Full Time Maid

[Pierrot]

I never had a maid before I moved to Asia. My parents, both were working, had a part time helper, but I never had any real contact with her beside hello / goodbye.

It was my wife who insisted we hired a maid, and I have to say that her presence sometime really made me feel uncomfortable because I didn't know how to handle the relation. We are now back to a part-time who usually comes when we are out at work, the house is clean and we have our privacy back.

But my question is, for people having full time maid, how do you handle the relation? And people who don't, how do you treat other people maid?

[steelepulse]

Our maid comes at 7 am and leaves at 4 pm.  I really don't want a live-in (spy).  Wife makes sure that the maids are not lookers, but can actually clean and do their work.

[tuky]

I tried to give mine a tip once, unfortunately I chose the wrong place to do it (in the garden out the back) and she refused, raced around the front of the house where she sought the safety of others.

When she calmed down and I told her that it was just a tip to say thanks rather than a proposition we all got a good laugh out of it.

I have had several live-ins and despite the uncomfyness of it I did like the fact that I could send her out to buy beer during the night.

[Naam]

I never had a maid before I moved to Asia. My parents, both were working, had a part time helper, but I never had any real contact with her beside hello / goodbye.

It was my wife who insisted we hired a maid, and I have to say that her presence sometime really made me feel uncomfortable because I didn't know how to handle the relation. We are now back to a part-time who usually comes when we are out at work, the house is clean and we have our privacy back.

But my question is, for people having full time maid, how do you handle the relation? And people who don't, how do you treat other people maid?

for those of us who did not grow up with a silver spoon in the mouth (like me) dealing with domestic servants is not an easy task. in spite of employing servants in various countries and for many years i never felt (until recently) really comfortable and let my wife (who is used to servants since she was a baby) handle all related matters. the situation has changed quite a bit since we live in Thailand. we have a live-in couple, treat them like distant family members (sort of / kinda ) and all parties are quite happy with the arrangement. i do hope that i won't be disappointed in future

[Pierrot]

I never had a maid before I moved to Asia. My parents, both were working, had a part time helper, but I never had any real contact with her beside hello / goodbye.

It was my wife who insisted we hired a maid, and I have to say that her presence sometime really made me feel uncomfortable because I didn't know how to handle the relation. We are now back to a part-time who usually comes when we are out at work, the house is clean and we have our privacy back.

But my question is, for people having full time maid, how do you handle the relation? And people who don't, how do you treat other people maid?

for those of us who did not grow up with a silver spoon in the mouth (like me) dealing with domestic servants is not an easy task. in spite of employing servants in various countries and for many years i never felt (until recently) really comfortable and let my wife (who is used to servants since she was a baby) handle all related matters. the situation has changed quite a bit since we live in Thailand. we have a live-in couple, treat them like distant family members (sort of / kinda ) and all parties are quite happy with the arrangement. i do hope that i won't be disappointed in future

Thanks for highlighting the question, it makes the post much more clear.