Not talking about the big ticket items eg house, car, motorbike, gold, money etc. Something more modest but meaningful.

eyeglasses with quality lenses. with clear vision, she still thinks I'm hansum. 555

She seemed thrilled when I said I was going back to the UK for three months????

The Best gift she will ever get is our little grand daughter she idolizes her all day and everyday, she's from my daughter.

Thank god for Facebook and what's app

 

I been here ten years and I don't think once I felt any gifts or acts of kindness were appreciated either to partners or locals. In fact usually left with the feeling that its ok but doesn't measure up to someone else's Facebook (un) reality, and perhaps I should have bought a more expensive home, motorcycle, car.....or heavier baht weight gold. Small gifts or thought fullness is only ever measured in the value of the gift..not the thought. And the laughable thing the people judging the gift bearer have probably never given anything or done anything kind or spontaneous....particularly if it involves more than 5 baht of their own money. Most ungrateful people I have ever come across. Never worked it out either. Possibly another one of their weird self defense mechanisms where showing gratitude means lessening yourself or leaving themself open for a reciprocal request ala The Godfather. A Thai guy told me once Asians generally don't understand acts of kindness. They think you are either stupid or want something in return in other words eyed with suspicion or a fool who is easily separated from his money. I remember when I first came to live in a village anything kind I did for anyone usually left me disgusted. Buy a couple of kids with no parents an ice cream in a shop and the grandmother asking why I didn't "take care" of her, she is older than the kids. Or the time I offered to pay for a gravel road into the temple through the rice fields for the old ladies. I assumed if I paid for the materials couple of the guys with tractors would spread it....some of their mothers used to walk through the muddy track to the temple. Nope..... a total greed fest every one with there hand out. Or someone is jealous or offended in some other way. The self satisfaction to me of doing a good deed or making someone happy would be enough for me, no thanks required but when all it does is stir up bad feeling and jealousy why do anything. I don't bother anymore. It's just a waste of money and their is no thanks in it, usually the opposite. Most relationships I have had here were finished by me after weighing up the ledger sheet of what I was giving and receiving in return. Usually in my estimation 95% / 5% ratio... if that. We kid ourselves its "cultural" and all that stuff but IMO people here tend to respect people who treat them harshly and look down on those who are the kindest to them. A mate of mine with a Thai wife told me before coming here....the hardest thing is teaching them not to bite the hand that feeds them. IMO never truer words spoken. Met a lot of good people here too, really good people but there are an awful lot of the latter  

Money

3 hours ago, Will B Good said:

She seemed thrilled when I said I was going back to the UK for three months????

Yes. The handclapping alerted me to my wifey's joy when I went back for some months.🙃🙃

3 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Huh? That thing can not get a woody. Not much joy for she.🙃🙃

I gave my GF some packing cubes/dividers for packing hers clothes in her suitcase for when we travel. It wasn't a gift, just practical as I use them myself. She thought they were an absolute revelation! One for her t-shirts, one for her knickers etc. She was genuinely pleased with them which surprised me. She's also happy when I bring her cotton traders polo shirts or lightweight blouses from Marks and Spencers. Small, inexpensive gifts but she does appreciate them.

 

Never buys me anything in return though 😂

 

I do get what Kenny202 said above though. In the past I have carried out/given small gestures of kindness or gifts and the Thai has looked at me like I'm completely mental or with disdain for the nature of the act. Not often, but it has happened which can be a bit demoralising. You do think, why do I bother?

 

9 minutes ago, Keeps said:

One for her t-shirts, one for her knickers etc

Last time i saw her she had none on...

 

 

The school uniform with the super short skirt and rock solid boner that ensures. 

 

14 minutes ago, Keeps said:

 

I do get what Kenny202 said above though. In the past I have carried out/given small gestures of kindness or gifts and the Thai has looked at me like I'm completely mental or with disdain for the nature of the act. Not often, but it has happened which can be a bit demoralising. You do think, why do I bother?

