How did your dad influence your life

[MalcolmB]

1 minute ago, hotsun said:

Yes its true. Then when you do their work they lose respect for you

Very true Hotsun.

 

A bit like a hairdresser, a male nurse or a flight attendant.

[fredwiggy]

Just now, MalcolmB said:

That is very woke of you Fred.

But it doesn’t wash with Thai women, who do all the washing.

It sounds like she never really respected you and you confused her.

She wanted a man, not a housemaid.

 

i wish her all the best with her new man. 
Is he Thai or another foreigner? 

 

 

Do some research on covert narcissism and you'll understand her better. Then your childish banter might make you realize you're talking to someone who is always a few steps ahead of your insults. You wouldn't know a real man if one fell on your head from above. A real man does what they can for their wives and family and doesn't sit back like some weak little boy who was never taught respect for a woman. Guess where you learned that omission.

 

Before you comment on another's life, think what misogyny means and it defines you,as per your replies. And before you mak any judgements, know that person well. A real man doesn't drive drunk and brag about it.

[fredwiggy]

9 minutes ago, hotsun said:

Yes its true. Then when you do their work they lose respect for you

Actually there is no woman's work in a family setting. Everyone chips in and doesn't look at either as a slave. Women appreciate it more. A controlled woman doesn't understand it because she never knew a real man in her life. My Thai girlfriend now appreciates everything I do,and tells others about it. Problem there is, misogyny runs rampant here and most women don't know what a real man is, as all they see are boys in men's bodies.

[fredwiggy]

10 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Very true Hotsun.

 

A bit like a hairdresser, a male nurse or a flight attendant.

 

11 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Very true Hotsun.

 

A bit like a hairdresser, a male nurse or a flight attendant.

I know  a male nurse who is a bodybuilder and has women all over him. Tell us more unmanly jobs, and what you did for a living.

[newbee2022]

5 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Thanks for the topic.

 

Now plodders and plonkers give it a go

Not your business

[PJPom]

My simple comment.....by example.

[hotsun]

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Actually there is no woman's work in a family setting. Everyone chips in and doesn't look at either as a slave. Women appreciate it more. A controlled woman doesn't understand it because she never knew a real man in her life. My Thai girlfriend now appreciates everything I do,and tells others about it. Problem there is, misogyny runs rampant here and most women don't know what a real man is, as all they see are boys in men's bodies.

Im not sure about that. Womens behavior is flawed, human behavior is flawed. I can think examples of men who do womens jobs who are hot, like gordon ramsay, but thats only because men can be better at cooking than women. I dont know of any men who can do a better job than their wife of taking care of their baby but that doesnt stop my wife from trying to push the responsibility on to me

[fredwiggy]

Just now, hotsun said:

Im not sure about that. Womens behavior is flawed, human behavior is flawed. I can think examples of men who do womens jobs who are hot, like gordon ramsay, but thats only because men can be better at cooking than women. I dont know of any men who can do a better job than their wife of taking care of their baby but that doesnt stop my wife from trying to push the responsibility on to me

The only thing a man can't do is breastfeed. I took care of my children more than my ex wife did. Feedings, changings, bathing, putting to sleep, teaching, school work. Some women aren't meant to be mothers. Anyone can have a baby. Raising them takes a parent.

[JAG]

4 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Stalker

You are the one trying to elicit private and personal emotions, feelings and details from strangers on an anonymous internet forum!

 

Given your umh, history of antagonism (?) is it not likely that your question is at least a precursor to stalking.

 

I know what I feel about my father - and am not in the slightest bit interested in knowing what others think of theirs.

[hotsun]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

The only thing a man can't do is breastfeed. I took care of my children more than my ex wife did. Feedings, changings, bathing, putting to sleep, teaching, school work. Some women aren't meant to be mothers. Anyone can have a baby. Raising them takes a parent.

My wife has freakish instincts like being able to wake up from sleep when the baby starts rolling off the bed. I cant do a better job, so i dont even listen to her when she shames me about it anymore

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, hotsun said:

My wife has freakish instincts like being able to wake up from sleep when the baby starts rolling off the bed. I cant do a better job, so i dont even listen to her when she shames me about it anymore

After our first child, it became a nuisance to my wife with our second , so I took over all the bottle feedings in the night. The more you help, the more your wife will give you in return, IF she's normal.

