1 minute ago, wil iam not said:

I am certainly not the grumpiest, most ignorant, childish, insulting, confusing poster here.

You sortof are ............ Definitely in the top 20!

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

You're wrong, many of them look and behave just like all the other women. Zero teeth problems with mine, a bit manic/depressive, but it's not a big problem.

My guesstimate is 50% of the Thai population are on it in their teens and 20s, reducing in number as they get older.

Your gf is also a meth addict ?

There is quite a difference in someone who is consuming 20 pills a day.

I would disagree with 50 percent.

7 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

You came back with 'it's a joke' after I had replied. And if you call that a joke then you are the saddo.

No, I wasn't having a bad day til this started. But I will weather the storm, despite your question about getting on with the Mrs, that's nothing to do with you, but yes, I am very happy with her after 15 years.

As for SAFETY FIRST, I don't think there is a translation for that into Thai. 555

I am certainly not the grumpiest, most ignorant, childish, insulting, confusing poster here.

It clearly was a joke. Only someone married to a meth addict couldn't see that.

I would walk away and you will be 10K Baht better off, as they

say plenty more fish in the sea,

regards worgeordie

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

They always run out of money in the first 10 days.

I anticipate that, mine spends her 10k on expensive makeup.

Just use the money you give her (slowly) for the rest of the month to exert control.

Women need to be managed like children.

As for the sex with other guys, totally normal behaviour in Thai men and women. Accept it and learn to be equally unfaithful. This is the land of equal opportunity f#@£ing around.

Thanks for a supportive comment at a <deleted>ty time.

We’ve just had her shouting the place down because she’s not happy that I’ve discussed her being a yaba addict with people in the village as I tried to validate what AI was telling me so showed shocked friends and acquaintances photos of her chats with drug dealers asking for 800baht of something. She calls it gossip while I say it’s asking someone else the questions she won’t answer.

The money is the issue now. If I give her money like before I am basically accepting I’m paying for her yaba

On the sex. That’s been few and far between for years and it’s not bothered me as I have always seen her as not that interested since years back she announced that she had cum after 3 mins so I pulled out and decided I wouldn’t be bothering with that again especially as I could feel anything with the condom on. We broke up for a few years and got back together and I didn’t bother instigating sex as she didn’t seem that bothered. It worked out she was in a relationship with a local labourer in secret. Not much of a relationship as it consisted of secret meetings and talking on messenger behind my back. She left him broken hearted when she stopped answering his messages 3 years ago.

We started having sex again recently as I now had the realisation that my girlfriend was actually a sex maniac getting smashed all over the gaff. I love a used woman. But the lies are becoming too much as she won’t deny the addiction but won’t own up so we can draw a line under it. She appears to want to carry on with her 10k salary and keep buying Yaba. The massive scene she’s made today has finally come to an end as the fire has burned its self out. I think she’s also gonna miss the sex as she came a lot and I’m pretty much done with it as having to perform to get someone else to orgasm is such a chore

3 hours ago, Stevey said:

I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 12 years and living half the year on average here in NongKhai, but this year the mask finally slipped. For a long time, I struggled to understand why she was constantly broke. I provide a 10,000 THB monthly salary for the household, and she has additional income from a factory job and a rubber plantation. Yet, every month, the money vanished within days.

I eventually gained access to her phone and used AI to help me decipher the local Thai slang and transaction history. What I found was a "dirty scene" of illicit substance transactions. The evidence is in the bank transfers: consistent payments of 400 and 800 baht to individuals known in the community for dealing. In this part of Thailand, where pills are cheap, these specific amounts suggest she isn't just a casual user; she’s buying in quantities (10–20 pills at a time) that indicate a heavy, daily addiction.

The behavior matches the "Yaba cycle"—extreme mood swings, narcissistic deflection whenever I ask a direct question, and strange excuses for disappearing to "the farm" for hours. When I confronted her with the screenshots and the receipts, she didn't deny it—she just tried to turn the argument back on me. Between the financial drain and a recent health scare (an STI she likely contracted through the high-risk circles she's frequenting), the reality is clear. My support isn't going toward our future; it’s funding a Yaba habit that she refuses to acknowledge. I’m looking for advice from anyone who has navigated the legal and personal fallout of drug addiction in a long-term relationship here.

