Marriage Breakdown

[AZZZEY68]

A friend of mine married in January and she arrived in the UK in April.He wants her to go home and has paid for a ticket but she refused to get on the plane she is now demanding cash etc what a mess.

[Eff1n2ret]

A friend of mine married in January and she arrived in the UK in April.He wants her to go home and has paid for a ticket but she refused to get on the plane she is now demanding cash etc what a mess.

He made the commitment, he brought her here, if it now costs him, he'll know better next time, won't he?

Does he think you can marry someone from the other side of the world on a sale or return basis?

[0Mix1up]

well at least it wasn't drawn out

how long had they known each other?

[AZZZEY68]

God knows i have said all this to him what a mess he is in i did tell him not to marry.

[lazeeboy]

God knows i have said all this to him what a mess he is in i did tell him not to marry.

how much does she want ,probably not much ,pay her and learn a lesson......

[AZZZEY68]

One million bht but i dont believe she is entitled to anything, i said give her 1 k and pay for flight.

[mrbojangles]

Your friend better remember that even if he gives her a grand and pays for the flight, he will still be married to her. Don't give any dosh until divorce papers are signed, or she'll be wanting more later, IMHO.

[technocracy]

Your friend better remember that even if he gives her a grand and pays for the flight, he will still be married to her. Don't give any dosh until divorce papers are signed, or she'll be wanting more later, IMHO.

Head of the Nail firmly hit!

He needs to work out a deal - i.e. he needs her to sign all the divorce papers to let the divorce pass through unhindered and he'll pay her X amount.

Regardless of what he does such as cancelling visas etc and mrbojangles say they are still married and if he treats her like crap now - she will have him by the short and curlies when he wants to divorce.

[AZZZEY68]

Its all about length of time married in the UK she will get nothing.But i think get her home and offer her 1 k to sign divorce papers she will be more desperate once there.I really do feel for her as none of this is her fault a silly boy at 24 marrying a girl without thinking.

[simon43]

Have they been married for at least 1 year? If not, then he cannot get divorced...... (UK divorce law)

Simon

[Thanyaburi Mac]

Have they been married for at least 1 year? If not, then he cannot get divorced...... (UK divorce law)

Simon

Hmmm, if they got married in Thailand at the local amphur, they could get divorced there too.  Hopefully they could agree on a financial settlement, in writing, then both sign the amphur papers.  Fini.

Mac

[paulsmithson]

Two sides to every story!! Did he marry a Pattaya hooker or regular girl???

Either way he should try to make things work out. The poor girl has travelled half way round the world to be with him-She obviously trusted him and relied upon some integrity . now he comes across as the farang who thinks he is better than her in every way----Get your hand in your pocket pal and give the girl a decent settlement and learn from this experience-after all you are supposed to be a man"""

[scotty123456789]

I agree with you paul, this girl has travelled to the other side of the world, and is a human being, being a hooker or not.

She is not someone to just be tossed about like that.

I hope she takes him to the cleaners, cos he deserves eveything he gets.

Maybe he will think twice next time.

[britmaveric]

Well do agree should do things properly especially if he wants to get out of his marriage. Buying a 1 way ticket for her solves none of his problems.

[AZZZEY68]

Hooker or not she worked in the hotel but things get worse my wife has invited her to stay with us.In her words she is not a dog to be thrown out when it suits so im now in the middle but i wont see her on the streets.

[macduff]

Hooker or not she worked in the hotel but things get worse my wife has invited her to stay with us.In her words she is not a dog to be thrown out when it suits so im now in the middle but i wont see her on the streets.

Good for you azzzey. I'm sure things will settle down . They need some time out

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Hooker or not she worked in the hotel but things get worse my wife has invited her to stay with us.In her words she is not a dog to be thrown out when it suits so im now in the middle but i wont see her on the streets.

Good for you azzzey. I'm sure things will settle down . They need some time out

[mrbojangles]

Hooker or not she worked in the hotel but things get worse my wife has invited her to stay with us.In her words she is not a dog to be thrown out when it suits so im now in the middle but i wont see her on the streets.

Good for you azzzey. I'm sure things will settle down . They need some time out

Seconded

However, i'd imagine this breaks the terms of her visa (someone else confirm ?) as she is no longer living with her sponsor/husband or whatever the term.

[AZZZEY68]

No she can stay the full 2 years.I came home last night ad my wife her daughter and our guest were sat eating thai salad, i asked her what she was looking for she replied he must take care of me ?

I came 11000 miles for him he has not put any effort in and has just walked away from being married Thai people thake marriage seriously now he must pay !!!!!!

[mrbojangles]

No she can stay the full 2 years.

