Haha... She was probably disappointed in his performance...

And an argument started.

The guy left on his own accord and she went to file a report at the police in anger. 

I hope she had CCTV at home.

This whole story is just unrealistic.

12 hours ago, retarius said:

Why would a an American woman want a guy with a small penis for? They like 'em big over there.

Is that why you spend so much time in Thailand?????  

2 hours ago, nausea said:

I must say that a young woman allowing some strange young man to stay overnight is a recipe for disaster

Think I was in bed with my wife about 8 hours after meeting her for the first time in real life at BKK airport - together now near 10 years with 1 kid, I'm not a weirdo ! (some debate that)

But after work OK

22 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

Maybe you are the perfect gentleman... and made that obvious.

Most are not and take an invite back to the bedroom as a green light.

Ladies ... if you don't want to be raped don't invite people back to the bedroom.

 

One does not have to be a “perfect gentleman” to not get off on physically forcing oneself on a woman who is trying to shove you away. In fact, one has to be an animal to want to do that, sort of like the primate pictured as your avatar. Blaming the woman in a case like this, as many posts here seem to be doing, is outrageous and disgusting.

2 minutes ago, Cory1848 said:

One does not have to be a “perfect gentleman” to not get off on physically forcing oneself on a woman who is trying to shove you away. In fact, one has to be an animal to want to do that, sort of like the primate pictured as your avatar. Blaming the woman in a case like this, as many posts here seem to be doing, is outrageous and disgusting.

If you don't want to have sex with someone, it's probably best not to invite them into your bedroom.

No blaming, just common sense.

1 hour ago, mstevens said:

 

When the first response to a thread is this, I rest my case that this forum is going to the dogs.

Gone to the dogs would be more accurate.

39 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

rape is rape... except

No, there is no exception!

17 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

Men, try to listen to the woman, and control your urges. I guess that was an unknown concept, right?

In Thailand yes.

1 minute ago, newbee2022 said:

No, there is no exception!

But there are some grey areas.

3 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

But there are some grey areas.

That's men used as excuse only.

No means no.

He needs to be strung up by his nuts and she needs to stay off Tinder until she learns how to use it responsibly.

 

Edited November 8, 20232 yr by impulse

even duct tape cant fix that level of stupidity 

8 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

What exactly did he do?

 

It says sexual assault and then calls him a rapist.

 

Did he actually rape her or did he assault her? 

 

Quality journalism, as always.

Rape - “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” 

Sexual assault and rape are often the same thing.

I'm disgusted at some of the replies so far. 

Just because a woman agrees to let you come home with her and agrees to let you sleep in the same bed, DOES NOT mean you can 'try it on' and see if you can change her mind if she's said "No sex, I want to sleep".   

 

38 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

If you don't want to have sex with someone, it's probably best not to invite them into your bedroom.

No blaming, just common sense.

Sure, if she really liked the guy after their date and wanted to see him again, he should have been happy to get her phone # and go back to his own flat to sleep. So maybe she lacked common sense and took a risk, having known the guy for only one date. But she said “no sex” up-front, and frankly I’ve never known any men personally in 60+ years who would have forced themselves on a woman against her will regardless of whether they were invited to her flat, and many men I’ve known are not “gentlemen.” If a guy has that hard a time controlling his sexual urges, he probably needs therapy.

Edited November 8, 20232 yr by Cory1848

15 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

In Thailand yes.

And you seem to have taken that to heart and agreeing with it?

13 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

But there are some grey areas.

NO!

What a nieve twit she is.

Comes from a fem lib culture where "No means NO" and "if not YES means NO"
to chauvinistic Asia where "NO" means nothing, but opportunity means "Go for it" and  if a woman allows herself to be alone with you generally it means "yes".

10 minutes ago, Gottfrid said:

And you seem to have taken that to heart and agreeing with it?

NO!

IMHO... you have yours.. I'll agree to differ.

26 minutes ago, hotchilli said:

But there are some grey areas.

