My thai gf is obsessed with her mobile phone and its annoying me

[GreenSnapper]

Id like to know what the 8-10 in "looks" ( opinion) has to do with phone use??

It's not easy for him to get an 8 and that's why he hesitates to dump her.

Solution: get more 8,9,10. Learn what a shit test is and teach them to be respectful and behave. Dump any who won't comply. You are the price, not her.

[Tchooptip]

my first mobile was about that size, and a 2 min call cost as much as a meal at a resturant

30 years ago ?

[neilf]

If they are on any sort of messaging at all it will be to men if in and around pattaya

If they put a lock code on phone u have a problem for sure

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[TinaKohChang]

I think that you two don't really have that much in common, maybe there is also a language barrier? Is that from day one you are together? Or is it new behaviour? You are only talking about her looks, what about her personality? Do you know her a little bit? I mean, do you know what she likes (outside the bedroom) what moves her, what makes her smile, laugh, cry, sad, what gets her excited? Any idea? Find out what she would like to do together with you. Gym? Daily Jogging or other sports? Weekend trips, games, you should find an activity where you both get closer, can exchange thoughts, ideas, dreams... the future... what so ever...You should try to get to learn her better, if she gets the feeling that you have a deeper interest in her than just her just her looks, the sex and that she is Thai... you may see what a change it makes and that she will loose interest in her phone...

Why are you with her, because she is a solid 8 from the outside??? What would you like her to do instead of the mobile addiction (no bedroom stories please) ;-)

Nice logical and reasonable response however in my experience (can speak/read/write thai) have lectured doctorate level students and grads at top bkk universities; a tiny % of society, perhaps a fraction of 1 % is comparable to lets say a japanese female uni grad. Very few thais have more than superficial interests/ intellectual curiosity,not to mention hobbies, sports, analytical thinking, outside the box thinking.

Exception I have found usually have exceptional parents and or exposure studying in other countries or are aberrations. The masses seem in a zombie like state.

I guess the OP could try to develop a keen interest in Lakorn TV as that may be the only thing that will remove her eyes from the mobile.

I will never forget one date I had (in the days before I knew better) with a bona-fide uni grad working for a european company. At dinner she spent 75% of the time chatting up personal friends without regard or even awareness that it was inappropriate if not very rude.

Although I may see many nice looking females it doesn't phase me because the chances of intellectual and emotional capability are slim to almost none. It is not nor ever has been a female disneyland IMO.

I absolutely agree with you! I don' t have met many Thai people myself during the almost 10 years I am living (on and off) in Thailand. It would sum up to that 1% you have mentioned. But, I have managed to inspire some of the Thai people I am surrounded with and who I can now call (even good) friends with various activities, from sports to old school games, over reading a good book, crafting just for the fun out of it, arts and design or science... stuff like that! I for quite some time now, spend more time with Thais, than with foreign people - there are not really much expats around to spend a quality time with, and from my experience, as longer as they lots of them are living here, many started and do drugs incl. heavy drinking, zombie like is brilliant by the way, and lots of the foreigner I know fell into that zombie state of lifestyle too and mostly live an extremely boring life were I have zero interest to get involved.

If one relies on others, on company and a huge circle of friends, those who are very socialising from personality or those who have hard times to be on their own, Thailand is not at all a paradise to live. And from my point of view - For the more demanding people in terms of personality, intellectuality and the like, searching for that very special someone, you are very right, Thailand is not at all the right place.

I enjoy my life here still and I have learned here so much about people, about tolerance, respect, superficiality, freedom and most of all about my very self - for those achievements alone, I am very thankful but I've of course did not come to live here for love, nor for work... I came here for my very own peace of mind... and I am lucky enough to have some real good male and female friends who are intellectual, creative and do have personality as well...

[yoshiwara]

There is one absolutely guaranteed way to retaliate. When she pulls out the phone, you pull out the newspaper. Works a treat.

[AdamRich]

Why did you even post this? It appears you had already found the solution to your problem, but you didn't want to implement it. Get over it. That is what young people do these days. Get someone over 30 if playing with a phone is that big of a deal for you. Also, as other posters said, she's not that into you if she needs the phone to keep her attention.

[Sirbergan]

There is one absolutely guaranteed way to retaliate. When she pulls out the phone, you pull out the newspaper. Works a treat.

Great solution! They'd both have something to do.

[metisdead]

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[toybits]

Your GF does not sound like she's a keeper.... Why bother?

[Sirbergan]

Your GF does not sound like she's a keeper.... Why bother?

Two answers to this questions;

1) he's trolling.

2) he loves her, and it is an actual problem for him.

If 2), I don't think he'll find the answer here.

[ttthailand]

Maybe she is just getting even for the hours you spend watching football and farang shows on TV.