[hotsun]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

After our first child, it became a nuisance to my wife with our second , so I took over all the bottle feedings in the night. The more you help, the more your wife will give you in return, IF she's normal.

Normal human behavior is to want more. You have to draw the line somewhere

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, hotsun said:

Normal human behavior is to want more. You have to draw the line somewhere

Raising children is the hardest job anyone could have, and very un appreciated, at least for awhile. It stresses you out, and if one person is doing all the work, they get very pissed off at the other, especially if the other is just sitting on the couch drinking beer and watching countless sports on the TV. Balance always has a woman more appreciative, even those that are crazy.

[blaze master]

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

It's you that's been brainwashed by misogynist, weak boys thinking. Women here are looked at as inferior from the get go. That's why they do the "womens work", take care of the kids, cook and clean. It's because the men are misogynists and weak, and one reason so many look to the west for partners. Women here do complain, to other women. If you actually knew any women here well, they would tell you the same thing.

 

I divorced my Thai wife because she's a lying, cheating, covert narcissist that abused me, her daughter and tried on our daughter until I stopped it. She wanted to come back and didn't want the divorce, and was hitting on me the day before she married her new husband. A fat man who sends her money and does nothing else. Is 5 years younger and looks 5 years older. And she will trash him eventually the more time goes by, as a leopard doesn't change it's spots. 

 

You'll never be half the man I am, and I can see this alone by how you reply to posts, especially the one where the man kicked the 6 year old boy in the head. Sticking up for that kind of scumbag shows your true colors.

 

For such a man you made a horrible choice in a mate. Must be that non misogynistic attitude you have. 

[blaze master]

15 minutes ago, hotsun said:

My wife has freakish instincts like being able to wake up from sleep when the baby starts rolling off the bed. I cant do a better job, so i dont even listen to her when she shames me about it anymore

 

Women are naturally caregivers. Thousands of years of human history shows this. 

 

Only in the last few decades has this tried to be changed. And the results are disastrous.

[fredwiggy]

9 minutes ago, blaze master said:

 

For such a man you made a horrible choice in a mate. Must be that non misogynistic attitude you have. 

 

9 minutes ago, blaze master said:

 

For such a man you made a horrible choice in a mate. Must be that non misogynistic attitude you have. 

Attraction does that to many of us. Not vetting long enough is the first mistake. Not leaving soon enough is the second.

[Lacessit]

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

 

Attraction does that to many of us. Not vetting long enough is the first mistake. Not leaving soon enough is the second.

If I knew then what I know now, I would definitely have tried before I bought, and walked away if I could not.

[fredwiggy]

9 minutes ago, blaze master said:

 

Women are naturally caregivers. Thousands of years of human history shows this. 

 

Only in the last few decades has this tried to be changed. And the results are disastrous.

Yes, the divorce rates have climbed, domestic violence has risen, more women are becoming independent, wanting instead of needing a man, and not having to settle for boys who never grew up. Going from caveman to shared responsibilities isn't disastrous but a necessity. Those who continue to fight this, the misogynists, are the ones who women despise, and eventually leave. Women being equal is only a threat to those who look at them as objects to serve. You find a couple that really loves each other and gets along without undue fighting, especially with children, you have a couple that looks at the other as number one, where both are doing their share.

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

If I knew then what I know now, I would definitely have tried before I bought, and walked away if I could not.

If I did that I would be happier, but my children wouldn't be here, so something good came from the bad choices .

[Lacessit]

5 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

If I did that I would be happier, but my children wouldn't be here, so something good came from the bad choices .

Same here, although I stayed in the marriage for the sake of my son. Far too long.

 

As an adult, he did say he had never seen two more incompatible people.

[fredwiggy]

Just now, Lacessit said:

Same here, although I stayed in the marriage for the sake of my son. Far too long.

 

As an adult, he did say he had never seen two more incompatible people.

Took my kids awhile to realize what their mom was, but my son was with her longer, and it's still not clear to him, and he's 35. 4 kids in the same house and 4 stories. Takes a long time for them to see what was real and what was BS, and it affects them in their lives. One daughter still lives with her mom, and she has the most problems. Feeding off the crapola.

[hankypankee]

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

My dad said be a good listener. I guess yours never taught you anything but to whinge.

