LaraC Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) EDIT: oops, title should really read "thai girls FEEL threatened by farang girls?". Sorry to cause any drama and confusion! Its something my boyfriend has mentioned to me at different times. Hes a Farang guy and dated Thai women for about 5 years before we got together. He said that in the past when he had a Thai gf, when interested girls came up to him to chat , and they enquired if he had a Thai gf and he said yes, it wouldnt halt their come-on's at all. They didnt seem to care in the least. Numbers would land on his lap. (Btw, he is young and attractive..just for reference!) Yet, over the couple of years we have been together, when they ask this, and he tells them no, he has a farang gf, they (he said) recoil away. In his words he says he thinks they view it as farang girls are the "unknown entity". He recons the girls feel perfectly ok about stealing from their own, but back off if dealing with a guy who has a farang gf. What you guys think? Also, i do notice when i go to a club i get a lot of up/down stares from the women..it doesnt feel friendly, even when i give a smile, i get a sucking lemon look in return or a smile that looks painted. Outside in general, i get pleasant interactions. But the "pretty" girls often give dagger treatment. I find it sad that many girls here would have no problems with attempting to steal another womans man, and that they judge each other too much on looks alone. Of course i dont mean across the board, but it does seem to happen enough to worth mentioning because its above normal. Edited February 11, 2013 by LaraC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post toybits Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 I think it should be the other way around. Farang women SHOULD feel threatened by Thai women. 26 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somtampet Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Never heard that one before,unless your adonis bf is so very beautiful lol lol.Seriously are u talking about uk????,if so how many thai gf has he had in uk,as i tohught most had bf/husband already. I think its in your mind young lady Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kblaze Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 It could be like you said; fear of the unknown. You said that Thai girls often give you bad looks. This could be because you are fairly attractive. From what I've seen when friends come to visit (girls), the ones that have weight problems or for whatever reason are deemed unattractive by Thai standards, make friends with Thais easier, I would suppose because their threat level is low. but who knows really... You might not like to hear this, but there is also a possibility, a strong one, that your b/f is simply telling you this because he doesn't want you to be suspicious or worried about him straying. He could be just wanting to assuage any fears you may have about him having his heart stolen by another. As you said he is "young and attractive". Some guys WANT their g/f to know that girls hit on him and that they want to steal him because the guy thinks that if his g/f hears that, she will try "extra hard" to keep him. Ive never had a farang g/f while ive been here so I don't have first hand experience. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jamhar Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 It happens everywhere. rightly or wrongly, farangs are thought of as economically and therefore socially superior. So the native women feel threatened by farang women. Just as some males may feel threatened by farang men. Happens in japan, china, just about everywhere. Even in the US among the immigrant population.(altho its much improved in the last 30 years in the US) Nothing you can do about it. Smile, be pleasant, note and log the people that may be a problem to you in the future, and move on. Best wishes to you 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post kurnell Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 So threatened that they go out and buy a nose just like yours. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaraC Posted February 11, 2013 Author Share Posted February 11, 2013 We both live in Thailand. Somtampet - its my boyfriend that brought it up, not me. So its not in my mind. But yes, the "looks" is my perspective, but ive had Thai friends laugh about it saying the girls dont like the pretty farang girls and to just ignore them. Which i do! People should be judged not just on looks alone. If a girl is so shallow that she wont be nice to me because she thinks im too much competition, its very sad, and wouldnt want to know them anyway. kblaze - Im not worried about him straying. I dated Thai before and he dated a lot of Thai before. He had a Thai gf for two year then dated/slept around and lost interest. He says he didnt find enough substance..in his experience. Hes the one who persued me relentlessly. Anyway, personally feel good about myself, so not concerned or threatened. Girls like him, guys like me, but we like each other, so if either of us fk's up, it would be a real loss to us both. People with brains try not to mess with a good thing..lol. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Numbers would land on his lap. (Btw, he is young and attractive..just for reference!) Is this a metaphor or an actual description? In which country did this happened? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaraC Posted February 11, 2013 Author Share Posted February 11, 2013 I think it should be the other way around. Farang women SHOULD feel threatened by Thai women. Why toybits? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somtampet Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 It could be like you said; fear of the unknown. You said that Thai girls often give you bad looks. This could be because you are fairly attractive. From what I've seen when friends come to visit (girls), the ones that have weight problems or for whatever reason are deemed unattractive by Thai standards, make friends with Thais easier, I would suppose because their threat level is low. but who knows really... You might not like to hear this, but there is also a possibility, a strong one, that your b/f is simply telling you this because he doesn't want you to be suspicious or worried about him straying. He could be just wanting to assuage any fears you may have about him having his heart stolen by another. As you said he is "young and attractive". Some guys WANT their g/f to know that girls hit on him and that they want to steal him because the guy thinks that if his g/f hears that, she will try "extra hard" to keep him. Ive never had a farang g/f while ive been here so I don't have first hand experience. There are plenty of thais who are obesse,a very worrying trend in Thailand.U make out all thai ladies are small and pretty,they are not,far from it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somtampet Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 We both live in Thailand. Somtampet - its my boyfriend that brought it up, not me. So its not in my mind. But yes, the "looks" is my perspective, but ive had Thai friends laugh about it saying the girls dont like the pretty farang girls and to just ignore them. Which i do! People should be judged not just on looks alone. If a girl is so shallow that she wont be nice to me because she thinks im too much competition, its very sad, and wouldnt want to know them anyway. kblaze - Im not worried about him straying. I dated Thai before and he dated a lot of Thai before. He had a Thai gf for two year then dated/slept around and lost interest. He says he didnt find enough substance..in his experience. Hes the one who persued me relentlessly. Anyway, personally feel good about myself, so not concerned or threatened. Girls like him, guys like me, but we like each other, so if either of us fk's up, it would be a real loss to us both. People with brains try not to mess with a good thing..lol. U are 100% right,any shallow person is not worth your friendship,i dont do shallow people,take me as u find me,and that lovely thai sentence, som nam na or UP TO YOU LOL LOL.There are plenty of thais that like u,by the sound of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
submaniac Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 OP-->In regards to the Thai women and your boyfriend...I think he would be more "off limits". It's like this, if he is Faland and with a Falang, that means he is with someone who speaks the same language and shares the same culture with him. Also means that he may not be into the Thai physical features, or the other "charms" of Thai women. (I.E. he's not a sexpat.) Take a look at it from the perspective of a Thai woman who sees a Falang guy is already with a Falang girl. If you are the Thai girl, are you going to be able to better "connect" in terms of language and culture, than the Falang girl? Basically, if you are the Thai girl, how are you going to be a better experience than the girlfriend he's already got? And the "dagger looks" inside the clubs...pretty girls don't like competition from other pretty girls. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maxme Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 OP-->In regards to the Thai women and your boyfriend...I think he would be more "off limits". It's like this, if he is Faland and with a Falang, that means he is with someone who speaks the same language and shares the same culture with him. Also means that he may not be into the Thai physical features, or the other "charms" of Thai women. (I.E. he's not a sexpat.) Take a look at it from the perspective of a Thai woman who sees a Falang guy is already with a Falang girl. If you are the Thai girl, are you going to be able to better "connect" in terms of language and culture, than the Falang girl? Basically, if you are the Thai girl, how are you going to be a better experience than the girlfriend he's already got? And the "dagger looks" inside the clubs...pretty girls don't like competition from other pretty girls. Though the message got through, it sure was hard to look "between the lines". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Payboy Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 Definitely yes, if you're the Tomb Raider. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post arthurwait Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 Go to a bar that has bargirls, be it a go go or a beer bar. You will see the girls hit on the old or ugly or fat or all three guys before they try it with young decent looking guys. Why ? Because they think/know they have far more chance of getting a result. It will be handsum man, you so funny etc etc while whispering or talking to the other bargirls about the young good looking guy, narak, lor . It's sort of the same thing in your boyfriends case. I get the same thing when girls ask if I have a faen, they ask if she is farang and when I say Thai they say it doesn't matter. As in they are quite happy to go behind her back. I think it's simply that if a guy has a farang girlfriend they think he isn't interested in Thai girls, especially one that is poor. When so many relationships here are chosen because it's the best financial option. The farang girl is seen as financially independant and wealthier. Remember all the fashion models , movie and actresses are farang, even on Thai TV it is luk kreungs. White skin, tall , bigger breasts it's all seen as an idea of beauty here so if girls think that is what is beautiful they also think that is all a guy is interested in if he has that option or believes he has that option. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scorecard Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) I suggest what the OP is describing would be fairly mormal reactions for many young women in many countries. Edited February 11, 2013 by scorecard 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kblaze Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 It could be like you said; fear of the unknown. You said that Thai girls often give you bad looks. This could be because you are fairly attractive. From what I've seen when friends come to visit (girls), the ones that have weight problems or for whatever reason are deemed unattractive by Thai standards, make friends with Thais easier, I would suppose because their threat level is low. but who knows really... You might not like to hear this, but there is also a possibility, a strong one, that your b/f is simply telling you this because he doesn't want you to be suspicious or worried about him straying. He could be just wanting to assuage any fears you may have about him having his heart stolen by another. As you said he is "young and attractive". Some guys WANT their g/f to know that girls hit on him and that they want to steal him because the guy thinks that if his g/f hears that, she will try "extra hard" to keep him. Ive never had a farang g/f while ive been here so I don't have first hand experience. There are plenty of thais who are obesse,a very worrying trend in Thailand.U make out all thai ladies are small and pretty,they are not,far from it. Please highlight where I said all thai ladies are small and pretty. thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post krisb Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 I think it should be the other way around. Farang women SHOULD feel threatened by Thai women. