Bar Girl All Opinions Welcomed

[Loonie]

So a story similar in some ways, but different in others. Any feedback is appeciated. Here goes:

A few months back I do what many farangs do, hit Bangkok, Cowboy, Nana etc. Never really done anything like it before. So I am a bit <deleted>, barfine a girl, take her to the hotel etc, so far the familiar story. See her again the second night, just for drinks, third night barfine her again, buy her dinner and her groceries. Take her to the hotel. When she leaves, she refuses money. Anyway this continues for a while, its the same every time, we even meet up away from the bar and no barfine. No money changes hands at all. I head up Issan for work, she doesn't stop talking to me all day, everyday. Head home and she's still at it months later talking all day everyday. I told her I'm heading back early in the new year and she's excited. Now, I wasn't born yesterday and I've done a bit of testing, she's told me about her family and their issues, I've offered to help her out many times and I'm always flatly refused. She says everyone thinks Thai girls want money. I'm not like that. I've had the sob stories etc. But she will never take up any offer of assistance. I've read countless forums and even the book Private Dancer to try and gain any insight into this being some sort of seriously long long game etc. Like I said I'm not flying blind. She's on the more mature side and our age gap isn't very big, both in our 30s. I'm just going to see what happens as I wiped settling down off the table a few years back. But, and yes there's always a but, if she's a goer I won't say no, that'd be stupid. I'm completely prepared for this to turn pear shaped at any minute and will happily walk away. So what are your thoughts

Edited December 17, 2019 by Loonie

[moonseeker]

Best of luck. There are lucky exceptions. Albeit few of them. 

Merry Christmas. MS>

[Orton Rd]

Yet another highly suspicious 'first' post

[mike787]

Maybe you found a unicorn! Good luck to you...you can't win if you don't play the game....one way of seeing it...wish you both many happy beginnings & endings - LOL

Edited December 17, 2019 by mike787

[sunnyboy2018]

Private Dancer is one of many books written about Thailand. Its is one of the worst, unoriginal and cliched. Christopher Moore is Better, Colin Piprell and a host of other authors are better.

[riclag]

Have fun !Have fun! If you enjoy being with her,what's the harm.

Rule to go by ! Spend as much as you can afford to loose

 

 

[neeray]

SSDD. Altered writing style, probably same author as recent, previous posts.

[Nyezhov]

56 minutes ago, Loonie said:

So what are your thoughts

Two things are certain:

 

1. You have made your mind up what to do, and when folks tell ya what reality is, you are going to argue with them. So with that:

 

2. You are being set up for a ride and she knows how to drive better than you. Change your Line ID, and phone number. *poof* you are gone.

Edited December 17, 2019 by Nyezhov

[Curt1591]

Women of substance don't hang out in bars, let alone work in one. 

[Loonie]

20 minutes ago, neeray said:

SSDD. Altered writing style, probably same author as recent, previous posts.

Nah mate, sorry. I you want me too I can use full blown aussie slang. I am fair dinkum. But what do you mean by suspicious? What use is there trolling these forums? Haven't blokes got better things to do with their time? I'm just a genuine bloke after some genuine advice. I've got two mates with Thai wives, 1 being an ex bargirl. They both say go for, but I'd like opinions from a diferent perspective. Cheers mate.

 

 

[Loonie]

14 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Two things are certain:

 

1. You have made your mind up what to do, and when folks tell ya what reality is, you are going to argue with them. So with that:

 

2. You are being set up for a ride and she knows how to drive better than you. Change your Line ID, and phone number. *poof* you are gone.

I'm under no illusions, if it's just a good time then so be it. Happy to walk away. Just don't understand the money thing that's all.

[Loonie]

40 minutes ago, riclag said:

Have fun !Have fun! If you enjoy being with her,what's the harm.

Rule to go by ! Spend as much as you can afford to loose

 

 

That's my thoughts. Just haven't spent a cent since the first night. Go figure?

[Loonie]

43 minutes ago, sunnyboy2018 said:

Private Dancer is one of many books written about Thailand. Its is one of the worst, unoriginal and cliched. Christopher Moore is Better, Colin Piprell and a host of other authors are better.

