Single Parent With 5050 Daughter

[dave111223]

The London tube bombers were not wearing white sheets, but dressed like most kids of their age with UK accents. They would have passed your checklist.

I guess that's why (thankfully) they have security guards checking everyone backpacks at the MRT now.

Plus that's not my point. Sure some people don't match the stereotypes. Nice people turn out to be serial killers, friendly teachers turn out to be pedos, and school kids turn out to be suicide bombers. There's no way to foresee that... does that mean we should turn a blind eye to those who do appear to pose a threat also.

And god forbid anyone here lambasting the guy should ever come to rue the day they made such comments.

Edited May 30, 2009 by dave111223

[473geo]

The London tube bombers were not wearing white sheets, but dressed like most kids of their age with UK accents. They would have passed your checklist.

I guess that's why (thankfully) they have security guards checking everyone backpacks at the MRT now.

Plus that's not my point. Sure some people don't match the stereotypes. Nice people turn out to be serial killers, friendly teachers turn out to be pedos, and school kids turn out to be suicide bombers. There's no way to foresee that... does that mean we should turn a blind eye to those who do appear to pose a threat also.

And god forbid anyone here lambasting the guy should ever come to rue the day they made such comments.

Look there's no way you are going to go around asking every parent of a mixed race female child if they are the father.......you are? well good on yer......or cut the drivell eh.....

[noahvail]

i dont look like an old man with a kid im only a young! 45 year old backbacker

Sounds like a good idea.

You can't go around calling every single father a pedophile in the hope that you might be right at some point.

In the OP it says the guy asked him if the child was his daughter, and then asked the daughter if this was her father.

The op says "basically accused me of being a pedo"... so i'm assuming that means that the guy did not actually call or accuse the OP of being a "pedophile".

And if it protects kids, why can't you go around asking every "45 year old backpacker" with a child of a different race if the child is actually theirs.

Because its like asking every middle eastern guy with a beard if he is a terroist. Yeah you might find a bomb in 1 out of 5000 cases. But the 4999 remaining chaps are be left feeling like <deleted> for the rest of the day.

Plus the vast majority of child abuse is carried out by members of the family or close friends of the family, teachers, people in positions of trust.

Agreed - I'd hate like hel_l to take my 11-y.o. stepdaughter to - oh, say the zoo in Bangkok - and have the question asked of me 437 times in one day.

Although, most of the time, people say 'she looks just like you.' Poor kid

[bikerman]

A couple of years ago i was on Samui and I was in a shop with my 10 year old half thai daughter (i have her sole custody and she lives in Oz with me full time), a british lad approached me and was basically accusing me of not being her father and that i was buying a girl toys to come with me, he was basically accusing me of being a pedo! He asked her if I was her father and she said yes. I was angry and embarassed and was close to punching the guy but of course didnt want to do that in thailand maybe causing damage in the shop and being dragged away by the police in front of my kid. She didnt really understand what was going on luckily but she did ask what happened. I have spent a lot of time in thailand with her but this was the first time i have had any trouble like this. I bring her to thailand usually every year and now shes getting older what will some people think.It took a long time to get over it.

Try telling Madeleine McCann’s parents this, bet they wish someone had the nerve to ask the question and maybe Madeleine would have been found by now!!!! Just goes to show some people do care about your child’s welfare, hats off to this guy at least he had the bottle to ask, so be thankful someone took time to enquire.

[roamer]

A couple of years ago i was on Samui and I was in a shop with my 10 year old half thai daughter (i have her sole custody and she lives in Oz with me full time), a british lad approached me and was basically accusing me of not being her father and that i was buying a girl toys to come with me, he was basically accusing me of being a pedo! He asked her if I was her father and she said yes. I was angry and embarassed and was close to punching the guy but of course didnt want to do that in thailand maybe causing damage in the shop and being dragged away by the police in front of my kid. She didnt really understand what was going on luckily but she did ask what happened. I have spent a lot of time in thailand with her but this was the first time i have had any trouble like this. I bring her to thailand usually every year and now shes getting older what will some people think.It took a long time to get over it.

