2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

You have no idea how I am, and always base your theories on me from your own thinking and not what actually happened, as you don't know. Two relationships, marriages, with two women who were damaged from birth isn't a string of failed relationships. The others were either physical mutually or girlfriends who had different future plans than I, which is how most relationships end when both still like each other but aren't suited as a couple long term. That children came from those few relationships means they weren't a failure.

Your friend has nothing to do with me, and what I've said are facts on how people stay together. Thousands of interviews made by professionals of couples and how they relate, and what it took for them to stay together, comes down to one basic fact. Those who communicate well stay together. Try not talking to your partner and see how long she stays, especially when money isn't involved. Thailand has little to do with normal relationships.

Your long posts reflect how much you talk. You never listen for much or learn. Too busy trying to be right all the time. If your talking theory worked there would be few arguments. Arguments happen due to excess words being used that trigger the other side.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Women are moody. Talk when they are happy only. When they are pissed off or asking for money say nothing. Be busy doing something. Women are like dogs. If you keep feeding them your ears they will keep eating them. Only put your ears in the dish at certain times. They will soon learn not to bite them all day long which causes most divorces. A good woman is no different to a well trained dog or horse.

Looking at women as dogs will have you all alone, unless you stay in a country like Thailand and have local women after you because of the dream of money. Women talk a lot when they're unhappy. It's how you listen then that matters, as they know they don't have many they can count on to listen. Friends aren't always going to be there, and having one person they can talk to means more than anything. A good woman is worth her weight in gold, and nothing to do with a trained animal.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Looking at women as dogs will have you all alone, unless you stay in a country like Thailand and have local women after you because of the dream of money. Women talk a lot when they're unhappy. It's how you listen then that matters, as they know they don't have many they can count on to listen. Friends aren't always going to be there, and having one person they can talk to means more than anything. A good woman is worth her weight in gold, and nothing to do with a trained animal.

A good dog never stole a house. Women are nothing special. Just a human with a vagina.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Your long posts reflect how much you talk. You never listen for much or learn. Too busy trying to be right all the time. If your talking theory worked there would be few arguments. Arguments happen due to excess words being used that trigger the other side.

My long posts show exactly that I'm a communicator, and have had little trouble with most of my interpersonal relationships besides those few. Those few compared to thousands doesn't compare. I learned how to be a better listener, even though I always treated women well. Picking the wrong partner doesn't help if you're a decent partner yourself. Arguments happen because one side isn't being understood, neglected or allowed to speak. That's all relationships.

3 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

A good dog never stole a house. Women are nothing special. Just a human with a vagina.

That reply is why you are alone. And that attitude is why you have such a negative score. I tried but it doesn't get through, and you think I don't listen.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

That reply is why you are alone. And that attitude is why you have such a negative score. I tried but it doesn't get through, and you think I don't listen.

I'm not alone and you sit on here 7 days a week making long posts. You have nothing better to do.

2 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

Woman asks for money. You go silent.

Ai says

Anger

If you stay silent and her reaction is to get angry, guilt-trip you, or demand an immediate answer, that is a red flag. A partner who respects you will give you the space to consider your own financial security.

She lowers her request

This is a classic demonstration of the "Anchor and Adjust" psychological effect. By not filling the space with an immediate answer or an excuse, you forced her to re-evaluate the "price" she put on her request.

When you remain silent, the other person often interprets that silence as disapproval, hesitation, or a "hard no." To resolve that tension, they will frequently negotiate against themselves to make the request more "palatable" or "reasonable" for you.

When the silence is long enough that the request simply disappears, it reveals a few things about the dynamic:

1. It Was a "Testing of the Waters"

Often, people ask for money not just because they need it, but to see where the boundary is. If your silence signals that the boundary is made of brick, a partner who isn't looking for a conflict will often just withdraw the request rather than risk the tension.

2. The Power of "Holding the Space"

By staying silent, you didn't provide her with any "hooks" to argue against.

• If you said, "I'm broke," she could say, "But you just bought X."

• If you said, "I don't think it's a good idea," she could say, "Why don't you trust me?"

• By saying nothing, you left her with only her own thoughts. Frequently, people realize in that silence that their request was unreasonable or that they’d rather keep the peace than get the cash

Do you honestly think we care what know nothing AI says? It would be far more interesting if you would show us the capability of generating an actual opinion. AI is our downfall and it's the polar opposite of progress.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

I'm not alone and you sit on here 7 days a week making long posts. You have nothing better to do.

Assuming again, and the more you do, the more you're ignored. Keep looking at women the way you do, and your future will be just you.

I make long posts because I have the knowledge to, without looking at AI. Look up anything I've said, and you'll see it's fact based.

I have many things I do, and I've listed many here, which isn't all. It doesn't take long to type a reply, especially when you already know the information and don't need to research it.

