Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[scubascuba3]

2 hours ago, NowNow said:

We discuss psychology and much more on a regular basis

Not surprising she's probably counselling you, actually on that subject while you are banging on about your "girlfriend" how old is she vs you? and what's her job?

[NowNow]

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

Not surprising she's probably counselling you, actually on that subject while you are banging on about your "girlfriend" how old is she vs you? and what's her job?

 

With such an unpleasant introduction to your post, are you actually expecting me to divulge my personal details with a monger?

Social skills my friend. When you lack them, your only alternative is to pay. Have a nice day.

[JensenZ]

5 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Why would I try to have a serious and honest conversation with someone who tries to dismiss me as a Troll?

 

They buy gifts, they are actually attracted to me, (as I'm not some wrinkly old man pretending that a young woman wants to have sex with him), they can support themselves, we can discuss anything in depth, plan for the future, we support each other in all things...I could go on and on...

This is a standard. 

Others may be happy to buy themselves a woman. Up to them. But don't expect everyone to give you a pat on the back for it. Childish to call someone a Troll because they have a different perspective than yourself.

 

 

 

Now you're sidetracking by going on about the troll comment. 

 

I explained already I had a 20-year relationship with a lady 30 years my junior and we both came out of it on top, financially. It was profitable. We ran a business together and invested in real estate.

 

If you're satisfied with an old lady who can discuss psychology regularly, that's good for you.

 

You have a hard time accepting anything beyond your narrow way of thinking. That's a problem with people who consider themselves to be psychologists.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[NowNow]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Not surprising she's probably counselling you, actually on that subject while you are banging on about your "girlfriend" how old is she vs you? and what's her job?

 

It's the other way around. I have less stress in my life, so I can be the voice of reason in stressful situations. She supports me in other ways.

[NowNow]

Just now, JensenZ said:

Now you're sidetracking by going on about the troll comment. 

 

I explained already I had a 20-year relationship with a lady 30 years my junior and we both came out of it on top, financially. It was profitable. We ran a business together and invested in real estate.

 

If you're satisfied with an old lady who can discuss psychology regularly, that's good for you.

 

You have a hard time accepting anything beyond your narrow way of thinking. That's a problem with people who consider themselves to be psychologists.

 

 

Not side tracking, you did it twice, in separate posts. Also tried to make a big deal out of me mentioning Issan.

Old lady? I'm not old myself, wrinkly. 😊

 

[JensenZ]

3 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

It's the other way around. I have less stress in my life, so I can be the voice of reason in stressful situations. She supports me in other ways.

You replied to the same post twice. It would seem your life is not as stress-free as you're making it to be. 

[JensenZ]

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Not side tracking, you did it twice, in separate posts. Also tried to make a big deal out of me mentioning Issan.

Old lady? I'm not old myself, wrinkly. 😊

 

So you're not even old, yet you're commenting on a thread that should only concern old guys. When you're old and wrinkly, and your partner is old and wrinkly too, you might be able to impart some knowledge on the subject. 

 

I stated my age and my partner's age. How about you man up and give us your details?

[scubascuba3]

7 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

It's the other way around. I have less stress in my life, so I can be the voice of reason in stressful situations. She supports me in other ways.

don't avoid the question, you like talking about your relationship so what are the ages and her job? otherwise it gives the impression you are just making it up

[NowNow]

1 minute ago, JensenZ said:

You replied to the same post twice. It would seem your life is not as stress-free as you're making it to be. 

 

Yes, because I don't like to edit posts as a rule. It looks ugly. 

You are really grasping at straws 😊

 

Be a man. Own what you do. You want to pretend a young girl is attracted to you, that's up to you. Emperor's New Clothes and all that. But we aren't all sex tourists here. Keep that in mind.

 

Anyway, let's get back on topic.

 

 

[NowNow]

2 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

So you're not even old, yet you're commenting on a thread that should only concern old guys. When you're old and wrinkly, and your partner is old and wrinkly too, you might be able to impart some knowledge on the subject. 

 

I stated my age and my partner's age. How about you man up and give us your details?

 

I definitely a man, as compared to what lurks here and that is precisely why I don't share my details. Birds of a feather and all that. Sorry but I'm not one of your group.

[NowNow]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

don't avoid the question, you like talking about your relationship so what are the ages and her job? otherwise it gives the impression you are just making it up

 

I'm happy for you to go away thinking that I've made it up. If you had any integrity at all, I would happily discuss. But there are way too many....(trying to think of a polite word). So...no. I reveal what I choose to reveal.

[JensenZ]

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Y  But we aren't all sex tourists here. Keep that in mind.

