Do you have any goals in life?

[BritManToo]

5 hours ago, bob smith said:

i guess the point of this thread is what, if any, goals do you guys have in life?

what makes you want to get out of bed in the morning?

Age 67 now, nothing left I want.

Except another drink, another joint, another pizza and another turn with a hooker 1/2 my age.

 

Enjoy the rest of your non-drinking life, it may not be long, but it'll sure seem like it!

[BritManToo]

5 hours ago, proton said:

If there is one thing more boring than a drunk it's somebody who gave up drinking, they never stop going on about it and telling you how long it is since they gave it up.

Did you forget vegans?

[2baht]

3 hours ago, Kwasaki said:

To live as long and as healthy as I can. 

I've got cancer, COPD and emphysema, my goal is to make it to next Christmas. ????

[Saphan]

6 hours ago, bob smith said:

well thats one way of looking at it.

 

thanks for your 2 cents you miserable git!

Giving up for 12 months is a goal. 1 week is nothing.

[bob smith]

36 minutes ago, Saphan said:

Giving up for 12 months is a goal. 1 week is nothing.

its a start!

[LaosLover]

Love your posts, Bob. Good luck. Check out Curious Sober as an approach (less absolutist, not 12 steps, more about self-reflection).

 

What gets me up in the morning is my wife. She was sick forever and is slowly getting better here in Thailand. These are my happiest days. I'm good alone, but she's my joy.

 

My goal is to do 50 weightlifting personal training sessions at the rate of 2 a week. I'm 70. I've tried to get fit on my own, but a pre-paid time and date with someone who has worked with oldies before has made a world of diff. After 3 sessions, I'm still a blob, but my posture is noticeably better.

 

How do I know I'll make it? I paid for all 50 sessions in advance (worked out to 750 baht per hour session versus 1,200 doing them Ala carte). The credit card slip said NO REFUND. I said, "too right".

 

In my own twisted psyche, a financial penalty for not doing a thing works better than a reward system for doing it.

 

I only have 6 months to do the 50 sessions. The gym is betting that I won't, like so many optimists before me; but I'm just too cheap to let those 750 baht-whacks go down the drain. 

 

Figure out how you're wired and lean into it. Forget the should's, work with your natural inclinations, not against them.

 

 

Edited February 1, 2023 by LaosLover

[zzaa09]

10 hours ago, proton said:

If there is one thing more boring than a drunk it's somebody who gave up drinking, they never stop going on about it and telling you how long it is since they gave it up.

Indded.

Actually, there's nothing more pious, condescending and arrogant than a reformed type. 

[LaosLover]

Just now, zzaa09 said:

Indded.

Actually, there's nothing more pious, condescending and arrogant than a reformed type. 

Can't you just duck into a bar if you meet one?

 

 

[save the frogs]

most people lead fairly dull lives (myself included).

hence the need for alcohol.

its good to have goals!

 

[Isaan sailor]

Remain in Thailand, to help support my Thai wife.  But with a rising Baht, I worry that I’ll have to go back home and work again.

[still kicking]

5 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Did you forget vegans?

Don't start me with that 

[OneMoreFarang]

A long time ago I read a preamble in a book written by a Brazilian guy. It was similar to:

 

You can't have sex with all the women in this world, but at least you should try.

 

I think that is a good goal, especially in Thailand. ???? 

[phetphet]

10 hours ago, Denim said:

Fact is , it's very easy to give up drinking. I know, I've done hundreds of times already.

 

As for a goal I would like to achieve ....for me , to do the Cape Wrath Trail would be a huge dream fulfilled.

 

Wanted to go there since I was a teenager but spent my life abroad. Going for a home visit in April and am tempted to give it a go but at 65 would probably be too much. That plus to buy all the hiking gear from scratch plus getting to the start point at Fort William then back again to the Isle of Wight could easily cost 600 pounds or more. Might have a few bottles of wine and a walk along the beach instead.

 

 

Almost the next best thing:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-MkLBdKS9KQRhoaVkk3ceqLdYhPuifNb

[1FinickyOne]

12 hours ago, bob smith said:

what makes you want to get out of bed in the morning?

Best of luck on your sobriety journey. I've been around a long time and I am pretty sure I never met a drunk who had a good life..

 

Having passed 70, this becomes an interesting subject... I do have my own simple pursuits but it all takes a backseat to helping my family with the challenges they face. Personally, I know the road points downhill and things that were effortless in the past, take a bit more doing. Travel is a bore, as I vividly remember days when beaches were not overcrowded, as everything else... I do struggle with this question too... some inward journeys are holding some interest... 

