Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I've been doing just that—writing a love letter to someone very special and I'm about finished (have spent a lot of time on it thus far), but would really be interested in hearing from all of you.

Thanks…

I love you the same way monkey loves banana.

i suppose if it was a love letter just about anything would go, but i would hope for something sincere rather than trite or cheesy. if someone were to profess their love to me, i would want to know what, exactly, it is they love about me. the more personal the better.

Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I've been doing just that—writing a love letter to someone very special and I'm about finished (have spent a lot of time on it thus far), but would really be interested in hearing from all of you.

Thanks…

What a dopey question. If you've written the letter, then publish it so we can comment on it. If you don't want to publish it, then we can't comment.

Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I've been doing just that—writing a love letter to someone very special and I'm about finished (have spent a lot of time on it thus far), but would really be interested in hearing from all of you.

Thanks…

What a dopey question. If you've written the letter, then publish it so we can comment on it. If you don't want to publish it, then we can't comment.

My question was not pertaining to commenting on my letter, but to hear from women about what kinds of love letters they like to receive. One, clearly read a post before answering and two, you're not a woman. I just want to hear from women because I am interested in their thoughts about this issue.

Edited June 18, 200719 yr by antsinmypantsouch

I think that as long as it is written from the heart and with sincerity that is the way to go.

Poems are nice

Examples are

In the days of old when knights were bold(No that won`t work)

There was an young lady from Nantucket(No never mind)

Poems are nice...

Since the OP was asking for women's opinions and this is the Ladies forum, posts offensive to women have been deleted. Further such posts will be deleted and the poster warned.

Love letters are nice, I've gotten a few in my time. I agree with girlx, overly soppy or sentimental is not the way to go, but honest, and open.

Something filled with little personal memories & things shared. Things that you find adorable about her that she might not even realise (like a certain facial expression, or the way she walks or something). Basically, it has to be very personal; about you & her, not something generic you could have sent to any past girlfriend.

I'm getting a sense of strong political correctness here. It's a pity really. Perhaps this is due to the fact we don't have a 'Men's Forum' on this site. We have sections that are open to everyone, then this section designated as 'Ladies in Thailand'. I can't quite get my mind around this. Please help me out. Is this the ladies' equivalent of the 'Men Only Club'?, something I hasten to add that I do not approve of.

Australian Aboriginals have the terms, 'Mens' Business' and 'Womens' Business', activities which are clothed in great secrecy. Neither sex is supposed to know about the goings-on of the other, with regard to these secret matters.

Is the 'Ladies in Thailand' section aiming in this direction? I would have thought you would welcome some male input on your issues.

I mean, if some lady in the Pattaya Forum were to make the comment, "You guys are only concerned with your dick", I wouldn't expect the male moderators to delete the post on the grounds the comment was disrespectful to the male species.

Have we got some double standards going on here?

Something filled with little personal memories & things shared. Things that you find adorable about her that she might not even realise (like a certain facial expression, or the way she walks or something). Basically, it has to be very personal; about you & her, not something generic you could have sent to any past girlfriend.

Sounds like excellent advice to me, but I suspect the original poster is searching for generic formulas that he can use to manipulate his girlfriend into liking him. We males often have the attitude we should 'humour' the opposite sex. Sometimes (not a categorical statement sbk) we think they are really being rather silly but we can't tell them so because all hel_l will break loose. We pretend to take them seriously and try to tell them what we think they really want to hear. Sometimes we get it wrong and sometimes we get it right.

Don't forget, action speaks louder than words. Hopefully, your letter is just a back-up or a side-dish.

Don't forget, action speaks louder than words. Hopefully, your letter is just a back-up or a side-dish.

That's putting a heavy burden on the 'ordinary' male, PlainJane. Not even prime Ministers can put their words into practice .

Barry, if you have issues bring it up in forum support but hijacking threads with your issues here is not acceptable.

Barry, please go read the pinned topic at the top of the Ladies Forum.

Then either post here in accordance with those guidelines, or go away.

Up to you.

Ok getting back to the topic question:

One guy used to totally melt me with knowing just the right things to write to me(and im not easily melted ).

For me its the fact that it he didnt do it often, so that made it special (too much = overkill) and he had this great way of combining the personal (as others have suggested) with, some mushy stuff (which im not a fan of if on its on..too much and you come across as a bit of a drip = loss of respect for you :S), a few intimate and sexy comments and not forgetting his wicked sense of humour. All in all would make my heart beat at different rates, would make me feel that he really loved me as well as turn me on!

He should have written a "How to" for other guys on the subject!

..But thats a personal opinion. I think the combination may differ for each girl, and of course may be different culturally. If you know her VERY well, then you can slip in a few intimate comments (dont go all playboy!, im talking about things like ...saying how much you love the scent of her hair, nape of her neck, or arch of her back for example and things like you love her laugh or the way she can always make you smile. If you know her VERY VERY well..then can maybe get a little raunchy) Thing is to remember that women just want to feel they are cherished and desired, and that you take note of things they do/wear etc as it makes them feel special. These things help her to feel you respect her and she is not just some throw-away conquest. Keep it personal, be a gentleman, and im sure she will love you for the effort. GL!

Barry, please go read the pinned topic at the top of the Ladies Forum.

Then either post here in accordance with those guidelines, or go away.

Up to you.

Okay! Jai Dee, I've read the pinned topic, and I have a confession to make. I have abused someone in this forum; another male. I described the OP's question that sarted this thread, as dopey. The reason I did this is because it's my honest reaction. The guy admits he's spent a lot of time writing a letter, then without giving us any information as to who he is writing to (other than she's a female), expects advice on how to frame his letter.

If that's not dopey, then I don't know what is.