Look at what others here have said to you, and understand I took time to reply to you, and your replies are misogynist while I've never been that way.

When my wife’s current account gets a bit low I just top it up …she knows how much money we have …I just smile and say ..when it’s gone it’s gone. It’s been like this for twenty four years …seemed to have worked okay …lol

1 minute ago, JAS21 said:

When my wife’s current account gets a bit low I just top it up …she knows how much money we have …I just smile and say ..when it’s gone it’s gone. It’s been like this for twenty four years …seemed to have worked okay …lol

That's a good system. Similar to giving a dog biscuits. They learn to only eat 20 a day.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

You don't ignore anyone. You love arguments. Why all your marriages failed. You never shut up. You do 90% of the talking. Why you ended up 30kms from 7/11 with nothing to do 555

This is exactly why you have such a low score. You assume things, and even though I've told exactly how things went, you need to turn that truth around and for what? I hate arguments but love discussions, so that's another assumption.

My marriages ended because my wives weren't good as wives nor mothers, which is why I had custody. That they wanted to come back seems to go over your head.

I don't need to shut up. You need to stop acting like a teenager arguing with a parent and try discussing as an adult and realize how everyone here looks at you.

You, like that other miscreant, get worse with every reply, starting out decent then ending up with the assumptions, demeaning behavior and bringing up the false past and actually thinking you know how others live their lives. This again is why you have such a negative score, why you're all alone, and why many here think you don't even live here. Try looking at yourself and forget about how you perceive others, as it's wrong thinking.

Again, I tried giving you solid advice, but seeing you go back to your usual self, I'm done here.

Edited April 30Apr 30 by fredwiggy

3 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

No you don't. I suggest you don't. It's your no 1 hobby. Talking on here. Without it you would go crazy. Your life in Thailand has been a diasaster but this forum allows you to talk a lot which gives you comfort. Everyone else can see it except you. My friend is the same as you. Everybody tells him he talks too much. But he won't listen either.

I only came back because you never learn, and I don't like lies being told about me. This is flaming behavior, and why you get banned so many times.

You are in no place to give anyone advice, let alone someone who actually does have a decent life, while you have nothing proven.

Only a very ignorant person assumes what others are doing in their lives without actually meeting them. That you can't get this is obvious. You have been called out as the number one troll here and you still don't get it.

My life in Thailand is something you don't know about, besides what I've said here, and only a dope takes what's said and needs to turn that around to make themselves feel better. This usually comes from jealousy.

You have no wife, steady girlfriend or children, so you have zero qualifications to talk about anyone else anywhere. Still don't get it?

There is no "everyone" here besides you and 3 others, all whom act the same way. Still don't get it? That you look at women as dogs tells a lot about your character. I look at them as equals. Still don't get it?

You have very little life experience besides using others. No family, woman or children, and you think other's lives are a disaster. Any more dipsh*t comments from you will be treated as flaming, so be prepared to think of another username, as this one has the worse reputation of anyone online anywhere, and won't last the way you're going.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

I only came back because you never learn, and I don't like lies being told about me. This is flaming behavior, and why you get banned so many times.

You are in no place to give anyone advice, let alone someone who actually does have a decent life, while you have nothing proven.

Only a very ignorant person assumes what others are doing in their lives without actually meeting them. That you can't get this is obvious. You have been called out as the number one troll here and you still don't get it.

My life in Thailand is something you don't know about, besides what I've said here, and only a dope takes what's said and needs to turn that around to make themselves feel better. This usually comes from jealousy.

You have no wife, steady girlfriend or children, so you have zero qualifications to talk about anyone else anywhere. Still don't get it?

There is no "everyone" here besides you and 3 others, all whom act the same way. Still don't get it? That you look at women as dogs tells a lot about your character. I look at them as equals. Still don't get it?

You have very little life experience besides using others. No family, woman or children, and you think other's lives are a disaster. Any more dipsh*t comments from you will be treated as flaming, so be prepared to think of another username, as this one has the worse reputation of anyone online anywhere, and won't last the way you're going.

Another big long rant. You're worse than my friend. You're a lost cause. You never ever listen.

14 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

My friend is the same as you. Everybody tells him he talks too much. But he won't listen either.

I've got one of those friends, really annoying, talks for the sake of it, never shuts up. It's like he has to talk, at times he says some nasty stuff, trying to make conversation.

In the past I've told him, when I'm not talking, I'm thinking, you are interrupting my thoughts, he is so stupid he doesn't get offended, I can't shut him up

Edited April 30Apr 30 by SAFETY FIRST

1 hour ago, spidermike007 said:

Do you honestly think we care what know nothing AI says? It would be far more interesting if you would show us the capability of generating an actual opinion. AI is our downfall and it's the polar opposite of progress.

Ai is the summary of 30 years of data entered into a computer ie more info than all books combined.

