thequietman Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Am I alone. I speak with ideas and thoughts about which I know. Nobody hears me. A Thai man speaks with the same ideas - and hearing is restored ? after 10 years of taking care of this family and my opinion means nothing. The thai pu-yai suggests the same idea and hearing is restored. Its a miracle. I try the mai pen rai but this is clearly ignoring me. Your thoughts please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slapout Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 If they have not trained you nor you them in 10 years, give it more time or just accept that this is a permanent status. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonrakers Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Include more ghosts in your suggestions and they might listen more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geekfreaklover Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Do you mind me asking where you live? Is it a village thing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ludditeman Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) It might be you are too quiet man! But more seriously I let them discuss whatever they want for however long they want. In the end me and my wallet go my way, they can fit in with me or not. Up to them! Edited October 22, 2011 by ludditeman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thequietman Posted October 22, 2011 Author Share Posted October 22, 2011 Do you mind me asking where you live? Is it a village thing? Yes. :jap: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotinsiam Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 roll with it ! TIT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thequietman Posted October 22, 2011 Author Share Posted October 22, 2011 Include more ghosts in your suggestions and they might listen more. good idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petedk Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It's normal. I can give advice about certain matters and no one listens. A few days later a Thai will give the same advice and they all think he is great. Incidentally, I get a lot of updates about the floods here on TV and no one believes me until much later when they hear from a Thai. Just had the same thing about protecting the house from the floods. Oh, I am in "central" Bangkok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pacificperson Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It may be a language thing. I can tell my wife something in English and she doesn't pay much attention. But when someone tells her the same thing in Mandarin, it is 100% right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WAERTH Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 My advice is use more slang. They tried the same with me untill I started talking street Thai. W Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robblok Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It means your with the wrong family, if they don't accept or value your opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackr Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Though having never lived in that sort of set-up, it sounds to me like lack of respect, or you do not count. I suggest shouting or moving on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pauljones Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It's mind over matter. They don't mind and you don't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ulysses G. Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Do they understand your Thai? Mangled, incomprehensible Thai can cause many problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeyserSoze01 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Try withholding the baht until respect is offered. Works everywhere, not just in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baboon Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It's normal. I can give advice about certain matters and no one listens. A few days later a Thai will give the same advice and they all think he is great. Incidentally, I get a lot of updates about the floods here on TV and no one believes me until much later when they hear from a Thai. Just had the same thing about protecting the house from the floods. Oh, I am in "central" Bangkok. I agree with this post 100% If, however the poster is not English, could one of you tell him I agree with him 100%? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petedk Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It's normal. I can give advice about certain matters and no one listens. A few days later a Thai will give the same advice and they all think he is great. Incidentally, I get a lot of updates about the floods here on TV and no one believes me until much later when they hear from a Thai. Just had the same thing about protecting the house from the floods. Oh, I am in "central" Bangkok. I agree with this post 100% If, however, the poster is not English, could one of you please tell him I agree with him 100%? Haha I am English. Just had a typical case where I read here on TV that Klongtan, Phrakanong and Pattanakarn residents should move their belongings over 1 meter. She commented that I was panicking and that TV was rubbish. Five minutes later she received an SMS from a Thai friend with the same message. NOW she believes me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Latindancer Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Punctuate your speech with the "boing" noise heard on soap operas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baboon Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It's normal. I can give advice about certain matters and no one listens. A few days later a Thai will give the same advice and they all think he is great. Incidentally, I get a lot of updates about the floods here on TV and no one believes me until much later when they hear from a Thai. Just had the same thing about protecting the house from the floods. Oh, I am in "central" Bangkok. I agree with this post 100% If, however, the poster is not English, could one of you please tell him I agree with him 100%? Haha I am English. Just had a typical case where I read here on TV that Klongtan, Phrakanong and Pattanakarn residents should move their belongings over 1 meter. She commented that I was panicking and that TV was rubbish. Five minutes later she received an SMS from a Thai friend with the same message. NOW she believes me. O.K, he says he is English, but in case he doesn`t understand what I am writing, can someone let him know I hope he remains safe from the flooding? Best of luck, mate. Seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maprao Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It might be you are too quiet man! But more seriously I let them discuss whatever they want for however long they want. In the end me and my wallet go my way, they can fit in with me or not. Up to them! +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Banzai99 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) Maybe the Thais in question read ThaiVisa and hate us all.. Edited October 22, 2011 by Banzai99 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
falkan Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 get out from the issan village! and join the civilization.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarpSpeed Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Definitely not alone OP.. It's worn me out after 10 years, time to leave .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEGALITHIC Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 This: 1. You're a sucker for punishment. 2. It's not going to change. 3. If you don't like it; leave. 4. If don't want to leave; stop making suggestions or giving your opinions - your opinions and suggestions don't matter, or count, because everyone in the villages knows that they are smarter than the farang. The farang is only there to provide money. Don't waste your time discussing with them what you are going to do; just do it. And when they ask you why you didn't discuss something with them, just say there's no point because they know everything already lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GooEng Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 This: 1. You're a sucker for punishment. 2. It's not going to change. 3. If you don't like it; leave. 4. If don't want to leave; stop making suggestions or giving your opinions - your opinions and suggestions don't matter, or count, because everyone in the villages knows that they are smarter than the farang. The farang is only there to provide money. Don't waste your time discussing with them what you are going to do; just do it. And when they ask you why you didn't discuss something with them, just say there's no point because they know everything already lol. 5. rather than trying to get them to see the sense in your opinions and ways, adopt some of their ways. try this one first "sorry, i haven't got any money." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeyserSoze01 Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 This is a phenomenon not exclusive to Thai / Farang relationships. Seen it happen many times and it became a running joke with a group of friends who were all married to women from other cultures. You could tell them something, offer proof, verified by others and they won't believe you until it is verified by a fellow countryman. To me, this demonstrates a fundamental lack of trust in the one person you should trust implicitly. This behavior is part of the reason that my ex-wife and I are no longer together. She demonstrated that she did not trust me and I lost respect for her. Game over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I saw the reverse, an English friend decided to build a small brick shed "english style" ie walls first then roof as he knew better and the Thais didn't know what they were doing. After the third day sweating in the boiling sun he acknowledged that perhaps local knowledge wasn't so wrong after all and that putting the roof up first was a better idea. I have found that when I treat others opinions with respect I tend to get the same in return. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flying Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I have found that when I treat others opinions with respect I tend to get the same in return. Lots of truth in that statement Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mca Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 Include more ghosts in your suggestions and they might listen more. Good one rakers. Start every sentence with " Granny Lek came to me in a dream and said...." It'll work wonders I reckon. "Granny Lek came to me in a dream and said that the correct tyre pressures on an unladen D-Max are about 30 psi and not 60 as your brother seems to insist" or "Granny Lek came to me in a dream and said not to celebrate a 1000 baht win on the lottery seeing as you spend 5000 baht a month on tickets. You haven't "won" 1000 baht. You've only lost 4000." or "Granny Lek came to me in a dream and doesn't think it's a good idea to let our 12 year old son to take the motorcycle to school with his 7 year old sister on the back" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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