Just Men And Women

[Etrigan]

There's so much discussion here about them/us, farang/thai, tourist/expat, gay/straight, thai girls/farang girls, ....and to be completely honest, I'm getting tired of the same old formula applied to new terms. Perhaps it's the legacy of divide and conquer.

How about this fellow TV'ers?

When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!

Am I the only one who thinks this way?

If I am, i promise to take my coat and leave quietly!

[PhilHarries]

I know where you are coming from and agree with you to a point. Yes, irrespective of sex, race and religion we are all the same species, homo sapiens.

However it is true that within our particular niches within that species we are different. Given the same situation a woman will generally view it differently to a man and, again generally speaking, two women will view the same situation similarly as will two men. It goes the same across race, nationality, religion and sexual orientation.

So although on first encounter I treat all people basically the same, they start at the same mid point, I do treat them slightly different according to their variance. Everyone gets the same basic treatment but modified in defference to their gender, race etc.

Does it warrant threads comparing men and women, Asians and westerners etc? Probably not but that, for many of us, is the way we go through life. If you don’t like those type of threads don’t go there.

[intumult]

There's so much discussion here about them/us, farang/thai, tourist/expat, gay/straight, thai girls/farang girls, ....and to be completely honest, I'm getting tired of the same old formula applied to new terms. Perhaps it's the legacy of divide and conquer.

How about this fellow TV'ers?

When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!

Am I the only one who thinks this way?

If I am, i promise to take my coat and leave quietly!

I would expect that we all have some idea of what to expect from people from other cultures based on what we have heard or read or been told by other people. Education of life can teach us a lot too. Doesn't this also apply to people from our own countries?

We, as individuals, can reserve judgement on others while we give them time to show us what they are really like before forming a more concrete opinion.

Someone working in a bar in Thailand will have a certain reputation that precedes them. A person from 'That rough Council house estate' will also be pre-judged to some degree. Surely the same goes for all other walks of life? If a man has had several bad encounters with women he will be wary of the next. Life teaches us that. Same goes for anyone mugged by some 'Hoodie' teenager etc. etc.

It is a better man/woman that stays open minded before making that final judgement because people are not always what they appear to be.

Yes, give people a chance and then decide because life is complicated enough.

[JOHN2]

You say you are getting tired of it all yet you start another thread on the subject??

[Suszzy]

When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!

Am I the only one who thinks this way?

No..definitely not!!

[jetjock]

When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!

Am I the only one who thinks this way?

I don't buy into that way of thinking. When I meet a girl for the first time at a bar in Pattaya and she says 'Hello Handsum Man" I already have expectations that she is just out for my money (even though I agree her statement about my looks ! ).

[lazeeboy]

When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!

Am I the only one who thinks this way?

I don't buy into that way of thinking. When I meet a girl for the first time at a bar in Pattaya and she says 'Hello Handsum Man" I already have expectations that she is just out for my money (even though I agree her statement about my looks ! ).

[xyborg]

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When I meet a man for the first time and know nothing about him, I acknowledge the individual as just that, a man. Not a "Thai" or a "Farang" or any other unwarrantied label. Likewise, when I meet a woman for the first time, the individual is just that, a woman. There are no other expectations. We are all equally people, so why complicate life any more than it already is!<br /><br />Am I the only one who thinks this way?

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Its in our nature to judge each person for our survival, if we didnt make a few asumptions we end up dead in lot of cases. You make an assumption and then wait for the real proof to come later.

[mark henry]

Agree with what others have said, we are pre-programmed to discriminate from the moment we are born, this is my Mother/source of nourishment/comfort he/she is'nt, i'll cross the road here that group of "hoodies" may beat-me-up, i'll hide my money here comes a bar girl. It's a matter of survival and quite natural, trick is to try and keep an open mind that that some one/situation does'nt fit the stereotype.