When Should Wife Look For A Job?

[mike123ca]

When we were married, we started the family as soon as possible.

Today we have 2 children ages 5 and 2 years old and they are

both going to school full time.

I've asked the Thai wife what type of employment she would like to look to be doing?

She thought I was crazy, She felt it was more important to stay home to cook and

clean the house. For me, I would go crazy if I had to stay home all the time.

Am I wrong for trying to get her to look for a job?

[tonititan]

I understand why you might want your wife to get a job, but I have to ask......if she goes back to work, are you going to be willing to start assuming half of the household chorers & child-rearing duties that you probably haven't had to do since marrying her?

Personally, no, I don't think you're wrong to want her to have a job. I do think you'd be wrong to ask her to get a full-time job and still be responsible for ALL the cooking, dishes, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc. when she gets home from work. So hopefully that's not what you had in mind.

Edited September 27, 2011 by tonititan

[ludditeman]

In the west or in Thailand?

If in the west

Get her back to work ASAP so she is not gaining entitlement to your pension and assets without creating anything for you to claim in the divorce.

(Not to mention hers claims of giving up her career for you)

If in Thailand

Why bother, is 5000bht a month really worth the effort of not having her at your beck and call.

[geriatrickid]

In the west or in Thailand?

If in the west

Get her back to work ASAP so she is not gaining entitlement to your pension and assets without creating anything for you to claim in the divorce.

(Not to mention hers claims of giving up her career for you)

If in Thailand

Why bother, is 5000bht a month really worth the effort of not having her at your beck and call.

You assume the wife will make less. Some women do earn more than their husbands.

Beck and call?? . She's a spouse not an attendant. The sad reality is that most mothers that work, have 2 jobs: Mum and the other job. Do you think the kids stop expecting super feats from the mum just because she's working? Kids even in their teenage years don't understand the concept of working mothers. I sure didn't when I complained why Christmas dinner was late after my mother got called in to see a patient. I was hungry and wanted that turkey. I get it now. Too bad you don't.

[MikeyIdea]

Family is the most important thing - Do what is the best to keep family together long term

Work can be good if the wife starts to get bored with the 4 walls in the house, saying that though, I cannot believe that working would be best when one child is only 2 years old - and the wife says that she does not want to. Leave it for several years, look for signs of boredom and ask again if you see it

Sending the mother out to work when the youngest child is only 2 sounds like one of the things that families in the west unfortunately must do nowadays even though it generally is bad for both the children and the family. Why bring that to Thailand?

You taking the chores if the wife starts to work is not going to work. There are too many things happening in Thailand that doesn't happen in the west, adapt. Schools suddenly close in Thailand, you will have to have backup who are ready to take care of the kids every school day. Someone gets the virus variant of Impetigo (that's the one common over here) and school calls daddy at the office and tells him to fetch his daughter before lunch because school close for a week starting then...! Exactly that happened to me one month after I had separated from my ex and I had only arranged nanny to take care of Idea after school. Had to call mummy and ask her to come back...

The mother will perhaps not want to have a non-relative taking care of the child if she gets sick and you should of course respect the mothers wish if that is the case. Or you can pay dearly for a good nanny

Agree with geriatrickid - Quite a few of my male friends have wives that make more money than they do, assuming that the wife won't make more than 5,000 baht per month is a bit narrow-minded

Good Luck

[meatboy]

i am afraid your wife is right you must be crazy what were you thinking,youve been in thailand too long,seeing kids left with any tom, dick or noi,if your wife wants to go to work she will tell you so keep your thoughts to yourself

[PattayaParent]

Why did your wife give up work in the first place?

Me dad always said it was a good job I was born on a Sunday so me mum didn't have to miss a day at work.

[dave111223]

Seeing as your youngest kid is already 2 years old, and so probably off at college somewhere, I suspect that your wife just sits around all day doing nothing and should definitely be forced into employment.

Edited September 28, 2011 by dave111223