It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

Money??

I mean, yours and not hers.

Don't kid yourself. You'll get a pension; she probably won't.

When your parents die (and I really apologize if this is a sensitive issue), you'll get a share of the assets.

If you were God's gift with a "wonderful personality", you wouldn't be on this forum. You'd already be married to a good girl in your own country.

Good luck to you. But drop the self-denial. We've all heard it way too many times before.

As a woman I can actually vouch that Smokie is a lovely gentleman with a fantastic personality! I've also met his other half and she doesn't seem like the type to be interested in how thick the wallet is. So hold your horses and quit judging. Some people are actually attracted to personality! Shock horror! Maybe not to yours though.

At the end of the day, you're the one starting a thread like this, therefore you should ask yourself to drop the self-denial first. You obviously have an insecurity about it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking yourself this question.

well said missie....

It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

Money??

I mean, yours and not hers.

Don't kid yourself. You'll get a pension; she probably won't.

When your parents die (and I really apologize if this is a sensitive issue), you'll get a share of the assets.

If you were God's gift with a "wonderful personality", you wouldn't be on this forum. You'd already be married to a good girl in your own country.

Good luck to you. But drop the self-denial. We've all heard it way too many times before.

As a woman I can actually vouch that Smokie is a lovely gentleman with a fantastic personality! I've also met his other half and she doesn't seem like the type to be interested in how thick the wallet is. So hold your horses and quit judging. Some people are actually attracted to personality! Shock horror! Maybe not to yours though.

At the end of the day, you're the one starting a thread like this, therefore you should ask yourself to drop the self-denial first. You obviously have an insecurity about it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking yourself this question.

Me, in my seventh decade decided to go weight lifting again after a thirty year lay off . Lost a lot of fat and shaped again . My mrs said l liked you fat . Is it fear of me attracting another . Nooooooooo, she liked me a cuddly Bear. I like me shaped up though.

It was my Norfolk accent and renditions of the following song which won her over.

Edited November 19, 201213 yr by stoneyboy

The difference is this: by purporting to be some kind of teacher, you are seeking to elevate yourself to a position of trust.

Paying punters don't purport to be anything other than what they are whereas you are effectively abusing this position of trust.

If you had the cash to just pay your way into these girls undergarments, would you still run your "finishing school"??

I doubt it very much; more likely you'd abandon your bullshit charade and get back to being what you really are - an old man who wants to get laid.

At least that would be honest.

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The difference is this: by purporting to be some kind of teacher, you are seeking to elevate yourself to a position of trust.

Paying punters don't purport to be anything other than what they are whereas you are effectively abusing this position of trust.

If you had the cash to just pay your way into these girls undergarments, would you still run your "finishing school"??

I doubt it very much; more likely you'd abandon your bullshit charade and get back to being what you really are - an old man who wants to get laid.

At least that would be honest.

I don't have a dog in this hunt but why not leave off, "old" and just say man? What do you think we change? Do you think I find attractive Thai women less attractive as I get older?

if a thai guy went out of his way to teach you thai then it would be ok for him to leave a deposit in your rear end just curious???( for payment of course )

For me,

It would depend entirely on how cute the Thai guy looked in a frock ...... and some Thai guys can look very very cute. (and I'm always looking to improve my Thai language skills)

Edited November 19, 201213 yr by TommoPhysicist

My only question is why do you want to be attractive to a Thai woman? Are you looking for a long term relationship? If not then you are better off with one of the women for short term rent. They can be found in most Thai cities. I actually think that is a bit more honest than trying to make some woman fall in love with you when you have no intention, or ability, to stick around for a long time.

Others have already mentioned the obvious such as learning the Thai language and being fit and clean. Money is important in any relationship in any country. Without it you will be classified as a bit of a loser; which is not far from the truth.

The difference is this: by purporting to be some kind of teacher, you are seeking to elevate yourself to a position of trust.

Paying punters don't purport to be anything other than what they are whereas you are effectively abusing this position of trust.

