Oh come on guys, please get real.

This is a matter of social service.

You all KNOW your only function here is to foot the bill. It is very seldom (but I must concede that it does happen) that the true love and happiness forever thing wil prevail in such a relationship.

After all, look at where you go to find these girls.

So, just make up your minds on what percentage of your income you are willing to sacrifice and do it. You will be doing something for the greater welbeing of the rural areas, and you will getting something on the side for it. It's just a shame taht you cannot get a tax rebate for it.

Perhaps somebody could register a charity organisation that these girls can subscribe to. - Hey that is a thought!

oh no another one

how long will it last before who ever tttttt....rolls off

I live in thailand and have been coming here for 20 years - I keep away from anyone who looks to be not เจียมตัว . Gìríyaa maaráyâat(good manners) is basic to decent thai women but then she has emotional power over you and is recklessly trying to take you for everything you have - fortunately she jumped the gun, by showing her real nature, before you bought her a house or something, and you can leave before losing anything of high value.

On the point of whether Thai women say "i love you etc". I am over twice as old as my beautiful mia noi and she certainly behaves as if she is very much in love with me. She is most thankful whenever I give her any money, which monthly total is less than what she makes at her factory job. But then, as a successful and good looking slim farang, she knows I could get another to replace her tommorow---all these things count - leverage matters in relationships as much as in business.

Do you really need this ungrateful low class b***h in your life? Dump her and move on!

I normally refrain from offering comments in these situations, but oh why not....will bite this time

I cant say Im offering any type of advice, each has to make their own decision, but this is how I have and would view things/relationships

(Ive always been involved with someone thats 'different' to me in almost every aspect - different culture (east vs west), different age range (older and younger), and this is what I learnt

we can try to figure out and put things down to the difference in whatever background it is, but the bottom line is if the way they treat you is not how you want to be treated, its irrelevant whether that is part of your partner's culture or not, if he/she is not willing to make adjustment to how they treat you knowing that it bothers you immensely, then it cant work

it is one thing to say this is the culture with regards to tradition and norm (for eg. religious rites, or live in with family or whatever other norms might be), but when it comes to personal behaviour between her and you, this is something SHE has control over. culture and norm does not dictate that she treats you without respect by being rude to you.

your 'reason' for wanting to adopt a family sounds noble, but is that really the kind of 'family' you want to expose your children to? I think you need to separate the 2 and work out what you really want - or maybe 3 things from how I see it - a partner, a loving environment (through extended family?) for your children, and your wish to 'help' the needy

if things dont work out between you and your partner, I dont see how you will get access to that extended family for your children. while the third - you can do that through any other charitable projects, there are a lot of needy people around us everywhere.

whatever you decide but some things will need to change for it to work might be both of you need to adjust, but from what you have shared, she needs to change a fair bit.....

- all the best,

Strangely enough, some people tend to favor relationships where they are treated badly. Cultural differences, age ranges, etc. aside, the worst they're treated, the more attached they become to their partner. I believe the OP doesn't look at her as someone who treats him badly (although we might see it as rude), as he keeps coming back for more. His partner is never going to change as it's in her nature to ive him what he wants. She probably enjoys watching him squirm. If he was able to make a decision, he wouldn't have anything to do with her much less expose his family to her mannerisms. I guess everybody brings something to the table.

Strangely enough, some people tend to favor relationships where they are treated badly. Cultural differences, age ranges, etc. aside, the worst they're treated, the more attached they become to their partner. I believe the OP doesn't look at her as someone who treats him badly (although we might see it as rude), as he keeps coming back for more. His partner is never going to change as it's in her nature to ive him what he wants. She probably enjoys watching him squirm. If he was able to make a decision, he wouldn't have anything to do with her much less expose his family to her mannerisms. I guess everybody brings something to the table.

I think you're dead on. I have seen it over and over in farang / farang relationships. I have friends who date very nice, polite, loving women and they ruin it by walking all over them. They treat them poorly because they know they can and they lose all respect for the women. But when that same guy starts dating a real bitch who rides his ass and treats him like a child he's in heaven.

But just to go back to the point I made in the previous post, in Thailand a lot of these dysfunctional type relationships end up becoming violent. Knives come out, slashings, stabbings, etc are not so uncommon that they shouldn't be considered. Even if one is into abusive relationships it would probably be better to be with an abusive farang woman than an abusive Thai woman. At least the farang woman fears jail. :-)