2 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Again you have to start somewhere, as you aren't going to be giving money to a new girlfriend right after you meet, unless you're looney, but after a year. or a wife, it's a different scenario.

If your girlfriend of a year asks for some cash, you ask what's it for. Genuine answer would be quick, and if it's the first time, it may be okay if it's for a legitimate purpose. With a wife, you obviously should trust her enough to know it's likely for something needed, although you can still ask, and she should tell you. Why would you stay silent if someone asks for money? If they are close to you, they have a legitimate reason to ask. if not they don't.

Not after you meet, but after you've had sex with them.

Fun first, Pay later!

And after I've given them money, it's their money, to do with as they will, not my business, I ain't a control freak.

Edited April 30Apr 30 by BritManToo

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

A good woman is worth her weight in gold, and nothing to do with a trained animal.

Costs you her weight in gold, but probably not worth her weight in gold.

At least the Thai ones weigh less than the English ones!

Why silence works:

• Prevents Justification: When you give a reason (e.g., "I'm on a budget"), people often try to "solve" your problem to get to the money. Silence offers them nothing to argue against.

• Reduces Stress: You avoid the emotional "weight" of having to craft a polite rejection.

• Preserves Energy: You keep your focus on your own goals—whether that's your fitness routine, travel planning, or financial tracking—without the distraction of outside demands.

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Costs you her weight in gold, but probably not worth her weight in gold.

At least the Thai ones weigh less than the English ones!

Lucky are those who actually have such a woman, as they are a blessing, and make the ones that are not decent look all the more worse.

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Costs you her weight in gold, but probably not worth her weight in gold.

At least the Thai ones weigh less than the English ones!

I could date a hot woman in any city easy as pie. I'd never bother buying them expensive stuff. They need me more than I need them.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Lucky are those who actually have such a woman, as they are a blessing, and make the ones that are not decent look all the more worse.

Change your personality then you might fluke one some day.

Agree with the " just say 'NO' "

The simple act of asking for money, is enough, as nobody prior to moving to TH has asked me for money. First Thai wife asked me for money, once, to pay parents electric bill, and a solid NO given. I think at that point she realized, oh crap, and our relationship spiraled downhill from there, for her. I had already decided it was over, but still planning my exit strategy 🙄

Thais survived before your arrival, so they don't 'need' your money. My money is for me & mine, not your family, especially as adults.

Got money for beer, then you don't need mine for necessities.

Edited April 30Apr 30 by KhunLA

9 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Thais survived before your arrival, so they don't 'need' your money. My money is for me & mine, not your family, especially as adults.

Got money for beer, then you don't need mine for necessities.

Edited 6 minutes ago6 min by KhunLA

So true. Look after yourself.

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I've got one of those friends, really annoying, talks for the sake of it, never shuts up. It's like he has to talk, at times he says some nasty stuff, trying to make conversation.

"Some people have an aversion to silence, as if a moment uncluttered by words is an opportunity lost forever." -Matt Braun-

4 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

Woman asks for money. You go silent.

Ai says

Anger

If you stay silent and her reaction is to get angry, guilt-trip you, or demand an immediate answer, that is a red flag. A partner who respects you will give you the space to consider your own financial security.

She lowers her request

This is a classic demonstration of the "Anchor and Adjust" psychological effect. By not filling the space with an immediate answer or an excuse, you forced her to re-evaluate the "price" she put on her request.

When you remain silent, the other person often interprets that silence as disapproval, hesitation, or a "hard no." To resolve that tension, they will frequently negotiate against themselves to make the request more "palatable" or "reasonable" for you.

When the silence is long enough that the request simply disappears, it reveals a few things about the dynamic:

1. It Was a "Testing of the Waters"

Often, people ask for money not just because they need it, but to see where the boundary is. If your silence signals that the boundary is made of brick, a partner who isn't looking for a conflict will often just withdraw the request rather than risk the tension.

2. The Power of "Holding the Space"

By staying silent, you didn't provide her with any "hooks" to argue against.

• If you said, "I'm broke," she could say, "But you just bought X."

• If you said, "I don't think it's a good idea," she could say, "Why don't you trust me?"

• By saying nothing, you left her with only her own thoughts. Frequently, people realize in that silence that their request was unreasonable or that they’d rather keep the peace than get the cash

This is classic AI response coming from generalized beliefs expressed on the internet.

18 minutes ago, Dan O said:

This is classic AI response coming from generalized beliefs expressed on the internet.

It works though. Silence is great to use on needy people. Starves them of oxygen.

2 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

Change your personality then you might fluke one some day.

Posting about yourself again I see!

An hour goes by, your drop your nut, she asks for 1,500 Baht, you happily hand it over, your out the door with a smile, done. Where is the problem?

The OP seems to create a topic for the purpose of insulting others.

I am tired of cleaning up after you - so this is CLOSED

If you continue to behave in this way toward others the next closing will be your account.