Briton Says Thai Woman Dumps Him After Getting His Bt17 Million

[TAWP]

Most the bashers in this thread appear to be men, TAWP. And, I suspect, western men at that.

Ofcourse, I don't argue that point...

[paulie2277]

who said dont put in what u cant afford to lose

[Martin]

In post #60, 'mikethevigoman' said:

'if you marry a bg your chances of being milked to death are very likely".

It is a pity that it has gone now, but in the very early days of this website we had a huge thread that examined in detail this phenomenon.

It fell to me to put "the view from rural Isaan".

What we see up here is some of the more reprehensible young women going off to the farang bars of Bangkok and the resorts and making a living from 'ripping off' farangs.

But we also see some good women who have been 'widowed' by an irresponsible Thai husband dumping them, or some unlucky Thai husband getting killed in a bike accident. Left with kids and aged parents to support, it makes a lot of sense for them to go 'fishing' for a responsible farang husband. Quite often, they are soon back with a good (or sometimes not so good) 'catch'.

In that thread, we came to the conclusion that farangs should be very wary of any bar 'girl' but not all the women in the bars are 'girls'. Some are sound women.

Also, we concluded that any sound woman is likely to be soon gone from the bar scene. They will have soon found out that, although the money may be good, it is dangerous, dirty work. So, being sound, they will have got themselves into a safer situation, but one where they will still meet farangs, and one in which they can make a better judgment of each farang that they meet. Hence we felt that farangs should be very wary of any who have been on the bar scene for longer than a month or so.

Strangely, there doesn’t seem to have been any deep research done into the broad field of farang-Thai cross-cultural relationships. Just a few little surveys of what Thai families feel about one of their daughters marrying a farang.

So, if any of you guys feel like spending a bit of your time doing some Sociology research, there’s lots of thesis fodder there for you.

My own research interest lies in what experiential learning Thai wives are getting out of living with their husbands in the West, and what effects those couples who come back to retire in the wife’s girlhood village may have in those villages as those villages may well then be. PM me if any of you want the article that I have just written on this.

In the meantime, repeat to all newbies my grandmother’s words: “If you act in haste, you may well repent at leisure”.

And tell them to remember the basic biological fact that all men have a brain which can think and a penis that can erect, but none have enough blood for both to happen at once.

[skiman1]

Steve happens to be a friend of mine and he's been totally screwed by his ex. He had built a beautiful house, basically a large freeform pool with the house built around it. In the back were ponds with islands with various orchids and tropical plants. His ex's family has now moved in and basically turned it into a cesspit. The one thing that has always pissed me off about the attitudes here is that people who come to Thailand should never trust their wives. Where I grew up, it was a given that you trusted your wife 100%. I've been married 3 times, once to a Korean for ten years who due to military commitments divorced amicably and I still miss. My second wife was Thai whom I married to ensure a job and who preceded to relieve me of 15 million Baht. Really stupid!!

My present wife of 12 years is also Thai and we have two great sons and I would be totally lost without her. I trust her and her family 100%. I had nothing when we married, but have now kicked it up to about 150,000 a month. Sorry about all the rambling, but Steve and I grew up in the same kind of environment where you trusted people. It is an extreme shock when you come to a place where most people are not honest.

Was Steves ex a bargirl previously or just a nasty bitch? I have sympathy for the guy as I have seen a number of friends of mine being shafted before by money grabbing bitches these cases involved "good girls" however and were in the UK

same same

[mikethevigoman]

hey, i'm married to an isaan farmers daughter. what's wrong with a good ole' country gal?

Absolutly nothing, i regard them in high esteem, i just wish i had one for a sister, i could have retired years ago ! ....as ive said before, the educated.worldly farang comes to thailand and an uneducated, non traveled country girl extracts all the farangs money without him seeing it coming, fantastic,

Educated, worldly farang? I dont think one would ever come to Thailand and fall for a whore.

Uneducated country girl? They maybe but they have one thing that these people are looking for.

Does education = degree? Does education = money?

As far as putting a bin at airport for leaving brains, it would always remain empty

Som nam na

"Educated, worldly farang? I dont think one would ever come to Thailand and fall for a whore" ,. i meant in relation to the girl, but as you mention it you are also wrong, i know of a few, !

