Is Giving My Girlfriend 20,000 Baht Per Month Enough?

[Mosha]

OK, my wife's cousin worked for AIA. 13,000 month, one child going to private school, and a diabetic mum living with her, and paying a house off. Admittedly not much left at the end of the month. She's a widow, and as I am told no time for a life, but she never whinges. So OP go figure.

[Forethat]

Two things are for certain.

1. These threads will keep popping up every know and then.

2. People will queue up to scream "trooooll" troooool", trrroooooooooolllll"

To be perfectly honest, I'd say it's the latter that pisses me off the most.

I say give her the money if you want to, otherwise don’t.

[somtampet]

ask yourself the question,would you give a gf that much money in your home country.She is taking the peeeee and needs to be dumped.Is she a bangkok girl,sounds about right.

[ChangMaiSausage]

Give the guy a break yes there are plenty of stories (horror) to be read on TV.

He posted the question is 20,00THB enough? (IMO) The simple answer is YES.

She lives with you so I imagine you pay all bills and probably a bulk of the food eaten in your shared accommodation? She also needs a life so ho wmuch is she spending on herself? does she out on an evening, do you both go out together on an evening? Does she buy you things?

Dont just tell her to p*ss off just becasue people on here say that she is fleecing you, ask her to detail why she needs extra money? did she say how much she wants?

There may be a genuine reason (maybe)

[needforspeed]

Sounds enough to me mate but sounds like it will never be enough for her, it never is

Been there done that

SAME SAME

[jazzbo]

Given the testosterone levels evinced here and similarly amongst Thai men it is no wonder that so many beautiful young Thai women become lesbians with an Amazonian view of men: only useful for money and procreation and then get rid of them.

[TAWP]

I would pay rent, food and daily expensive and give nothing in allowance, unless I for some reason thought she wasn't really in love with me and it was a rented deal around it, i.e. 'going out with a model that turns heads is worth the cost' kind of deal.

Sadly I am not wealthy and cannot pay for anything, luckily I am still able to have a GF that turns heads at a very high frequency...you can get one too.

[up-country_sinclair]

Leave.

Run, don't walk.

[jazzbo]

Sadly I am not wealthy and cannot pay for anything So who does pay?

[TAWP]

Sadly I am not wealthy and cannot pay for anything So who does pay?

I meant on-top of living, i.e. rent, food etc...

[ThailandTommy]

Do we really need another one of these threads:

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Girlfriend-C...lfriend++enough

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Pay-For-Girl...lfriend++enough

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Money-Girlfr...lfriend++enough

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Girlfriend-M...lfriend++enough

Appears that we do!!

[whiterussian]

If you want to keep her as your gf but are worried about more financial request then why not set her up with her own shop, that way she can work her own hours & then you can stop giving her a salary to be your gf. If she is bored let the woman work & be grateful you don't have a lazy one.

exactly what I've done... bought and set up two shops, one pays the others rent, and one is her cash cow...

Haven't given her diddly squat EVER. (ok, the house rent is mine, and I am her money lender if she needs it).

She calls her self a businesswoman now - which i think is very cute, I guess she is - receptionist before.

Cost me a few hundred thousand, but after 4 years together that breaks down to 4,000 baht a month.

[ThailandTommy]

Seems a bit excessive, but I generally don't date women who aren't self sufficient. Needless to say, I don't date much, but when I do it's alot less expensive. Even I live here on a lot less than 20,000 THB some months. It's not glamorous, but 20,000 is a good income for a local. Sounds like the hook is set, and she's trying to determine how big of a fish you are. Have fun!!!

How do you manage on 20k a month? 5k a week....sorry I really dont see how that's living more like existing?

[a2396]

These "gold standard" gents must be getting off the boat/plane by the hundreds. There seems to be no shortage of them (golden geese), because numerous women I have encountered think they can get this and they have asked. Some claim they get 30K + and some of these dodo guys don't even live here in LOS. I guess they have got money to burn. I have had plenty of them sneer at 10K, which I think is plenty for a non-BKK average girl. Of course they can make more than 30K, if they are in "The Business".

[ThailandTommy]

30k a month in a nail saloon....total <deleted> .....20k a month to her again total <deleted>....the average Thai is on half that so if you really want to hang on to her give her 10 and see what happens.

You may be better off kicking her into touch and spending the 10k on ten different girls a month....probably more fun and less stress!

[whiterussian]

Actually even here in CM, a good makeup artist/hairdresser eg: weddings; can pull 30K (if they own they salon) ... I think in BK, its probably even easier.

Thought about that for my wife, but actually i believe its actually quite hard to learn.

