Real Price Of A 10 Baht Gold Wedding

[a2396]

As an aside, I got a phone call from the g/f since my morning post. Family wanted me round their place tonight. Mother is cooking for me, it seems.

Such a shame (sarcasm) that I have already arranged to be out watching the football and having a drink or two at the cat-house tonight. The g/f did not sound best pleased when I told her where LOL.

So, on Sunday, I am invited instead. Not that I can imagine what they want to talk about - unless something has happened or been said that needs discussing. I wonder if Aunty will be there.

What are the odds this will be the 'Last Supper'?

You have to laugh at the irony of it

Roll on Monday. At least I'll be a long way away from it all in BKK

A2396 - would that be extra large hole in the doughnut???

Whatever size hole fits their "Great Expectations". At the "cathouse" and soon to be married??? Tsk, tsk, tsk. I hope it's only a drink you're having.

[owenjones]

As for the wife, I did pay for a (5 million Baht) 7 town house complex to be built, and of course it is all hers. (Thai law) Now we are considering a 7 million baht home... again all hers.

Not Thai law - you may own the house, but may not own the land, unless you employ legal chicanery.

[Dakhar]

As for the wife, I did pay for a (5 million Baht) 7 town house complex to be built, and of course it is all hers. (Thai law) Now we are considering a 7 million baht home... again all hers.

Not Thai law - you may own the house, but may not own the land, unless you employ legal chicanery.

I think that would be I could own 49% of the complex? Even if so, then I think I would have to claim a business etc. If that is the case that is more than I want to deal with.

I do not mind the concept of her owning the building it is off of the books, or at least the books I want them to be off of...

[intumult]

Now it is 8 p.m.

Dinner is over and it was not an easy meeting. Certainly not something I want to do again for a long time, thanks very much.

I told them I refused to pay 10/10 especially as I was taking on 2 kids who are not mine or the g/f's either and the responsibility that goes with that.

There was a certain frost in ther air and stiffening of bodies and faces especially when I asked if they wanted so much because I am a Farang and the g/f nodded an affirmative. The g/f released my hand and a perceptible gap opened up LOL. I said I understood now that the relationship to be off.

Now -and this is weird -:

The g/f took me to another room and told me she still wants to see me and still be a g/f but not married. ??? Huh ???

She talked of not being happy seeing me for a few hours and talked of moving in to my house. ??? double huh ???

So, I have left them to it. She wants to talk to mother about living with me here. H_ll, I cannot see that hapening in a month of Sundays.

I do not know if this is some weird 'Face' thing or some form of torture.

As I left I told her to phone tonight to let me know what is happening and that by 10 I'll be in the pub watching football. Early a.m. she knows I am off to BKK to sort my flight out and knows an answer is needed tonight. No answer = no relationship.

Talk about being left hanging!! No wonder I need to get out and have a drink. That was stressful.

[intumult]

Yes, we were at the cathouse watching football and having a drink. Nakhonsawan pubs were closed for 2 days (Friday / Saturday) and May is happy to let us have a drink there and to watch footy on the big screen.

I am faithful, though tempted. And tonight will know if I am free to play the field again

[intumult]

No insults have been taken by me over any of this.

It started out as a general query before I realised I could have entitled the topic something like ' Interfering b*tch of an Aunt pokes her nose in' or something similar.

I am becoming more hardened to this game. After various sin sot demands from 1.5 million down over, I will in future be getting that out of the way a lot quicker, to see if they really are after money, or the stated love.

Seems to me that, if we do not let some of these ladies into our hearts then we must be cold fish. I am dissapointed and maybe feeling downtrodden at the moment but life has to go on and there are plenty of ladies out there. So, maybe tomorrow, or next week, or whenever, it will all start again - depending on the next few hours. Not a prospect I am looking forward to but one ex g/f has already told me she will vet the next one!!! LOL

Vodka time!!!

[geriatrickid]

Poor girl. All this meddling and all she wants is you. If you love her, then go live in sin with her. Screw the wedding and see how you guys manage in the next year.

[rgs2001uk]

Now it is 8 p.m.

