Thai f/friend in Bkk looking for a foreign boyfriend, what to advise her, places to go etc. ?

[Beetlejuice]

So why has this apparently amazing and incredible, intelligent, well off, women never found a man?

She's had plenty of years to try.

Something isn't right.

Not necessarily so.

During my lifetime I have known many women who while young and attractive, preferred not to settle down and had no ambitions of becoming a happy little housewife with one partner. They had no problems finding boyfriends and could pick and choose. These girls could enjoy a free and easy life, good social life; have careers, build up material wealth and assets, the best of all worlds without having the commitments of a marriage and a husband in tow. Some even wanted a child but without a husband included with the package.

Then suddenly one day they turn 40, getting passed their sell by date and the guys start losing interest, most of their friends are now already married, less career opportunities open to them and they see a future of being alone or as we say in the trade; being left on the shelf. And then these women consider that time is running out and decide to seek a marriage partner before it`s too late.

It is always easier for an aging man to find a wife, than vice versa, because most men have to feel physically attracted to woman, where as women judge men more so by their status and material wealth, or as suitable providers rather than by physical attraction.

True.

[ALFREDO]

^ I was referring to the pics on the ads for the site, here too.

"was referring to the pics on the ads for the site"

lol 5555,

As I wrote no "Practical knowledge" regarding that ThaiLoveLinks site, probably never opened it looked inside it, not possible without "joining" - free,

but making "improper" comments.

[ALFREDO]

Tell her at 47 she has no hope in hell ,she offers nothing to most at this age.,Be truthful to her i say and think to yourself why she is really single .And no thai woman is 100% ok never ever, youll be a fool to beleive that quote

What has she got to offer? I'm betting nothing.

Why would a guy want her when she brings nothing to the relationship? Plenty of 25YOs are offering the same.

Back in the west I can get a 47YO with a house, car and money .......... If I needed that.

I would need, very much so, help, thank you.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Tell her at 47 she has no hope in hell ,she offers nothing to most at this age.,Be truthful to her i say and think to yourself why she is really single .And no thai woman is 100% ok never ever, youll be a fool to beleive that quote

What has she got to offer? I'm betting nothing.

Why would a guy want her when she brings nothing to the relationship? Plenty of 25YOs are offering the same.

Back in the west I can get a 47YO with a house, car and money .......... If I needed that.

Perhaps your thought on life revolves around cash and not living with someone to love and be a a good soul mate. We are all different and want different things from a partner. If money is your key to a relationship then I feel sorry for you.

I did the 'love thing' for over 20 years, got kicked in the teeth (like you) for doing that.

Only a fool keeps repeating the same mistake.

If I need more companionship, I will buy a dog (I already have a cat).

If I need a housekeeper, I will hire one (happily doing it myself at the moment).

If I want sex, it won't be with a 47YO!

[ALFREDO]

We got the message ALF. .............................

You think I made that on purpose?

Come in the deepest rural Isaan and have my Internet problems before you complain!

[EBlair48]

Not really, but am awaiting a reply to my question of you; why can't lady boys have kids?

You 're sure your subject she wasn't a lady boy as she had kids, so ...??

And my mrs old school chum, mid forties, never married. Lovely lady whose life has been spent educating kids. Shs tells us perhaps she might marry IF the right guy comes along.

Yeah like a guy with two breasts and two holes?

That's an interesting idea actually.

To OP

Have her be a fake Ladyboy. I suggest his/her name SomChia-Pet from SomChai

You seem obsessed with ladyboys. Say no more, nudge, nudge, wink, wink.

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We got the message ALF. .............................

You think I made that on purpose?

Come in the deepest rural Isaan and have my Internet problems before you complain!

I jest, we are all having problems chum.

[EBlair48]

It's not your connection but the site is having these duplication problems.

We got the message ALF. .............................

You think I made that on purpose?

Come in the deepest rural Isaan and have my Internet problems before you complain!

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Tell her at 47 she has no hope in hell ,she offers nothing to most at this age.,Be truthful to her i say and think to yourself why she is really single .And no thai woman is 100% ok never ever, youll be a fool to beleive that quote

What has she got to offer? I'm betting nothing.