 

No there aren't.

 

I know you like to reply to every single thread on this forum no matter what the topic, and I am used to some of your idiotic replies, but even for you this is shocking.

 

I have to say I am disgusted by this site. The majority of replies in this thread are victim blaming someone who has been sexually assaulted and that seems to be ok as the posts are left to stand, even the ones talking about Chinese penises like that has anything to do with anything, and only the most insecure of racists make comments like that. RIP Asean Now, you've been dying for some time, now it is time to finally put you out of your misery.

So you meet a guy on a dating app. We know why people use these kind of dating apps.

 

Especially Tinder and Grinder. They are used as sex hook ups.

 

He asks to stay at your place, even though you have just met him, you agree.

 

Around the world, and with different races with different cultures and values, people get very different ideas about what constitutes ' flirting ' and ' invitation '

 

At the very least it was ' foolish ' to allow a man she has just met on a dating app to stay at her place when she was alone.

 

Stupidity and not protecting yourself and your personal space comes to mind.

 

It could have ended far worse, she could have allowed a Psychopath into her apartment who kills and dismembers her, it's happened before through dating apps.

 

All those screaming Rape is Rape, we know what that is.

 

Those kind of things are always going to happen with dating apps and allowing somebody you don't know to stay at your place on the first night. Blind stupidity.

 

 

And people wonder why most women who are raped or assaulted do not report it to the police, just take a look at reactions from this cesspit of a forum to get an idea why

 

Was she stupid enough to invite a stranger to her apartment? What did she expect?

12 minutes ago, Hakuna Matata said:

Was she stupid enough to invite a stranger to her apartment? What did she expect?

More victim blaming! She expected that he would respect her wishes, as almost all men would; that he would not suddenly become an animal and assault her. Posts like yours are not so much misogynistic as man-hating, you seem to have so little regard for the civility of your own gender (assuming that you’re a man).

Mirrors the Chinese-American diplomatic tensions at the moment.

9 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

 

 

It says sexual assault and then calls him a rapist.

 

Did he actually rape her or did he assault her? 

 

Quality journalism, as always.

Hey Fruitcake - Rape is a form of sexual assault, but not all sexual assault is rape, you must be schewpid

3 hours ago, MangoKorat said:

Maybe she didn't know what Tinder is used for..................................

Everything I have ever read about tinder is it's used by hookers, bored housewife's and people looking to hook up for a few hours. Under the description...dating App. Maybe wrong!

1 hour ago, RichardColeman said:

Think I was in bed with my wife about 8 hours after meeting her for the first time in real life at BKK airport - together now near 10 years with 1 kid, I'm not a weirdo ! (some debate that)

You might want to change your profile pic if trying to avoid the "weirdo" moniker 

9 hours ago, Celsius said:

14 hours ago, retarius said:

Why would a an American woman want a guy with a small penis for? They like 'em big over there.

 

How do you know he has a small penis?

 

Envy.

10 hours ago, Celsius said:

 

How do you know he has a small penis?

Probably same was as the rest of us, looking at the condom sizes in 7-11.

Haven't you noticed how small they are?

44 minutes ago, Cory1848 said:

More victim blaming! She expected that he would respect her wishes, as almost all men would; that he would not suddenly become an animal and assault her. Posts like yours are not so much misogynistic as man-hating, you seem to have so little regard for the civility of your own gender (assuming that you’re a man).

 

 

We are dealing with the real world here, not your opinion of it and how people are expected to ' behave ' through your ' rose colored glasses '

 

Nothing to do with victim blaming.

 

If people like her were not so dumb and thought a little more, there would be less rapes and crimes.

 

It's about protecting yourself and your space, and not allowing a complete stranger, who you have just met on a bloody sex dating app, to stay the night at your apartment when you are alone.

 

"Respect her wishes", What planet are you on?

 

This is Bangkok, a melting pot, a metropolis where people come together from all over the world, and is one of the sex capitals of the world.

 

If only the world was how you wanted it to be!