Dinner is over and it was not an easy meeting. Certainly not something I want to do again for a long time, thanks very much.

I told them I refused to pay 10/10 especially as I was taking on 2 kids who are not mine or the g/f's either and the responsibility that goes with that.

There was a certain frost in ther air and stiffening of bodies and faces especially when I asked if they wanted so much because I am a Farang and the g/f nodded an affirmative. The g/f released my hand and a perceptible gap opened up LOL. I said I understood now that the relationship to be off.

Now -and this is weird -:

The g/f took me to another room and told me she still wants to see me and still be a g/f but not married. ??? Huh ???

because she now realises she is about to lose the best thing ever to have happened to her, she also realises half of something is better than half of nothing, the family f**ked up big time thinking they were dealing with a buffalo.

She talked of not being happy seeing me for a few hours and talked of moving in to my house. ??? double huh ???

clutching at straws

So, I have left them to it. She wants to talk to mother about living with me here. H_ll, I cannot see that hapening in a month of Sundays.

I do not know if this is some weird 'Face' thing or some form of torture.

thats exactly what it is, saving face on their part, they also know no thai man would take on a girl in the same situation. they also no thats it highly unlikely she will ever meet a farang again who was willing to do what you proposed, before being led like a lamb to the slaughter. you have to love the internet

As I left I told her to phone tonight to let me know what is happening and that by 10 I'll be in the pub watching football. Early a.m. she knows I am off to BKK to sort my flight out and knows an answer is needed tonight. No answer = no relationship.

no answer needed on your part, look on it this way, you can walk out into the street and replace this girl within 5 minutes, how quickly will you be replaced?

Talk about being left hanging!! No wonder I need to get out and have a drink. That was stressful.

ah farang khit mak( think too much , ya tong khit mak, dont think too much), i would imagine the aunt has a lot of explaining to do, however i already know how she will wriggle out of that, she will tell the girl and her mother that you didnt love the girl enough to put up with their little games, and the girl and family are better of without you, so know the family can save fave by telling the village that you were a cheap charlie who they saw through, the girls honour will now be intact, and they will be interviewing prospective husband shortly. go and get sh*tfaced and drink a toast to your lucky escape.

to be honest, i would switch the phone off, the girl blew her chance by letting you walk out the door, i wouldnt play their head games, no doubt they have already f**ked with your head enough, why do you need the stress and hassle? you dont, move on, plenty more out there, at least the next time you will already have a heads up into the thai way of thinking.

good luck and well done, take it on the chin and move on, as i said before all it has cost you is a bit of time, however the lesson you had is priceless.

[intumult]

HOLD THE PRESS

I got the phone call as I was in the shower. So now I have the answer I was dreading waiting for after the stress of today and what was quite a daunting prospect facing the family and parents by myself and not knowing what their reaction might be.

Huh?? You want to know what she said? Nosey blighters that you are. I suppose I will have to give you her answer. The lady in question phoned and I asked if she was ok and she said, 'I ok.' I asked why she had phoned and she said, 'Khun Ow. Chan Ow.' For those that do not speak Thai, the lady said, 'Yes.' :D

I am gobsmacked. Over the moon too. Now I can look forward to waking up next to one beautiful, tousle haired woman and maybe having the two nieces bouncing on the bed on a morning as I gasp, 'COFFEE!!'

There has to be a lesson here for all the doubters and cynics - myself included. Maybe there is true love after all. No marriage, but for her parents to consent to her moving into my place has me stunned at the moment especially as I refused the sin sot - or was that part of their plan? I'll likely never know. Could be the lady in question does really love me and her parents simply want her to be happy.

Now I can reveal a little secret.

Nah, I'll think about it first.

Yippeee!! I am no longer to be a free man to roam around collecting telephone numbers from other delicious young ladies

No marriage, but as good as.

Now I am off to her house to pick her up and WE are off to the pub !!!