Why would a guy want her when she brings nothing to the relationship? Plenty of 25YOs are offering the same.

Back in the west I can get a 47YO with a house, car and money .......... If I needed that.

Perhaps your thought on life revolves around cash and not living with someone to love and be a a good soul mate. We are all different and want different things from a partner. If money is your key to a relationship then I feel sorry for you.

I did the 'love thing' for over 20 years, got kicked in the teeth (like you) for doing that.

Only a fool keeps repeating the same mistake.

If I need more companionship, I will buy a dog (I already have a cat).

If I need a housekeeper, I will hire one (happily doing it myself at the moment).

If I want sex, it won't be with a 47YO!

You remind me of someone.

[EBlair48]

"You are stupid for your view" is not a good argument.

Allow me to explain; Foreign men in Thailand like younger women is the current view I have.

In this discussion I use the ad pics on this site as evidence. Do you see any middle aged women in them?

^ I was referring to the pics on the ads for the site, here too.

"was referring to the pics on the ads for the site"

lol 5555,

As I wrote no "Practical knowledge" regarding that ThaiLoveLinks site, probably never opened it looked inside it, not possible without "joining" - free,

but making "improper" comments.

[ALFREDO]

"You are stupid for your view" is not a good argument.

Allow me to explain; Foreign men in Thailand like younger women is the current view I have.

In this discussion I use the ad pics on this site as evidence. Do you see any middle aged women in them?

That is called "advertising" you know

But, you do not see "that Beautiful" girls inside either.

Just join in is free, thailovelinks and than look for 45 - 60 women in Thailand!

You will be surprised.

[Dap]

Why don't you just suggest she read this thread? That should give her a pretty good

idea what's out there ... warts and all. Certainly can't hurt

[Somtamnication]

Have her spend a week at the usual spots in BKK (Cowboy, Patpong, Nana). She will then need to go to the exact opposite of what these three places are and she will find a nice boyfriend.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Have her spend a week at the usual spots in BKK (Cowboy, Patpong, Nana). She will then need to go to the exact opposite of what these three places are and she will find a nice boyfriend.

Do you mean 'opposite end of the world'.

'Cos most of the male foreigners in Thailand are 'Patpong' material.

[GreenSnapper]

Best bet will be the on-line dating websites, that will give a snapshot of he worth sort to speak

on the wanted/coveted " I want you" ladder of social placing, there she will learn first hand

what cannot be thought in school, how to tell a good person from a dickwade,

what you teach her however, to be vigilant, switched on and generally aware of someone

that doesn't add up or doesn't feel right, and by all means, consult a friend for advise and

another per of eyes and ears,

at 47, if she look half decent, healthy have her own money/job/security and a bit of English

she can do well with the 50-70 years old retirees that are here by the thousands.

They are here in the thousands, but they have a higher sexual market value than this older woman. If this woman still has decent looks and pleasant honest attitude, she may try the over 70 age group. It will not be easy, but that would be the most realistic.

[Mudcrab]

I'm 56 ...met my bride 2 years ago, she's 47.Been there done that..divorced 2 kids etc. Living in Australia ...came to Thailand for brothers birthday . Didn't know anything about Pattaya or Phuket and not really interested truth be told. I literally bumped into her in the street. Fell in love . She is a scientist .Simple really. The OP's question about finding a foreign man for his friend...yes it does happen and they are not all mongering sex tourists.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

at 47, if she look half decent, healthy have her own money/job/security and a bit of English

she can do well with the 50-70 years old retirees that are here by the thousands.

You have got to be joking, I and all my pals are in the '50-70 years old retirees' bracket, and none of us would even look at anyone older than 32. We really want 25YOs but are prepared to consider the slightly older lady (up to 32).

As an Australian friend once said to me,

"If you are handed a plate with both a fresh crisp apple and an old dried out apple on it, which one will you choose to eat?"

[banned1000]

sounds to me that the thai female mentioned by the OP was/is one of these http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/656003-why-would-anyone-be-a-mia-noi-well-heres-about-a-milllion-reasons/

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at 47, if she look half decent, healthy have her own money/job/security and a bit of English

she can do well with the 50-70 years old retirees that are here by the thousands.