I have experience with addiction and unless she's willing to admit that there's a problem and seek help nothing will ever change. And if that's the case you need to get out and you need to do it ASAP. I seriously doubt as an addict that she's providing you with high quality companionship nor does she have your back 24/7.

So the real question remains why are you still there now that you have possession of this knowledge?

20 minutes ago, Stevey said:

The money is the issue now. If I give her money like before I am basically accepting I’m paying for her yaba

Once you give a woman money, it's her money to do with what she will.

Do you REALLY care how it's spent?

Can't say it bothers me.

38 minutes ago, blaze master said:

Your gf is also a meth addict ?

There is quite a difference in someone who is consuming 20 pills a day.

I would disagree with 50 percent.

Mine was on 10-15 a day when I married her.

She grew out of it.

I used to go to Thai night clubs, they were all taking it (yaba/yaIce), the serving girls, the girls out for the night, the dancers, university students, the village people. Back in the UK clubs, works parties, more molly and coke. Drugs are everywhere, it's entirely normal to take them.

Edited May 9May 9 by BritManToo

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Mine was on 10-15 a day when I married her.

She grew out of it.

I used to go to Thai night clubs, they were all taking it (yaba/yaIce), the serving girls, the girls out for the night, the dancers, university students, the village people. Back in the UK clubs, works parties, more moxy and coke. Drugs are everywhere, it's entirely normal to take them.

Sure they are. I just dont agree that 50 percent of thai are meth addicts.

2 hours ago, Stevey said:

You know nothing.

Sex with a condom is not worth the effort.

Good for you. No-condom sex with a drug addict. Hmmm

While you were with the same tweeker for 12 years with maybe a few on the side i was with close to 1000 different ones, all without condom...

3 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Nothing wrong here, sounds like your average, Asean Now members wife.

Looks like your superior DNA has failed you again, as no one who's a decent enough person assumes other member's wives here are meth heads or anything else, seeing you know none of them. Why do you come here, if all you want to do is trash other foreigners? Are you a Thai in drag? You've been called out more times than it's worth yet you still don't get it. Try saying that to anyone about their wives in person and you'll find out what karma really means.

17 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Mine was on 10-15 a day when I married her.

She grew out of it.

I used to go to Thai night clubs, they were all taking it (yaba/yaIce), the serving girls, the girls out for the night, the dancers, university students, the village people. Back in the UK clubs, works parties, more moxy and coke. Drugs are everywhere, it's entirely normal to take them.

Ever wonder about the mentality of all those who are constantly taking these types of drugs? Many do it to escape that lifestyle, at least for awhile in their minds, as depression has many self medicating. It isn't normal to take heavy drugs. This isn't about weed smoking but things that are mentally and physically addictive, and ruin your health fast as sh*t. If you don't have a strong will power, coke itself can ruin your future, along with those around you, Meth is even worse, and I've seen what it does to many and their families.

50 minutes ago, Stevey said:

Thanks for a supportive comment at a <deleted>ty time.

We’ve just had her shouting the place down because she’s not happy that I’ve discussed her being a yaba addict with people in the village as I tried to validate what AI was telling me so showed shocked friends and acquaintances photos of her chats with drug dealers asking for 800baht of something. She calls it gossip while I say it’s asking someone else the questions she won’t answer.

The money is the issue now. If I give her money like before I am basically accepting I’m paying for her yaba

On the sex. That’s been few and far between for years and it’s not bothered me as I have always seen her as not that interested since years back she announced that she had cum after 3 mins so I pulled out and decided I wouldn’t be bothering with that again especially as I could feel anything with the condom on. We broke up for a few years and got back together and I didn’t bother instigating sex as she didn’t seem that bothered. It worked out she was in a relationship with a local labourer in secret. Not much of a relationship as it consisted of secret meetings and talking on messenger behind my back. She left him broken hearted when she stopped answering his messages 3 years ago.

We started having sex again recently as I now had the realisation that my girlfriend was actually a sex maniac getting smashed all over the gaff. I love a used woman. But the lies are becoming too much as she won’t deny the addiction but won’t own up so we can draw a line under it. She appears to want to carry on with her 10k salary and keep buying Yaba. The massive scene she’s made today has finally come to an end as the fire has burned its self out. I think she’s also gonna miss the sex as she came a lot and I’m pretty much done with it as having to perform to get someone else to orgasm is such a chore

You already know your answers and a few here have said what to expect. You don't need this and cheating isn't a normal activity for anyone, and it rarely stops, along with a high risk of contracting something from her lifestyle that you don't need.

