East Or West

[eggomaniac]

Is the keep her in Thailand advice, good advice?

To clarify, the op is looking for answers based on living together with your thai wife in Thailand NOT on long distance relationships where she remains in Thailand & you abroad.

Edited February 1, 2009 by Boo
added clarity to original post as per later post by thread starter - boo

[Pakeha]

Wouldn't you need to have had two relationships that have failed to be able to answer this poll?

[jdinasia]

aren't most of the guys getting married in Thailand already experienced in failed marriages? Does this skew the field .. since they weren't good at the first 1 2 or 3 marriages isn't it just as likely that ANY marriage they enter into is doomed from the start?

[7by7]

Although everyone is different, and some couples manage it very well, I feel that living apart in different countries puts a stress on a relationship which makes it difficult for that relationship to succeed.

[Pakeha]

Hello JD.

Excellent point for the second, third, fourth round crew. But I'm a first timer.

Me and partner live out of LOS but are getting married in LOS. I think if I 'keep her in Thailand' our relationship would not last longer. We'd hardly ever see each other

[Geekfreaklover]

Wouldn't you need to have had two relationships that have failed to be able to answer this poll?

Not really. Just need to know a few people in Thai / Farang relationships. I've seen them work in Thailand and in England. Thailand is most likely to work out, so that's the way I've voted.

Contrary to what most people on TV think, I think the relationships most likely to work involve a more senior Farang on a pension and an ex service girl at the end of her career settling up country. There is normally a sense of mutual practical need from both parties in these arrangements. Normally the relationships involving younger farangs are the ones that go pear shaped. Long distance relationships rarely work out good.

Edited January 31, 2009 by Geekfreaklover

[eggomaniac]

aren't most of the guys getting married in Thailand already experienced in failed marriages? Does this skew the field .. since they weren't good at the first 1 2 or 3 marriages isn't it just as likely that ANY marriage they enter into is doomed from the start?

There are only 3 possible answers. Nothing of what you Posted has anything to do with them.

For those who have personal observations, or access to statistics, do Thai farang relations work out, in the long run, to a greater extent if the wife immigrates to the West, or not, or is it about the same. I do not know the answer, that is why I am asking?

don't want to compare long distance relations. [/u]That seems like another Topic. I mean couples who have the same home address.]

Whether one or both had been previously married or NOT, or what the divorce rate is in Russia has nothing to with the Topic.

Are couple who live togther in Thailand, or live together in West, staying together at a better rate, or is it about the same?

[there I tried to make the question idiot proof]

don't hog the stupidity - there is enough for all of us to have our share!

[Boo]

I am a woman married to a Thai man & can honestly say the last 5 years we have been living in UK (after living together for 3 years in Thailand) has cemented our relationship. We could now live anywhere & still have the same strong relationship but it took moving to my home country for him to understand & learn to respect my UK traits after I lived & accepted his countries & that there is more to the world than Thailand & how they do things.

Thais are taught from a young age to be very nationalistic, which is fine but they don't teach them to accept & learn from other countries too so when there is a mixed relationship & the Thai partner has never experienced life outside of Thailand, then things can be too one sided imo .

[eggomaniac]

I am a woman married to a Thai man & can honestly say the last 5 years we have been living in UK (after living together for 3 years in Thailand) has cemented our relationship. We could now live anywhere & still have the same strong relationship but it took moving to my home country for him to understand & learn to respect my UK traits after I lived & accepted his countries & that there is more to the world than Thailand & how they do things.

Thais are taught from a young age to be very nationalistic, which is fine but they don't teach them to accept & learn from other countries too so when there is a mixed relationship & the Thai partner has never experienced life outside of Thailand, then things can be too one sided imo .

How did you vote?

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I wish I could Edit the question, because I thought afterwards I should have said couples, not man/wife.

Your response hit a few chords with me. After 5 years in Canada, my wife is okay with 'public affection'. A kiss goodbye at the shopping cneter, holding hands on the street, even a bit of smooching on a park bench. I don't if all Thais have the same cultural rules, but in Thailand any overture of affection is met with "public place!"

[britmaveric]

Same same from what I can see.

[RAZZELL]

[/i]Whether one or both had been previously married or NOT, or what the divorce rate is in Russia has nothing to with the Topic.

Are couple who live togther in Thailand, or live together in West, staying together at a better rate, or is it about the same?

[there I tried to make the question idiot proof]

don't hog the stupidity - there is enough for all of us to have our share!

Of course it does.

If a man is on his third marriage due to certain personal traits, such as infidelity for example, if this continues then it doesn't mater if he were to live in Thailand or abroad....The marriage will fail.

Like any marriage/relationship the success or failure all depends on the individuals concerned and not where they are located.

RAZZ

Edited February 1, 2009 by RAZZELL

[Boo]

pm me what you want to say & I will amend your op.

I voted no. Personally I think that if we had not moved to UK then eventually his lack of understanding of my culture & thought process due to my upbringing would have driven us apart. I am not willing to be the only one to make allowances & shouldn't be either so at least a little time in my country was essential. After 6 months of being in UK he admitted that moving there had answered many questions he had & resolved some (unknown to me) issues he had in our relationship. Those issues quite possibly would have festered & contributed to destroying our relationship.?!

Like I said, now we could probably move to the moon & manage as the only 2 there. We spend all of our free time together (with our son) & need little interaction with 3rd parties. I can't say for sure but experiencing each others lifestyles has certainly smoothed some bumps in our connection