 

 

The disparity for me is never so obvious as when you see them bowing, scraping.....kob jai phee......nong......poor jai ....maximum respect to someone they don't know let alone who has ever done anything for them.....or worse a cement ooger booger statue in front of a temple they believe will make them lucky.....and just this morning you did yours and her washing....cooked for yourself and cleaned the house. Not only did she not help even clean up for herself looked down on you as if it were your job anyway lol. I refuse to play that game anymore 🙂 Often said if you think all you need to bring to the table is your pu$$y, guess again. There is plenty of that available anywhere in Thailand in fact I was doing better on that front when I was single. Unfortunately the only thing that makes them realize they had it good is after you have split up and already moved on. Then the next 6 months to 2 years trying to get back what they had and took for granted all along  

Me simply waking up, and hanging around a few more years, after a minor health scare last year at this time.

 

The simple things... life itself 😎

19 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

The school uniform with the super short skirt and rock solid boner that ensures. 

 

So it's her boner that gets you off?

Takes all sorts.

35 minutes ago, Keeps said:

 

 

Never buys me anything in return though 😂

Her ears must have been burning. She's just returned from a food shopping expedition with 3 large Singhas for me (didn't ask for them but delighted anyway) and hasn't (yet) asked for the cash 👍

""Something more modest but meaningful. ""

 

A well done massage, all free.

13 minutes ago, Kenny202 said:

 

The disparity for me is never so obvious as when you see them bowing, scraping.....kob jai phee......nong......poor jai ....maximum respect to someone they don't know let alone who has ever done anything for them.....or worse a cement ooger booger statue in front of a temple they believe will make them lucky.....and just this morning you did yours and her washing....cooked for yourself and cleaned the house. Not only did she not help even clean up for herself looked down on you as if it were your job anyway lol. I refuse to play that game anymore 🙂 Often said if you think all you need to bring to the table is your pu$$y, guess again. There is plenty of that available anywhere in Thailand in fact I was doing better on that front when I was single. Unfortunately the only thing that makes them realize they had it good is after you have split up and already moved on. Then the next 6 months to 2 years trying to get back what they had and took for granted all along  

Seems like you are the Golden Calf that she brought to the village. Everyone wants a piece and she feels ‘entitled’. Doesn’t seem like a good situation for you. 

5 minutes ago, Keeps said:

Her ears must have been burning. She's just returned from a food shopping expedition with 3 large Singhas for me (didn't ask for them but delighted anyway) and hasn't (yet) asked for the cash 👍

Was it your money in the first place?

She's been wanting some non stick pans for ages because the aluminium ones always get ingrained with burnt food, so I bought her a little nylon scrubbing brush to help her scrub the pans, and she was as happy as a dog with two tails.

Bought my gf a karaoke microphone with built-in speaker. Loves it. Uses it almost every day.

13 minutes ago, timendres said:

Bought my gf a karaoke microphone with built-in speaker. Loves it. Uses it almost every day.

I hope for your sake she has the voice of an angel 👍

Louis Vuitton

 

”And where are you going to carry it while wearing your t-shirts and worn out jeans with holes ？”

Very frugal lady I would buy her clothes and she would bring them back for refunds, saved money always.

She just wanted it to keep on a shelf to worship. Probably should have stayed with..

When I moved in I quickly had a hot shower unit installed.  Prior to that she had been taking a regular tap water shower for years.  Ok in the summer, freezing ass cold any other time.  I was not having it.  I bought the unit for less than 3K Bt at Lotus and had one of the local sparky's fit it for another 300 Bt.  It was as if I had hung the moon.  She still thanks me years later.

 

I must also add that I feel much the same as some others here.  IMO most of my other gifts, acts of kindness to others have been well underappreciated or even ignored.  I don't do them much anymore.

2 hours ago, Keeps said:

Her ears must have been burning. She's just returned from a food shopping expedition with 3 large Singhas for me (didn't ask for them but delighted anyway) and hasn't (yet) asked for the cash 👍

What happens when the bottles are finished? Who goes to Mom & Pop's for # 4, 5 & 6?🙃🙃

I've got the taste now and you were spot on. Sadly, it was me. And, you were spot on! Another 3! That will be me done for the night. Got to hit the bar tomorrow to see England beat the Aussies at cricket.....😉

Something big  another baht of gold.

More modest , a large bottle of duty free Cointreau. 

3 hours ago, gomangosteen said:

So it's her boner that gets you off?

Takes all sorts.

 

You've got a weird imagination, no its my boner that ensures 😜

9 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

Me giving up on anal.

You should have used lubricant, and your bottom would feel better.