You have got to be joking, I and all my pals are in the '50-70 years old retirees' bracket, and none of us would even look at anyone older than 32. We really want 25YOs but are prepared to consider the slightly older lady (up to 32).

As an Australian friend once said to me,

"If you are handed a plate with both a fresh crisp apple and an old dried out apple on it, which one will you choose to eat?"

Very sad post. So all old guys must rid themselves of their wives at a certain age eh.

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

[Mudcrab]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Purchaser maybe...old and lonely definately

[rosswlkr]

Get onto www.meetup.com and join some of the activities there. Plenty of interesting things to do and you will meet all sorts of interesting sociable and respectable people.

[transam]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Sooooooooooooo, in ''your'' life you consider your financial input to a relationship the paramount thing. Yes/No/ ?

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Purchaser maybe...old and lonely definately

I've often thought the guys who keep pursuing the western ideal of love and marriage (and repeatedly failing) are the ones more likely to be 'lonely' and trapped in an unsatisfactory relationship. As for the 'old' bit, none of us have managed to escape that, all three of us are the same age. Me, I buy what I want, when I want it. Relationships I have, with males and females, but not sexual relationships.

[Mudcrab]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Purchaser maybe...old and lonely definately

I've often thought the guys who keep pursuing the western ideal of love and marriage (and repeatedly failing) are the ones more likely to be 'lonely' and trapped in an unsatisfactory relationship. As for the 'old' bit, none of us have managed to escape that, all three of us are the same age. Me, I buy what I want, when I want it. Relationships I have, with males and females, but not sexual relationships.

it's not about buying...it's about giving. You cannot buy love. You can.only give it and when it is returned......well.....that is something wonderful!!!

You won't get that from a hire for service girl no matter how much you want to convince yourself of the fact. Don't get me wrong...enjoy your life as you see fit!!!

[jocko]

at 47, if she look half decent, healthy have her own money/job/security and a bit of English

she can do well with the 50-70 years old retirees that are here by the thousands.

You have got to be joking, I and all my pals are in the '50-70 years old retirees' bracket, and none of us would even look at anyone older than 32. We really want 25YOs but are prepared to consider the slightly older lady (up to 32).

As an Australian friend once said to me,

"If you are handed a plate with both a fresh crisp apple and an old dried out apple on it, which one will you choose to eat?"

No doubt about it AoA you really are a funny guy i am amazed that other posters don't realise you are only trying to tease us.

Well done keep it up.

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at 47, if she look half decent, healthy have her own money/job/security and a bit of English

she can do well with the 50-70 years old retirees that are here by the thousands.

You have got to be joking, I and all my pals are in the '50-70 years old retirees' bracket, and none of us would even look at anyone older than 32. We really want 25YOs but are prepared to consider the slightly older lady (up to 32).

As an Australian friend once said to me,

"If you are handed a plate with both a fresh crisp apple and an old dried out apple on it, which one will you choose to eat?"

No doubt about it AoA you really are a funny guy i am amazed that other posters don't realise you are only trying to tease us.

Well done keep it up.

He's not joking, believe me.

[GreenSnapper]

Perhaps you and your pals look like rotten apples and do not even consider that ?

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Sooooooooooooo, in ''your'' life you consider your financial input to a relationship the paramount thing. Yes/No/ ?

It's not important what he considers.

It's important how sexual markets work. Looks and age are a minor factor when it comes to men. It is the biggest factors when it comes to women. Biology and evolution.

[Nana Cowboy]

the woman in question in the OP let 30 years of adulthood go by and just now is looking for a foreigner bf. makes you wonder just what her history is. I'm sure thousands of farangs of all ages will be beating her door down for a date. lol

[AnotherOneAmerican]

We are the purchaser not the produce.

Sooooooooooooo, in ''your'' life you consider your financial input to a relationship the paramount thing. Yes/No/ ?

No

At the present time (not talking about the past, so not 'my life' which is mostly over now) I keep sex and relationships separate.

In a relationship my financial input will be zero, if you can't pay for yourself, you won't be in a relationship with me.