What Is Wrong With Rip ?

[Scully]

The news forum often covers deaths of all nationalities and some posters like to show some compassion with some kind words for the victim.

There was a recent thread where a poster offered his condolences and got a reply that basically told him to keep it to himself. Not a strange occurrence on Thai visa however I was suprised that in a very short time the moaning poster got 14 likes.

Why do people get offended when someone offers kind words ?

I don't get it ?

Edited September 30, 2012 by Scully

[soi41]

Why show compassion with a person, you have never met? To me the RIP-posters here are just doing it for their own "feeling decent and good". I couldn't care less if someone, i didn't know had died or not. When I die, I don't expect any RIP's, and it really doesn't matter. There are hundreds of people dying in Thailand every day, but normally the ones reported here are about people from our own race/tribe.

My a suggest a special RIP-subforum here on Thaivisa, so all you PC guys can RIP all day long, and I promise you, that insensitive posters like myself will stay away!

[JUDAS]

I was taught that if I haven't got something decent to say I should keep my mouth shout. Whilst not always applicable I follow that advice on threads which family members of the deceased may come across.

[Mossfinn]

Part of the problem may be, that people post Rip, rip or whatever form, and although a sentiment of condolence, can't even take the time to write Rest in Peace.

[richard_smith237]

Possibly because amongst the cynical folk the RIP comments represent a somewhat empty sentiment.

The comment on that particular thread was somewhat unnecessary and narcissistic but perhaps mirrored what some themselves sometimes think but are either too weak or too sensible to write.

Its pretty easy and means nothing when people throw out the RIP's to people they've never known, but its also a nice thing so while I can understand peoples cynicism, I disagree with it.

[transam]

I was taught that if I haven't got something decent to say I should keep my mouth shout. Whilst not always applicable I follow that advice on threads which family members of the deceased may come across.

I was told to shut it, but you can shout if you like, we can't hear you.

[Scully]

Why show compassion with a person, you have never met? To me the RIP-posters here are just doing it for their own "feeling decent and good". I couldn't care less if someone, i didn't know had died or not. When I die, I don't expect any RIP's, and it really doesn't matter. There are hundreds of people dying in Thailand every day, but normally the ones reported here are about people from our own race/tribe.

My a suggest a special RIP-subforum here on Thaivisa, so all you PC guys can RIP all day long, and I promise you, that insensitive posters like myself will stay away!

First of all I too have never felt the need to offer compassion but as you say if it makes the poster happy why not ?

I certainly don't loose sleep over it, I just don't understand the need to disagree with kind words?

[Semper]

I think think this is quite 'normal'. As I have experience as an undertaker, I have noticed that when someone has died and didn't have many/any friends when alive, all of a sudden the deceased person has more 'friends' than he/she ever had before.

[uptheos]

I don't see the problem if someone wants to write RIP........who knows the writers feelings?

[soi41]

Why show compassion with a person, you have never met? To me the RIP-posters here are just doing it for their own "feeling decent and good". I couldn't care less if someone, i didn't know had died or not. When I die, I don't expect any RIP's, and it really doesn't matter. There are hundreds of people dying in Thailand every day, but normally the ones reported here are about people from our own race/tribe.My a suggest a special RIP-subforum here on Thaivisa, so all you PC guys can RIP all day long, and I promise you, that insensitive posters like myself will stay away!

First of all I too have never felt the need to offer compassion but as you say if it makes the poster happy why not ?I certainly don't loose sleep over it, I just don't understand the need to disagree with kind words?

Understand where you are coming from. But to me it is just a hollow gesture, just like giving 20 baht to a charity (when you easily could afford 1000), so you have peace on mind yourself. Feeling good.Btw how can you "rest in peace" when your dead body piece of meat, is either burned or eaten by worms? Edited September 30, 2012 by soi41

[Johnniey]

I'd like to say RIP Larry Prise.

With all the sadness and trauma going on in the world at the moment, it is worth reflecting on the death of a very important person, which almost went unnoticed last week.

Larry LaPrise - the man who wrote "The Hokey Pokey" - died peacefully at age 93.

The most traumatic part for his family was getting him into the coffin.

They put his left leg in. And then the trouble started.

[Mossfinn]

They put his left leg in. And then the trouble started.

[ripstanley]

I am fine Thankyou for your concerns.

[draftvader]

I was taught that if I haven't got something decent to say I should keep my mouth shout. Whilst not always applicable I follow that advice on threads which family members of the deceased may come across.

