M&M Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) OK - i am ready to be flamed, ready for the negative remarks & jibes. Still, here I go. To cut a long story short I was young & stupid, met a girl there, fell in love. She lived with me for a few years, we had a son (Matthew) and then everything went to custard. She got custody - of course with me being the 'farang' and I left Thailand, although I do return at least once a year. I have kept up payments for child support as agreed in our divorce. I try to call him every week but recently the 'ex' has become incresingly unstable. She is still getting money but she seems to have either changed her mobile number or ... well I don't know. Edited June 27, 2010 by cdnvic removed identifying information Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whatchamacallit Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 I salute you for being a responsible and caring person - I hope you find your son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackdawson Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 Can anyone help? help w/ what ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
endlessimage Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 Can anyone help? help w/ what ? Err... locating his son. Did you actually read what the OP wrote? I wish him well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gotlost Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 Another lost soul. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cdnvic Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 While we don't allow missing persons threads without admin approval, I've allowed this one to stay open in order for people to advise the poster in general about dealing with custody and visitation issues. Identifying info and addresses have been removed. This is a serious subject, lets keep it polite and helpful. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M&M Posted June 27, 2010 Author Share Posted June 27, 2010 Thank you. Seriously. All I have is a mobile phone number and now this seems to be disconnected. He's a great kid, full of laughs & smiles no matter what the world throws at him. I was just hoping someone, expat, retiree etc. might know the area and be able to confirm at least that he is ok. It is NOT a missing person. I just miss him. & it's hard after 4 years of giving support to be suddenly cut off like this. Thanks ThaiVisa M&M Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suiging Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 Thai Authorities in general are not sympathetic. Hire a decent private detective from BK ( not Pattaya, small town everyone knows someone ) if you wish to locate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liveinlos Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 If you cannot get a hold of her to talk to your son, where are you sending the payments? Maybe if you withheld the payment until she let you talk to your son you would hear from her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kopite Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 If you cannot get a hold of her to talk to your son, where are you sending the payments? Maybe if you withheld the payment until she let you talk to your son you would hear from her? yep, deffo a good idea this one. she will soon start calling when there is no money coming in Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basil B Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 As this is no longer a Pattaya related subject may be there would be another forum that would be better for advice? I assume by your original post that the divorce took place in Thailand and therefore would be subject to Thai law? Please do not think because this is Thailand is the reason you do not have custody, in most countries it is common for the mother to normally get custody. With holding money, you really need to get professional advice on this one, on your next visit you do not want problems at the airport because your name has been flagged. Wish you well and hope you get it sorted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jori Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 His name flagged or not at the airport he has no idea the whereabouts of his child or whatever the circumstances. Witholding payments is a good idea to flush the other party out,but needs proof the child is alive and kicking,keep a log of any efforts you have made to make contact to show the authorities if they do indeed take any action.Good luck anyhow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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