Girlfriend Want To Move In With Me - Comments?

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

Your research is on the money; this one behaves like a teenager, gets upset easily if I identify and issue or problem with what she has done, loves attention and affection. She also has strong opinions about what she likes and doesn't like. I like learning about her attitude, behaviour and personality, it's quite fascinating. I probe, test and challenge her thinking, to learn how to get her more psychologically attached to me.

I also agree with your age range personalities. I agree there is a high risk of failure, but until that point, it should very enjoyable, if the past experiences are an indicator of the future.

Cigar7, I think you've answered your original question. Carry on.

Lock the thread, please, Mods.

Edited December 27, 2012 by Kaoboi Bebobp

[Tywais]

A post just way OTT describing ones sexual activity and replies removed.

[TheWalkingMan]

My only comment is that I am unable to deal with women acting like kids. It can be funny as a one-off, but as an regular occurrence would drive me nuts. Maybe I have no patience to help someone grow up.

Whatever happens, good luck.

[parallaxtech]

When I met my current Thai partner I was 54 and she was 30, not a big age difference in my mind, as I had been sleeping with women 18-25, which is the age I prefer just for sex. I had no intention of getting a wife or even a girlfriend and I made my views clear to her. I also added that I had several rich friends who would pay her, but she would get nothing from me. And here we are five years later in the best relationship anyone could ever want. However, I took things very slowly to find out if there were any hidden agendas. We dated for over a year while she lived in a cramped apt with five others. During that period I put her through every test known to man such as telling her I was going away to Bangkok and then showing up at her apt at 1 a.m.. In my mind I wanted for her to fail so I could justify getting rid of her. She not only passed all my crazy tests but almost made me feel ashamed that I had ever doubted her. I don't believe that you can trust any woman 100%, but if you can 90% of the time then that is good enough. I think if you take it slowly to see how things go and protect yourself financially then you really have nothing to lose.

[SGD]

Screw the naysayers, you only live once and you have already found a girl who doesn't hang around on Beach Road in a g-string. Like a couple mentioned, even if she gutted your place, you lose only the sticks and stuff. Get insurance.

As to the money, I guess you know that is where you come into this relationship. Fair enough but go through it with her and agree ground rules. Some may want another sponsor whereas you may have to pay to be exclusive. Her not paying rent, electric, food etc. is a saving for her already. If she shares a vehicle with you (car I mean, not a bike) then all the better.

It might not last for years or ever but it is better than chasing skirt every night as you already know.

There are however two caveats.

Firstly, if you are not already cut and cannot father children, then go get cut now. You have to remove the potential for entrapment or accidents she won't get rid of.

Secondly, and more importantly, you need to think about your space. As someone else said, what happens when you want to go out on your terms ? Actually, nothing will happen. You will go out and she might also go out or have friends over. The problem comes when you want to stay out late or not come home or if you want to pick up another girl. All of a sudden, her being at home can be a problem.

If you're ok for money, I'd rent a small place separately as a bolt hole. With a security door and so forth it wouldn't be a bad place to chill but you might ask why you need it when you could have her living outside. The fact is that if you do have a spontaneous stream then a settled domestic life won't cut that and dropping in on crap cheap hotels is a heck of a life. I had my house and my condo. She knew about it, all my live ins knew about my other place and not one of them knew where it was. The thing was they didn't ask either.

[Payboy]

but I do return to Canada for up to 2 months at a time, several times a year

Just be careful her brother doesn't move in to take care of the apartment while you're gone.

[rgs2001uk]

If you're ok for money, I'd rent a small place separately as a bolt hole. With a security door and so forth it wouldn't be a bad place to chill but you might ask why you need it when you could have her living outside. The fact is that if you do have a spontaneous stream then a settled domestic life won't cut that and dropping in on crap cheap hotels is a heck of a life. I had my house and my condo. She knew about it, all my live ins knew about my other place and not one of them knew where it was. The thing was they didn't ask either.

If you're ok for money, I'd rent a small place separately as a bolt hole.

Never ceases to amaze me the number of farangs living here who think they know better than Thai men in the same situation.

Do as a Thai man does, get the girl to rent an ap't in her name, you move in with her and pay the bills, when it goes tits up as it will, you simply walk out the door. There is no need for the girl to move into your place.

I dont see Thai men moving girls in with them, they are Thai and know the way the game is played, its usually farang CC's who think they are getting a cheap shag that are the ones getting burned.

Wait for the day she turns up on your doorstep with the police asking for money after you have kicked her out.

