Hilarious thread.

I don't believe the guy's a troll at all but my God, he's hapless.

I mean, the last one sold the wedding ring inside a month and now he's shacked up with a katoey who doesn't like takin' his portion.

She must have had a really expensive op to have bamboozled you.

I remember the OP posting this classic "I may have been stupid once, but I wont be again" that was from his last relationship disaster.

I wish him all the very best, as he needs it.

Thanks for all the comments good and bad. I know what I should do. I was more concerned about police action since I can hardly walk with a broken pelvis and shoulder from a tire blowout losing control of the bike at 100 kms per hour and going for a roll, wearing a helmit, no head injuries, but weak in the body and the mind at the present moment. With my contract up for a years extension at Immigration and her threatening me about that and a planned trip to Canada in 30 days. Stressful times.

Hard to move more than a few feet at a time, I have today moved into an ajacent apartment. My 2 schools will close soon one this week and this may allow me some rest. Alex

as everyone says leave. You won't win anything; thinking you are getting a years rent out of it, all you will get is a years pain (if she does not have you knocked in that time). You might be well travelled but you seem, from this and your previous marriage, to have very little idea about women. Take this as a lesson and take your time to get to know girls. You are working as a school teacher? Use people that you are friends with (respectable people) to introduce you to nice thai women who are not after you for a salary.

Not sure the OP's been duped really. He may well be in a state of shock having discovered his missus is a bloke, but seems happy enough to take him/her back regardless. In a way admirable I guess.

But sorry to say there are no refunds on a relationship - if you spend the money while the thing's in swing, you've simply paid the price for that time in your life and for that relationship (and in some cases, that lesson). If you were content to do it at the time, then somewhere in your mind you were happy enough to call it spent anyway.

First of all, you have my sympathies. Your situation sounds awful and I genuinely feel for you.

You may want to stop reading now...taking it by point by point as you revealed them:

* You've been spending money on this person by your own choice. Give that you are a teacher and probably not making a huge income, it's been a significant amount it would seem nonetheless that's something YOU chose to do (whether she requested it or not). It must feel terribly frustrating and unjust to have given that money to someone who has treated you so badly but you will simply have to live with it - you will almost certainly NOT get it back and frankly even if you did, I think you'd find that it didn't make you feel a whole lot better, if at all. The betrayal and feelings of being exploited and being a fool would remain. As would the heartache of knowing that someone you cared about and believed cared about you, did not.

* Your G/F has been for at undisclosed or undetermined amount of time, been soliciting online sex with other men and meeting those men or others (almost certainly having sex with them). THIS PERSON DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU AND EITHER NEVER DID OR HASN'T FOR SOME TIME. This person is OT someone to be involved with as she is not trustworthy and has serious character issues. You have known about this for 3 months but remained - a decision that defies sense or integrity and invites pain and indignity.

* You think she is a transgender as you have been told she is. You say she can prove she isn't but you don't explain how she can and whether she has or will. This whole issue is only relevant in that speaks to the level of honesty ad intimacy you actually have with this person and/or if you can not accept a transgender as a partner.

* You say she does not like sex. I submit that all you can say for sure is that SHE DOES NOT LIKE SEX WITH YOU. This is is an important fact: not because of how much sex you may or may not get or whether that sex is satisfactory - though those 2 things would matter to many people, they may not to you - but it matters as it again signifies what sort of relationship you actually have and how she feels about you.

* She is threatening to go to the 2 schools where you are employed -- and do what? Does she have something on you that you do not want revealed? You don't have to answer that here but it's relevant. If she doesn't have anything on you, what do you have to fear from that threat? But again, THIS IS NOT A PERSON WHO CARES ABOUT YOU.

* I don't understand what your waiver has to do with anything. if you take someone's car, it is car theft. This is not a gray area.

* You have moved into a apartment that you describe as one "that we have". First of all, that is too close to someone that wishes you ill and with whom you are currently in a very ugly and potentially even dangerous situation.

Moreover, give that you go on to speak of expecting rent free accommodation for one year would be adequate compensation, I suspect that this apartment is not one that you and she has but one that SHE has. I seriously doubt she will let you stay for one year if that is the case, nor should she NOR SHOULD YOU WANT TO. (To live there while she has other man or men come to be with her?!)

* Replying to the men she was in contact with - and no doubt either making money from or grooming for that purpose -was a potentially dangerous move. Not something to be taken lightly at all.

Look at these facts. You are in a situation that has virtually ZERO chance of working out in any way that leaves you feeling better than you do - which must be pretty horrible, I should think - and has a very real possibility of getting much worse. Maybe even dangerous.

You have to go. You have to accept that you need to go through some more hurt but you can come out on the other side MUCH BETTER OFF.

You need to give some very serious thought to why you make the sort of choices you do and wind up in such situations.

Edited February 25, 201313 yr by SteeleJoe

I would like to see a pic of this boy/girl

Thanks for all the comments good and bad. I know what I should do. I was more concerned about police action since I can hardly walk with a broken pelvis and shoulder from a tire blowout losing control of the bike at 100 kms per hour and going for a roll, wearing a helmit, no head injuries, but weak in the body and the mind at the present moment. With my contract up for a years extension at Immigration and her threatening me about that and a planned trip to Canada in 30 days. Stressful times.

