Ok, I'm posting this here because I bet the women of the forum have more experience at this than any other group.

I've got a Thai bf who is, let us say, "all boy." This extends to a love of clothing which has outlived its natural lifetime, by any normal definitions I would use. He has this one ratty pair of jeans held together by threads and a prayer, which just manage to avoid showing anything completely indecent when he wears them in public- which he LOVES to do- still, they show a fair bit of boxer shorts from the back.

What tactics have you found work to get rid of embarrassing favorite old clothing like this?

"Steven"

Ok, I'm posting this here because I bet the women of the forum have more experience at this than any other group.

I've got a Thai bf who is, let us say, "all boy."  This extends to a love of clothing which has outlived its natural lifetime, by any normal definitions I would use.  He has this one ratty pair of jeans held together by threads and a prayer, which just manage to avoid showing anything completely indecent when he wears them in public- which he LOVES to do- still, they show a fair bit of boxer shorts from the back.

What tactics have you found work to get rid of embarrassing favorite old clothing like this?

"Steven"

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Accidently lose them on a laundry trip?

A box of matches, then deny seeing them.

Get in a passionate rage and rip them off.

Good points!

Must be a guy thing. My husband has this old shirt, ripped from one side to the other in the back. He loves it , we bought it when we first got married, good memories he says , embarrasing, I say. Anyway, it is hidden in the back of the closet. Waiting for him to forget about it, then, it gets tossed. Of course, I have tried this tactic with this shirt for about 6 years and still no luck, but I keep trying!

I must be more blunt than the rest of you, when hubby tried to wear something well past it's shelf life I make sure that it gets damaged beyond repair when I'm washing it, that way he only wears it around the house & not out , he has been known to walk around our house in a tshirt with only part of one side connected & really loves to cut the bottom off jeans & the arms of perfectly good shirts thinking it will improve the "look". Blokes Just rip the thing beyond repair & then make out it was the washing machine/laundry lady

Why,why do you girls do this? My absolutely , most comfortable , best pair of shorts that I have ever,ever owned...went AWOL. It took about 3 months and bribery untill the truth came out. She,who must be obeyed, put them in the rubbish!

Told her that if it ever happened again I would pour petrol over her beloved roses.

She (the cats mum) then produced a pair of scissors and told me that if the roses go, then I go too.

Edited December 19, 200421 yr by chuchok

chuchok  Posted Today, 2004-12-19 08:49:59

She (the cats mum) then produced a pair of scissors and told me that if the roses go, then I go too. sad.gif biggrin.gif

Good to know who wears the "nice pants" in your house

I have to admit, though, that it is not only boys who do this, but perhaps for different reasons. A while ago I had this great, old t-shirt that I inherited from my older brother. It was just loose enough to hit just below the hip, and so worn and comfortable that the sports graphic across the chest worn away in bits and pieces. It was so sexy and peek-a-boo in nature that it would drive my boyfriend wild! I LOVED that old shirt. As it turns out, it was lost one day when my mother did my laundry while I was visiting.

Hmmm, never thought of foul play until now

IJWT: maybe you should ruin it beyond repair in a fit of passion, as Dave recommends. At least then your boyfriend will get, um, good wear out of them.

chuchok   Posted Today, 2004-12-19 08:49:59

She (the cats mum) then produced a pair of scissors and told me that if the roses go, then I go too. sad.gif biggrin.gif

Good to know who wears the "nice pants" in your house

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Boo, I only think that I am the boss.

To stake my masculinity, I have hidden her favorite jeans....

I must disagree with the general advice given on this subject. I think it is wrong to deliberately destroy any article of a bf/husband's clothing, and even more so to then lie about it! Such an attitude is superficial, the appearance being more important than the person. And the dishonesty of lying would bring any relationship I was in to a rapid conclusion if it wasever done to an article of my clothing.

If you truly hate the article of clothing, tell him. Maybe he will stop wearing it, or maybe he will stop wearing it around you. Maybe he won't. It's still his choice; take it or leave it.

^You must love your clothes!

Good and funny stories everyone. Well, maybe I'll try to bribe him- promise to buy him a nice new brand-name pair if he'll only throw those things away!

"Steven"

Well, cathyy, one thing to keep in mind is that in Thailand appearance does count for quite a bit. If my husband wears ragged clothes to town then people will talk about it. Simple as that. One time he wore shorts to a wedding and when I asked him if he really wanted to wear shorts, he said, "doesn't matter". Well, he came back from the wedding quite embarassed because the bride and groom had insisted on having their photo taken with him, and here he was, wearing shorts. Sometimes, the apparently superficial does matter.

