Dangers Of Taking Your Thai Wife / Gf To Your Country

[tlcwaterfall]

My wife received a job teaching pre-school within 1 week of being in my home country and has worked her butt off since then. She mingles with some Thais but we are together 99.9 percent of our free time. She got the job of her own volition, she is a contributer; I have always known what kind of person she is because there is real genuine communication in our relationship, we are around the same age and possess similar levels of education.

Can you say the same about your wife?

Congratulations on your fantastic relationship! And I commend you on spending 99.9% of your free time with your contributing wife.

Many successful relationships allow for freedom within a loving/caring and strong relationship! I am sure most men do not want to be hanging on their wives coat tails every moment of their free time but if it works for you more power to you.

What I am saying is that most couples need their own "space" from time to time to pursue their own interests otherwise the relationship can become very stale very quickly. Men like to go fishing, play sport, catch up with mates etc. Women like to catch up with friends,shop etc, This tends to make the relationship stronger and longer lasting.

Just my thoughts and no offence intended by the way:

[daoyai]

For some (not all) there is "The Plan" I have seen this numerous times in the U.S., get married, get to U.S., have baby, wait 5 years, (pemanent resident), divorce, new hot young bf and or richer older guy, the child insures a monthly support payment from the ex. I used to know a sleazy divorce lawer that loved these cases, he was an expert at helping the ladies through the process, he enjoyed some "perks".

[SuperstarStatus]

I'm sure there are exceptions but I'm also sure this is the rule..

My suggestion:

Have children. My wife was miserable when we moved to a foreign country; she was unable to work in her career, she had no friends other than my colleagues etc.

The children provided a focus that allowed her to fully integrate into society and became the hub around which her social life developed.

Its a longer-term commitment than drinking or gambling, but more satisfying, and probably strengthens rather than weakens the marriage. I imagine it works for Thais as well

SC

Good way to keep your woman on a leash.

Insecurity at it's best.

For most of you it might be good to let your woman have a social life in your home country, because if you lock her up all day for fear she will fine something better, and some how gets alittle freedom, she will go nuts.

[SuperstarStatus]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

[mahtin]

For most of you it might be good to let your woman have a social life in your home country, because if you lock her up all day for fear she will fine something better, and some how gets alittle freedom, she will go nuts.

Do you lean more towards Clement or Carl?

[StreetCowboy]

For most of you it might be good to let your woman have a social life in your home country, because if you lock her up all day for fear she will fine something better, and some how gets alittle freedom, she will go nuts.

Do you lean more towards Clement or Carl?

Too cryptic for us Sun-Readers.

Care to elucidate?

SC

[rgs2001uk]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

And a new star rises in the east.

Thanks for the history lesson, of course there were no ladies involved in the water trade prior to the farangs arrival, how forgetful of me.

Plenty more involved in places most farang never get to see or even know exist, more to Thailand than Bkk or Pattaya.

Theres a Chinese supermarket near to the bus station in Manchester (UK) you should pay a visit some day, the conversations in Thai are not only an eye (should that be an ear) opener, they are disgusting.

Wonder what a Thai man would do to his wife if she prefixed his name with ai?

[mahtin]

For most of you it might be good to let your woman have a social life in your home country, because if you lock her up all day for fear she will fine something better, and some how gets alittle freedom, she will go nuts.

Do you lean more towards Clement or Carl?

Too cryptic for us Sun-Readers.

Care to elucidate?

SC

Freud or Jung.

You could have... or are your dietary habits leading you astray?

[cardholder]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

The truth is not 'Thai bashing'

Siam ladies have been servicing the needs of men, for reward, for centuries - long before the word Farang was invented.

"Second nature" ? - not sure about that, but I confirm that my UK community is not disimilar to Amsterdam. I know of at least 6 Thai ladies (with Falang partners) who would entertain me for between GBP 50 and GBP 80. The cards are certainly second nature !

[StreetCowboy]

For most of you it might be good to let your woman have a social life in your home country, because if you lock her up all day for fear she will fine something better, and some how gets alittle freedom, she will go nuts.

Do you lean more towards Clement or Carl?

Too cryptic for us Sun-Readers.

Care to elucidate?

SC

Freud or Jung.

You could have... or are your dietary habits leading you astray?

I try not to lean too heavily. I guess more Clement for me I guess, due to the short attention span, and the interest in things culinary (and terminal). If I took religion more seriously you might call me a clementine, though I would argue that is bigotry, not religion.