The main problem my wife had before I set her up on her own was that she would try and work for farang because they pay better than Thai's and may even allow weekends off!!! But generally the wicked farangs would try and get in her pants, give her expensive gifts etc etc... including one very sleazy farang in CM looking for a VIP limo driver for a 'club' - "puellae vulpes" , who at the interview got her to massage his hand while he was on the phone. Grrr.. Why I Oughta! ....

Edited March 16, 2010 by whiterussian

[Chaimai]

Sit down with her, apologise for taking a bit of a "Western" approach, and then ask her to calculate her weekly expenditure. Shouldn't be difficult - it only needs to add up to 5,000 Baht.

Your reason is obviously to ensure that 20,000 is sufficient because you don't want her having to go off and pawn any of her gold - or worse, sell her mutton in Pattaya when you are not here.

One word of advice - pay this stipend weekly. Despite your GF's best efforts to create a budget of 5,000 Baht a week, there is a propensity to spend what they have. I understand many Falang have been horrified to discover that their teerak has spend the monthly housekeeping within 3 weeks (or less !).

Edited March 16, 2010 by Chaimai

[monkfish]

Just wondering how many ferang could survive on 20k a month.

20k should be enough for your average Thai though although not many Thai's could afford shopping in TESCOS with 20K

Did you ask her to stop work?

what standard of living do you want her to have?

30k working in beauty shop? mm depends but I would say difficult in ya standard shop.

If its a class shop and she is a specialist then possible, I know somebody earning 80k

Considering your relationship I would say 20K is more than generous.

[Moonrakers]

Take her by the hand, sit her down, look her in the eyes then gently but firmly say three simple words to her:

"GET A JOB"

[alina]

I thought I saw the word "girlfriend" mentioned in the OP.Must be a honest mistake as it clearly is a rental.

Quality response. Sums it up nicely.

OR

Tell her if she needs more to go back to work earning 30k and split the diff with her, she gives YOU 5K a month toward the rent.

[britmaveric]

30k a month from working a Hair Salon? :D

Oh my I don't see this ever happening, unless she supplements her income in other ways. So she lives with you and you take care of all the expenses and she wants more than 20K. Fk me - tell her get her ar*e back to the salon and work 15hrs a day. Mind you most shops I know of are only open from 8-2100, if that.

[jazzbo]

As per Oscar Wilde who wrote of some who knows "... The price of everything and the value of nothing," some of you write as if you receive for your 5-10-20K nothing in return.

... Or as per more modern (BTO) 'She looks at me with those big brown eyes and says "You ain't seen nothing yet."'

[Edmond]

Take her by the hand, sit her down, look her in the eyes then gently but firmly say three simple words to her:

"GET A JOB"

...got to have a J.O.B, if you want to be with me...

[jazzbo]

.got to have a J.O.B, if you want to be with me..

... Whether they have a job or not or want to get a job or not, if you said that to any of the young women I know they would tell you in Thai or Lao to drop dead a--hole!

[Moonrakers]

.got to have a J.O.B, if you want to be with me..

... Whether they have a job or not or want to get a job or not, if you said that to any of the young women I know they would tell you in Thai or Lao to drop dead a--hole!

Most of the women that I know, young or old, would not need to be told in the first place.

[Edmond]

.got to have a J.O.B, if you want to be with me..

... Whether they have a job or not or want to get a job or not, if you said that to any of the young women I know they would tell you in Thai or Lao to drop dead a--hole!

Joking aside, I prefer women that light up the room when they walk in, not light up a fag, which seems common with some Thai Western realtionships here.

[jazzbo]

Most of the women that I know, young or old, would not need to be told in the first place. You win... you must know much better women than I do... Take her by the hand, sit her down, look her in the eyes then gently but firmly say three simple words to her... and then hope she doesn't kick you in the crotch so hard so you can't walk for a few days.

[dmax]

stop being a dam_n fool, 20 k is more than enough for her probably too much.you pay her rent /food etc, wise up man !! then again i dont know ur income, but the fact that it was iok last yr and now this yr she crying for more ? tut tut

[MAJIC]

Ask yourself:

Q. For a Thai when does not enough money,become enough monthly money?

A. Never!

Simple.

[Takeo]

My girlfriends friend met a nice kind farang, he pays her monthly even though she still works, he wants her to give up because of the hours. I know first hand she has a couple of other boyfriends, people more her age. I feel sorry for the older guy, but its not really my place as i dont particually know him. All i know is many of my nights out have been funded in some part by him.

I dont give my girlfriend any more than she gives me, sometimes ill get a bill or pay cinema, other times she will or we'll split it. Helps that we're the same age granted. And i dont really have money to be giving away.

From what i know there is no chance she was making 30,000. no way. then again if it was you call for her to give up work 20,000 is kind enough. If she wants you to up it just say its all your giving and she can get some work if she wants a raise. All in all though its your call and i guess no one will know whats going on better than you.