Maybe one of our better qualified guys can confirm but i don't think so. She is on a settlement visa of her spouse and if she isn't living with him taht's breaking the terms of the visa. However, unless she get's grassed up, i don't think it would be a problem until she goes for ILR.

I came 11000 miles

Not being pedantic but it's just short of 6,000 miles

[AZZZEY68]

That quote of 11000 miles came from the Embassy round trip ????

Or air miles??????

Hope i dont get lost on the landing ????

LOL

[Chris Lawrence]

No she can stay the full 2 years.I came home last night ad my wife her daughter and our guest were sat eating thai salad, i asked her what she was looking for she replied he must take care of me ?

I came 11000 miles for him he has not put any effort in and has just walked away from being married Thai people thake marriage seriously now he must pay !!!!!!

My wife's nephew marriage cost one motor bike and gold chain, a 17 year old lad and 16 year old girl. The marriage lasted less than 6 months, The payment was not refundable. Maybe it will cost more than a motor bike but gold has gone up?

Very sad to hear this, but the friend does need to settle the problem. Hard to really know what the story was, but if you are unhappy there is no need to remain in misery. Good luck to all concerned.

[gburns57au]

A friend of mine married in January and she arrived in the UK in April.He wants her to go home and has paid for a ticket but she refused to get on the plane she is now demanding cash etc what a mess.

Cant say I blame her.....

She goes back with nothing and she loses bulk face...the girl is scared shiteless...

Besides, he made the decision to marry her...so now he doesnt want to be married anymore...poor little Johnny...

You made the choice son....live with it or pay for it.

[AZZZEY68]

The latest is he has been to see a solicitor nd advised him nil payment to her not entiled to a thing.

My advise is do the correct thing and pay for a flight give her 1k and do the correct thing.

[Mahout Angrit]

The latest is he has been to see a solicitor nd advised him nil payment to her not entiled to a thing.

My advise is do the correct thing and pay for a flight give her 1k and do the correct thing.

Does she want to stay in UK? she could trade her status against his payout.

Maybe you should take her to a solicitor too (or citizens advice)

If she claimed domestic violence the solicitor may have different advice

[mrbojangles]

If she claimed domestic violence the solicitor may have different advice

We don't know the full details of what has happened. The guy, the gal, or both could be well out of order and both as stupid as each other but to give this as advice is just wrong. No domestic violence has been committed (or he would have told us already) so you are inviting her to lie. Too many people are using this as a get out clause.

Not getting at you personally, Mahout

[Mahout Angrit]

We don't know the full details of what has happened. The guy, the gal, or both could be well out of order and both as stupid as each other but to give this as advice is just wrong. No domestic violence has been committed (or he would have told us already) so you are inviting her to lie. Too many people are using this as a get out clause.

Sorry if it appears that I was recommending that course if it weren't true, that is not the case. You are correct we know very little about the reasons they split and why he wants her to return to Thailand as opposed to just splitting here and she go her separate way.

Azzzey will, no doubt, learn a lot more the longer she stays with him however if it is just a case that they realise they are simply incompatable then they should be able to talk and sort it out agreeably.

I really shouldn't have interferred, it is against my nature and my experience tells me that there is bound to be a lot more in this tale than we know. I will keep my nose out from now on but wish them good luck in finding a solution which suits them both.

I do think she could stay in UK for the full two years without a problem though and would of course need her husbands cooperation to remain further.

[the scouser]

The Borders and Immigration Agency can, in principle, withdraw the visa if the entire basis of it has been removed. However, in cases of matrimonial grief, they are loathe to do so as experience has taught them that the warring couple is, all of a sudden, lovey-dovey again. On the assumption that the BIA won't intervene, the woman will be quite entitled to stay in the UK for the validity of her settlement visa.

Scouse.

[macduff]

Mahout is right. All azzzey has to do is keep his ear to the ground and eventually the truth will come out from azzzey's girlfriend or wife. she can then interpret what really happened to azzzey, then they can take the appropriate action, whoever is to blame for the breakup will eventually come out. So lets wait and see. Keep us informed.

[AZZZEY68]

The guy in question has been to put it bluntly ######ed two other girls and wants her out the way.I am aware of this she is not i really did not want to get involved he does alot of my plumbing work on my buy to let houses i own.But there comes a time when you have to decide what is correct morally and i feel for the girl on Tuesday my wife and i purchased a winter coat for her as she had no cash.This is exactly why the UK VISA make it difficult for males to bring there girls to the UK, today i felt bad to be English i really did.

I now have decided she can stay with us rent free and get a job once he has £1500 pounds in the bank she can return home i will find the money to fund her flight if i have to.

I hope this is a lesson to us all if your unsure do not marry guys.