This is my wife's last night, which will be a relief, though I'm looking forward to it with some trepidation. Anyway, I've been on the strait and narrow these last few days, working my nose to the bone, knuckles to the grindstone,fingers down,

I've still one blank to draw, on your ellipsis - could have ... what?

SC

I meant to rise to the bait above from SSS, but - maybe later....

[SuperstarStatus]

Thai Women are like all women.

This is not directed at anyone perticular. Just my opinion.

Honestly if you want to keep your thai wife (if you can)

You should know Thai (if you don't) so if she is sneaking with her friends on the phone or making plans ... she won't be

Be the same charming out going in love guy you was when you married her 2 weeks after you met her, don't change your whole additude and lifestyle just because your back on your home turf and think you can stop going out or taking her out and meeting with friends, so she stay home fix you sandwichs and wash clothes all day (most to no women want that)

if you got a young woman, most woman want a man they can relate to and picture there selfs growing old with, if your 50-70 years old and your wife/gf is 25-35 and you can't understand why she left or is cheating, you have to be crazy. A young woman (any race) doesn't want to take care of her man all day and night. And most likey find it embarrassing (unless your rich and will die soon)in your hometown after seeing all the young eye candy around.

All women want (most do) love and to be loved and trusted. They want to explore and see the sites, just like you did in her home country. So getting off the computer or the couch watching the football game every now and then could be a good thing for the relationship.

Not saying all of you are but if your wife is a stunner, she definatly does not want to be with a old, sick, alcoholic, fat, lazy man. Common sense. Honestly you can't blame her for using you to get to where you are from on that one. People are ment to be with people that are good for them.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

[SuperstarStatus]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

The truth is not 'Thai bashing'

Siam ladies have been servicing the needs of men, for reward, for centuries - long before the word Farang was invented.

"Second nature" ? - not sure about that, but I confirm that my UK community is not disimilar to Amsterdam. I know of at least 6 Thai ladies (with Falang partners) who would entertain me for between GBP 50 and GBP 80. The cards are certainly second nature !

So because "farang" wasn't invented threw all that time, there hasn't been the westerner waving around there money in a poor rural farm / city girls face for sex? Thais "whoring" themselfs out is not in there blood, and believe me they don't sleep with people cause they're cute, they doing it so there little brother and sister can go to a good school, so there mom and grandpa can get help with bills or maybe pay for there college.

Life in thailand isn't a gold platter with money on it.

[cardholder]

Thai Women are like all women.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

You do seem to have quite a lot to learn.

Could I ask what the relative age/social status was of your parents prior to your birth ?

[cardholder]

Thai Women are like all women.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

You do seem to have quite a lot to learn.

Could I ask what the relative age/social status was of your parents prior to your birth ?

[mahtin]

I've still one blank to draw, on your ellipsis - could have ... what?

SC

I meant to rise to the bait above from SSS, but - maybe later....

Could have guessed...

Oh Lord, SSS has serious family.

[personchester]

Suggesting that if you bring your thai wife to your home country that she may become a prostitute is ridiculous. She was ALWAYS a prostitute she just did a good job of hiding it from you or you did a bad job of figuring it out.

I agree, when this happens, (and it happens quite a bit) those Thai girls are/were prostitutes prior to their marriage, and they are using the 'wedding' purely as a vehicle to get into western countries in order to enter the prostitution trade there which provides of course a far higer income than they are/were getting here. One does of course not know the percentage of Thai girls involved in this activity, but those that do this are no doubt the prostitutes, but the majority of Thai girls who marry a westerner will not be doing this. Chaps that want to marry a Thai girl have to investigate her background carefully prior to doing so, in order to prevent such a shameful disaster.

[SuperstarStatus]

Thai Women are like all women.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

You do seem to have quite a lot to learn.

Could I ask what the relative age/social status was of your parents prior to your birth ?

Look how I make these threads come alive!

I'm either will be king of these forums or the most hated lol!

I'm leaning towards most hated, cause of alot of people gang up on me with there sayings and smart comments just on the strenght of one mans opinion.

Um I think my mom had me at 27? I'm not sure what social status means? She was marryed to my dad at the time if that's what your getting at? She has spoken English my whole life and has always been independent.

[gburns57au]

Couldnt tell the difference between a nice massage parlour and a bad one!!!

Speaks volumes to me

[mahtin]

Couldnt tell the difference between a nice massage parlour and a bad one!!!

Speaks volumes to me

Will you walk into my parlour?" said the Spider to the Fly

And now dear little children, who may this story read,

To idle, silly flattering words, I pray you ne'er give heed:

Unto an evil counsellor, close heart and ear and eye,

And take a lesson from this tale, of the Spider and the Fly.

