Successful Relationships With Thai Women

[WinnieTheKhwai]

When in Thailand, behave like a Thai!

Behave like a western pussy whipped softy and the Thai girls will walk all over you, have affairs, steal your home, etc.

Initially I thought your opinions were to deliberately get a rise out of many posters who can respond to the ridiculous... I'm starting to worry you are serious...

While I agree to some extent with not behaving like a love sick puppy or you will get walked all over. I disagree that you have to behave like a Thai.

Wait.. so both of you seem to agree that there is such as thing as 'behaving like a Thai', that applies to all Thai universally, and which by implication seems to be a fierce attitude to women.?

<deleted>... no wonder so many Thai readers of this forum think it's all nasty stereotypes.

Edited November 21, 2011 by WinnieTheKhwai

[TingTawng]

You are absolutely right, I know I am not worthy of the "high-so, half-chinese, university educated, independently wealthy with good jobs and have never worked in the sex industry women" that so many TV posters have managed to marry.

Somebody has to "do" the farm girls, and that is sadly my position in life as one who is "ever so humble".

Not sure where THIS has come from, but you don't half project your insecurities and stereotypes in your comments. I'm talking about what you think of yourself, not what you think of Thai women. You feel only adequate enough to live up to the low standards of your perceived stereotype of a Thai man who cheats on his wife, doesn't care about his kids, and feels he has no responsibilities. If THAT is your role model (and you've explicitly said it is), then you should take a look at yourself.

By the way, high and low standards has nothing to do with being "high so" or being poor or being well educated or not.

Edited November 21, 2011 by TingTawng

[richard_smith237]

When in Thailand, behave like a Thai!

Behave like a western pussy whipped softy and the Thai girls will walk all over you, have affairs, steal your home, etc.

Initially I thought your opinions were to deliberately get a rise out of many posters who can respond to the ridiculous... I'm starting to worry you are serious...

While I agree to some extent with not behaving like a love sick puppy or you will get walked all over. I disagree that you have to behave like a Thai.

Wait.. so both of you seem to agree that there is such as thing as 'behaving like a Thai', that applies to all Thai universally, and which by implication seems to be a fierce attitude to women.?

<deleted>... no wonder so many Thai readers of this forum think it's all nasty stereotypes.

You've cherry picked your quote there and removed the context of my statement. Go back and read it again....

Please don't deliberately take other peoples quotes out of context. It makes you appear intellectually clumsy.....

Initially I thought your opinions were to deliberately get a rise out of many posters who can respond to the ridiculous... I'm starting to worry you are serious...

While I agree to some extent with not behaving like a love sick puppy or you will get walked all over. I disagree that you have to behave like a Thai. The Thai's I know do not behave like the Thai's you suggest. There is however a level of strength that a lady appears to respond to, surely that is global?

[aneliane]

A 32548 th topic about farangs men and their thai wife

Yawn

[mataus101]

can't really say why it works but i have a few ideas.

i am 35 and she is 32, that helps i believe but is not important.

in some ways we are alike in others we are not, but the differances are huge because she is thai (obvious) this means things don't get to boring, always learning new cultural things.

from the very beggining we have been open and honest with each other, even if info we pass on may hurt, honesty we decided is most important.

best of all she is the greatest friend i have ever had, and we can talk about absolute shit for hours.

3 years and no problems, not one.

she is my wife and my best mate.

no one is the boss and we respect each other, i also respect her family and her background.

when times were tough she worked hard, when there were other less desirable options many take, no offence to them, but that has given me great respect for her.

she is a geniune good girl, lucky to find.

[mataus101]

dont know if it matters but being of the same religion helps somewhat

[maiphedmaiaroi]

I met my wife 8 years back. Used to send her 15k baht a month to help her out for the first year then took her to the UK to marry. Moved to Thailand 4 years ago and now she has been working in the UK for the last 2 years and sends me 43k baht whilst i take care of our 2 kids.

Now i think thats pretty sucessful

[scorecard]

Why would you be in a relation if you dont respect the other person or vice versa. I think that is a normal thing to expect.

Good sex?

What about what the western farang should contribute?

Here's another twist, I know a French lady who has a very successful long-term marriage with a Thai man 20 years her junior.

The French lady has numerous post-grad awards, writes music, writes plays, wrote a French cook book several years back which sold well (French and Thai script). And lots more.

