Troubled217 Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) So I've been dating this thai girl for about a year and a half (I am white btw). For the first 6 months things were fantastic. Then about 6 months after we met she became friends with this guy that she works with (he's thai). Since there friendship it seems like our relationship has take a turn for the worse. We still hang out a lot but she just seems distant. They see each other at work and hang out. She'll even come over to hang out and talk to him on the phone for hours with me sitting right there. I mentioned before how it bothers me and it always turns into this huge argument. To add to this I've seen text messages from the guy telling her how he misses her and other messages saying how he can't wait to see her tomorrow. I asked her about it and she said that it's a cultural thing and I just don't get it. That it's normal and he's like a brother to her. I REALLY want to believe her. Can anyone confirm this? I feel like I'm losing my mind here. Edited January 31, 2013 by Troubled217 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 WOW ... you can read Thai ! To add to this I've seen text messages from the guy telling her how he misses her and other messages saying how he can't wait to see her tomorrow. One presumes that two native Thai speakers message each other in Thai. Sorry Ladies (Forum) ... didn't mean to intrude. I know where my coat is ... . 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 WOW ... you can read Thai ! To add to this I've seen text messages from the guy telling her how he misses her and other messages saying how he can't wait to see her tomorrow. One presumes that two native Thai speakers message each other in Thai. Sorry Ladies (Forum) ... didn't mean to intrude. I know where my coat is ... . Yep. agree....................................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beano2274 Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 I have had the same thing, it took a while but I realised it was a work thing and this kind of big brother thing, just relax, take it easy and chill. I just make it a joke now when he sends her something on LINE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Err this forum is for women, not about women so unless you are looking specifically for women's advice its not really the appropriate forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nisasina Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 Sorry guy, even if I'm a Thai but I'm disagree with this cultural. We never said such as sweet words for acquaintances or close friends except Kik or BF. it never existed in our tradition. Now, you should look inside your heart & your love, how much you love her? Or do you wanna try go on with this situation and lets the time prove thing? I can understand your stage now cuz I used to see SMS from my foreigner ex-BF with Thai girl... It was so painful and killed me 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troubled217 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Share Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) I'm sorry I should have clarified. Yes I know this is a forum is for women, I was looking for advise FROM a womens point of view. Not really so much for relationship advise per se. Seeing some of the responses it would seem that my question was worded improperly. To those that 'actually' replied, thank you for the responses. Edited January 31, 2013 by Troubled217 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted January 31, 2013 Share Posted January 31, 2013 I'm sorry I should have clarified. Yes I know this is a forum is for women, I was looking for advise FROM a womens point of view. Not really so much for relationship advise per se. Seeing some of the responses it would seem that my question was worded improperly. A woman will never rat out another woman, I'd say your wasting your time in here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sbk Posted February 1, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 1, 2013 Sorry guy, even if I'm a Thai but I'm disagree with this cultural. We never said such as sweet words for acquaintances or close friends except Kik or BF. it never existed in our tradition. Now, you should look inside your heart & your love, how much you love her? Or do you wanna try go on with this situation and lets the time prove thing? I can understand your stage now cuz I used to see SMS from my foreigner ex-BF with Thai girl... It was so painful and killed me I agree, never heard of this being a "cultural thing" in all the years I have lived here and I doubt most Thai women would tolerate this behavior from their boyfriends or husband's with another woman. If its been going downhill for over six months then it sounds like she is just not into you anymore and you aren't getting the necessary cultural cues to bow out. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uptheos Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Are we allowed to 'like' on the ladies forum? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisb Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffreyMcCollum Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 Walk . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rene123 Posted February 3, 2013 Share Posted February 3, 2013 I agree with sbk. As tough as it may seem to be at the moment, it is time to bow out gracefully. Let it be you that makes the decision and you might save some face. Loving someone without love being returned is always difficult and it's not going to change no matter what you do. It is just prolonging the agony. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturatica Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 I doubt its a cultural thing like she says... I would assume the worse if I was you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheryl Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Yes. She has in effect dumped you for a Thai BF. Thais do not like direct confrontation and giving people bad news so they use indirect methods to communicate. That's what her being "distant" is all about. She is giving signals that she has moved on. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Sorry guy, even if I'm a Thai but I'm disagree with this cultural. We never said such as sweet words for acquaintances or close friends except Kik or BF. it never existed in our tradition. Now, you should look inside your heart & your love, how much you love her? Or do you wanna try go on with this situation and lets the time prove thing? I can understand your stage now cuz I used to see SMS from my foreigner ex-BF with Thai girl... It was so painful and killed me I'm always amazed how many farangs buy into this "it's a cultural thing" line. Because it rarely ever is. When a Thai girl uses that line in these sort of circumstances, what she is really saying is "ask me no questions and I will tell you no lies." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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