[makescents]

Thais will steal the shirt off your back if you're not looking. Never give them the opportunity and you're alright.

It is really a shame that some farangs will generalize about all Thais based on their experience, which almost always involves living and cavorting with riff-raff--both Thai and farang.

Well put. What are these vehemently anti-Thai people doing here if they hate Thais so much?

Because the same people come here for one thing, and it isn't the food, culture or sight seeing.

MC

[Jim Abbott]

Personally I am elated that many here in the forum have married, built Issan houses and so forth. I have no problem with this whatsoever. For me however, in my personal life I will never ever marry here nor build an Issan home(s). I have a lockbox on all my cash and valuables and am very very comfortable doing that

[mr_hippo]

By an accident of birth, I am English and my wife is Thai; by some mysterious chemistry, we are very happy together and there must be other couples like us.

Now I am 59 and without revealing Mrs Hippo's age, let's say that she won't see 40 again. I was 52 when I first came here, what do I have in common with a 20 year old Thai girl? Possibly nothing! What would a 20 year old girl see in me? My sparkling after-dinner conversation? My wit & repartee? My ATM card? I don't think it would be the first two. I am not saying that spring-autumn romances/weddings do not work - some of them do.

I can see how some men can get sucked into these relationships. Long unhappy marriage, bitter divorce, nice sunshine, pretty girls paying attention to you, etc.

So do these men deserve to be pitied or ridiculed?

[meemiathai]

Realizing that there are so many stupid farangs by reading this thread, I am amazed that farangs are not being scammed more than we are hearing it. I'd say a lot here deserve to have their money and themselves parted. Look forward to hearing from you!

[mellow1]

Why did she get the entire house? Did she buy it before she married you? If you owned it before you married, she would not be able to touch it, except some of the appreciation of the houses value during the time you were married. Did you give it away out of the "goodness" of your heart? Or couldn't you afford a lawyer? What exactly is it that you are not telling us? I've never heard of such crock of shit. Either you are an imbecile, or believe all the readers are. What did you do wrong to be stripped of your home? you must have something terrible to hide. You think you are the only one who has been to court in a divorce and fought over marital assets? Tell us the story of the guy, where the court gives the wife the entire 24,000,000 Bath house (average middle class income housing,Lavish?). Do you think a woman in the West having a car, and living in a middle class house is lavish. Did the court feel that therefore, you are so rich, it could take the liberty to throw this house at her, because with your middle class status you could afford to by another, with no problem. There is a lot more to your story than you even come close to letting on.

I don't believe all readers here are embeciles but you obviously are. You ask what "I did wrong" but the English divorce process is not based on fault or wrong doing. The financial settlement went to court where I was represented by an expensive solicitor and barrister. My situation is not uncommon in the UK and I think that, if you were to take time to research the subject, you would find that the man comes off considerably worse in divorce all over the world.

I got divorced too in the USA, and although being an imbecile, I nevertheless managed to get a much better lawyer than you. As a matter of fact I kept the house and my ex walked away with enough money to buy a good used car and I kept the new one. The US is notorious for the types of divorces you seem to know so much about. But putting up a good fight goes a long way, and doing research in finding the best lawyer certainly does no harm.I also believe that there is no way in hel_l a UK judge is going to give your entire house(if it is your house) away to your ex-wife, without you being comparably compensated in return. Unless you did something considered very wrong,and you are just not telling the whole story. Your story don't fly as stated.

[meemiathai]

I wonder how much sin sod he paid? Where's all the forum braggarts who think this is the proper way (handing over your assets, no questions asked) to treat a fine, deserving Thai wife/GF?

The braggarts are now sick and thinking of the mess they are in. Maybe they are to drunk to answer

Are you guys jealous? It is sad to feel lonely I can understand and sympathize. Sorry for you.

[meemiathai]

The golden rule for me here is once again NEVER EVER MARRY A THAI under any circumstances.

Philippinas make better wives.

Speak for yourself!!!!

Dont bite brit,.people that have these opinions have a reason ( normally not stated ) for making these comments,.as ive said in my post if they cant find a decent woman in thailand they wont find one anywhere, not because there isnt any its because they have no selection skills ,.

I'm 33 and never had a problem getting women anywhere I have ever been. Lol.

People that need to come to Thailand to get laid or find a wife are the true losers!