But in reality you have over 7,000 posts, nearly all of them whingeing and completely forgettable. So what your dad taught you about listening obviously had no positive outcome. 

[hotandsticky]

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

My dad said be a good listener. I guess yours never taught you anything but to whinge.

 

 

Oh physician, heal thyself!

[hotandsticky]

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

Actually there is no woman's work in a family setting. Everyone chips in and doesn't look at either as a slave. Women appreciate it more. A controlled woman doesn't understand it because she never knew a real man in her life. My Thai girlfriend now appreciates everything I do,and tells others about it. Problem there is, misogyny runs rampant here and most women don't know what a real man is, as all they see are boys in men's bodies.

 

 

I sometimes wonder if you actually believe some of the stuff you post.

 

Little wonder you failed in Thailand.

[save the frogs]

I grew up in an abusive household.

Not physical, but verbal/psychological.

My father was an angry angry man. Constantly taking out his anger on us.

Not only do you have to tolerate the abuse, but there is no positive reinforcement.

So I was psychologically messed up for a long time.

Maybe I still am.

Also, he was nasty to my mom. 

So I learned women need to be treated well AND not to be an ahole like my father. 

 

 

[fredwiggy]

3 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

I sometimes wonder if you actually believe some of the stuff you post.

 

Little wonder you failed in Thailand.

Of course I believe it as it's all true. I don't go by opinions. Facts instead.That a few here disagree only shows their lack of knowledge on certain subjects. What does failed in Thailand mean? I have a child who I'll bring home to the US for a better life. I finally realized what a covert narcissist is, and how they suck you n. Lesson learned, won't have it happen again. Seems like I'm winning, and my daughter will also. Sometimes you have to go through sh*t before you come out on top. Leaving Thailand with her will be a victory.

[Patong2021]

Reading the responses, I appreciate how very fortunate I am. Very,very fortunate. Having a decent father really does set the  foundation for future success. One does not necessarily need a good father to succeed, but having one, sure makes it more of certainty and easier. I know that if I listed all that my father had done, it would cause resentment or comments that it was unlikely. The sad part, is that I never used to appreciate it when I was a kid and by the time I have come to really  get it, the lessons are sort of wasted. My own responsibility for that, but that is what happens when you live in a  bubble of privilege and are protected from real hardship. 

[fredwiggy]

3 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

I grew up in an abusive household.

Not physical, but verbal/psychological.

My father was an angry angry man. Constantly taking out his anger on us.

Not only do you have to tolerate the abuse, but there is no positive reinforcement.

So I was psychologically messed up for a long time.

Maybe I still am.

Also, he was nasty to my mom. 

So I learned women need to be treated well AND not to be an ahole like my father. 

 

 

Doing the opposite was a lesson learned from a bad experience. Some of that for me also. Knew there were better ways.

[fredwiggy]

6 minutes ago, Patong2021 said:

Reading the responses, I appreciate how very fortunate I am. Very,very fortunate. Having a decent father really does set the  foundation for future success. One does not necessarily need a good father to succeed, but having one, sure makes it more of certainty and easier. I know that if I listed all that my father had done, it would cause resentment or comments that it was unlikely. The sad part, is that I never used to appreciate it when I was a kid and by the time I have come to really  get it, the lessons are sort of wasted. My own responsibility for that, but that is what happens when you live in a  bubble of privilege and are protected from real hardship. 

The father is the most important parent in a child's life, especially girls. Moms are also very important but the father teaches providing, protection, and how to treat women well IF that's what he did. If a girl has a good dad, that's what she'll look for in her relationships later. If not, she'll pick men who aren't good for her because she hasn't a clue what makes a good one. My dad was a little prejudiced, so I did the opposite. I saw him cook, so I learned how. He provided, so that's a given. Mom was affectionate, so I learned that from her, even though my dad wasn't, so it wasn't so easy. We never appreciate our parents until we have children of our own, and see what insanity they went through.

[rumak]

2 hours ago, FolkGuitar said:

 

Statistics show that men who help with the housework get laid more often. 🙂

 

Statistics are subjective lies put out by people who can not do anything useful, that is why they try to be smart by collecting data which fit their bias while ignoring that which doesn't.    

These "statistic" guys do not get laid often,  and if so only by the lower third of women ..... attraction wise.   Women like men who do things,  not talk statistics .  

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