 

 

 

It sounds like you're a person who needs to get involved with some sex tourism. It might be an improvement on frequent discussions about psychology with your old Thai wife. Why are you spending so much time on here talking nonsense?

[Hummin]

20 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Your post needs some work 😊

 

It reads as if you are Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration 😊

Im frustrated being labeled as Thai expat married to a Thai woman from Isaan. 

 

Members here experts in pissing contests and dragging everyone elses down to their level. Thats my frustration, but also why living in Thailand as an expat is hard, because there is very few to socialize with, if you have some dignity, manners and standards. 

[NowNow]

3 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

 

It sounds like you're a person who needs to get involved with some sex tourism. It might be an improvement on frequent discussions about psychology with your old Thai wife. Why are you spending so much time on here talking nonsense?

 

😊 Still clutching at straws? 😊

[NowNow]

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Im frustrated being labeled as Thai expat married to a Thai woman from Isaan. 

 

Members here experts in pissing contests and dragging everyone elses down to their level. Thats my frustration, but also why living in Thailand as an expat is hard, because there is very few to socialize with, if you have some dignity, manners and standards. 

 

Again, I wrote there is nothing wrong with that. It was only @JensenZ who tried to make something of it. I have friends from all over. One or two even ex bar girls who have moved on to better things.

But an old man pretending that a young girl wants to have sex with him and pretending that it's a relationship is quite something else. 

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Again, I wrote there is nothing wrong with that. It was only @JensenZ who tried to make something of it. I have friends from all over. One or two even ex bar girls who have moved on to better things.

But an old man pretending that a young girl wants to have sex with him and pretending that it's a relationship is quite something else. 

My outcry was a little bit more general because of all the new threads lately (or as useall) ending up pissing on the very same subjects, with many of the same members repeating themselves for one thousand and 50 times

[scubascuba3]

17 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

I'm happy for you to go away thinking that I've made it up. If you had any integrity at all, I would happily discuss. But there are way too many....(trying to think of a polite word). So...no. I reveal what I choose to reveal.

ok we won't believe anything you say, just another fantasist

[JensenZ]

7 minutes ago, NowNow said:

But an old man pretending that a young girl wants to have sex with him and pretending that it's a relationship is quite something else.

It's a shame you don't know when a girl is enjoying sex or not. Don't they teach you this in your psychology classes? You should get out and get some experience with some younger girls.

[NowNow]

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

My outcry was a little bit more general because of all the new threads lately (or as useall) ending up pissing on the very same subjects, with many of the same members repeating themselves for one thousand and 50 times

 

Don't get upset (hugs)

It's just an outlet for many. For me, it's a view into a world that I don't care to enter. But interesting to learn and discuss nonetheless.

You are one of the few regular posters who still has something about him, if that means anything to you 😊

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, NowNow said:

 

Don't get upset (hugs)

It's just an outlet for many. For me, it's a view into a world that I don't care to enter. But interesting to learn and discuss nonetheless.

You are one of the few regular posters who still has something about him, if that means anything to you 😊

Nope, not at all, 

 

to be true, the very same people you meet around do have the same opinions, and love to talk about the issues even if my wife sits next to me and speaks fluently english, so being online forum or irl, doesnt matter for such people, 

[NowNow]

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

ok we won't believe anything you say, just another fantasist

 

We? You mean you and the other sex tourists? I'm okay with that. Anyone with anything about them can recognise someone who is true.

Slippery snakes often cannot recognise which end is which.

[save the frogs]

1 hour ago, JensenZ said:

I detest psychologists, thinking they can work out how other people think.

I probably wouldn't want to date a psychologist, analyzing every move I make.

You really don't want your woman to be TOO smart. Might work against you. 

 

[NowNow]

Just now, Hummin said:

Nope, not at all, 

 

to be true, the very same people you meet around do have the same opinions, and love to talk about the issues even if my wife sits next to me and speaks fluently english, so being online forum or irl, doesnt matter for such people, 

 

I am certainly not one of those people. A forum is not the same as in person. Everything appears more extreme and black and white. 

In real life there are more nuances. Here...it's more like a boxing ring. Do not enter if you are a shrinking violet, as people will be more general and forthright. 

Most of the people who have a problem with me here, would probably love me in person. But here is quickfire and often from the hip. You need to be on the ball 😊

[JensenZ]

25 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

😊 Still clutching at straws? 😊

One of your weakest responses yet, a sure sign of trolling. I don't suppose you know what it means.

[NowNow]

Just now, JensenZ said:

One of your weakest responses yet, a sure sign of trolling. I don't suppose you know what it means.

 

Come on...we've moved on to a slightly more adult level now.  @Hummin has some real concerns. Perceived urinating contest over. 