33 yrs old. Does it really take that long for some human brains to develop?

[nick2k]

everybody knows that the odds of having a successful marriage is 50/50. that being the case, why then, do people get married????? ..think about it, the odds of a successful marriage is the same as gambling at a blackjack table in a casino.

and yet, people still get married.

get smart, don't get married. have kids if you want them. but do so with someone who agrees to not marry you, and expect you to split your assets with him/her if you stop living together.

need more tips?

http://www.nomarriage.com

marriage is like gambling. only one in a million hit the jackpot.

[mikethevigoman]

everybody knows that the odds of having a successful marriage is 50/50. that being the case, why then, do people get married????? ..think about it, the odds of a successful marriage is the same as gambling at a blackjack table in a casino.

and yet, people still get married.

get smart, don't get married. have kids if you want them. but do so with someone who agrees to not marry you, and expect you to split your assets with him/her if you stop living together.

need more tips?

http://www.nomarriage.com

marriage is like gambling. only one in a million hit the jackpot.

Cant agree for 2 reasons, 1/its a crock,2/ kids out of marriage ok ? irresponsible,.

[scotty123456789]

I must agree that getting married to an ex bargirl is not everyones cup of tea.

But i would not judge anyone doing this, the reason why, im due to marry my girlfriend who was once a bargirl.

These girls are human, and if farangs want to send them money, why would they say no?

I have dabbled with the naughty nightlife of los over the years, i have heard the lies and all the crap, but now i met a lovely girl 15 months ago and we are due to marry.

Ill tell you something, she treats me better than any of these fat, useless, slobs of english women, who only think of them selves.

So what im trying to say is, they are not all the same same my fellow friends.

We all know there is around a 10% out of a 100 chance of a relationship working with a former bar girl, maybe less, but im in the 10% mark.

Dont judge the bloke, he has got burnt, bigtime, but now he will learn his lesson.

Unless he aint already topped himself

[tijnebijn]

everybody knows that the odds of having a successful marriage is 50/50. that being the case, why then, do people get married????? ..think about it, the odds of a successful marriage is the same as gambling at a blackjack table in a casino.

and yet, people still get married.

get smart, don't get married. have kids if you want them. but do so with someone who agrees to not marry you, and expect you to split your assets with him/her if you stop living together.

need more tips?

http://www.nomarriage.com

marriage is like gambling. only one in a million hit the jackpot.

Common , you know you are talking rubbish .

Or whatever I just disagree with you .

No hard feelings , we agree to disagree .

[Andiamo]

I must agree that getting married to an ex bargirl is not everyones cup of tea.

But i would not judge anyone doing this, the reason why, im due to marry my girlfriend who was once a bargirl.

These girls are human, and if farangs want to send them money, why would they say no?

I have dabbled with the naughty nightlife of los over the years, i have heard the lies and all the crap, but now i met a lovely girl 15 months ago and we are due to marry.

Ill tell you something, she treats me better than any of these fat, useless, slobs of english women, who only think of them selves.

So what im trying to say is, they are not all the same same my fellow friends.

We all know there is around a 10% out of a 100 chance of a relationship working with a former bar girl, maybe less, but im in the 10% mark.

Dont judge the bloke, he has got burnt, bigtime, but now he will learn his lesson.

Unless he aint already topped himself

OUCH!!!!! Are you for real? You've got a serious chip on your shoulder. Methinks somebody got their fingers burnt back in Blighty huh.... Most of my farang female friends here are so NOT in the category you quote above - talk about stereotyping!

YAWN. Excuse me - haven't I heard this before.

A little bit of respect to people regardless of sex or nationality goes a long way. It's never too late to change.

[Jim Abbott]

I must agree that getting married to an ex bargirl is not everyones cup of tea.

But i would not judge anyone doing this, the reason why, im due to marry my girlfriend who was once a bargirl.

These girls are human, and if farangs want to send them money, why would they say no?

I have dabbled with the naughty nightlife of los over the years, i have heard the lies and all the crap, but now i met a lovely girl 15 months ago and we are due to marry.

Ill tell you something, she treats me better than any of these fat, useless, slobs of english women, who only think of them selves.

So what im trying to say is, they are not all the same same my fellow friends.

We all know there is around a 10% out of a 100 chance of a relationship working with a former bar girl, maybe less, but im in the 10% mark.

