You say you would have killed him and now even contemplating paying his sin sot?

Get a hit man.

If you are stupid enouh to pay his sin sot , he will never go away.

So I'm not stupid enough to pay his sin sot, but how do I get him to go away?

That's easy.

Become strict Buddhist, no alcohol on your property ever. No alcohol bought with your money ever.

Sin Sot.

Tell him to get it from his dad.

A He doesn't drink

B, like that idea, how much is your real Dad putting in, I'll match it

Don't think family spongers ever go away unless mum ''loses her rag'' and folk see/hear it. Even yourself could try it.

Ashamed to admit I did it once to wife's lad, not about money but talking to his mother like shit. He never did it again, though he is still a pain in the ass at times.

Oh, and before the greens start, my hands never touched the lad, my voice and eyes did the job.

I did once and he moved out for 4 days, I've never seen Mum lose her rag with him as I said when they fight he just sulks and says nothing until she has forgotten about it.

I don't reckon I should have to get that worked up again, I didn't come here to bust a boiler

Do what you feel is right and no more than you can afford. If your happy with what you give " don't think to much "

Thanks, I can afford things but would prefer them to be things I want, like holidays, an occasional new car or motorbike, these are the things I have worked for, he will have to do the same. A small gift as advised by Miss Farmgirl, and assistance with the wedding if it happens.

I don't reckon I should have to get that worked up again, I didn't come here to bust a boiler

Nor did most of us but there really is no escaping the LOS extended family thing for most of us. ...................

Do what you feel is right and no more than you can afford. If your happy with what you give " don't think to much "

Thanks, I can afford things but would prefer them to be things I want, like holidays, an occasional new car or motorbike, these are the things I have worked for, he will have to do the same. A small gift as advised by Miss Farmgirl, and assistance with the wedding if it happens.

You have the advice from many, you have said what you think. There is your answer