[cardholder]

Thai Women are like all women.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

You do seem to have quite a lot to learn.

Could I ask what the relative age/social status was of your parents prior to your birth ?

Look how I make these threads come alive!

I'm either will be king of these forums or the most hated lol!

I'm leaning towards most hated, cause of alot of people gang up on me with there sayings and smart comments just on the strenght of one mans opinion.

Um I think my mom had me at 27? I'm not sure what social status means? She was marryed to my dad at the time if that's what your getting at? She has spoken English my whole life and has always been independent.

And what age was your father - not vital, but I also assume hewas English

Except for the spelling you sound like RJT - or at least your ego does.

[SuperstarStatus]

Thai Women are like all women.

I kind of soak alot of what I said from listening to my mom and all my aunts past relationships, my mom was the only one of her sisters to be brought from Thailand by a man, but money and a place to stay isn't allways the key, any woman wants more than that.

You do seem to have quite a lot to learn.

Could I ask what the relative age/social status was of your parents prior to your birth ?

Look how I make these threads come alive!

I'm either will be king of these forums or the most hated lol!

I'm leaning towards most hated, cause of alot of people gang up on me with there sayings and smart comments just on the strenght of one mans opinion.

Um I think my mom had me at 27? I'm not sure what social status means? She was marryed to my dad at the time if that's what your getting at? She has spoken English my whole life and has always been independent.

And what age was your father - not vital, but I also assume hewas English

Except for the spelling you sound like RJT - or at least your ego does.

RJT??

Think my dad was 25? I'm not "English" but I do speak "English" ... I'm American

[Skint]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

Do you actually read what people post or are you just to quick to jump in and assume the worst? I am not talking about all Thai girls or even Thai girls in Thailand, as you know there are some and i quote some Thai girls with an alternative motive and Amsterdam provides these Girls with a golden ticket to make money from whoring taking advantage of Amsterdams tolerance to Girls in the windows selling themselves or whoring (same same) for 50 euro or 80 euro for a 20 minute ride. The Thai bars are located convieniently next to the Red light area and as i said some of these girls work in the windows.

[cobra]

Another reason not to bring her to your homecountry is the risk that she might find out that not all westerners have disabilities.

.. and not all are bald, fat Homers,

[Skint]

Double post

[SuperstarStatus]

Interesting Robblok you are spot on, there are not many Thai Girls here who do not cheat certainly in the bars they drink in hubby is nowhere to be seen and some i have seen in the windows due to Imigration being difficult it doesn't take a genius to work out the real motive for coming here. Thing is in Amsterdam there is a very close Thai community drinking cards and whoring seem second nature.

What's with the Thai bashing? Why is this not deleted, if I posted it, it would be trolling right?

Whoring Thailands second nature? No. I believe that's what you farang folk have been pushing on poor struggling Thai women for the last 70 years, and basically turned it into a monster.

Do you actually read what people post or are you just to quick to jump in and assume the worst? I am not talking about all Thai girls or even Thai girls in Thailand, as you know there are some and i quote some Thai girls with an alternative motive and Amsterdam provides these Girls with a golden ticket to make money from whoring taking advantage of Amsterdams tolerance to Girls in the windows selling themselves or whoring (same same) for 50 euro or 80 euro for a 20 minute ride. The Thai bars are located convieniently next to the Red light area and as i said some of these girls work in the windows.

I've been reading what has been going on.

One man talking about his wife, when there and found a new love and life, and was whoring around because of some Thai friends.

And I see a bunch of posters coming in his defense talking about "yea that's a Thais second nature (to whore around), or yea my wife has done that"

I got Thai blood in me, so I'm going to defend my people whether right or wrong, since I'm the only one that looks like he does defend Thai people in this forum.

Don't like it, KICK ROCKS, or don't read my posts.

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MY OPINION NOT DIRECTED AT ANYONE

These guys complain there wife or GF has left them. What do you expect. SHE is lonely, misses the family, has no friends, most of you are not even the same person you where in Thailand when you go back home. Someone was talking about getting his wife or GF pregnant so she will stay home. That's cool if you both want and are ready, but not to do if you want your wife at home 24/7/365 that's just selfish. I mean look in the mirror, and be honest.

Why is it, one Thai person can hurt you and then the whole race garbage? One black steals from you, now they all steal right?

PLEASE DON'T BAN A MAN FOR SPEAKING HIS MIND OR HAVING A OPINION... THIS IS THE INTERNET RIGHT?