I do not lie nor destroy his clothes. I merely put them away. No deceit involved, if he wants them, he merely has to get them out of the bottom of the closet. Sometimes, especially in a really long-term relationship each partner has to make allowances for the other. I allow him his raggedy clothes, I merely ask that he doesn't wear them to town.

Monday of this week my Thai partner told me "we" needed to contribute clothes to the temple appeal in our village (moo-baan) for second-hand clothes (I think, although I may be wrong, this had something to do with a Tsunami clothes appeal).

20 minutes later she informed me that "I" needed to go shopping as my wardrobe was now rather bear...

Heck of a topic. I was once a victim of disappearing jeans and my Thai wife was the culprit!! I had a pair of the jeans that the U.S. Navy uses as work pants (this was in the 70s) and she hated the way they looked on me (she said is was because "I got no ass ). So when she traveled from Udorn to her home village outside of Korat, the jeans went with her. I suspect one of her brothers was not so buttocksly challenged!!

he he he dclaryjr, we ladies just like our men to look good is all, no harm no foul is what I always say I like your home site btw

  Heck of a topic.  I was once a victim of disappearing jeans and my Thai wife was the culprit!!  I had a pair of the jeans that the U.S. Navy uses as work pants (this was in the 70s) and she hated the way they looked on me (she said is was because "I got no ass ).  So when she traveled from Udorn to her home village outside of Korat, the jeans went with her.  I suspect one of her brothers was not so buttocksly challenged!!

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''buttocksly challanged'' !

I loved the expression

Cheers.

Jem

he he he dclaryjr, we ladies just like our men to look good is all, no harm no foul is what I always say   I like your home site btw

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Yep, I know her intentions were good!

The house is finished--I need to put up the new pics one of these days.

Edited January 10, 200521 yr by dclaryjr

''buttocksly challanged'' !

I loved the expression

Cheers.

Jem

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Well now I can add "follicly challenged" to my list of short comings so she can toss my comb as well!

My dear wife simply refuses to go with me if she feels my attire is not appropriate. It is easier to change than risk her wrath.

^You must love your clothes!

Good and funny stories everyone.  Well, maybe I'll try to bribe him- promise to buy him a nice new brand-name pair if he'll only throw those things away!

"Steven"

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Well not knowing either of you, my guess is that you're ignoring why that pair is his favorite. If he wanted to wear designer jeans, wouldn't he be begging you for them, complaining about how he had to wear those old ratty ones, saying you didn't love him enough to buy him good pants?

Take him shopping in the used clothing market and help him find a different favorite pair of punked-out jeans. Get something with all kinds of writing all over them or something -- he wont want to cut holes in them to spoil the graffetti.

Make him believe that the new pair is the sexiest, nastiest thing he could possibly wear in the whole world -- even though it has more material left.

Or if you're going to go the destruction route be a bit more subtle. Bleach them to death.

If you bleach them heavily and the color goes all over the place he may give up on them, if not rinse and repeat. Wash separately.

Heh heh heh... all good ideas, and actually I took advantage of one of them already- took him to Chatachuk, where he could get "good" "bad" jeans, only a little more expensive than the new ones at a department store! They were pre-ripped and then repaired already, and he officially approved them as "cool." Now I tease him about the cool jeans and he punches me on the arm.

"Steven"

this is my first foray into the womens section. Now I know what happened to all those clothes. The worst - I had an old comfort balnket I'd had since a kid. It was orange. But was orange no longer admittedly. I ran away from home (at age 19......... sad) and 2 months later it had disappeared. Now I know. Mother also used another trick - she would dye the offending item the original colour. I'd never wear it again. She did this with trainers and jeans.

Ok, I'm posting this here because I bet the women of the forum have more experience at this than any other group.

I've got a Thai bf who is, let us say, "all boy."  This extends to a love of clothing which has outlived its natural lifetime, by any normal definitions I would use.  He has this one ratty pair of jeans held together by threads and a prayer, which just manage to avoid showing anything completely indecent when he wears them in public- which he LOVES to do- still, they show a fair bit of boxer shorts from the back.

What tactics have you found work to get rid of embarrassing favorite old clothing like this?

"Steven"

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Conditioning usually does the trick. Buy a new pair of jeans and pair them with positive reinforcement ie. "You look great in those"; "ooh you look soooo sexy in those grrrr" etc (not only from yourself but coerce others to remark upon them also). It’ll be a great ego boost and with all the flattery before you know it your partner would’ve forgotten all about those old jeans.