Her Thai husband has never completed primary school and has no interest whatever in his wife's activities but he's always there when support is needed.

His interest is his small printing shop. He's Mr. Macho man (nothing wrong with that) but he's also very sensitive, his main priority in life is the happiness of his wife.

When he needs some extra hands, she's there at his print shop in two minutes, and gets her hands dirty. She speaks advanced Thai, he speaks advanced French.

Their marriage is highly successful, they deeply love, respect and support each other.

Edited November 22, 2011 by scorecard

[maiphedmaiaroi]

You have no self-confidence, so create a low standard from which you can judge your life from - that's a classic sign of low self-esteem.

You are absolutely right, I know I am not worthy of the "high-so, half-chinese, university educated, independently wealthy with good jobs and have never worked in the sex industry women" that so many TV posters have managed to marry.

Somebody has to "do" the farm girls, and that is sadly my position in life as one who is "ever so humble".

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

None are Hiso or Thai-Chinese but just hard working and well educated girls.

For younger guys is quite easy to find decent girls in Thailand if you know where to look

I'd like to add i have spoke with many farm girls that work in bangkok and pattaya in bars too but to me they are all the same. Same stories and just seems you can never trust what they say.

I know which girls i prefer.

[WinnieTheKhwai]

When in Thailand, behave like a Thai!

Behave like a western pussy whipped softy and the Thai girls will walk all over you, have affairs, steal your home, etc.

Initially I thought your opinions were to deliberately get a rise out of many posters who can respond to the ridiculous... I'm starting to worry you are serious...

While I agree to some extent with not behaving like a love sick puppy or you will get walked all over. I disagree that you have to behave like a Thai.

Wait.. so both of you seem to agree that there is such as thing as 'behaving like a Thai', that applies to all Thai universally, and which by implication seems to be a fierce attitude to women.?

<deleted>... no wonder so many Thai readers of this forum think it's all nasty stereotypes.

You've cherry picked your quote there and removed the context of my statement. Go back and read it again....

Please don't deliberately take other peoples quotes out of context. It makes you appear intellectually clumsy.....

You're correct. I hit 'reply' without taking in the complete statement; I apologize for that.

[F1fanatic]

I met my wife 8 years back. Used to send her 15k baht a month to help her out for the first year then took her to the UK to marry. Moved to Thailand 4 years ago and now she has been working in the UK for the last 2 years and sends me 43k baht whilst i take care of our 2 kids.

Now i think thats pretty sucessful

And we all believe you as this is the story we hear all the time.

Why on earth would you move to Thailand to look after your children when 1) they would receive a better education in the UK and 2) you would earn more in the UK??

[F1fanatic]

can't really say why it works but i have a few ideas.

i am 35 and she is 32, that helps i believe but is not important.

in some ways we are alike in others we are not, but the differances are huge because she is thai (obvious) this means things don't get to boring, always learning new cultural things.

from the very beggining we have been open and honest with each other, even if info we pass on may hurt, honesty we decided is most important.

best of all she is the greatest friend i have ever had, and we can talk about absolute shit for hours.

3 years and no problems, not one.

she is my wife and my best mate.

no one is the boss and we respect each other, i also respect her family and her background.

when times were tough she worked hard, when there were other less desirable options many take, no offence to them, but that has given me great respect for her.

she is a geniune good girl, lucky to find.

Absolutely. You are sooo lucky to find someone that speaks your language so well that you are able to communicate about 'shit' for hours.

Or perhaps you speak Thai so well etc..

[F1fanatic]

You have no self-confidence, so create a low standard from which you can judge your life from - that's a classic sign of low self-esteem.

You are absolutely right, I know I am not worthy of the "high-so, half-chinese, university educated, independently wealthy with good jobs and have never worked in the sex industry women" that so many TV posters have managed to marry.

Somebody has to "do" the farm girls, and that is sadly my position in life as one who is "ever so humble".

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

None are Hiso or Thai-Chinese but just hard working and well educated girls.

For younger guys is quite easy to find decent girls in Thailand if you know where to look

I'd like to add i have spoke with many farm girls that work in bangkok and pattaya in bars too but to me they are all the same. Same stories and just seems you can never trust what they say.

I know which girls i prefer.

Ummm, I thought you were married with a 'special' wife?