Cut those losses and find another you can trust. There are plenty here but take your time before you move in.

Contacts with those dealers can also turn out fatal, and for you also. This is a country where people kill for almost nothing, and losing money isn't nothing.

Lies beget lies and you'll lose your mind worrying. Those using meth can be very violent and you can lose all you have in a matter of seconds being around this. Nothing you said makes her worth staying with, but I think you already know this.

34 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Do you REALLY care how it's spent?

If you're married to a drug addict who sleeps around, why not just sleep with hookers instead? Much less hassle, better ROI, you can switch 'em up constantly, and you get nothing but sex from hookers, just like you get nothing else from this type of wife.

It's stupid to marry a low value woman with no or low income, sleeps around, and drug problems.

13 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Looks like your superior DNA has failed you again, as no one who's a decent enough person assumes other member's wives here are meth heads or anything else, seeing you know none of them. Why do you come here, if all you want to do is trash other foreigners? Are you a Thai in drag? You've been called out more times than it's worth yet you still don't get it. Try saying that to anyone about their wives in person and you'll find out what karma really means.

What are the 70yos going to do? Most farangs are ugly dating awful women.

1 hour ago, Stevey said:

You know nothing of how people can be addicted to drugs that just keep them on an even keel not high.

There is no way you’d say that to my face you coward.

Quite true as a person who's self medicating from depression will use stimulants to get up to "normal", although their thinking and actions will still be off.

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

If you're married to a drug addict who sleeps around, why not just sleep with hookers instead? Much less hassle, better ROI, you can switch 'em up constantly, and you get nothing but sex from hookers, just like you get nothing else from this type of wife.

It's stupid to marry a low value woman with no or low income, sleeps around, and drug problems.

It's stupid to tell a stranger how to date women. None of your business.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

What are the 70yos going to do? Most farangs are ugly dating awful women.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

I would say most foreigners are average looking with wives that are pretty nice, although some do have older women who are sometimes a little chubby that I'm thinking take very good care of them.No one can say how anyone's treated here unless they mention it themselves. I have quite a few friends here that seem to have decent wives, pretty and amiable, but no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.

42 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Once you give a woman money, it's her money to do with what she will.

Do you REALLY care how it's spent?

Can't say it bothers me.

Only because you live off a pension. If you were working you would not want it wasted.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

You sortof are ............ Definitely in the top 20!

Is that from just your own opinion, or does AN keep stats on these sort of things?

Where do you rank?

4 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

Is that from just your own opinion, or does AN keep stats on these sort of things?

Where do you rank?

I rank as high as any!

34 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

If you're married to a drug addict who sleeps around, why not just sleep with hookers instead? Much less hassle, better ROI, you can switch 'em up constantly, and you get nothing but sex from hookers, just like you get nothing else from this type of wife.

It's stupid to marry a low value woman with no or low income, sleeps around, and drug problems.

What if I'm a low value man?

And I got a daughter and a son from my wife, can't beat that for value!

Edited May 9May 9 by BritManToo

30 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Only because you live off a pension. If you were working you would not want it wasted.

I've always had more money than I could spend.

It seems pointless to just hoard it, until I die.

Another quality AN thread.

Classy

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

You live in cheap Thailand buying 2nd hand furniture. If you were rich you would be staying in 5 star hotels or living in spain.

Define rich.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

You live in cheap Thailand buying 2nd hand furniture. If you were rich you would be staying in 5 star hotels or living in spain.

You value stuff I don't really want or need.

As long as I can go cycling every morning, eat whatever I like, and have plenty of books, movies, TV shows, music (free), I'm content.

My old sofa is good enough.

Although I do sometimes think of replacing my 75" TV with an 85" TV.

Edited May 9May 9 by BritManToo

1 minute ago, Effective altruism said:

Define rich.

He is stuck in Thailand on a budget. That's not rich. Rich people can live in any country.

Just now, BritManToo said:

You value stuff I don't really want or need.

As long as I can go cycling every morning, eat whatever I like, and have plenty of books, movies, TV shows, music (free), I'm content.

My old sofa is good enough.

Cycling in 300 aqi is not fun.

46 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

What are the 70yos going to do? Most farangs are ugly dating awful women.

I assume you are posting from personal experience as usual!

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Cycling in 300 aqi is not fun.

Did you read what he said, what you quoted of him, before you replied?