[newermonkey]

Na... you've got it all wrong... Its the Thai boyfriend on the other end of the phone she's obsessed with.

[atyclb]

I think that you two don't really have that much in common, maybe there is also a language barrier? Is that from day one you are together? Or is it new behaviour? You are only talking about her looks, what about her personality? Do you know her a little bit? I mean, do you know what she likes (outside the bedroom) what moves her, what makes her smile, laugh, cry, sad, what gets her excited? Any idea? Find out what she would like to do together with you. Gym? Daily Jogging or other sports? Weekend trips, games, you should find an activity where you both get closer, can exchange thoughts, ideas, dreams... the future... what so ever...You should try to get to learn her better, if she gets the feeling that you have a deeper interest in her than just her just her looks, the sex and that she is Thai... you may see what a change it makes and that she will loose interest in her phone...

Why are you with her, because she is a solid 8 from the outside??? What would you like her to do instead of the mobile addiction (no bedroom stories please) ;-)

Nice logical and reasonable response however in my experience (can speak/read/write thai) have lectured doctorate level students and grads at top bkk universities; a tiny % of society, perhaps a fraction of 1 % is comparable to lets say a japanese female uni grad. Very few thais have more than superficial interests/ intellectual curiosity,not to mention hobbies, sports, analytical thinking, outside the box thinking.

Exception I have found usually have exceptional parents and or exposure studying in other countries or are aberrations. The masses seem in a zombie like state.

I guess the OP could try to develop a keen interest in Lakorn TV as that may be the only thing that will remove her eyes from the mobile.

I will never forget one date I had (in the days before I knew better) with a bona-fide uni grad working for a european company. At dinner she spent 75% of the time chatting up personal friends without regard or even awareness that it was inappropriate if not very rude.

Although I may see many nice looking females it doesn't phase me because the chances of intellectual and emotional capability are slim to almost none. It is not nor ever has been a female disneyland IMO.

I absolutely agree with you! I don' t have met many Thai people myself during the almost 10 years I am living (on and off) in Thailand. It would sum up to that 1% you have mentioned. But, I have managed to inspire some of the Thai people I am surrounded with and who I can now call (even good) friends with various activities, from sports to old school games, over reading a good book, crafting just for the fun out of it, arts and design or science... stuff like that! I for quite some time now, spend more time with Thais, than with foreign people - there are not really much expats around to spend a quality time with, and from my experience, as longer as they lots of them are living here, many started and do drugs incl. heavy drinking, zombie like is brilliant by the way, and lots of the foreigner I know fell into that zombie state of lifestyle too and mostly live an extremely boring life were I have zero interest to get involved.

If one relies on others, on company and a huge circle of friends, those who are very socialising from personality or those who have hard times to be on their own, Thailand is not at all a paradise to live. And from my point of view - For the more demanding people in terms of personality, intellectuality and the like, searching for that very special someone, you are very right, Thailand is not at all the right place.

I enjoy my life here still and I have learned here so much about people, about tolerance, respect, superficiality, freedom and most of all about my very self - for those achievements alone, I am very thankful but I've of course did not come to live here for love, nor for work... I came here for my very own peace of mind... and I am lucky enough to have some real good male and female friends who are intellectual, creative and do have personality as well...

Life can seem as a dream, then reality sets in, for some.

"His(thai society) voice to me was like a stream

Scarce heard: nor word from world could I divide

The whole body of the man did seem

Like one whom I had met in a dream"

[jackr]

Flush the thing down the bog, and also get rid of her phone.

[Nana Cowboy]

what do her looks and body dept have to do with her obsession with a samsung phone? oh I get it, thats why you put up with her obsession. Sounds like a lame relationship that wont last. nothing personal just my opinion. oh and u said an 8 in looks and bod dept? that doesnt sound like its worth a whole lot esp in this country. I have a 10 in both and I dont have to put up with any such BS

[transam]

what do her looks and body dept have to do with her obsession with a samsung phone? oh I get it, thats why you put up with her obsession. Sounds like a lame relationship that wont last. nothing personal just my opinion. oh and u said an 8 in looks and bod dept? that doesnt sound like its worth a whole lot esp in this country. I have a 10 in both and I dont have to put up with any such BS

How do you know what BS is happening in ''your'' background ?............

[malcyx]

why don't you get her to put it on speakerphone so you can also talk to her family or friends .

[neilf]

Some of you lads are way out of date

The thai ladies do use the phone a lot but in my experience they are mainly messaging ie talking by message on either Viber free calls and messages or Line same same.

Those internet sevices throo sim card or wi fi can send photos or short phone videos or voice recordings to one or many people.