Go troll elsewhere.

[mataus101]

can't really say why it works but i have a few ideas.

i am 35 and she is 32, that helps i believe but is not important.

in some ways we are alike in others we are not, but the differances are huge because she is thai (obvious) this means things don't get to boring, always learning new cultural things.

from the very beggining we have been open and honest with each other, even if info we pass on may hurt, honesty we decided is most important.

best of all she is the greatest friend i have ever had, and we can talk about absolute shit for hours.

3 years and no problems, not one.

she is my wife and my best mate.

no one is the boss and we respect each other, i also respect her family and her background.

when times were tough she worked hard, when there were other less desirable options many take, no offence to them, but that has given me great respect for her.

she is a geniune good girl, lucky to find.

Absolutely. You are sooo lucky to find someone that speaks your language so well that you are able to communicate about 'shit' for hours.

Or perhaps you speak Thai so well etc..

no thai, her father and brothers speak good english, some people are educated.

her brother wrote a well known book in thailand called antivirus.

talk to him for hours also.

I get the feeling you were getting at something, being sarcastic, correct me if im wrong, having a dig as to why her english is so good.

have you ever really seen a bar girl with perfect english really, i seriously doubt it.

i know a few educated girls with very good english, it's not uncommon outside of walking street.

[elliss]

i think that after a mounth or two , with the lady,

it is very important that you tell them the truth about your financial circumstances ,

which in my case are somewhat limited ,, no i am not a teacher .

happy to be a OAP bachelor boy .

:jap:

[LarryBird]

No one mentions language. I'm curious how people do when at least one of the partners doesn't speak the other language at a very high level.

meaning, either the woman speaks exceptional english, or the man speaks exceptional thai.

Are there ever times when you want to discuss something but you realize a.) she's not going to understand what I'm talking about , or b.) we may get there, but it's going to be excrutiatingly difficult to communicate this for what it's worth?

[Berkshire]

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

None are Hiso or Thai-Chinese but just hard working and well educated girls.

For younger guys is quite easy to find decent girls in Thailand if you know where to look

I'd like to add i have spoke with many farm girls that work in bangkok and pattaya in bars too but to me they are all the same. Same stories and just seems you can never trust what they say.

I know which girls i prefer.

Ummm, I thought you were married with a 'special' wife?

Go troll elsewhere.

This guy "maiphedmaiaroi" is a real head-case. First he says he's got a wife that sends him big bucks every month while she works in the UK and he stays in Thailand. Then he talks about all his "special" girls. If you're for real, big-guy, you shouldn't be too proud to brag about what a scoundrel you are.

[pnm]

Agree - what is the big deal in having a "thai" wife that speaks English with aplomb?

can't really say why it works but i have a few ideas.

i am 35 and she is 32, that helps i believe but is not important.

in some ways we are alike in others we are not, but the differances are huge because she is thai (obvious) this means things don't get to boring, always learning new cultural things.

from the very beggining we have been open and honest with each other, even if info we pass on may hurt, honesty we decided is most important.

best of all she is the greatest friend i have ever had, and we can talk about absolute shit for hours.

3 years and no problems, not one.

she is my wife and my best mate.

no one is the boss and we respect each other, i also respect her family and her background.

when times were tough she worked hard, when there were other less desirable options many take, no offence to them, but that has given me great respect for her.

she is a geniune good girl, lucky to find.

Absolutely. You are sooo lucky to find someone that speaks your language so well that you are able to communicate about 'shit' for hours.

Or perhaps you speak Thai so well etc..

no thai, her father and brothers speak good english, some people are educated.

her brother wrote a well known book in thailand called antivirus.

talk to him for hours also.

I get the feeling you were getting at something, being sarcastic, correct me if im wrong, having a dig as to why her english is so good.

have you ever really seen a bar girl with perfect english really, i seriously doubt it.

i know a few educated girls with very good english, it's not uncommon outside of walking street.

[maiphedmaiaroi]

I met my wife 8 years back. Used to send her 15k baht a month to help her out for the first year then took her to the UK to marry. Moved to Thailand 4 years ago and now she has been working in the UK for the last 2 years and sends me 43k baht whilst i take care of our 2 kids.

Now i think thats pretty sucessful

And we all believe you as this is the story we hear all the time.

