I am desperate for your advice to hopefully stop my mind going crazy over my current situation. I,ve trawled through the internet to get as much info as possible but ultimately I need people with experience to either give me a wakeup call or make me feel a bit easier. ok so this is the deal...

I live in australia and I went to Bangkok to meet my friend for 10 days before carrying on to the uk for xmas in december last year. I asked my friend where would be a good place to find a decent fake watch and he explained that patpong had a good night market and he did not know anywhere better. Anyway so we go there about 9 pm after half an hour i,ve bought my watch and then my friend suggested going into a pool hall.

Inside the pool hall my friend told me to look over at the other table as there were 2 thai girls dressed in promo beer dresses and they looked stunning. My friend has been in thailand 10 years and said to me,, " hey these girls are not prostitutes,, so lets try to get there number" I agreed and my friend took control and originally the girls were not interested at all,,, but after my friend chatted with the thai owner and befriended there group he ask ed this girl to play me,,,, she did and I was very polite,,,

anyways my friend told her I was looking to move to bangkok in the future ( which is true ) and it would be good of her to meet me and show me around the city. She took the phone out my hand and punched in the number with out giving any indication of interest ie, smile etc.

so i met her a few days later and we went on a boat trip and had a really good time,,,, several date s later I went back to england after getting ultimately nothing in the sexual sense but we got on well,, I had tried of course but on my last night she agreed to come back to my hotel with me but then would not let me even touch her!!!!

I returned home for xmas,, and kept in touch and then 2 weeks later i stopped in bangkok again for 4 nights to break up the journey back to australia. She knew I was coming back and the first night she came to my hotel and we had sex,, and so this continued till i left,,,,

I have since been back to see her for again mid year and once again had a good time ,, and she emailed me everyday

she knows i,m coming back at xmas again for a holiday and were booked for a few days in hua hin..

the problem is that I find it very difficult to contact her more and more and she tells me that she is very busy with work all the time because she wants to get promotion etc so she does not have to work selling beer in patpong.. ( my friend has checked and the work in the daytime story is all correct so is all legit )

Ultimatley I just do not know whether to believe whether she would be seeing other men??? and could i trust her ( a girl who is in beer promo )

Purely becausue of where she works on an evening and the people she sees??

My friend assures me this is not the case because she would simply earn lots more money being a prostitute

I just get paranoid that she,l be giving other blokes her number and playing the field to look for the best deal

I need your opinion about what type of girls work in that area besides the prostitutes,,,,and the mindset of them

I know that a normal class thai, would not be seen dead working down there as a promo girl

Or is it normal for promo girls to be exposed to this and they think nothing of it

many people who only know the bar girls tell me she will 100% be doing the same to other men and that if she had sex with me then she would clearly do it to others. which of course really bothers me as I would never get involved with a prostitute

Theres so many reasons to trust her becasue, when i,m there she never lets me buy food at restaurants and brings thai food with her everyday and pays for it all. she has also bought me T shirts and little bits and pieces too ,,,,,,

but then there are so many reason why i should be cautious. I just dont know about her life and what has led her to work there. Is the soul purpose of working there to get a white man???

I do not know how these thai girls think and I would love you to give me your opinion on this type of girl.

she clearly isnt a prostitute but still works at those places

what do you think,,

Is there a possibility she can be trusted

or is it just the same case ,,, where she,l be quite happy to lie to me?

she always says i should save my money for me and my future and bnever asks for anything,,,, and reminds me not to spend too much on hotels all the time saying she really doesnt care where we stay

Finally i,m really sorry to go on and on but Its something that is really bothering me.

If i cannot trust her then i dont want to invest any more emmotion

is it common for girls in this line of work to be players?? I ,ve read that telling little lies is nothing for them and this bothers me

Is it normal for working thai women to be in the office until 8 in the evening and then go to work sellling beer?? becasue she always tells me this is why she is not able to get back to me often because she is always on the go.

my mate who lives there tells me it absolutely essential for her to make the money as she,s 27 and must pay to help her family.

I guess I want peoples opinions on whether they think she,s trustworthy etc,,,,,, she tells me i,m the first white bloke she,s had and my mate thinks the same but opinons would be really appreciated

hopefully i,ll hear from you really soon and you,l help me make some serious decisions in my life

becasue i just need for someone to tell me straight if i am deluding myself

thank you

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