Statistics-Or The Lack Of Them

[swissie]

To my knowlwdge, there are no official statistcs kept as far as how much money was invested in Thailand by Farangs on behalf of Thai-Wife-GF-Thai Family over the last, let's say the 25 to 30 years.

The figure must be mindboggling.

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Especially interesting would be a quote, that would indicate how many of those "investments" have turned "sour". I am afraid, we will never know, because there are few Farangs that rush to this forum by declaring "I have lost my live-savings but I had a good time during the process". = Cow-Droppings!.

Oftentimes one can read statements here like "been married 10 years". For a Farang such things have meaning. Much less for a Thai. (Harsh statement, I know.)

If a Farang has given his share to the Family-Clan in form of financial supplements over the years and not much more will be forthcoming and, should he become ill or simply old for example (= a burden), I would not necessarily want to be in his shoes. (The duration of a relatinship, under these circumstances will matter very little.)

Many a Farang will find above comments insulting (my wife will never allow such things to happen). Here may well be the root of the problem. Farang remains Farang (including his perceptions of "values" and Thais will remain Thais including their perceptions of "values".

Is there a bridge accross the river? For sure, but not in our lifeteme unless your are currently at the age of 10.

Cheers.

[onionluke]

I would say there are stepping stones across the river . You and your wife have to place them . The stepping stones may get washed away by the force of the river . You and your wife have to replace them . I always seem to be midstream but my wife is with me all the way . Bridges are a bit technical , stepping stones we can mannage .

[tom21]

Sounds like your saying if you are not worth more alive than dead you’re in deep shit.

[swissie]

I will do my best to keep this post on track. I am not talking about my "wife or my mia noi" (I have none of the above). Those are general observations and I would hope that at least once we could hold a thread that is strictly based on the OP's comment.

Out of courtesy, if you can not ( or are not willing ) to post within the OP's original train of thought: Don't post at all !! It's as simple as that.

Cheers.

[ubonrthai]

Oftentimes one can read statements here like "been married 10 years". For a Farang such things have meaning. Much less for a Thai. (Harsh statement, I know.)

10 years of marriage means little to Thais? What does that mean? last I checked 10 years was a big milestone in any culture. Not being married, you're hardly one to judge the value of a 10 year commitment.

[manxninja]

ten years with a thai wife is worth a medal.

Ive nearly got mine but it can be a little stressfull at times.

[ubonjoe]

Oftentimes one can read statements here like "been married 10 years". For a Farang such things have meaning. Much less for a Thai. (Harsh statement, I know.)

10 years of marriage means little to Thais? What does that mean? last I checked 10 years was a big milestone in any culture. Not being married, you're hardly one to judge the value of a 10 year commitment.

Ten years does mean a lot. I have already made it plus a little.

As far as family (extended I assume) is concerned I have been accepted by the family for a long time and have even had a return (it does not have to be financial) from our extended family more than a few a few times.

Yes I have invested a good deal of money in Thailand over the years but nothing more than what anybody would do for their family anywhere in the world.

[Issangeorge]

I have just passed the 12 year mark of marriage. There have been ups and downs like any marriage, far more ups than downs. I support my wife her younger brother and his family, my sister-in-law and two daughters and a son. My wife never had children of our own and I consider these children as my grand children. Almost all my money goes to the family, but isn't that the same in the west. One difference is I don't have to do any work around the house, everything is done by the family, at my age (62) that is kind of nice. I also get the great satisfaction of watching the kids grow up, without my Thai family I would never have had that enjoyment. To me that is worth more money than I could ever have. I lived 50 years of my life worrying about me, me, me and no one else. I only cared about me. Well things have changed and now I have to worry about putting the kids through university and other things. Am I ever glad things changed, my life is far more worthwhile now.

[SlyAnimal]

I always love how in the Isaan section here, our members can so often turn a thread, which has so much potential for negative comments, into a really positive theme instead.

I hope that I'll be able to post up as heart warming comments when I've been married 10 years (my wedding isn't until next year though, so 10 years is still a while away yet lol)

[Issangeorge]

I know all sorts of people who could post negative thoughts and instead look at the situation in a positive way. The ones who are always looking at things in a negative way should leave, because obviously this isn't the place for them. Some have and some have come back realizing that even though there may be a lot of negatives, there are still more positives than their home land.