Why on earth would you move to Thailand to look after your children when 1) they would receive a better education in the UK and 2) you would earn more in the UK??

Because i prefer to live in Thailand than the UK and its better for my kids when they are toddlers,

Infact my kids have learnt more in Thailand now as a 5 and 4 year old would learn by the time they are at least 7 in the UK.

[maiphedmaiaroi]

You have no self-confidence, so create a low standard from which you can judge your life from - that's a classic sign of low self-esteem.

You are absolutely right, I know I am not worthy of the "high-so, half-chinese, university educated, independently wealthy with good jobs and have never worked in the sex industry women" that so many TV posters have managed to marry.

Somebody has to "do" the farm girls, and that is sadly my position in life as one who is "ever so humble".

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

None are Hiso or Thai-Chinese but just hard working and well educated girls.

For younger guys is quite easy to find decent girls in Thailand if you know where to look

I'd like to add i have spoke with many farm girls that work in bangkok and pattaya in bars too but to me they are all the same. Same stories and just seems you can never trust what they say.

I know which girls i prefer.

Ummm, I thought you were married with a 'special' wife?

Go troll elsewhere.

Yes im married of course as stated. Been away from each other for 4 years now so i think we both need good times now and again.

Trolling? Just teling the truth. She probably has a few bfs too

[thaibeachlovers]

I've done it all wrong then, in a successful relationship (I think)

1) She is a farm girl, left school age 13, I have postgraduate

2) We share no interests, I'm into outdoor pursuits, she likes Thai soaps

3) We do have a similar outlook on life, we're both not really bothered about anything

4) 20 year age difference

Similar for me.

I'm handy ( DIY ), she unhandy

No similar interests, I like news programmes, she Thai soaps. I like to go on the intenet, she likes to cook.

Where we do coincide is that she likes to "mother" me and I like to be "mothered".

Depends on what you both want out of the relationship, just as back in Farangland.

[mataus101]

the big deal about having a thai wife that speaks good english is obvious.

communication is the most important element in a relationship, for me personaly if her english was bad it would do my head in.

would not be her fault i just would not like it.

i like a girl who can communicate, i thought that is normal.

Edited November 22, 2011 by mataus101

[Bangkokhatter]

I met my wife 8 years back. Used to send her 15k baht a month to help her out for the first year then took her to the UK to marry. Moved to Thailand 4 years ago and now she has been working in the UK for the last 2 years and sends me 43k baht whilst i take care of our 2 kids.

Now i think thats pretty sucessful

If it's so successful why do you now have 5 special ladies on the go , you must be too handsum full of shxt more like !!

[KeyserSoze01]

When in Thailand, behave like a Thai!

Behave like a western pussy whipped softy and the Thai girls will walk all over you, have affairs, steal your home, etc.

Thai girls have no respect or desire for weak men, from what I have seen.

(I may be wrong, just my opinion of what's happening).

ludditeman, yes you are wrong. You reveal too much of your weak personality here. You have no self-confidence, so create a low standard from which you can judge your life from - that's a classic sign of low self-esteem. Grow a spine mate, and stamp your own authority on your life and don't aim so low. It's obvious you have no self-respect, so you can't respect anyone else - another classic. I imagine your reply will be some more bragging about how you have X, Y and Z - keep it coming, but you're just digging yourself a hole in this thread.

Also, life is not black and white. Just because you aim low (because you don't believe you can do better), it doesn't mean other people who have higher standards than you are "pussy whipped softies" - that's just you justifying the safe little bubble you live in.

I have to disagree with your assessment of ludditeman. He comes across as quite self-confident, knows what is important in his life and has no scruples in doing things his way. Most likely as a result of being financially secure, living the life of Reilly in Thailand, doing as he pleases. I do not agree with some of his views, but it is not for me or anyone else to judge him.

[maiphedmaiaroi]

I met my wife 8 years back. Used to send her 15k baht a month to help her out for the first year then took her to the UK to marry. Moved to Thailand 4 years ago and now she has been working in the UK for the last 2 years and sends me 43k baht whilst i take care of our 2 kids.

Now i think thats pretty sucessful

If it's so successful why do you now have 5 special ladies on the go , you must be too handsum full of shxt more like !!

Successful about the money she sends me i meant. Thought that was obvious from reading my post.