[Hummin]

4 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

I am certainly not one of those people. A forum is not the same as in person. Everything appears more extreme and black and white. 

In real life there are more nuances. Here...it's more like a boxing ring. Do not enter if you are a shrinking violet, as people will be more general and forthright. 

Most of the people who have a problem with me here, would probably love me in person. But here is quickfire and often from the hip. You need to be on the ball 😊

all I say, you meet many witht the same mentality in real life, and not ashamet for one secong. As said, even your wife sit next to you. 

 

 

[JimTripper]

4 hours ago, JensenZ said:

Unless you find a lady who has a high education with exceptional English skills, there's not much difference between a girl who knows conversational English and none at all. Using the translator will enable you to get deeper.

 

It's up to the patience of both partners.

It's not simply translation. There is typically a highly emotional connection and attraction along with the communication barrier. For example, jealousy, hormones, puppy love...

 

That makes any initial problem much harder to work out if you're relying on a translator and can't really express your feelings or get your partner to sit in front of the phone.

 

This is real life, not school.

[NowNow]

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

all I say, you meet many witht the same mentality in real life, and not ashamet for one secong. As said, even your wife sit next to you. 

 

 

 

All I can say is that we didn't walk in their shoes. Different people see different things as normal. Some were brought up in chaos, so that will be their norm. A calm person will be annoying to them.

I might appear brutally honest on this forum because I believe it's the best way to be. It gives us a beacon as to where our fellow men are standing.

Without that, we are alone. So I don't shy away from being true on this forum. In real life, you decide if you want to tell and if the person can accept what you see.

Just as it took you a while to find a good woman, it's the same with friends. You are lucky if you have even one or two who really have your back. 

There are a lot of good and true people out there. Don't be disillusioned by some negative experiences.

[jivvy]

I’ve tried all the healthy stuff too, and it feels like nothing sticks. Supplements are a money pit for sure. Natural remedies are the choice.

[SoCal1990]

2 hours ago, NowNow said:

 

I definitely a man, as compared to what lurks here and that is precisely why I don't share my details. Birds of a feather and all that. Sorry but I'm not one of your group.

I’ve read through a number of your exchanges with other members, and most of them are never-ending pissing matches that go nowhere, particularly on topics related to women and the sexual activity of older men in Thailand—subjects that seem to dominate your interest and focus. It also strikes me that you post about these topics so frequently, despite giving the impression of being younger than others and having a well-educated wife from a good background—a partner you describe as financially independent, with whom you share a great sex life, a stimulating relationship, and a supportive social circle of friends. So, it seems you have little in common with these people, yet you are inclined to communicate with them for hours on end? It doesn’t make much (if any) logical sense.

 

Given all that, you seem to view yourself as on a different level than others here, frequently trying to belittle them. But what are you getting out of it? Based on your own descriptions, your life sounds much more privileged and very different from the lives of many others here. So why spend so much time focused on people and things you consider beneath you—topics that supposedly don’t relate to you and differ significantly from your own standards?

 

Honestly, I can’t figure it out, nor does it add up, especially when those you’re “schooling” don’t seem to at all appreciate your opinions or your condescending advice. So why do you do it? Do you enjoy provoking them and then enduring the backlash? I wouldn’t be surprised. There are men who are known to get off on triggering and then being abused by others.

 

From what I’ve read, you often come across as passive-aggressive, conflicted, and frequently flip-flopping on issues just to try and gain the upper hand or appear superior to others. The only conclusion I can draw is that perhaps you find some satisfaction in watching others struggle—it may fill some unmet need in your own life. It brings to mind Edward Norton’s character in Fight Club, who attends various self-help groups under false pretenses, just to watch others suffer and to feed off their pain, only to reassure himself that he’s in a better situation than they are, despite all the hidden pain and suffering in his own life.

 

Or maybe it’s the opposite—perhaps you’re like everyone else you put down but are hiding it, even from yourself, by pretending you’re different and above it all, somehow special.

 

Whatever the case, this approach doesn’t seem to be working well for you. It comes across as though you’re obsessed with other people’s difficult lives, not to help them, but to push them down further. As a result, nobody seems to appreciate your opinions, nor are you gaining any admiration or acceptance from others as the guru you appear to be striving to become. Ironically, many of the people you criticize seem more balanced, self-aware, and honest with themselves than you are.

 

Perhaps you’d benefit from reconsidering your own situation. Hijacking nearly every discussion about sex, men, and women in Thailand—topics that, by your account, don’t apply to you in any way—only makes your behavior seem strange, suspicious, and contradictory, and certainly questionable in many ways. If your life and your relationships are truly everything on a higher level, as you say they are, then what are you doing here scraping at the sh*t like everyone else?