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TommoPhysicist Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 He's lying to you, they still give him their phone numbers, but he doesn't tell you. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post phuturatica Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 I think it should be the other way around. Farang women SHOULD feel threatened by Thai women. That's silly. I don't feel threatened by Thai women at all. I've noticed that some Thai women seem to not care if the guy they're hitting on has a Thai gf or not, however it seems less so when the guy has a farang gf. Maybe they just assume that he's not into Thai girls and back off? Who knows... Also my boyfriend is farang and I've noticed that Thai girls don't hit on him when I'm around. But then again, they're very wise not to. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OxfordWill Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 As you said it is fear of the unknown. What one does not understand, one generally fears. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrWorldwide Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I stopped playing mind games with Thai women the night I saw one grab her 'sister' by the hair, pin her to the ground and start slamming her skull against the concrete. I don't remember any reference to that in the tourist brochures Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JurgenG Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 (edited) I never noticed any bad feelings from Thai women toward western women. Quite the opposite, they are usually quite curious about women's way of life in the west. Edited February 11, 2013 by JurgenG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 OP-->In regards to the Thai women and your boyfriend...I think he would be more "off limits". It's like this, if he is Faland and with a Falang, that means he is with someone who speaks the same language and shares the same culture with him. Also means that he may not be into the Thai physical features, or the other "charms" of Thai women. (I.E. he's not a sexpat.) Take a look at it from the perspective of a Thai woman who sees a Falang guy is already with a Falang girl. If you are the Thai girl, are you going to be able to better "connect" in terms of language and culture, than the Falang girl? Basically, if you are the Thai girl, how are you going to be a better experience than the girlfriend he's already got? This explanation makes the most sense. In a way, it's somewhat similar to a single farang guy hitting on a Thai girl who he knows is with another farang guy already. He assumes that she must be "into farangs," a lot safer than any random Thai girl who may not be, and definitely safer than a Thai girl who's with a Thai guy and has no interest in a farang. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I stopped playing mind games with Thai women the night I saw one grab her 'sister' by the hair, pin her to the ground and start slamming her skull against the concrete. Two head examinations might be required. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 funny how some feel that farang women should feel threatened by thai women. There is very little they have going on that would make any farang women I know envious beit their catch of a farang bf/husband (lol) or looks. OP, I think submaniacs reply sums it up well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rene123 Posted February 11, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted February 11, 2013 I suggest what the OP is describing would be fairly mormal reactions for many young women in many countries. I think scorecard nailed it. I suspect that the OP and her boyfriend are both in their twenties, and both are attractive. When I was in my teens and early twenties I saw lots of jealousy between young women competing for the same guy. That is more likely to happen in the young socializing Thai clubs. As someone pointed out, it seldom happens in the hooker bars where the working girls are looking for a paycheque and know the young handsome guys can get all the free love they want from the backpacker crowd. All I can suggest is enjoy it while it lasts. It doesn't last forever and when you are a middle age gal in Thailand you'll be competing with lots of pretty, young and attractive Thai women. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 it seldom happens in the hooker bars where the working girls are looking for a paycheque and know the young handsome guys can get all the free love they want from the backpacker crowd. And there was me thinking it was because they knew the young guys didn't have enough money to pay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DLock Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 I suggest what the OP is describing would be fairly mormal reactions for many young women in many countries. I think scorecard nailed it. I suspect that the OP and her boyfriend are both in their twenties, and both are attractive. When I was in my teens and early twenties I saw lots of jealousy between young women competing for the same guy. That is more likely to happen in the young socializing Thai clubs. As someone pointed out, it seldom happens in the hooker bars where the working girls are looking for a paycheque and know the young handsome guys can get all the free love they want from the backpacker crowd. All I can suggest is enjoy it while it lasts. It doesn't last forever and when you are a middle age gal in Thailand you'll be competing with lots of pretty, young and attractive Thai women. Rene is right. In a few years the pretty young things will start catching his attention. Enjoy the moment...for it is fleeting. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rattler Posted February 11, 2013 Share Posted February 11, 2013 The words the Op is looking for are shallow/emptied headed and childish............ although Im not sure who they belong too? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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