I'm singing and dancing in the rain - or is it that water being thrown for Songkran

[worldfun]

wow congrats to you - guess it caught the naysayers with their pants down LOL

a last comment though since you're now in a kinda undecided setup with your gf I'm sure the wedding will come up again sooner or later & thus some kind of renegotiating will be going on & thus don't forget what your offer was (2/2 vs. 10/10).

good luck & happy new year!

cheers!

[a2396]

HOLD THE PRESS

I got the phone call as I was in the shower. So now I have the answer I was dreading waiting for after the stress of today and what was quite a daunting prospect facing the family and parents by myself and not knowing what their reaction might be.

Huh?? You want to know what she said? Nosey blighters that you are. I suppose I will have to give you her answer. The lady in question phoned and I asked if she was ok and she said, 'I ok.' I asked why she had phoned and she said, 'Khun Ow. Chan Ow.' For those that do not speak Thai, the lady said, 'Yes.' :D

I am gobsmacked. Over the moon too. Now I can look forward to waking up next to one beautiful, tousle haired woman and maybe having the two nieces bouncing on the bed on a morning as I gasp, 'COFFEE!!'

There has to be a lesson here for all the doubters and cynics - myself included. Maybe there is true love after all. No marriage, but for her parents to consent to her moving into my place has me stunned at the moment especially as I refused the sin sot - or was that part of their plan? I'll likely never know. Could be the lady in question does really love me and her parents simply want her to be happy.

Now I can reveal a little secret.

Nah, I'll think about it first.

Yippeee!! I am no longer to be a free man to roam around collecting telephone numbers from other delicious young ladies

No marriage, but as good as.

Now I am off to her house to pick her up and WE are off to the pub !!!

I'm singing and dancing in the rain - or is it that water being thrown for Songkran

Very good for you and best of luck to you both. I really did not know why you were so set on marriage, unless you wanted to take her back to your country. Your description of events was quite profecient. My recent post (about another topic) was not nearly so suspensefull & I got painted with the Troll tar brush several times. It will be interesting how and what she is going to explain to her parents about her relationship with you. I expect they will be putting the heat on her to be a decent woman & break it off with you. Good luck and, to one of the previous posters, who said she could be replaced in 5 minutes - That is quite an idiotic reply to someone like yourself, who has strong feelings for the woman. I assume you love her and she loves you. Not something you find in 5 minutes.

[khunandy]

HOLD THE PRESS

I got the phone call as I was in the shower. So now I have the answer I was dreading waiting for after the stress of today and what was quite a daunting prospect facing the family and parents by myself and not knowing what their reaction might be.

Huh?? You want to know what she said? Nosey blighters that you are. I suppose I will have to give you her answer. The lady in question phoned and I asked if she was ok and she said, 'I ok.' I asked why she had phoned and she said, 'Khun Ow. Chan Ow.' For those that do not speak Thai, the lady said, 'Yes.' :D

I am gobsmacked. Over the moon too. Now I can look forward to waking up next to one beautiful, tousle haired woman and maybe having the two nieces bouncing on the bed on a morning as I gasp, 'COFFEE!!'

There has to be a lesson here for all the doubters and cynics - myself included. Maybe there is true love after all. No marriage, but for her parents to consent to her moving into my place has me stunned at the moment especially as I refused the sin sot - or was that part of their plan? I'll likely never know. Could be the lady in question does really love me and her parents simply want her to be happy.

Now I can reveal a little secret.

Nah, I'll think about it first.

Yippeee!! I am no longer to be a free man to roam around collecting telephone numbers from other delicious young ladies

No marriage, but as good as.

Now I am off to her house to pick her up and WE are off to the pub !!!

I'm singing and dancing in the rain - or is it that water being thrown for Songkran

Well played, all the best for the future and I think you have laid a good foundation in regard to how much you will be "pushed around" or manipulated by her family. I would however cut the parents a bit of slack as i suspect the Aunt played the biggest role in the 10/10 deal.

[Huey]

HOLD THE PRESS

I got the phone call as I was in the shower. So now I have the answer I was dreading waiting for after the stress of today and what was quite a daunting prospect facing the family and parents by myself and not knowing what their reaction might be.