If you had the cash to just pay your way into these girls undergarments, would you still run your "finishing school"??

I doubt it very much; more likely you'd abandon your bullshit charade and get back to being what you really are - an old man who wants to get laid.

At least that would be honest.

I don't have a dog in this hunt but why not leave off, "old" and just say man? What do you think we change? Do you think I find attractive Thai women less attractive as I get older?

Look, there's a reason why many fathers wouldn't be chuffed if their daughter were to bring home a boyfriend far older than she is. In general, it'd be perceived as an older guy taking advantage of a young girl who may - rightly or wrongly - be regarded as innocent or at least, having less in the way of sexual experience.

I dunno whether you have or have had a young daughter but if she brought home a man 30 or 40 years her senior, would you be so swift to defend his right to "get some tail" or would you produce a Glock 9 from your drawing table and see him off??

I ain't saying it's right but that's the way some people think.

It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

I am of course fit and attractive otherwise of course....and fairly well dressed.

If you are smelly i reckon that is probably the number one turn off. It is for me!

You could be right. But i would say, you paying for everything when you're together with her, could have some influence. Can you try the opposite next time and see what'll happen?

My only question is why do you want to be attractive to a Thai woman?

Wow, you really gave up hope

It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

I am of course fit and attractive otherwise of course....and fairly well dressed.

If you are smelly i reckon that is probably the number one turn off. It is for me!

You could be right. But i would say, you paying for everything when you're together with her, could have some influence. Can you try the opposite next time and see what'll happen?

<sigh>

This is getting tiring.

I don't pay for everything.

From my experience with my good wife (teacher)

Need to shower twice a day

Dress well

Shave + no body hair

no tats

not old

not bald

slim

Have a good job

Does not waste money gamble etc

no smoking/drinking

no talking with other girls

Hope your sexlife (every Saturday??) is more exciting than your personality ?

From my experience with my good wife (teacher)

Need to shower twice a day

Dress well

Shave + no body hair

no tats

not old

not bald

slim

Have a good job

Does not waste money gamble etc

no smoking/drinking

no talking with other girls

Hope your sexlife (every Saturday??) is more exciting than your personality ?

I'd suggest Saturday is probably slated as 'shopping day'

It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

I am of course fit and attractive otherwise of course....and fairly well dressed.

If you are smelly i reckon that is probably the number one turn off. It is for me!

You could be right. But i would say, you paying for everything when you're together with her, could have some influence. Can you try the opposite next time and see what'll happen?

<sigh>

This is getting tiring.

I don't pay for everything.

All these assumptions running rampant and along you come and add a few simple facts to skittle the pessimists.

What next!

My wife calls bald "half hair" and she does not like it.

She would stay with me even if I went bald. She does not like wrinkles either but at some point i'm bound to get them.

I think it is myth that thai girls don't mind bald or wrinkles etc. Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

My wife calls bald "half hair" and she does not like it.

She would stay with me even if I went bald. She does not like wrinkles either but at some point i'm bound to get them.

I think it is myth that thai girls don't mind bald or wrinkles etc. Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

Feel sorry for their fathers.

if a thai guy went out of his way to teach you thai then it would be ok for him to leave a deposit in your rear end just curious???( for payment of course )

For me,

It would depend entirely on how cute the Thai guy looked in a frock ...... and some Thai guys can look very very cute. (and I'm always looking to improve my Thai language skills)

Does your mrs know about your fetish ?

My wife calls bald "half hair" and she does not like it.

She would stay with me even if I went bald. She does not like wrinkles either but at some point i'm bound to get them.

I think it is myth that thai girls don't mind bald or wrinkles etc. Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

Feel sorry for their fathers.

only if they marry someone there fathers age

Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

Wouldn't this depend on the age of the "girl" ?

My wife calls bald "half hair" and she does not like it.

She would stay with me even if I went bald. She does not like wrinkles either but at some point i'm bound to get them.