[SuperstarStatus]

Another reason not to bring her to your homecountry is the risk that she might find out that not all westerners have disabilities.

.. and not all are bald, fat Homers,

Lol, That's why she'll leave homer or brad pitt every time only makes sense. lol.

[boogie]

It's my view that If you are worried about taking your wife back to your home country then your relationship is on rocky ground to start with and maybe you have not married the right person.

I was concerned how my wife would settle as she had never left Thailand before, so I was actually delighted that she soon found Thai friends to socialise with. I feel that It really helped her to settle. I remember clearly the delight when she was able to visit friends and actually eat home cooked Thai food in a country that was foreign to her. She could also just pick up the phone and have a chat in her own language.

We have now been married nearly ten years and have two beautiful children.It depends on the person you marry, as they say a Leopard doesn't change it's spots ! I remember a trip to Thailand after we had been married a couple of years and meeting a friend of my wife's and her new husband. I started chatting to him and told him how nice it would be for his wife if she could find some Thai friends when he took her back home. I will never forget the look of horror on his face ! He thought it was a terrible idea and suggested that this would give his wife the opportunity to stray. Well he took her back home and the marriage didn't last 'til the end of the year !

Put the shoe on the other foot. If you married your Thai wife and then went to live in her town/village/city or wherever how would you feel if she told you that you could not mix or meet with other farangs, or go out for a beer ?

[SuperstarStatus]

It's my view that If you are worried about taking your wife back to your home country then your relationship is on rocky ground to start with and maybe you have not married the right person.

I was concerned how my wife would settle as she had never left Thailand before, so I was actually delighted that she soon found Thai friends to socialise with. I feel that It really helped her to settle. I remember clearly the delight when she was able to visit friends and actually eat home cooked Thai food in a country that was foreign to her. She could also just pick up the phone and have a chat in her own language.

We have now been married nearly ten years and have two beautiful children.It depends on the person you marry, as they say a Leopard doesn't change it's spots ! I remember a trip to Thailand after we had been married a couple of years and meeting a friend of my wife's and her new husband. I started chatting to him and told him how nice it would be for his wife if she could find some Thai friends when he took her back home. I will never forget the look of horror on his face ! He thought it was a terrible idea and suggested that this would give his wife the opportunity to stray. Well he took her back home and the marriage didn't last 'til the end of the year !

Put the shoe on the other foot. If you married your Thai wife and then went to live in her town/village/city or wherever how would you feel if she told you that you could not mix or meet with other farangs, or go out for a beer ?

<------- THAT :jap: sa too

[StreetCowboy]

...Someone was talking about getting his wife or GF pregnant so she will stay home. That's cool if you both want and are ready, but not to do if you want your wife at home 24/7/365 that's just selfish. I mean look in the mirror, and be honest....

...

Sorry, maybe I should have corrected your misapprehension earlier, but your tone was so unpleasant that I hesitated lest a conversation ensue.

My previous text:

"My suggestion:

Have children. My wife was miserable when we moved to a foreign country; she was unable to work in her career, she had no friends other than my colleagues etc.

The children provided a focus that allowed her to fully integrate into society and became the hub around which her social life developed.

Its a longer-term commitment than drinking or gambling, but more satisfying, and probably strengthens rather than weakens the marriage. I imagine it works for Thais as well

SC "

I just offer my experience, strength and hope that others may solve our common problem. As you say, the wives are probably missing the wholesome activities that kept them interested in their home country; in my view, ladies who get married are likely to be interested in the whole family thing - that was my experience, anyway, and since the birth of our first child and subsequent, my wife has enjoyed her life much more than having nothing better to do than play second fiddle to her husband.

And I still maintain that neither drinking nor gambling, nor loitering with friends of the same nationality, nor shopping, nor any hobby unless carried to extremes will provide the same satisfaction and fulfilment as raising a family, though it is quite a long-term commitment.

I only re-iterate the point for fear that your misinterpretation may be shared by others, particularly if they have not read the whole post back to the original comment, and please do not interpret it as a desire to get mired in conversation

SC

[thaimate]

I do know a few guys that this happened to ,all without exception married bar girls(not all are bad i know one couple married 20 years and still in love) as for myself my wife and I lived in the UK for 6 years before we came back to Thailand ,she rarely mixed with other Thai women and liked being at home .it just depends on the sort of girl you marry,how she was brought up and her outlook on life . by the way she is 24 years younger than me. so its not just an age difference thing.