Hard to move more than a few feet at a time, I have today moved into an ajacent apartment. My 2 schools will close soon one this week and this may allow me some rest. Alex

Thanks for all the comments good and bad. I know what I should do. I was more concerned about police action since I can hardly walk with a broken pelvis and shoulder from a tire blowout losing control of the bike at 100 kms per hour and going for a roll, wearing a helmit, no head injuries, but weak in the body and the mind at the present moment. With my contract up for a years extension at Immigration and her threatening me about that and a planned trip to Canada in 30 days. Stressful times.

Hard to move more than a few feet at a time, I have today moved into an ajacent apartment. My 2 schools will close soon one this week and this may allow me some rest. Alex

Are you sure it's just at the moment ? or has it been for awhile ?

I would like to see a pic of this boy/girl

I would like to see a pic of this boy/girl

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Woah! Anybody else got wood?

I would like to see a pic of this boy/girl

I agree, it should be posted.

Guys paying their gf salaries and then thinking its not about the money. Really come on try to get a gf without paying a salary and see how that goes.

She is a teacher and earns 20,000 Baht a month herself.

A katoey teacher in some village near Kalasin is paid 20000 baht a month, very good salary.

Sounds like you have a death wish.

as soon as you are better leave, and move away, get rid of your phone number get a new one, keep of the websites she knows you from.

Get another job lined up whilst you are getting better, but one as far from her as possible.

Leave the car, leave the bike and get out.

Learn about Thai women, there are good ones and bad ones, I personally have a great one, so do some of the posters on here, but some people just never get it right. Have you tried Vietnam or even Cambodia, in fact China is a place that always looks for teachers.

Guys paying their gf salaries and then thinking its not about the money. Really come on try to get a gf without paying a salary and see how that goes.

very true, only he is not paying his gf but his bf.

also the" she is woman in every way but does not enjoy sex", well for starters he can not enjoy sex when vagina is made out of plastic, secondly.... so what the hell is OP paying 12 000 for?

Now is the perfect time of year to look for another job. And since you're willing to work in a village, you'll have no trouble finding something new (on both accounts).

I would like to see a pic of this boy/girl

Not Funny!! I know this girl and she is an incredibly nice and honest person. She just has a hormone condition which should be cleared up as soon as I am able to send her another 100k.

for the life of me i do not understand what op is thinking and worrying about

1. the boy is cheating on him, op says his boy does not like sex, it seems he does, just not with op.

so what help of advice op needs??

2. op is worried about police action. in regards to what? what can the boy report to police?

op states he has correct visa and wp, so what is there to worry about?

3. op wants to get his money back, well that will never happen

so exactly is op seeking?, perhaps internet support?

Guys paying their gf salaries and then thinking its not about the money. Really come on try to get a gf without paying a salary and see how that goes.

She is a teacher and earns 20,000 Baht a month herself.

then why are you giving her (him) money?

Guys paying their gf salaries and then thinking its not about the money. Really come on try to get a gf without paying a salary and see how that goes.

She is a teacher and earns 20,000 Baht a month herself.

then why are you giving her (him) money?

hormone therapy to continue looking like a woman is not cheap

I would think the OP would know if the person he had been living with and in a relationship for any significant time was previously a male or not. My guess is that his world is so shaken up right now and feeling helpless that he is choosing to see the worst possibilities of being a victim and am guessing the friend said she used to be a man to give him more motivation to leave. Either that or he has been lying to himself the whole time and now is just facing the reality now.

Best of luck but like everyone is saying get rid and get out.

I forgot your age but I think you said 60+. You are also fragile from the accident. Im not saying your an old timer but right now you need to look after number 1, dont do anything stupid and dont get caught off guard.

An STD work-up might also be advisable.

You think she was Daddy?

I guess if you're not a troll then you are the prime example of what happens when someone with "no clue" travels to thailand. 62 and still working as a teacher for a small income, marriage that falls to ashes in less than a month and now scammed by a cheating LB for hire fake GF ? Don't you have any common sense, do you like to live your life like a clown ?

Thanks for all the comments good and bad. I know what I should do. I was more concerned about police action since I can hardly walk with a broken pelvis and shoulder from a tire blowout losing control of the bike at 100 kms per hour and going for a roll, wearing a helmit, no head injuries, but weak in the body and the mind at the present moment. With my contract up for a years extension at Immigration and her threatening me about that and a planned trip to Canada in 30 days. Stressful times.

Hard to move more than a few feet at a time, I have today moved into an ajacent apartment. My 2 schools will close soon one this week and this may allow me some rest. Alex

How do you get to school and back if you can't move?

If the OP is still reading his topic, may I ask why it has been posted in the Bangkok forum?

If the OP is still reading his topic, may I ask why it has been posted in the Bangkok forum?

I can't find any reason why this topic is Bangkok specific so I have moved it to general discussion forum.

Now is the perfect time of year to look for another job. And since you're willing to work in a village, you'll have no trouble finding something new (on both accounts).

and a new whatyou call.why didnt you guess she was a he,when you bought her a shaving kit for xmas .

You should seriously cut and run, for the good of yourself.

He lied to you, cheated on you, and just needed someone to pay her bills.

Forget about the money and treat it as a lesson learnt.

Let the head do the thinking not the dick.

You're better than that. Save yourself!