I thought it would get easier here at older age

[Hummin]

18 minutes ago, TheFishman1 said:

As we age we get older everything starts to get more difficult just getting out of bed in the morning sometimes you have to take a few baby steps before your feet can start walking in a normal gate you get more tired less energy getting older basically sucks TIT

I see the technology progress in Norway for my mother, thinking of bank, insurance, TV, internet, tax, district office, health services, bank id, where everything is handled by apps with a jungle of options, it is horrible to keep track.

 

I have went through all of it, and she have been paying so much for automatic upgrades and things she do not use anymore. It's a robbery. Insurances where just a check can lower your monthly payments greatly, for an instance, or tv packages you never use. E-mail account you never used now being charged. Electric company used for 30 years never renewed your deal. 

 

And now, she needs help with everything. Completely out of it. And thinking of Thailand, will head the same direction, seems most will have to have one trusted one to help you through the jungle of obligations and duties. 

 

Good luck if someone relying on being single. If you do not trust anyone in your life by now, who you going to trust then? 

[Lorry]

22 hours ago, kwilco said:

Some facilities look excellent but see older foreigners as cash cows. Always get a second opinion, don’t be afraid to question recommendations, and never feel pressured into a hospital stay you’re unsure about. 

This is true, but very dangerous. 

 

I have seen both ways:

A guy who refused surgery in a well-known private Phuket hospital: "these criminals ate not going to cut me open!" He flew home, no surgery was ever necessary. 

Another guy, visibly sick, was recommended Samitivej Hospital, very expensive, and even he had insurance,  he considered it a rip-off and went to the small 30-bed government hospital nearby. Doctors there couldn't do much (and would have loved it, had he gone to the ICU in Samitivej). He died the same night.

 

Get a second opinion from someone you trust. 

 

[rumak]

On 6/19/2025 at 10:13 PM, Chinagmaiguy said:

I had always thought the older I got here the more respect I would get. How wrong I was. For 25 years I had my fun, worked for the government and had various professional jobs in Thailand. The older Thai's always get more respect but I seem to get overcharged more and more and overcharged for the simplest things, medical services especially. Sure, you can say I'm cheap and bitter but others I know have noticed the same thing. To the point of not feeling safe. I wonder how long i should stay on here? Ok go ahead with the nasty responses. 

 

An interesting topic (especially compared to "what are you eating today"  ... or "am i giving her too much money)   lol 

I read some comments which i can relate to ( living in Thailand long time and now aware that time waits for no one .)    So........ You, CMguy ,  do tell us that you had 25 years of fun here .  Not bad !   You had solid employment which is good for stable life and garners "respect" .  ( i kinda freestyled it here, from my early days almost 40 years ago .  A different lifestyle,  but more on that on some other comment) .

I think most places present the same challenges for retirees .  Old folks !  The younger generations pay little attention , and we have little to offer that others want .  

You mention health care... and indeed that is the big kicker ....even in the "free medical countries"  .   Its all about money .   Too many old and getting sick people in the world today .   Usually,  lucky to have even one or two people ( which includes children) that really care .    What to do ?   Where to go ?    A decision facing many of us .

[rumak]

On 6/20/2025 at 1:41 AM, youreavinalaff said:

On 6/20/2025 at 1:20 AM, Lorry said:

As you get older,  in the eyes of Thais you resemble more and more not a working professional,  but a typical retiree aka old sex tourist. They treat you accordingly. 

Elder Thais are treated with respect,  elder farangs, of course not. Thais do not respect farangs. They respect money, they also respect elder humans (= Thais) - not soi dogs and other assorted vermin.

 

Try getting the seat for the elderly on the BTS. You don't even get the senior fare.

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Speak for yourself. 

 

Any "newcomer" or person foreign to the location they go to live will not immediately fit in, be accepted with open arms.  Does that happen in any country ?  

Farangs coming to live in Thailand are a varied collection (to put it mildly) .  Most can not even get along with each other and make much bigger displays of it than the Thais who generally make a great effort to avoid conflicts .   Are the Thais getting more fed up with the growing influx of visitors and even long stay foreigners ( who I observe acting quite a bit differently than the quieter and more passive (unless provoked) Thais living normal lives (not tourist meccas) ?    Yes .  Still mostly kept inside, amazingly.

 

It wasn't till i lived in one place for over ten years that gradually I gained respect .  I felt comfortable.  They felt comfortable.  It takes time.... and the effort to learn and interact ( keeping it simple ! ) , speaking Thai, small jokes thai style.  That's the culture ! 

If one is looking for a Thai area where loud political or social issues are debated then this is not the norm.   That's what bars and forums are for .   🙂

 

[rumak]

On 6/20/2025 at 5:35 AM, Harrisfan said:

Nothing in life gets easy as you age. Life peak is 20 to 35.

 

For me the sexual EXPERIENCE  was so much better when proceeded by going out to eat,  having some drinks,  SPEAKING chit chat or whatever instead of pigeon English or someone looking at their phone .    I was around 50 when I had those experiences.

 

I guess those with english speaking dates could be happy ......... i much preferred the Thai experience  .   Though I will admit there was an English speaking eye specialist i went to that really turned me on.   but......... she was spoken for with kids.