A lot of time is consumed because they send short messages ie

Hi

Hi

I am eating

Wot u eat

I eat somtam

Ok

I eat soon

Ok what u eat soon

chicken and rice

Ok good

Oh i forgot my whole family melted yesterday

Ok good

Etc

Lads forget phone as a phone and i didnt even get into e mail accts or facebook------fb

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[TheSpade]

What does it matter what they are using it for. It's still rude and shouldn't be tolerated.

[smotherb]

Bumrungrad Hospital in Bangkok offers a cellphone penal implant, let your girl play with that

[wooloomooloo]

I have a 10 in both and I dont have to put up with any such BS

I can't deny, she's definitely perfect ten in both.

[arminbkk]

My gf is aged in her early 20’s and is a solid 8 out of 10 in the looks and body department.

It might be because you don't score equally.

Then again you are in a better position to judge that.

"....and use the iphones as security blankets so they don't have to engage in any eye contact with other bland mortals of the world"

I think this is a very valid point.

And I apply it too sometimes........reading some news on my phone is more interesting than looking at dismal faces or people with angry/disapproving/annoyed looks just because

they happen to cross my line of sight.

Also, I understand people, particularly Thai people, don't like to be 'stared' at. So, what am I supposed to look at then in a crowded MRT?

Often it seems Thai people consider half a second already 'staring'.

Are you kidding? Thai people don't like to be stared at?

They are ALWAYS staring at me. I HATE it with a passion. It is so rude to stare. I feel half the time like a monkey at the zoo.

I know they are curious about Western behavior, but it is rude and super annoying!!

Do unto others.....does that really apply in this country??

You are confusing two different things: staring and being stared at. Thais do the former and don't like the latter.

That's my impression anyway.

My point was that often when I'm just looking around and for a split second I happen to cross the gaze of another and make eye contact,

the other person reacts if I were staring and then looks away with the opposite of a smile ( ), sometimes even turning away.

(Unless of course Thais are so different that this actually means they like it and this is how they express that, although I doubt it.)

So to comply and do the Thais and anybody else a favor, I just occupy myself with my phone, or stare at the ceiling.

People should actually thank me for that 555.

I also understand that Thais will probably get embarrassed and feel uncomfortable, for whatever reason, when a total stranger, especially a foreigner,

starts to have a chat with them, particularly in 'quiet' crowded places like BTS/MRT trains. To avoid them that, I don't strike up a conversation

when in such a situation.

(So what you should take from my posts is that I am a considerate person )

Back to OP: of course, I guess the OP's gf has different reasons for playing with her phone and ignoring the OP.

[A1Str8]

Gently ask her to spend her precious time with counting her brain cells instead of playing with the phone. Especially because the number of hours spent by playing with any kind of smart device and the number of brain cells are not in direct proportion with each other. The more you play the less you happen to have.

No offense towards your girl. It is just the way it is.

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[Straight8]

Look at this from her point of view...

She is in her early 20s and good-looking. You are most likely minimum double her age and properly not a solid 8 out of 10.

And you know this how?

Oh yeah, he told us so!!!

Have you ever heard anyone on here talking about their GF and say she is a 3 or 4, or even average.

All I ever read is how hot, attractive, beautiful, stunning... their girls are.

I bet if we had 100 members rate each of these girls that these guys rate them so highly, those scores would barely break a 5 [for the majority], but then again beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder right?

[Straight8]

Id like to know what the 8-10 in "looks" ( opinion) has to do with phone use??

He is trying to justify that because in his eyes she is high up on the scale in the looks department, she can do whatever she pleases and he will just keep accepting it as long as she doesn't leave him. A classic case of being held by the short and curlies!

That's the way I see it.

[Straight8]

There is one absolutely guaranteed way to retaliate. When she pulls out the phone, you pull out the newspaper. Works a treat.

Like she would even notice

[InsideOut]

You do not have anything in common.

She is a good looking girl, and she wants to have a lot of exiting things happen in her life.

Girls in the west are the same, the only difference is, they would not even dream of being together with you.

Here in Thailand, the girls can endure a relationship with almost any foreigner, if it is beneficial for her in the long run (financially, and opportunity wise), but it does not make her any more interested in you.

[mataleo]

she need to keep talk to all her bf's sponsors, to keep money flow

shes working on that phone 55

[Stradavarius37]

This thread has managed to combine every ignorant TV poster type and every Thai person stereotype into one grand collection of bullshit - grats all!

[atyclb]

Gently ask her to spend her precious time with counting her brain cells instead of playing with the phone. Especially because the number of hours spent by playing with any kind of smart device and the number of brain cells are not in direct proportion with each other. The more you play the less you happen to have.

No offense towards your girl. It is just the way it is.

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That strategy would only mean a different electronic device consuming her time, a calculator.