Try telling Madeleine McCann’s parents this, bet they wish someone had the nerve to ask the question and maybe Madeleine would have been found by now!!!! Just goes to show some people do care about your child’s welfare, hats off to this guy at least he had the bottle to ask, so be thankful someone took time to enquire.

See where your coming from but there is another problem taking the "everyone can be a pedophile" approach also led to a tragic case in the UK where the death of a two year old child could have been prevented if people were not afraid of being labeled "pedophile".....

"On Nov. 28, 2002, 2-year-old Abigail Rae died by drowning in a village pond in England. Her death is currently stirring debate because the ongoing inquest revealed an explosive fact. A man passing by was afraid to guide the lost child to safety because he feared being labeled "a pervert."

In the article "Day of the dad: paedophilia hysteria leaves men afraid to help," The Telegraph raises a question that applies equally to North America. Have high profile cases of pedophilia created such public hysteria that the average decent human being, especially a man, is now reluctant to approach a child in need?

Consider what happened to Abby. The toddler wandered from her nursery school, Ready Teddy Go, through a door left open. A bricklayer named Clive Peachey drove past her in his truck. At the inquest, he stated, "I kept thinking I should go back. The reason I didn't was because I thought people might think I was trying to abduct her."

Instead, he assured himself that the parents must be "driving around" and would find her.

A few minutes thereafter, Abby fatally fell into an algae-covered pond. Meanwhile, the nursery staff searched. When the mother noticed the staff near her home, she was told they were looking for a "lost dog" but the truth soon emerged. The frantic mother's search ended when she leaped into the pond to fish out what she thought was Abby's shoe."

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,190586,00.html

The approach being advocated here would certainly raise the level of pedophile hysteria. Quite apart from anything else a lot of kids are also going to be suffering a lot of emotional damage if someone keeps coming up and asking them about their parentage. And if you read what the OP said this was far from a calm measured approach, more a loudmouth drunk who you wouldn,t want approaching kids anyway.

[aussiebebe]

A couple of years ago i was on Samui and I was in a shop with my 10 year old half thai daughter (i have her sole custody and she lives in Oz with me full time), a british lad approached me and was basically accusing me of not being her father ......................It took a long time to get over it.

This sort of thing would have taken me a while to get over too! Can't of been nice. Personally, I think that my own son looks very Thai, like his mother, so I'm not at all surprised that a tourist would mis-read a situation like this.

I think the guy was either drunk or brave, however most abuses against children (or women or men, for that matter) are perpetrated by family or friends, not strangers. Approaching people in a confrontational manner would rarely be of benefit; you can just imagine the flawed logic of such an enquiry; "Oh, you're her step-dad are you? That's alright then....."

[Geekfreaklover]

On a personal note would like to add that, like, the OP I am a single parent with sole custody of two mixed race Thai children. I won custody of my children as their mother was violent and abusive towards both of them and myself.

How would I feel if everytime I went to the shops with them I was approached by 'well meaning citizens' asking whether I was the father, and checking if I was a pedophile... ???

Look, abuse comes in all shapes and forms and you do not have to have a penis to abuse children.

I guess you have to be a parent and witnessed child abuse to understand these things.

GFL.

Edited May 30, 2009 by Geekfreaklover

[sassienie]

10 years ago back in England, I saw 7 weird looking guys wearing green tights and pointy hats chasing a 16 year old girl.

I instantly reacted by fighting the guys off, then calling the police.

But it was me who ended up being arrested as these guys turned out to be Shakespearian actors and it was all part of a play.

So there you are, one has to be careful when making assumptions.

[hlfourie]

Sorry to tell most of you but pedophiles do not walk around in public with their victims. It is one of the most hated crimes in the world and everyone is on the lookout for it, you would have to be truly mentally disabled to flaunt your victimisation of a child in public for all to see. If you really think you approaching every dad with his kid is helping the world crack down on pedophiles you are kidding yourself.

Well, where do you think pedophiles pick up their victims, in dark ally ways where nobody can see them!! or in public places?

[britmaveric]

Well if you understand - its all pretty much underground network - pedos helping other pedos as such. I seriously doubt people are that stupid to do smth in open public.