Pretty much covers it. That and it is, essentially, thoughtless and self serving. If the person applied thought they would write something useful and meaningful. I often wonder if they even know what it means.

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[mania]

They put his left leg in. And then the trouble started.

You had me in tears with that one

Thanks

[tinfoilhat]

it i a meaningless sentiment generally written for the benfit of the person writing it.

Edited September 30, 2012 by tinfoilhat

[rattler]

Why show compassion with a person, you have never met? To me the RIP-posters here are just doing it for their own "feeling decent and good". I couldn't care less if someone, i didn't know had died or not. When I die, I don't expect any RIP's, and it really doesn't matter. There are hundreds of people dying in Thailand every day, but normally the ones reported here are about people from our own race/tribe.My a suggest a special RIP-subforum here on Thaivisa, so all you PC guys can RIP all day long, and I promise you, that insensitive posters like myself will stay away!

First of all I too have never felt the need to offer compassion but as you say if it makes the poster happy why not ?I certainly don't loose sleep over it, I just don't understand the need to disagree with kind words?

Understand where you are coming from. But to me it is just a hollow gesture, just like giving 20 baht to a charity (when you easily could afford 1000), so you have peace on mind yourself. Feeling good.Btw how can you "rest in peace" when your dead body piece of meat, is either burned or eaten by worms?

Am sure all charities would rather be given 20 baht than no baht and if it gets to the point where the charity is disappointed i'd make it zero baht.

I think rip's should be personal and not on a forum.

[uptheos]

it i a meaningless sentiment generally written for the benfit of the person writing it.

Well, if someone benefits all is not lost.

[Scully]

it i a meaningless sentiment generally written for the benfit of the person writing it.

Well, if someone benefits all is not lost.

Yes this is how I feel.

There is certainly no need to chastise someone for writing it.

Edited September 30, 2012 by Scully

[barefoot1988]

which thread is that? maybe something rude is written or something

[Scully]

which thread is that? maybe something rude is written or something

Don't worry about it.

Thai visa to me is much the same as Thailand, a love hate relationship. There is also the fact that I will never totally understand either.

Thanks anyway

[Shot]

F O

[Morakot]

Fine thread. Rest in Peace.

[jacktrip]

They either thought it was a troll, post or they did not care.

There are plenty of people around who don't give a rat about what happens to other people. Remember that the next time you try to cross the street. You will notice that not everyone stops and would hit you if you kept walking.

[SlyAnimal]

To me, writing RIP is really just

Post count +1

No sentiment expressed or effort expended. Quite similar to if you just post "lol", or "Happy Birthday"

Posts like this have no sincerity and are just automated replies, with neither the brain or heart even activating, let alone contributing to the thread

Personally, I think that it's almost verging on insulting that someone offers such little effort when someone has just died. Better to post a full sentence or nothing at all imo.

[transam]

To me, writing RIP is really just

Post count +1

No sentiment expressed or effort expended. Quite similar to if you just post "lol", or "Happy Birthday"

Posts like this have no sincerity and are just automated replies, with neither the brain or heart even activating, let alone contributing to the thread

Personally, I think that it's almost verging on insulting that someone offers such little effort when someone has just died. Better to post a full sentence or nothing at all imo.

What a load of tosh. God help us.

Do you know what many floral tributes at a funeral have written on them.

R.I.P......... which you probably don't know means ''Rest In Piece''.

[Rob8891]

To me, writing RIP is really just

Post count +1

No sentiment expressed or effort expended. Quite similar to if you just post "lol", or "Happy Birthday"

Posts like this have no sincerity and are just automated replies, with neither the brain or heart even activating, let alone contributing to the thread

Personally, I think that it's almost verging on insulting that someone offers such little effort when someone has just died. Better to post a full sentence or nothing at all imo.

What a load of tosh. God help us.

Do you know what many floral tributes at a funeral have written on them.

R.I.P......... which you probably don't know means ''Rest In Piece''.

..or even Requiescat In Pace.... What a smug git I am today...... until someone corrects my cr@p latin.

A silly thread, but at least it's harmless..... now, where did that yank-bashing thread go to???

Edited October 4, 2012 by Rob8891

[JurgenG]

I personally prefer R.I.H.

Rot In Hell

[Rob8891]

I personally prefer R.I.H.

Rot In Hell

How incredibly pathetic.

[canuckamuck]

Well I think taking the time to write out the sentence is a little more sincere than the sms version.

However I don't talk to dead people so if I will say anything at all. it will be a sentiment of condolence for those who mourn.