Dont judge the bloke, he has got burnt, bigtime, but now he will learn his lesson.

Unless he aint already topped himself

Wow, yours is different

[scotty123456789]

No mate, i have never been burnt, just took me along time to realise that they are not all the same.

My oppinion is, English women, a f**king no no for me ah kid.

[Pattaya_Fox]

Please remember the forum rules especially concerning flaming other members and degrading comments about women.

Some of you are very close to getting a warning...so let`s be nice to each other.

[scotty123456789]

No worrys fox......

Scotty..

[Lancelot]

Thais will steal the shirt off your back if you're not looking. Never give them the opportunity and you're alright.

It is really a shame that some farangs will generalize about all Thais based on their experience, which almost always involves living and cavorting with riff-raff--both Thai and farang.

Well put. What are these vehemently anti-Thai people doing here if they hate Thais so much?

Who said they hated Thais?

I thought octagon only said you couldn't trust them when it comes to money?

Forget it man. Unless you are in the "If you don't think Thailand is perfect, then go home" camp, all you will get here is abuse. Many of the self absorbed Thai experts aren't even in Thailand

[pnustedt]

I got divorced too in the USA, and although being an imbecile, I nevertheless managed to get a much better lawyer than you. As a matter of fact I kept the house and my ex walked away with enough money to buy a good used car and I kept the new one. The US is notorious for the types of divorces you seem to know so much about. But putting up a good fight goes a long way, and doing research in finding the best lawyer certainly does no harm.I also believe that there is no way in hel_l a UK judge is going to give your entire house(if it is your house) away to your ex-wife, without you being comparably compensated in return. Unless you did something considered very wrong,and you are just not telling the whole story. Your story don't fly as stated.

You obviously know next to nothing about the English system of family law and perhaps you should not post about it!

[thaigene2]

I got divorced too in the USA, and although being an imbecile, I nevertheless managed to get a much better lawyer than you. As a matter of fact I kept the house and my ex walked away with enough money to buy a good used car and I kept the new one. The US is notorious for the types of divorces you seem to know so much about. But putting up a good fight goes a long way, and doing research in finding the best lawyer certainly does no harm.I also believe that there is no way in hel_l a UK judge is going to give your entire house(if it is your house) away to your ex-wife, without you being comparably compensated in return. Unless you did something considered very wrong,and you are just not telling the whole story. Your story don't fly as stated.

You obviously know next to nothing about the English system of family law and perhaps you should not post about it!

Isn't this thread about a Brit who got shafted by a thai wife in THAILAND?

Maybe it's time close this thread. Mod?

[pnustedt]

Isn't this thread about a Brit who got shafted by a thai wife in THAILAND?

Maybe it's time close this thread. Mod?

The thread is about a man seeking redress through the Thai legal system to obtain compensation for the loss of his assets after the breakdown of his marriage. I find it an interesting topic as, I am sure many members will, and it is particularly interesting to compare what does or may happen in Thailand with other parts of the world. I do not understand why you want to have the thread closed.

[scotty123456789]

Because its getting boring

[pnustedt]

Because its getting boring

Then stop reading it!

[meemiathai]

Isn't this thread about a Brit who got shafted by a thai wife in THAILAND?

Maybe it's time close this thread. Mod?

The thread is about a man seeking redress through the Thai legal system to obtain compensation for the loss of his assets after the breakdown of his marriage. I find it an interesting topic as, I am sure many members will, and it is particularly interesting to compare what does or may happen in Thailand with other parts of the world. I do not understand why you want to have the thread closed.

Is it selfishness? I never understand why people ask for threads to be closed unless they started it. Is it not as simple as just not to read it? Strange people!

[scotty123456789]

This thread is moving away from its original story.

I agree with thaigene2, close it

Anyways im off..................

[thaigene2]

Look - I agree the topic is very interesting. It's just that the posts have strayed WAY OFF TOPIC to things like US and England/Wales Family Law. Who gives a sh+t?

The thread is about a British guy in trouble in Thailand because (allegedly) his Thai wife took the house, his cash, then threw him out in THAILAND! So who cares about US, British, Aussie, Canadian laws?? Completely off topic! Briths and certainly US family law has no bearing whatever!

So let's get back on topic or close it. Isn't that fair? Or do you want more rambling?