... and the most honest piece of father-to-daughter advice: How the h-ll should I know? ... Ask your Mother.

I wasn't abused, on the contrary I was mollicoddled. Wrapped in cotton wool.

But getting out in the real wild world i met men that, nowadays, i wouldn't give the time of day to.

PS that guy never called me!!!

Well yes, that is basically what i said. The point here being that there are always exceptions to everything but it is more common than not for girls to learn what makes a man from their fathers.

the percentage is really very high, like in the 80th percentile, I have done extensive reading and councelling on this. I was abused by my mother and members of her family. I never forget and I never forgave.

I have good reason to believe that their mother ( my grandmother ) was very controlling and father a very bad temper

My mother's brother abused his eldest son and her sister was with an abusive husband, the whole lot of them (even now) refuse to acknowledge that there is a problem. The eldest son, now at 35 is starting to deal with his childhood, for the sake of his kids.

For the sake of my sanity and the protection of my son, I have absolutely no contact with any of them.

the one thing that I would say all daughters need, SELF ESTEEM, KNOW THEIR WORTH, because for the longest time, that was taken from me and it cost me a lot ( too painful to elaborate )

set standards for themselves and the man in their lives ............. never compromise for less !!!!

... and the most honest piece of father-to-daughter advice: How the h-ll should I know? ... Ask your Mother.

"Google it, honey."

I just read the original post. So in summary the advice seems to be: "Raise her as if you were raising a boy.". Not sure I agree with that. And that's if I was even capable to provide training to anyone in the topics mentioned.. Change a tyre or use power tools.. <deleted>!

one thing that always makes an impression on me is when a woman does not know how to apply makeup or put a cordinated outfit together, I would make sure she learns how to apply make up and buy good clothes.

My daughter is young enough that so far I get by just fine with the following rules.

Rule #1 : Don't kill yourself, or your litle brother.

Rule #2 : Don't destroy the world. Especially not our house and the stuff in it.

Rule #3 : Be a princess, and a hero.

In addition to that I teach her anything she expresses an interest in, usually with quite a bit more information than a girl her age would typically learn.

Edited January 21, 201115 yr by WinnieTheKhwai

Not to get off topic by getting back to the original topic...but, if I ever had a daughter, I would make sure I taught her

1. How to handle a firearm (I think EVERYONE should know this, and I don't care if she doesn't like the idea, she is GOING to learn)

2. How to play a guitar (because I love it)

3. How to ride a motorcycle (because I love it too)

4. How to change a car tire (necessary, doesn't matter if it is a boy or girl, getting stuck on the side of the road is dangerous).

5. basic wrestling moves/chokeholds (necessary in a self defense situation if number 1 is not available)

6. to read on different religious philosophies to decide the path she chooses in life

7. to appreciate art/learn how to draw/paint (another one of my interests)

8. how to drive a stick shift (alot of wussy men don't even know how to do this)

9. how to read music (because I wish I had learned)

10. how to meditate (because I have just sort of gotten into it, and I think I would have been more relaxed in my younger days had I known about it)

Of course, on my list, whatever I would teach to my daughter, I would also teach to my son.

Teaching your daughter to take care herself is teaching her to be like a boy?? wow. interesting.

And sub, I learned to drive a motorcycle at 19 (in the US so a real one with a clutch and gears) and I ONLY drive a stick. Automatics are for slow driving wimps

Edit: Ummm, never mind.

Edited January 21, 201115 yr by SadieMBeagle

Teaching your daughter to take care herself is teaching her to be like a boy?? wow. interesting.

well, not quite what I meant. What I meant is, that anything that is important to teach my child will be the important stuff regardless of whether it's a boy or a girl. All the stuff I mentioned, I would teach a boy, and would teach a girl. Any of my children should know this stuff regardless of their sex.

Stuff like fighting or self defense...usually considered "boy" stuff. I think a girl should learn it, even more so than a boy. Alot of fighting is not just about size and strength always winning. A girl will have a disadvantage at size, but that disadvantage should be compensated with skill. I know a 110lb girl who practices grappling and can beat the crap out of 200lb grown men. Size matters not.

Stuff like appreciating art, and philosophy...everyone should do that.

Edited January 21, 201115 yr by submaniac

not you sub

... and the most honest piece of father-to-daughter advice: How the h-ll should I know? ... Ask your Mother.

"Google it, honey."

I just read the original post. So in summary the advice seems to be: "Raise her as if you were raising a boy.". Not sure I agree with that. And that's if I was even capable to provide training to anyone in the topics mentioned.. Change a tyre or use power tools.. <deleted>!

Not to get off topic by getting back to the original topic...but, if I ever had a daughter, I would make sure I taught her

1. How to handle a firearm (I think EVERYONE should know this, and I don't care if she doesn't like the idea, she is GOING to learn)

2. How to play a guitar (because I love it)

3. How to ride a motorcycle (because I love it too)

4. How to change a car tire (necessary, doesn't matter if it is a boy or girl, getting stuck on the side of the road is dangerous).

5. basic wrestling moves/chokeholds (necessary in a self defense situation if number 1 is not available)

6. to read on different religious philosophies to decide the path she chooses in life

7. to appreciate art/learn how to draw/paint (another one of my interests)

8. how to drive a stick shift (alot of wussy men don't even know how to do this)

9. how to read music (because I wish I had learned)

10. how to meditate (because I have just sort of gotten into it, and I think I would have been more relaxed in my younger days had I known about it)

submaniac. TVF's very own New Age Survivalist Cracker ( Joke mate)

Back in 1958, when my mother left home to go to secretarial college, her father lined up glasses of orange juice some with different sorts of alcohol added to them, so she could tell if someone tried to spike her drinks! These days, I believe you are more likely to have tasteless drugs slipped into your drinks, so the advice is never to leave them unattended.

Alcohol is still the most common thing to spike a drink with. The trouble is, they're usually a) spiking the drinks of someone who has already had a few (so pushing them from tipsy to over the edge) and b ) misrepresenting the amount of alcohol in a drink which the spikee already knows to have alcohol in it.

Don't let someone order you a drink unless you see it being ordered and you see what's in it, and yes, don't let it out of your sight.

Edited January 23, 201115 yr by nephron