Lets be honest what is taking place here is nothing more than a sponsor situation, the girl knows whats happening does the OP.

Wait for the girl asking for a car to get back and forth from Uni, wait for the requests for a new mobile, etc etc , where does the OP intend to draw the line.

Play the sugar daddy if you want, just make sure you know what you are getting into and you can afford it, many bite off more than they can chew.

[TommoPhysicist]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Edited December 27, 2012 by TommoPhysicist

[transam]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Yep, gawd we can see it but the OP can't. BUT, perhaps it's a small price to pay for his eeeeeeeeeeeeeer, hmmmmmmmmmm, pervy stuff eh.

[whybother]

If you're ok for money, I'd rent a small place separately as a bolt hole. With a security door and so forth it wouldn't be a bad place to chill but you might ask why you need it when you could have her living outside. The fact is that if you do have a spontaneous stream then a settled domestic life won't cut that and dropping in on crap cheap hotels is a heck of a life. I had my house and my condo. She knew about it, all my live ins knew about my other place and not one of them knew where it was. The thing was they didn't ask either.

If you're ok for money, I'd rent a small place separately as a bolt hole.

Never ceases to amaze me the number of farangs living here who think they know better than Thai men in the same situation.

Do as a Thai man does, get the girl to rent an ap't in her name, you move in with her and pay the bills, when it goes tits up as it will, you simply walk out the door. There is no need for the girl to move into your place.

I dont see Thai men moving girls in with them, they are Thai and know the way the game is played, its usually farang CC's who think they are getting a cheap shag that are the ones getting burned.

Wait for the day she turns up on your doorstep with the police asking for money after you have kicked her out.

Lets be honest what is taking place here is nothing more than a sponsor situation, the girl knows whats happening does the OP.

Wait for the girl asking for a car to get back and forth from Uni, wait for the requests for a new mobile, etc etc , where does the OP intend to draw the line.

Play the sugar daddy if you want, just make sure you know what you are getting into and you can afford it, many bite off more than they can chew.

The Thai men usually don't have the girl friends move in with them because their wives won't approve.

[TommoPhysicist]

Yep, gawd we can see it but the OP can't. ...........

I'm constantly gob-smacked at these old guys (60s) that think a young and attractive girl (20s) is with them for anything except the money. Amazing levels of self delusion.

On a personal basis.

My misses is 20 years younger than me ...... and even that would be stretching the old credibility quite a bit.

My personality is not great, my heart is not generous, and I could only be described as 'handsome' by someone that really loves prunes.

Now that's reality for you!

Edited December 27, 2012 by TommoPhysicist

[rgs2001uk]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Lets do some simple maths here, take 200k per year as being what he will pay.

Pattaya BF and LT rate of say 4k.

200k/4k = 50.

As long as he gets laid more than once a week he is in profit.

Its all the other BS he will have to endure along the way than only he can answer if its worth it.

[whybother]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Lets do some simple maths here, take 200k per year as being what he will pay.

Pattaya BF and LT rate of say 4k.

200k/4k = 50.

As long as he gets laid more than once a week he is in profit.

Its all the other BS he will have to endure along the way than only he can answer if its worth it.

4k?

[rgs2001uk]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Lets do some simple maths here, take 200k per year as being what he will pay.

Pattaya BF and LT rate of say 4k.

200k/4k = 50.

As long as he gets laid more than once a week he is in profit.

Its all the other BS he will have to endure along the way than only he can answer if its worth it.

4k?

I honestly dont know, over on another thread someone posted BF rates of 2k at the moment.

Lets assume, the total is 2k.

That means the OP would need to have sex at least twice a week to break even.

Lets assume he spends 300k per year, that equates to 300,000/2,000 = 150, that equates to sex at least 3 times a week before he is in profit.

At age 58 there is no mention of what his viagra bill will be.

[theprofessional]

I am constantly sickened and saddened by what I see in Pattaya. The age gaps are just too large. In my case its slightly different as although there will typically be an age gap of atleast 20 years between myself and my girl (where i will be older) I can carry it off as I am indeed an extremely handsome man who looks far younger than his chronological age (just ask the girls I am with or all the bar girls that shout this at me all the time, thats proof). Most, however, can't carry it off.

[TommoPhysicist]

I am constantly sickened and saddened by what I see in Pattaya. The age gaps are just too large. In my case its slightly different as although there will typically be an age gap of atleast 20 years between myself and my girl (where i will be older) I can carry it off as I am indeed an extremely handsome man who looks far younger than his chronological age (just ask the girls I am with or all the bar girls that shout this at me all the time, thats proof). Most, however, can't carry it off.