Huh?? You want to know what she said? Nosey blighters that you are. I suppose I will have to give you her answer. The lady in question phoned and I asked if she was ok and she said, 'I ok.' I asked why she had phoned and she said, 'Khun Ow. Chan Ow.' For those that do not speak Thai, the lady said, 'Yes.' :D

I am gobsmacked. Over the moon too. Now I can look forward to waking up next to one beautiful, tousle haired woman and maybe having the two nieces bouncing on the bed on a morning as I gasp, 'COFFEE!!'

There has to be a lesson here for all the doubters and cynics - myself included. Maybe there is true love after all. No marriage, but for her parents to consent to her moving into my place has me stunned at the moment especially as I refused the sin sot - or was that part of their plan? I'll likely never know. Could be the lady in question does really love me and her parents simply want her to be happy.

Now I can reveal a little secret.

Nah, I'll think about it first.

Yippeee!! I am no longer to be a free man to roam around collecting telephone numbers from other delicious young ladies

No marriage, but as good as.

Now I am off to her house to pick her up and WE are off to the pub !!!

I'm singing and dancing in the rain - or is it that water being thrown for Songkran

AWSOME! Good Deal man I'm happy for ya!

[intumult]

A2396 - Very good for you and best of luck to you both. I really did not know why you were so set on marriage, unless you wanted to take her back to your country. Your description of events was quite profecient. My recent post (about another topic) was not nearly so suspensefull & I got painted with the Troll tar brush several times. It will be interesting how and what she is going to explain to her parents about her relationship with you. I expect they will be putting the heat on her to be a decent woman & break it off with you. Good luck and, to one of the previous posters, who said she could be replaced in 5 minutes - That is quite an idiotic reply to someone like yourself, who has strong feelings for the woman. I assume you love her and she loves you. Not something you find in 5 minutes.

Agreed on the 5 minutes. It takes time and effort on both sides to find a decent Thai woman who is no way from the 'bar scene' and find one that - as she did - who buys me presents, who will cook for me and bring it to the house on the family motorbike or phone to say she has/is cooking me dinnerand who genuinely seems to care. Not many women can take a chunk of my heart, cynical as I am nowadays.

Thanks too for the good luck wishes. It will be the Thai 'Party wedding' and not official. Please note I have said will be (obvious further on in my general reply).

I get called a Troll often enough, but then again, many Farang here do not live the same lifestyle and are never involved in the same situations.

He_l, I was gobsmacked when the parents told my Thai intermediary they were very concerned I would take the children and sell them to other Farang. Seems some Thai's have strange ideas about us. But if I had put that earlier in the post, people would have screamed Troll from the start.

As for cutting the deal as it is, or as it was offered by T telling her family she was happy to move in with me and stuff the money they (via the Aunt) were asking for, I have also relented somewhat and told her I will still marry her 'Thai Party Style'. Offered the parents 100K and said I will pay for the party too. This was accepted tonight. To me, this helps them save 'face' and shows, I hope, good will on my part without them thinking they can roll me over at any one point.

I have to commend the g/f for her guts in telling her parents that she would move in regardless. Seems she does love me after all and that was the reason for asking her to marry me, now I know it is for love and not for the money on her part.

Overall, I am a happy man. I adore kids in general, so her 2 nieces are no problem especially as I have a good relationship with them already. Some of us are happy to have families, some not, but I am content with this arrangement.

I do hope it shows them that not all Farang will capitulate and be shoved around {khunandy} but it is a great shame that Thais do seem to see us as money trees to have our money fruit plucked at any given time and for any reason.

I have to agree about the Thai ladies being looked on as 'tainted goods' as the last 3 g/f had bad problems after we broke up, but if they had been more interested in me than money, I would have been happy with any one of them. I have worked hard for what I have and constant demands to drain my resources are not looked upon kindly by me. I accept that, as part of a family, we are expected to help here and there, I like others refuse to be the ATM that pays for the lot.

I'll let you guys know what happens in the future. I have told T that I am happy to wait until I go to the U.K. in August and return in September before we do the 'Party'. This also give me time to make sure all is as it seems to be (ever watchful and wary that I am)