I think it is myth that thai girls don't mind bald or wrinkles etc. Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

Feel sorry for their fathers.

only if they marry someone there fathers age

My MIL is almost my age (OK so I am a couple of years older than my MIL)

Every good thai girl I have met has said they don't like old men.

Wouldn't this depend on the age of the "girl" ?

Noooooooooooooo, depends on the age of the farang they are talking too. If old farang guy then they don't like young farangs. ...........................

This thread is getting boring now.

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Well it's turned into an attack on a bloke who has found out a way of laying hookers which outsmarts the infuriated Thai Visa perverts here.

I say hats off to Big Johnny.

At least he is offering them a service and not just throwing money into the wind like the rest of you saddos.

Many here need to get off your 30,000 baht a month TEFL &lt;deleted&gt; and use your initiative.

The outrage is justifiable. The guy's no better than a nonce

How so?

I fail to see where he is either lying to anyone nor interfering with underage children.

Your usage of "Nonce" is vile.

He may be getting a load of sex but I fail to see where he is doing anything illegal not immoral.

TEFL/skint pensioner anger and jealousy in play here...

I didn't call him a nonce - I said he's no better than one since he's using the promise of an "education" to secure a "better life" to lure young girls into his "finishing school" where he proceeds to cajole them into having sex with him.

I don't believe his claim that many of his former alumni are living idyllic lives with great guys here or in the West. I think that's just a smokescreen to lend his "program" as he calls it a veneer of altruism and respectability.

I'd be more inclined to believe that 90% of these girls are scratching a living at Pattaya bars right now.

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Trust me. Money is the #1 issue here. Nothing else comes close.

Try to pretend you're going to buy her a house and car(you don't actually have to do this). Works wonders.

TEFLer - No

Day Trader - Yes

Skint - No

Comfortable - Yes

Pensioner - No

Mid 40s - Yes

I don't expect others to live by some conservative moral code.

For example, I have no issue with men - of whatever age - paying women to have sex with them. I most certainly am NOT jealous of his "success". I have more than enough money to be able to pay the small sums I am quoted by girls at the more salubrious establishments and, like most men here, I could be getting laid every night if I was so inclined. Maybe in your mindset, that's something to be proud of but I prefer not to measure myself by how many women are prepared to sleep with me for money. How sad.

I take issue with this individual's methods because he claims to offer them an education and takes sex as payment. If the benefits of this education are so tangible and pertinent in the real world, why doesn't he charge a means-adjusted tuition fee? I'll tell you why; because the education he provides is pretty much worthless.

It would be much more honest if he simply paid for the services. That is, after all, his primary motivation.

Edited November 19, 201213 yr by HardenedSoul

Day Trader - Yes

So you're here chancing your arm here too then?

I have no idea what a "day trader' actually is, however I guess it's an ebay type thing..

Day Trader 1 -- Pervert 0

EDIT: has the the pervert been sent off?

Can't a "day trader" also be a pervert?

It must be my wonderful personality then cos I drink and smoke like a trooper!

Money??

I mean, yours and not hers.

Don't kid yourself. You'll get a pension; she probably won't.

When your parents die (and I really apologize if this is a sensitive issue), you'll get a share of the assets.

If you were God's gift with a "wonderful personality", you wouldn't be on this forum. You'd already be married to a good girl in your own country.

Good luck to you. But drop the self-denial. We've all heard it way too many times before.

Well....my parents haven't a huge sum of money....nor do I....my pension in UK terms might be OK...wait and see on that.

In any case my gf has a good job and excellent prospects herself.

Its not always about money I'm sorry to have to tell you.

Regards marrying a girl in the UK....I've seen too many divorces where the man ends up living in a bedsit while the wife takes the kids...house.. and moves in the new bf to boot. No thanks.

Good reply.

How do you see the future with your new Thai woman? Will you be living here or will you take her to stay with you in England? If the latter, aren't you running the risk of divorce (which you obviously fear)?

You ever been married before?

There's a lot of fear in your post.