Cheers for that. I'll  get them

[Orton Rd]

6 minutes ago, Loonie said:

 Haven't blokes got better things to do with their time?

 

 

Obviously not

[Loonie]

Just now, Orton Rd said:

Obviously not

I figured you can't swear, so I'll just call them idiots

[neeray]

6 minutes ago, Loonie said:

Nah mate, sorry. I you want me too I can use full blown aussie slang. I am fair dinkum. But what do you mean by suspicious? What use is there trolling these forums? Haven't blokes got better things to do with their time? I'm just a genuine bloke after some genuine advice. I've got two mates with Thai wives, 1 being an ex bargirl. They both say go for, but I'd like opinions from a diferent perspective. Cheers mate.

 

 

Previous posts by others precedes you. Sorry if I'm wrong. Thanks for skipping the Aussie slang 'cuz I wouldn't understand it anyway, ehh.

Best of luck to you and enjoy the experience, short or long.

One thing for sure, you'll get lots of opinions on here.

[Loonie]

Just now, neeray said:

Previous posts by others precedes you. Sorry if I'm wrong. Thanks for skipping the Aussie slang 'cuz I wouldn't understand it anyway, ehh.

Best of luck to you and enjoy the experience, short or long.

One thing for sure, you'll get lots of opinions on here.

That's kiwi????

[Rookiescot]

Dont think anyone can advise you.

She may be a wonderful caring person or a money grabbing leech playing the long game.

 

Whatever you choose to do I wish you luck. 

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, Loonie said:

She says everyone thinks Thai girls want money. I'm not like that

pretty much everyone, everywhere wants more money.. Warren Buffett is still working. 

[scubascuba3]

Just enjoy it while it lasts.

 

Tricky getting into a relationship with a sex worker as for her to stop work you'll probably have to pay here a wage, alternatively accept she will be having sex with many men for years

[Nyezhov]

11 minutes ago, Loonie said:

I figured you can't swear, so I'll just call them idiots

Please refer to my Number 1 above.

 

I am right again. Winner.

[Loonie]

5 minutes ago, kenk24 said:

pretty much everyone, everywhere wants more money.. Warren Buffett is still working. 

To be a bit clearer, she'll only say she doesn't want my money

[Loonie]

7 minutes ago, Rookiescot said:

Dont think anyone can advise you.

She may be a wonderful caring person or a money grabbing leech playing the long game.

 

Whatever you choose to do I wish you luck. 

Just how long can this long game thing go?

[CharlieH]

Seems to me you already know exactly what you have and what you are gonna do.

Enjoy the present, your too young to do anything else, don't over think it and just roll with it.

Life's too short to look too far down the track at your age, enjoy yourself.

[Rookiescot]

2 minutes ago, Loonie said:

Just how long can this long game thing go?

Probably until the balance of power changes. Either you have a kid together or you put a ring on her finger.

[zyphodb]

Go for it, eyes wide open, but if you want her to give up working in bars you'll have to supplement her income...

[DannyCarlton]

28 minutes ago, Loonie said:

Nah mate, sorry. I you want me too I can use full blown aussie slang. I am fair dinkum. But what do you mean by suspicious? What use is there trolling these forums? Haven't blokes got better things to do with their time? I'm just a genuine bloke after some genuine advice. I've got two mates with Thai wives, 1 being an ex bargirl. They both say go for, but I'd like opinions from a diferent perspective. Cheers mate.

 

 

If your mates have that experience, and they are genuine mates, follow their advice. I would seek the advice of your mate's Thai wife. A Thai lady can sniff a wrong 'un from a mile off.

[Loonie]

2 minutes ago, Loonie said:

Just how long can this long game thing go?

She's had a few good money grab excuses in the last few months. Like really good ones. I've offered a few times to help, but I still get rejected. It'll be interesting to see anyway. If she can wait months and months she definitely got more patience than me.

 

 

 

[ICELANDMAN]

I see that you like to live dangerously with relationship.

[worgeordie]

Love at first....err ,sight, 

regards Worgeordie