5 girls sure. Its easy in Thailand if your in your 20s or 30s and know where to look and know what to say. Who wouldnt want lots of women that are attracted to them?

[TingTawng]

I have to disagree with your assessment of ludditeman. He comes across as quite self-confident, knows what is important in his life and has no scruples in doing things his way. Most likely as a result of being financially secure, living the life of Reilly in Thailand, doing as he pleases.

Well, allow me to disagree with your assessment. I think that's the image ludditeman likes to portray, but I don't think there's any self-confidence in his posts - they come across as defensive and cynical / untrusting. Maybe we have different ideas on what self-confidence is, but it's pretty easy to "look after number one" and be 100% selfish - that's usually a refuge for people who are lacking in confidence - if nobody else likes me / looks after me / loves me, I'll look after myself. There's a bit more to life than that.

I suppose he could just be a troll.

...it is not for me or anyone else to judge him.

That made me laugh.

Edited November 23, 2011 by TingTawng

[PattaniMan]

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

Your FANTASY portfolio of girlfriends is interesting, but I'm afraid to say that it doesn't reflect that kind of strategic advice I offer my clients.

For a start .........

1. The portfolio is too small (you only have five investments)

2. Two of these five investments are medical professionals. This represents a 40% exposure to a particular sector. This is risky.

I would suggest that you broaden and diversify your portfolio. I generally recommend that clients limit themselves to no fewer than ten investments. This strategy not only optimizes potential returns, it also lessens the risk of loss should any one particular sector fail to perform.

I recommend that the portfolio always include at least two representatives from the legal profession. Have you considered finding a lawyer, or perhaps a high court judge?

The portfolio is also underweight in the manual labor sector. Many of my clients have invested in food vendors and/or cleaning ladies. Returns, on the whole, have been impressive.

But the sector which has outperformed the market more than any other in recent years is of course immigration. One of my clients invested in an immigration official a few years back and now enjoys free-of-charge visa renewals and an ongoing option to hide the salami three times per week.

[pnm]

Of course communication is essential in a relationship - was merely stating that Advanced English speaking Thais are not all that rare or special.

the big deal about having a thai wife that speaks good english is obvious.

communication is the most important element in a relationship, for me personaly if her english was bad it would do my head in.

would not be her fault i just would not like it.

i like a girl who can communicate, i thought that is normal.

[Gary A]

the big deal about having a thai wife that speaks good english is obvious.

communication is the most important element in a relationship, for me personaly if her english was bad it would do my head in.

would not be her fault i just would not like it.

i like a girl who can communicate, i thought that is normal.

Was my unhappily married friend wrong. He always told me that he was going to find a new woman who was deaf, dumb and owned a liquor store.

[maiphedmaiaroi]

Its fairly easy to meet well educated high earning single women via the internet chat sites.

Currently i have 5 "special" girl friends on the go. One is 29 who has a masters degree and earns around 20k a month working for a export company, One is a 23 year old nurse who earns minimum of 30k a month. One is a 35 who works for a jewlery company dont know how much she earns but she has just bought a house worth about 2million so must earn ok. One is a 30 year old specialist doctor who has earn't 200k in 1 month before and the last is a 24 year old filipeno teacher that earns around 20k a month.

Your FANTASY portfolio of girlfriends is interesting, but I'm afraid to say that it doesn't reflect that kind of strategic advice I offer my clients.

For a start .........

1. The portfolio is too small (you only have five investments)

2. Two of these five investments are medical professionals. This represents a 40% exposure to a particular sector. This is risky.

I would suggest that you broaden and diversify your portfolio. I generally recommend that clients limit themselves to no fewer than ten investments. This strategy not only optimizes potential returns, it also lessens the risk of loss should any one particular sector fail to perform.

I recommend that the portfolio always include at least two representatives from the legal profession. Have you considered finding a lawyer, or perhaps a high court judge?

The portfolio is also underweight in the manual labor sector. Many of my clients have invested in food vendors and/or cleaning ladies. Returns, on the whole, have been impressive.

But the sector which has outperformed the market more than any other in recent years is of course immigration. One of my clients invested in an immigration official a few years back and now enjoys free-of-charge visa renewals and an ongoing option to hide the salami three times per week.

Its not about money its about good times with sex.

Just stating its easier to get well educated Thai girls if you know where to look. Of course age and looks matter too.