[1FinickyOne]

11 hours ago, Henryford said:

Instead of giving up booze why not just drink sensibly.

Alcohol is an addiction, an illness. One drink leads to the next... and the next.. There is no moderation or sensibly - 

[1FinickyOne]

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Did you forget vegans?

Oh, how I try... 

[KhunLA]

7 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Getting and MG EV was not one of your life goals ???? ????

Nah, it's just a machine to get from A to B.  Materialism isn't a goal, staying happy is.  Better toys help, but not needed.

[spidermike007]

Good on you. Congrats. Few things done every day continue to be satisfying. Change is good. I enjoy very good wine and when back in the US, indulge my passion for it with friends and family. Same applies to stand up comedy, live jazz, theatre, ballet, really good art museums, independent and foreign film, and more. 

 

Any passion or hobby that does not cause harm to you or others is a great thing to pursue. Anything. Reading, walking, running, hiking, climbing, writing, movies, poetry, racing, sports, etc. The list goes on and on. Just find some things you really enjoy. 

Edited February 1, 2023 by spidermike007

[KhunLA]

The little things keep me busy & happy around the house, if not O&A.

 

... Another day, another loaf of bread

... Made nice ham & shroom soup

... Winds died down, so flew the drone

... Set camera up in bathroom to vid bird nest

... Usual, dog taking me for walk at the park, and cruise surfside, make sure it's still there.

... of course the wife is here to enjoy her company

... plan the next outing, coffer shop / viewpoint

[Dan O]

What will the bar girls do without you Bob?

[sipi]

My son plays a mean bass guitar, so I had this brain wave that I would learn the 6 string, and we could have some fun times bashing out ACDC.

No-one told me the strings are quarter inch apart, and you need to be dextrous, flexible, coordinated, and not deaf or blind.

Anyway, that didn't work out.

[jerrymahoney]

12 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Age 67 now, nothing left I want.

Except another drink, another joint, another pizza and another turn with a hooker 1/2 my age.

Well OK but, for me, it's another turn with my wife almost half my age.

[Saphan]

Have sex 4 times a day, everyday.

[Orinoco]

14 minutes ago, Saphan said:

Have sex 4 times a day, everyday.

Yes, but masturbation doesn't count. 

 

 

Edited February 1, 2023 by Orinoco

[rankric]

14 hours ago, stoner said:

my goal is to amass copious amounts of money, which i will then use to destroy evil people. 

Interesting. How do you know who to destroy? 

[rankric]

Goals:

 

Get back to the gym.

Family break in march

Start a podcast

Conquer the US

Teach son to read

Teach son maths

Find consistently good food

Make a real friend in thailand a guy in the same boat type.

Loads of goals 

 

 

 

[jerrymahoney]

8 minutes ago, rankric said:

Interesting. How do you know who to destroy? 

Effective Altruism -- just ask that SB-F guy.

[stoner]

1 hour ago, rankric said:

Interesting. How do you know who to destroy? 

say i gain the money i want.

 

so i make some projects to build a school or some housing or something. then you hire a company to do the work.

 

then you find out the owner of the company is being a corrupt piece of s. so i then buy his company. fire him. then split his company up between his employees.

 

1 evil loser destroyed. 

 

things like that. 

 

evil doers (george bush) are all over the place. you know people who want to take advantage of those weaker than they are. people who use others for their own advantage. 

 

we all know what is right and wrong for the most part. those lines are clearly drawn for how a basic human should act. 

 

 

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

At my stage of life just hoping to get to the departure stage without having to live in my car, given the pathetic pension, inflation and unaffordable rents.

This ain't the country I grew up in any more.

[thaibeachlovers]

6 minutes ago, stoner said:

say i gain the money i want.

 

so i make some projects to build a school or some housing or something. then you hire a company to do the work.

 

then you find out the owner of the company is being a corrupt piece of s. so i then buy his company. fire him. then split his company up between his employees.

 

1 evil loser destroyed. 

 

things like that. 

 

evil doers (george bush) are all over the place. you know people who want to take advantage of those weaker than they are. people who use others for their own advantage. 

 

we all know what is right and wrong for the most part. those lines are clearly drawn for how a basic human should act. 

 

 

 

 

Agree with your sentiments, but IMO most have sold out to greed and will accept the evil doers as long as they are all right Jack.