Are you the next "Tony" ?

[CharlieH]

This was inspired by the "what happened to Tony" threads.

It got me thinking, given the average age etc of the retired guys here, that most probably the parents have past on, siblings possibly but maybe estranged, so if you went missing who would know? Who would notice or care if suddenly you werent there?

Most of us have relationships, gf, wife etc some have both, but there are also many who choose for whatever reason to stay on their own. May be the relationship your in isnt as good as it once was, so back to the base point, who knows, who cares, who would ask questions if something happened? Or you disappeared.

You may be the most confident, self assured person there is, but that wont help if you have a car accident and are unconcious in hospital, get hit over the head and lying in a gutter, who checks on you?

This for me was quite a sobering thought, and even a little scary too, imagine having an accident and you cant speak enough thai to get proper help? Who are you gonna turn too?

Divers have a buddy system, perhaps expats should have one too, someone in your area that you check in with once a month, someone who will kind of keep an eye out from a distance, not suggesting to be best friends but mutual cover if you like. I have no idea but is there any expat grouos that akready do this ?

Do we need one set up if there isnt ?

Those that still have family, and of course those that have active social lives and circles will have this covered, but what about our fellow countryman that perhaps are out in the sticks, dont frequent bars etc where others may congregate, or even the guy who just like the quiet life in his Condo, after all you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely, but, who would notice or care if you werent there?

Whats your thoughts ?

[itchybum]

'Whats your thoughts ? '....... where is Tony

[iancnx]

If I didn't have my missus watching out for me I dunno what I would do. Complete loners, or poor

B£&tards like Tony are going to be very very vulnerable me thinks. If I was ever left in that position I think I would head for the very rural Pinas and start again. Still tropical, inexpensive but with the huge advantage of some English.

[Hedghog]

I phone a family member every two weeks.

Have done for years.

Also email on a regular basis.

I would soon be missed.

But my name is not Tony.

[Mighty Mouse]

"Those that still have family, and of course those that have active social lives and circles will have this covered, but what about our fellow countryman that perhaps are out in the sticks, dont frequent bars etc where others may congregate, or even the guy who just like the quiet life in his Condo, after all you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely, but, who would notice or care if you werent there?"

Life is all about choices. We each choose a lifestyle for our own personal reasons.

If we choose to live a hermits life in the sticks of Thailand, there may be nasty consequences should we get too sick to look after ourselves, so it would be wise, when making our choices, to cover as many potential situations as we possibly can.

[David48]

If it all went belly-up for me ... I'd be feeding the Fishs at the Farm ... literally!

[Bluetongue]

Where I live in a rural area I can go weeks without seeing another farang, there is a group of older Germans who congregate in town once a week, but I dont feel like I need to befriend them for personal security reasons. Every now and then I run into an Englishman or 2 and you get to know farangs in your area as nodding or even chatting acquaintances. You know I know this one as a Yank that comes down with his wife once or twice or year from Bangkok or wherever, and that one as a Finn thats' built a house in the village for his wife's family and comes over once a year, and that one lives in the next village somewhere. W

[Bluetongue]

Where I live in a rural area I can go weeks without seeing another farang, there is a group of older Germans who congregate in town once a week, but I dont feel like I need to befriend them for personal security reasons. Every now and then I run into an Englishman or 2 and you get to know farangs in your area as nodding or even chatting acquaintances. You know I know this one as an American that comes down with his wife once or twice or year from Bangkok or wherever, and that one as a Finn thats' built a house in the village for his wife's family and comes over once a year, and that one lives in the next village somewhere, etc. When I don't see one for a while I suppose I get concerned enough to put feelers out and usually the family is wired into the gossip. One time they told me that an Englishman I have been quite friendly with was badly injured and his wife even worse in a crash with a truck. I had to go around just to make sure that he was OK and I ended up talking to another farang's missus who told me that it was true but not so bad and no assistance was required. Likewise I hadn't seen Wallaby Bob a broken arsed Aussie in town for a while but eventually I found out from another farang he had gone home having been sick of being broke in Thailand. As far as a formal buddy system goes not sure that it would work.

Edited October 9, 2013 by Bluetongue

[oogster8]

 

I phone a family member every two weeks.

Have done for years.

Also email on a regular basis.

I would soon be missed.

But my name is not Tony.

 

Whta would your family do if you miseed a call because you died? i think thats the point.