The feeling once again being in a love relationship with a genuine Thai lady.

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On 3/20/2025 at 10:22 AM, Crossy said:

 

It is oft said that if it flies, floats or f**ks - Rent! 

 

Meanwhile, it will be our 21st wedding anniversary in November, still love her to bits.

Beautifully said. Best wishes for the both of you.

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On 3/20/2025 at 11:21 AM, nausea said:

Word salad

Word salad is a bar term for "take me, I'm free to be your soul mate", but actually in that word salad it is being hidden, " I already have a thai husband " lol

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On 3/20/2025 at 11:44 AM, SteeleJoe said:

I may do so later, but I decided not to wade through what I assume will be a lot of negativity in preceding posts and

 just briefly say:

 

Yes, the odds are arguably not great to start with but in my (extensive) experience over the last 43 years of being this country (some of it working in the nightlife industry) most guys dig their own graves with a whole lot of bad choices and that the inherent difficulty in success with such relationships is by no means a reflection on Thai women or evidence of inherent flaws…

 

Anyway, if you’re not too stupid and you get a bit lucky…you could wind up with someone that you have two wonderful kids with and are still extremely happy with 32 years later: I did. (And FYI for those convinced that one has to have money: I was homeless, broke and with zero signs of anything improving. She supported me, financially and otherwise, and has stuck with me every step of a not at all easy path) 

I love your true story because I connect with it. The lady in my life there hasn't even gone to "Super Rich" to exchange the currency. That for me is a true sign of loyalty. I'm very happy for your life's journey that rewards you and cherishes with a loving family. You've been blessed.

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On 3/20/2025 at 1:05 PM, Aussie999 said:

Always keep enough money for a one way ticket, besides that  enjoy life in Thailand  many Thai relationship last, some of course don't, life is always a risk, if things go bad, walk away, find a room/condo/etc  and start again, do not listen to the misery guts's on here, they have their own problems.

When wrote this, I had NO meanings of wanting to hear negatives. I just wanted the positive side of living abroad with a relationship that worked out. Thank you for your comment.

[spidermike007]

Be very grateful, finding true love and finding a great woman who always has your back, keeps a smile on your face, and rarely gives you a hard time is truly a great blessing in life. One that I enjoy on a daily basis and I'm very, very thankful for. 

 

Tips? 

1. Give it at least 2-4 years, together ful time, before you propose. Time is ALWAYS our ally, and never theirs. The vast majority of Thai people are way immature for their age. And many women and men are emotionally undeveloped, and really just 13 year olds, who look like adults. So take you time, get to know who they really are. Take as much time as you need. If it's good it's only going to get better, and if there are problems, they are going to manifest themselves over time. 

 

2. You have NO idea what she's made of, you have no idea how good a job her family did raising her, you have no idea what her underlying neurosis or baggage is, until at least 12- 24months into the relationship. Together, not online. The longer, the better. If she walks, let her walk.

 

3. See if you like her family. It is far harder to have a successful relationship here if you don't. 

 

4. So take you time, get to know who they really are, and how they act under different sorts of circumstances, and how they act when they do not get their way. LOL.

 

And after you've taken your time, and after you've really gotten to know her, and after you've determined that she's worthy of your devotion, and that she is truly a great woman, don't let her go. 

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On 3/20/2025 at 2:24 PM, spidermike007 said:

Give it at least 2-4 years, together ful time, before you propose. Time is ALWAYS our ally, and never theirs. The vast majority of Thai people are way immature for their age. And many women and men are emotionally undeveloped, and really just 13 year olds, who look like adults. So take you time, get to know who they really are. Take as much time as you need. If it's good it's only going to get better, and if there are problems, they are going to manifest themselves over time. 

 

You have NO idea what she's made of, you have no idea how good a job her family did raising her, you have no idea what her underlying neurosis or baggage is, until at least 12- 24 months into the relationship. Together, not online. They are always trying to push the timetable and you need to push back. The longer, the better. If she walks, let her walk.

 

See if you like her family. It is far harder to have a successful relationship here if you don't. 

 

I'll keep my reply simple and to a few words and I hope you reply.

Her parents have NO faith in her and treat her like a child. She actually is the financial backing of her family with a position of the Thai govt. Thai could only dream of having.

Like to hear your thoughts on this one, and yes, she always wears a warm smile when we are together and have to chat otherwise.

[klauskunkel]

2 hours ago, camper star said:

On 3/20/2025 at 8:11 AM, klauskunkel said:

My advice is to take another look at that sentence.

simplicity in words of feelings has no boundaries of a persons emotions.

but thanks for the correction of ones illiterate of being genuinely uneducated.  

Now you need to look at three sentences.

[spidermike007]

3 hours ago, camper star said:

I'll keep my reply simple and to a few words and I hope you reply.

Her parents have NO faith in her and treat her like a child. She actually is the financial backing of her family with a position of the Thai govt. Thai could only dream of having.

Like to hear your thoughts on this one, and yes, she always wears a warm smile when we are together and have to chat otherwise.

I got very lucky, I really adore her parents, they are delightful people and there's a great deal of mutual respect between my woman and her parents. I could never engage in a relationship with a Thai woman unless I had a great deal of admiration and respect for her family, which I do.

 

If I were in this position I would ask her to stand up to her folks and give them a real piece of her mind, or I would consider moving on. Sometimes parents are just completely wrong and very ignorant, and I think that there's a time and a place to tell them so, especially if you're giving them financial support.

 

Sit down mom and dad, were about to have a very stern conversation and I'm about to tell you some things that you're not going to enjoy hearing, but they're things that need to be said. If you don't feel like having this conversation no problem, and if you talk back to me no problem, but I will be cutting you off starting tomorrow. Respect is a two-way street, if you don't get that fine, go out and find a job.