OK Grand-dad.

[rgs2001uk]

I am constantly sickened and saddened by what I see in Pattaya. The age gaps are just too large. In my case its slightly different as although there will typically be an age gap of atleast 20 years between myself and my girl (where i will be older) I can carry it off as I am indeed an extremely handsome man who looks far younger than his chronological age (just ask the girls I am with or all the bar girls that shout this at me all the time, thats proof). Most, however, can't carry it off.

OK Grand-dad.

I think the word you are looking for is , Papa.

[noob7]

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Lets do some simple maths here, take 200k per year as being what he will pay.

Pattaya BF and LT rate of say 4k.

200k/4k = 50.

As long as he gets laid more than once a week he is in profit.

Its all the other BS he will have to endure along the way than only he can answer if its worth it.

4k?

I honestly dont know, over on another thread someone posted BF rates of 2k at the moment.

Lets assume, the total is 2k.

That means the OP would need to have sex at least twice a week to break even.

Lets assume he spends 300k per year, that equates to 300,000/2,000 = 150, that equates to sex at least 3 times a week before he is in profit.

At age 58 there is no mention of what his viagra bill will be.

45baht/pill?

http://men.kapook.com/view48069.html

[Rimmer]

Inflammatory and derogatory and off topic posts discussiong prostitution removed

[LaoPo]

What I think she sees in me are the advantages of an older man:

1. Maturity and Wisdom

2. Stable

3. Responsible

4. Loyal

5. Open minded

6. More time together

7. Better sex

8. More appreciative

9. Better quality of life

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

You forgot the most important one:

# 10: Financial security and a roof above her head;

THAT's what most women are after and there's nothing wrong with that.

You also forgot to talk about the biological wishes of the 22 year old; one day she might want to have children...

[JUDAS]

Marriage SUCKS. Trust me. I feel like I have a ball and chain attached to my ankle. Stay single.

You sound trapped meatballs. I would say that marriage to the wrong person sucks.

[RandomSand]

Cigar7, If you felt the need to start this topic, and consider getting a getting a copy of her ID card, it would appear to me that there isn't enough trust in the relationship at this stage.

...For this reason - and nothing about your ages or anything about her - maybe best thing is to trust your gut instincts right now.

Edited December 27, 2012 by RandomSand

[transam]

Cigar7, If you felt the need to start this topic, and consider getting a getting a copy of her ID card, it would appear to me that there isn't enough trust in the relationship at this stage.

...For this reason - and nothing about your ages or anything about her - maybe best thing is to trust your gut instincts right now.

I think he trusts his peckers instinct.

[SantiSuk]

Most young Thai girlfriends are 10 times more reliable than their older Falang boyfriends IME/O.

Edited December 27, 2012 by SantiSuk

[Bosse137]

cigar7 You got a good advice already from post nr 5,she rents her own place and no problems...About young girls/women being with old men for money and not for love,I do not get what the fuzz is about.So what?!Who cares?! As long as there can be a functioning relationship,I for one do not stay awake at night,trying to find out which it is...On the contrary,too much feelings have a tendensy to mud the water..

[jbrain]

Yes, I am willing to pay for her tuition.

That was the important one!

Have a great time.

Expect to spend 200-300k per year.

Lets do some simple maths here, take 200k per year as being what he will pay.

Pattaya BF and LT rate of say 4k.

200k/4k = 50.

As long as he gets laid more than once a week he is in profit.

Its all the other BS he will have to endure along the way than only he can answer if its worth it.

4k?

Yeez, I never realised my right hand was that valuable.

Edited December 27, 2012 by jbrain

[LaoPo]

Most young Thai girlfriends are 10 times more reliable than their older Falang boyfriends IME/O.

[noob7]

Most young Thai girlfriends are 10 times more reliable than their older Falang boyfriends IME/O.

That is category:

"He who pays the piper calls the tune"

methinks!

[chickenslegs]

• Women all say they want a man can make them laugh. Rich old guys must be hilarious.
  

Brilliant observation.

[sirchai]

"Her teaching position ends in Dec. and she wants to go to University and earn a BA in Tourism starting in January 2013. She has commented that she would like to attend Dusit Thani in Pattaya and stay with me. She has not asked me to pay her tuition."

OMG! How can somebody your age be that naive? My teaching position ends in December too. I'm 19, still a virgin, got my own condo, three sports cars, big bikes, some yachts, a lot of money and 34 buffaloes. I'm looking for somebody like you to be part of my herd.---