical of Thais, from what I've heard, but he was very touchy & affectionate, even in public. I don't mean sexually, I mean holding hands, sniff-kissing, that sort of thing.

We did have a lot of problems, but mostly those were due to alcoholism (his) which got worse after we'd been together for about a year. When he wasn't blotto (& he did stay sober for months on end, sometimes. He really did try) he was the kindest, most considerate, sweetest guy I've ever known. I don't think many of our problems were related to the Thai/farang thing.

I'm not sure how to answer about how the relationship was better than with a farang. All of my other relationships were with farangs, but based on this one relationship, I don't know whether things I liked were Thai or whether they were just him. If and when I do have another relationship, I haven't got a preconceived notion of who (or what race) they would/should be. That doesn't matter; who they are inside does. Sorry, if that sounds muddled. Maybe one of the other ladies can give you a better answer.

Edit - apologies leisurely & all others, I've just realised this is dreadfully "off topic!"

Thanks for the honest answer.

You do not state if and how you were attracted to him physically. Was he that ugly?

So, if you could not discuss things, are you suggesting that for you (many women, in general), exchanging views about things is not important?

Finally, do you think that this was love or infatuation?

Not sure I'm the best person to ask. Many, many other ladies on the forum have relationships/marriages with Thai men (sbk, Boo, meme, bina, the list goes on & on....). Also, my relationship is finished (he died a year ago) although I do take care of his son.

What attracted me initially? His music. He was a rock musician & played in a band that I used to go & see every time I was out (at that time about 2 or 3 times a week). The hardest part of the relationship initially was the language barrier, neither of us spoke each others' languages. We used to sit on the beach & point to things & say the words in our own language ("nok a jok" "sparrow"). There were a lot of cultural differences, but he never expected me to be like a Thai. He accepted me for who I am.

I don't think this is typical of Thais, from what I've heard, but he was very touchy & affectionate, even in public. I don't mean sexually, I mean holding hands, sniff-kissing, that sort of thing.

We did have a lot of problems, but mostly those were due to alcoholism (his) which got worse after we'd been together for about a year. When he wasn't blotto (& he did stay sober for months on end, sometimes. He really did try) he was the kindest, most considerate, sweetest guy I've ever known. I don't think many of our problems were related to the Thai/farang thing.

I'm not sure how to answer about how the relationship was better than with a farang. All of my other relationships were with farangs, but based on this one relationship, I don't know whether things I liked were Thai or whether they were just him. If and when I do have another relationship, I haven't got a preconceived notion of who (or what race) they would/should be. That doesn't matter; who they are inside does. Sorry, if that sounds muddled. Maybe one of the other ladies can give you a better answer.

Edit - apologies leisurely & all others, I've just realised this is dreadfully "off topic!"

Thanks for the honest answer.

You do not state if and how you were attracted to him physically. Was he that ugly?

So, if you could not discuss things, are you suggesting that for you (many women, in general), exchanging views about things is not important?

Finally, do you think that this was love or infatuation?

Oh, OK, errm...

Yes, I was attracted to him physically. He was different to my "type" though. He was only about 5'5" or 5'6" & I'm 5'8" & like to wear high heels if I go out, long hair, very Thai (dark skin, prominent cheekbones), very skinny. Funnily enough, I now find guys like that more attractive than my previous "type" I don't think I would class him as a "beautiful man", but that never was my cup of tea.

We could & did discuss things later in the relationship, just not in the beginning. Initially, I didn't want a relationship, it was just supposed to be a one-night stand. He had other ideas though. That's why, initially it didn't matter to me that we couldn't really talk to each other, I didn't want too much out of it. Exchanging views is very important & our relationship wouldn't have lasted if we hadn't come to understand each other fairly quickly, as we did. His English improved far more than my Thai did, but we used to converse about 80% English, 20% Thai.

Infatuation (or lust) initially, but it progressed into love. We had a lot of ups & downs & there is no way I would have stuck around & kept trying if I hadn't loved him. And I know he loved me, second only to his son.