Are you people afraid of getting just a little bit out of your comfort zone? Can you not accept an honest opinion? Do you really want to be so antiseptic and boring|?

I fail to see how that actually benifits the OPs question Barryz

I fail to see how that actually benifits the OPs question Barryz

It could benefit him enormously. If the guy had not taken offense, he could perhaps have given us some background information on the person he's struggled to write to, their peculiarities, concerns, fears, doubts, personality etc. Then perhaps both male and female contributors could have given useful and meaningful advice.

This is the original post:

Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I've been doing just that—writing a love letter to someone very special and I'm about finished (have spent a lot of time on it thus far), but would really be interested in hearing from all of you.

Thanks…

Don't see anywhere in there where he asks for a man's opinion. Nor do I see anywhere that he actually asks for advice on what to put in his letter. I do see him asking what women like, however. And so far, only a few women have been able to answer this post put to women in the Ladies forum. Ask yourself why and then refrain from posting if you can guess the answer.

I do see him asking what women like, however. And so far, only a few women have been able to answer this post put to women in the Ladies forum. Ask yourself why and then refrain from posting if you can guess the answer.

SBK,

Can you please elaborate on this 'female' (dare I say) type of reasoning. If you know the answer, don't mention it. If you don't know the answer, speculate as much as you want. Is this the correct interpretation?

The question of what women like is as old as mankind. The problem as I see it (and let me assure you I have no intention of hijacking the thread) is that women very often do not know what they want, just as men often don't. Sometimes we don't know what we want till we get it, and sometimes what we think we want, we later discover is not what we want, when we get it.

Such is life.

Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I LOVE Love letter especially, a LONG letter which is writen down on 100$ bills

Ladies,

What would make you feel great about getting a love letter, in particular the words used by men to make you feel special?

I LOVE Love letter especially, a LONG letter which is writen down on 100$ bills

Bambina,

I am so disapointed. I thought you would settle for these words on plain paper.

Shall I compare thee to a Summer's day?

Thou art more lovely and more temperate:

Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,

And Summer's lease hath all too short a date:

Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,

And oft' is his gold complexion dimm'd;

And every fair from fair sometime declines,

By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd:

But thy eternal Summer shall not fade

Nor lose possession of that fair thou owest;

Nor shall Death brag thou wanderest in his shade,

When in eternal lines to time thou growest:

So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,

So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.

............Now isn't that better than $100 bills?

Edited June 19, 200719 yr by Barryz

Barry, please go read the pinned topic at the top of the Ladies Forum.

Then either post here in accordance with those guidelines, or go away.

Up to you.

Okay! Jai Dee, I've read the pinned topic, and I have a confession to make. I have abused someone in this forum; another male. I described the OP's question that sarted this thread, as dopey. The reason I did this is because it's my honest reaction. The guy admits he's spent a lot of time writing a letter, then without giving us any information as to who he is writing to (other than she's a female), expects advice on how to frame his letter.

If that's not dopey, then I don't know what is.

Are you people afraid of getting just a little bit out of your comfort zone? Can you not accept an honest opinion? Do you really want to be so antiseptic and boring|?

Barry,

The OP has asked for input/suggestions from women... not men.

So unless you are female, please discontinue your input to this thread.

Your troll-like behaviour will not be tolerated any more.

Final Warning.

Personally, I prefer love letters that are funny, a little naughty, a bit outrageous, but at the same time full of warmth and sincerity. Most women can tell.. Call it ESP, but we can actually sense if someone's sincere or merely playing a joke.

Until this time I never really quite understood how love letters were cherished and thought of by women and I'm sure many guys fall into this category. As I got into writing one to the girl I'm truly crazy about and after reading other's posts, I realize it's a fantastic way to express feelings especially why I think she's so great. Quite simple, I suppose, but just another amazing way to say what's on my mind. Actually may be not that simple—it does take time to write one… I guess the thought of writing one is good too…I've never done this or even considered doing for anyone else and that definitely tells me something.

And of course, the letter is just "an addition" to what else I have for her…

I am with Bambina on this one, nothing can say I love you more.. than $100 bills. Stapled, taped, folded, in fact you wont have to say hardly anything with that!

But love letters.. I loved it when what I did, that made them attracted to me was written down. That's what made ME feel great.

None of that shakespearn whatever that is soooooooooooooooo fake..

I love thee like a warm summer day.. and love to watch you running merrily through the snow!

It is hot in thailand, and who likes frostbite?

Keep it real, in modern english, write the way you speak.

Another approach is think about her, and then write what you see / your thoughts when you think about her. That is beautiful, so she knows those words which you never say to her, but think nonetheless.

I know Barry is in time out.. but..

DUDE! ..

What year are you living in?? Hello.. 2007, and Thailand! English has evolved...(if you wrote that yourself) and if not, you can't write a love letter by plagerizing??

So you want to compare Bambina to a Summers day, in Thailand?? With our without the need for the UV unmbrella?

Why do guys like to compare women to seasons anyway??

erm..LaReina, I think thats a tad harsh tbh. What Barryz posted is a famous Shakespeare sonnet, its actually rather beautiful, and in fact i think it was posted as a tongue in cheek gesture (could be wrong?).

I also believe Shakespeares words are just as relevant today, but regardless...

I do agree that i think most women (myself included) prefer heartfelt letters that are composed by the writer and not Odes, Sonnets or Quotes etc unless it is relevant and has some significance. Its also agree that its better to write "as you speak", rather than compose a poem (which are often badly written.), unless you are a truly talented poet.

"Why do guys like to compare women to seasons anyway??" Changable lol! Well many reasons, if you think about it. In any case its charming that a summers breeze or scent of jasmine for example may remind someone of the women they love or that they look apon something beautiful and think their love is more lovely. Wheres the romantic in you gal?!